Secret Habit: Porn Recovery for Christian Men

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here:

1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠

2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠

3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠

Are you the kind of person who reads in the bible "flee temptation" and decides to lock down their phone, avoid the beach and cancel their gym membership? If so, we understand! It can be a confusing command to understand and apply correctly

Often we read stories like in Genesis 39 where Jospeh "runs" from Potipher's wife as an example of fleeing temptation.

In this episode, Shawn Bonneteau wants to offer you a perspective shift on what fleeing temptation really means and how this story has so often been taken out of context

Get ready to learn about:

- What Potiphers wife represents for us today

- Key takeaways from Joesphs response to sexual enticement

- How we surrender control to temptation too easily

- The difference between sexual temptation and sexual manipulation

- How to understand sexual temptation

- How to overcome sexual temptation

If you need help overcoming temptation, quitting porn and getting free from sexual sin, then book a call with us today, we would love to see if you're a good fit for our all in one porn recovery system "DeepClean"

secrethabit.ca/call

Scriptures read/referenced in this episode:

Geneis 39:7-12 (NIV)

Matthew 5:29-30

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here:

1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠

2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠

3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠

My 25th birthday, Aug 20th 2017, I was sick and tired of being sick and tired... I couldnt imagine another year of my life addicted to porn

My 31st birthday, Aug 20th 2023, I am 6 years free and in awe of what God has done in relatively short amount of time

For someone who was addicted for 14 years to porn, masturbation and sex, its insane how my life could change in such a radical way in the first 6 months then the next 12 months, 2 years, 4 years, and now 6 years.

It has been a wild journey and I am beyond blessed to be able to share it with the guys I work with at DeepClean.
I'll continue to make it my goal to help guys experience the freedom I feel in year 6 years so much earlier than me! I want guys to experience it in years 3 and 4 and see just how good it is to take the recovery journey seriously

Here are 3 lessons I have learned that made a HUGE difference in the quality of the freedom I am experiencing today:

I am beyond blessed to coach men every single day to learn these same lessons, and so much more! I truly hope and pray more men will learn these things in year 1 and 2 so that their year 3 and 4 is like my year 5 and 6

If you're ready to consider working with me and getting a taste of what im talking about, then book your free strategy call with our team today. 

On the call, we'll learn about your story and where you're coming from, but even better, where you want to go and how we can help.

If you're ready to experience freedom, then bro, its time to take action

Book your free call today: secrethabit.ca/call

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here:

1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠

2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠

3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠

Emotions are a gift from God. Not only do they tell us a lot about where we need healing, they invite us to experience a fresh dose of Gods love, comfort and peace

In this episode, Shawn Bonneteau is going to dive into 2 key areas of processing emotions - labeling and validating. Theres a step by step process taught at DeepClean on how to process emotions for best results and this is a small tidbit from that incredible teaching module in the Signature program. If you want to learn more about DeepClean, book a call with someone on our team

If you struggle to label your emotions, process them or talk to God or others about them, then this episode is 100% for you! Its time to learn from your emotions so you can control them. No more being ruled by your emotions! God wants so much for for you and we believe its one of the key secrets behind lasting freedom from porn addiction, compulsive masturbation and other sexual struggles.

*Are you ready to quit porn for good?

Book your call with the DeepClean team and find out how you can join our all-in-one porn recovery system

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here:

1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠

2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠

3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠

Holistic healing from porn addiction requires trauma work, but the age old question is this: What if I didn't experience any trauma?

In this episode, Shawn Bonneteau will talk about a better way to approach the topic of trauma. Because trauma is just as much about what we learned from our experiences then it is what happened to us, we need to open our minds to what may still be driving our addictions.

Maybe you dont think you had any trauma growing up, we would beg you to listen to this episode and then consider that idea

Maybe you think you only experienced BIG T trauma and have done some healing in that area but there still seems to be some lingering issues you cant seem to get over

Either way, this episode is for you

Shawns going to uncover some incredible insights that he has applied to his own life and recovery that now has him at 6 years of freedom. He also shares these insights from years of experience coaching men from all walks of life

*Ready to quit porn once and for all?

Book a free private strategy call with our team at DeepClean to learn more about our coaching program.

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here:

1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠

2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠

3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠

There's a secret weapon to recovery and spiritual health that takes people from basic sobriety to lasting freedom. That secret weapon is forgiveness

In this episode, Shawn lays the groundwork for rethinking forgiveness and what you thought you knew about it

Get ready to learn about:

- What Jesus dying on the cross means for you

- What happens when we harbor unforgiveness

- How to rethink unforgiveness/forgiveness

- The difference between forgiving and trusting

- Pinpointing the real problems and dealing with them

This is a foundational lesson to the men I work with. Its such a key to quitting porn and overcoming sexual addictions of all forms. Its what fuels spiritual health and lasting freedom!

To learn more about working with Shawn, book a free call today

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here:

1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠

2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠

3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠

In the Bible, we see many accounts of God getting angry. We see it in the Old Testament all throughout the rebellion of His chosen people, and we see it in the New Testament when God became flesh and did things like flipping tables! It can seem confusing to see a loving God get angry when our lens is "anger is a negative emotion", but here's the kicker, it's not! Anger is a neutral emotion that I want to unpack with you today to help you better understand God and the powerful emotion He created called anger

This episode was inspired by Chapter 8 from Jay Stirngers book "Unwanted: how sexual brokenness reveals our way to healing" . I absolutely love the way Jay articulated anger. It has led to many breakthroughs in my own healing journey and with the men I have been coaching for the past 5 years!

In this episode, I am going to unpack:

- How anger can be harnessed for good

- How anger can become sinful

- The core needs of humans

- Control and Entitlement driven by anger

- Activism driven by anger

- The most important questions to ask yourself when triggered

Are you ready to get free from porn addiction?

* Book a call with our team and join the all in one program for porn recovery "DeepClean": secrethabit.ca/call

Check out Episode 69 from Season 1 or Episode 2 from Season 2 if you want to dive deeper into some of the topics discussed here :)

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here:

1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠

2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠

3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠

We all have core needs and they're significant. If they go unmet, they ache. If they're met, we feel satisfied. Imagine for a second, how often do you feel one of these needs going unmet - Intimacy, Security, Significance, Affirmation, Connection, Safety, Validation? (theres tons more of course)

Well, when core needs go unmet, it doesn't feel so good. A short period of time won't be a huge bother, but what about months, years, or decades? This is where we see destruction such as porn addiction, divorce, affairs, lying, etc

In this episode, Shawn will unpack the core needs of humans and how much God cares about them. You will learn just how incredible it is when we shift our focus from what we want to what we need. When we let God into our lives to do whatever he wants, as long as a need gets met, it sounds crazy, but you'll experience satisfaction like never before

Some of the main points of the episode will cover:

- The 4 core needs of humans

- The 4 places to get your needs met

- The difference between wants and needs

- How to change your cravings to what God wants

Listen to episode 69 to learn more about our Relationship & Fellowship with God

If you want to consider coaching with Shawn, book a call and learn about the all-in-one recovery system "DeepClean"

Credit to Sathiya Sam from DeepClean and Drew Boa from Husband Material for helping me share about this topic

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here:

1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠

2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠

3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠

The church has often had a stance on porn addiction that seems to breed more shame and struggle... I love the Lord's bride (the church) but I am also heartbroken at its lack of help when it comes to porn addiction

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To learn more about Shawn and his work with DeepClean, check out Episode 555 from Unleash the man within with Sathiya Sam

Feeling like God's love is predicated on your performance is the greatest lie that keeps people in the cycle of shame and stuck in unsuccessful recovery forever. Trying to overcome porn addiction, pmo, erectile dysfunction or other sexual struggles are going to feel impossible when you believe God only loves you when you do well... This lie has kept too many Christians in a life of survival for far too long

Today, I want to talk about just how incredible our God is and how our loving relationship with Him is never ending and never failing. I also want talk about how our fellowship with God is really what we need to focus on developing if we want to experience a life of abundance

Get ready to learn about:

- The difference between relationship and fellowship with God

- Why relationship with God must be the foundation to our fellowship with God

- How to trust in god's unconditional love even when we sin

- How to enter into and stay in fellowship with God to experience His blessings

- Why this is fundamental to porn addiction recovery and other healing journeys.

This will be the last episode of our podcast for a while. There may be the odd recording posted between now and mid-June but we're going to take a break from podcasting as we move to Europe.

If you’ve been listening to this and you feel stuck or unclear, I want to invite you into a conversation.

This isn’t about pressure or selling you something.It’s a space to slow things down, look at what’s actually going on, and help you get clear on the problem so you can start seeing the right path forward.

If that would be helpful for you, you can book a free call with me here:👉 ⁠secrethabit.ca/call⁠

If you’re not ready for that step yet, you can start with my free Porn Withdrawal Survival Guide:👉 ⁠https://secrethabit.ca/porn-addiction-withdrawal-symptoms/⁠

And if you want to learn more about me and the work I do, you can head here:👉 ⁠shawnbonneteau.com⁠

Credit to:

Ministry Catalysts "Launching Multipliers"

I’ve heard it said that all trauma has to do with loss. That's a profound statement! This means that grief and loss are a part of the journey to healing past trauma. And that’s precisely why I wanted to bring Jason Flinn on the show to talk about Navigating Grief on the Road to Recovery.

Jason is a Greif Recovery Method Specialist certified through The Grief Recovery Institute. This guy knows what he's talking about! The best part about Jason is it's not just theoretical. He lost both his parents and had to learn what it meant to truly grieve and find what he calls “completion” in those relationships

In this interview, you will learn about the following:

• Jason's story and passion for grief work and resiliency coaching

• The Greif Recovery Handbook and Program

• The myths about recovery

• The unhelpful responses we often get when we’re grieving

• Enshrinement and Bedevilment

• Understanding our coping mechanisms

• How to know where and when you experience grief and loss

• Creating a loss graph

• Writing letters of completion to the relationships that carry pain 

• Mindset shifts and building resiliency

I love how applicable this is for anyone! This is for EVERYONE. It will help if you’re struggling with pmo, betrayal trauma, erectile dysfunction, or other unwanted sexual behaviours. 

I personally (Shawn) went through coaching with Jason for 7 weeks and was so blessed by it!

To learn more about Jason and working with him, here are some ways you can connect:

• www.vaultlifecoaching.ca

• https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/grms/jason-flinn

• [email protected]

If you’ve been listening to this and you feel stuck or unclear, I want to invite you into a conversation.

This isn’t about pressure or selling you something.It’s a space to slow things down, look at what’s actually going on, and help you get clear on the problem so you can start seeing the right path forward.

If that would be helpful for you, you can book a free call with me here:👉 ⁠secrethabit.ca/call⁠

If you’re not ready for that step yet, you can start with my free Porn Withdrawal Survival Guide:👉 ⁠https://secrethabit.ca/porn-addiction-withdrawal-symptoms/⁠

And if you want to learn more about me and the work I do, you can head here:👉 ⁠shawnbonneteau.com⁠