A man's 80 year-old father is getting scammed and extorted by a findom. Should he go to the police? Change his account numbers? See a marriage counselor?

A gay man in his 20s looks very young. He worries that the men who are attracted to him may be skeezy because he looks more like a boy than a man. His friends tell him to work it. But how can he safely enjoy New York City's gay dating scene?

On the Magnum, a concerned mom wonders how to steer her teenaged kids toward ethical porn. We couldn't think of a better guest to bring on than Erika Lust- she's been making beautifully shot, thoughtful, sexy porn for 20 years. She and Dan talked about dealing with porn as a parent, how much porn is too much porn, and how adult content should NOT be in the hands of tech bros.

Finally, is it a consent violation to walk the streets with come visibly on your face?

It's a yes or no question.

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