Secret Habit: Porn Recovery for Christian Men

I am answering the BIG questions today - why did I move to Czech? why did I join DeepClean? Why did I stop coaching with Secret Habit? Do I miss Canada? Am I staying in Czech? And so many more!

Helena and I moved to Czech back on May 30th from Canada. I joined DeepClean on June 8th and since then, its been quite the God story. However, it goes much further back, and thats what I want to share about today

If you’ve been listening to this and you feel stuck or unclear, I want to invite you into a conversation.

This isn’t about pressure or selling you something.It’s a space to slow things down, look at what’s actually going on, and help you get clear on the problem so you can start seeing the right path forward.

If that would be helpful for you, you can book a free call with me here:👉 ⁠secrethabit.ca/call⁠

If you’re not ready for that step yet, you can start with my free Porn Withdrawal Survival Guide:👉 ⁠https://secrethabit.ca/porn-addiction-withdrawal-symptoms/⁠

And if you want to learn more about me and the work I do, you can head here:👉 ⁠shawnbonneteau.com⁠

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here:

1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠

2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠

3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠

Do you do what most people do: Calling their porn addiction a "sin issue" or a "lust problem"?

In this episode, Shawn Bonneteau is going to get real and challenge the weak sauce language we so often use as Christians. I want to help you add some weight to your words to enhance your conviction to change. This is a vital message to those who want to build bigger "muscles" in their journey to freedom from porn and sexual integrity

Get ready to learn about:

- The difference between weak and strong language

- How to say things for what they are

- Being brutally honest

- Growing your conviction while quitting porn

Ready to do something about your porn addiction FOR REAL?

* Book your call with our team today and get started on our 4 month porn recovery program

Extra resource: "The Last Relapse" book by Sathiya Sam. Grab your free copy today

Sexual temptation is powerful... Most people are like a deer in headlights when sexually tempted. No matter the trigger, its almost as if you go on auto pilot and do things you never thought you would do... sound about right?

If so, then this recovery life hack is 100% for you

In this episode, Shawn Bonneteau is going to uncover the #1 reason mature adults make childish decisions in the face of temptation.

Get ready to learn about:

- What happens when you go into fight, flight freeze

- Why its so hard to make good decisions when sexually tempted

- What is really triggering you before you watch porn

- Why "prayer and read your bible more" doesn't work

- Whats going on in the brain when you get sexually tempted or emotionally triggered

- How to hold the power and overcome triggers and temptations no matter when they come

If you’ve been listening to this and you feel stuck or unclear, I want to invite you into a conversation.

This isn’t about pressure or selling you something.It’s a space to slow things down, look at what’s actually going on, and help you get clear on the problem so you can start seeing the right path forward.

If that would be helpful for you, you can book a free call with me here:👉 ⁠secrethabit.ca/call⁠

If you’re not ready for that step yet, you can start with my free Porn Withdrawal Survival Guide:👉 ⁠https://secrethabit.ca/porn-addiction-withdrawal-symptoms/⁠

And if you want to learn more about me and the work I do, you can head here:👉 ⁠shawnbonneteau.com⁠

So often I hear guys telling me "boredom" is the problem in their life. They tell me that they use pornography when they're bored.

Maybe you can relate? Maybe you have kids who say this? Maybe a friend? I want to open your eyes to what boredom really is.

In this episode, I (Shawn Bonneteau) will push back on this common suggestion as to why people watch porn and masturbate and offer some deeper insights

Get ready to learn about:

- What boredom is below the surface

- What is really driving your porn addiction

- How to reframe the way you label your feelings

- The holistic approach to being a healthy human being

I mention a great resource in this episode, Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction by Eddie Capparucci. Its a GREAT read that offers a ton of application steps to help you overcome sex addiction and other immature coping mechanisms

If you’ve been listening to this and you feel stuck or unclear, I want to invite you into a conversation.

This isn’t about pressure or selling you something.It’s a space to slow things down, look at what’s actually going on, and help you get clear on the problem so you can start seeing the right path forward.

If that would be helpful for you, you can book a free call with me here:👉 ⁠secrethabit.ca/call⁠

If you’re not ready for that step yet, you can start with my free Porn Withdrawal Survival Guide:👉 ⁠https://secrethabit.ca/porn-addiction-withdrawal-symptoms/⁠

And if you want to learn more about me and the work I do, you can head here:👉 ⁠shawnbonneteau.com⁠

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here:

1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠

2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠

3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠

In this episode, Shawn is going to get really real about the ONLY thing that leads to a healthy routine of spiritual disciplines.

Stop trying to work harder, do more, comdemn yourself... its not working!

Start with the posture of heart THAN work from that.

Get ready to learn about the very dichotomy we all live in and how to choose truth, love and joy

Jesus wants you to be free from porn, masturbation and sexual sin... however, He doesnt want you to think the work he already did has to be done again!

Its time to change your heart and mind so you can change the very way you live each and every day

Do you need some direction on what to do next?

Check out ⁠⁠secrethabit.ca⁠⁠ to book a call with our team, buy a course or grab a free resource

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here:

1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠

2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠

3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠

In this episode, Shawn Bonneteau is going to talk to you about triangulation, enmeshment and the process of getting out of what seems so stuck! If you seem to make immature decisions more than you would like to admit, then stick around and learn what it means to unmesh from your past

Shawn has a personal testimony of overcoming these challenges and shares candidly about his own journey to growing in maturity, compassion and integrity

This is at the heart of what it means to be free from porn, masturbation and sexual sin...

If you feel stuck and dont know how to fix it, this is the right place for you

Do you need some direction on what to do next?

Check out ⁠secrethabit.ca⁠ to book a call with our team, buy a course or grab a free resource

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here:

1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: https://secrethabit.ca/call/

2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/

3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing

In this episode, get ready to learn from Shawn Bonneteau about something that may shock you...

How the types of porn you watch can actually reveal the very thing that needs healing... Its true, check out how

And thats not all... Learn how your brain has created neuro connections that have become so engrained that you've become a slave to them

Ill offer you a few key next steps to ensure you can apply what you learned and have some major breakthroughs

This is what it takes to get free from porn addiction, overcome masturbation and outgrow sexual sin

Do you need some direction on what to do next?

Check out secrethabit.ca to book a call with our team, buy a course or grab a free resource

Inner Child Work has become one of the most effective approaches to healing addiction, trauma or past pain. I absolutely love it when it comes to helping men quit porn and overcome sex addiction... It's been so successful that im doubling down on it today and doing an episode to share about the 4 steps I now teach.

On top of the 4 steps, I want to really unpack the most important on going step - leading the boy. Without this step being an on going habit, you will never get to the place where you have power over the trauma... you will always be a victim to the inner child getting activated, and thats no fun!

If you're ready to GET FREE FROM PORN and you think inner child work is the best way for you to get there, ⁠book a call with our team at DeepClean.⁠

Extra resources:

In episode 50 I share about the 9 steps to inner child work and in episode 59 I walk guys through a step by step exercise to apply the inner child approach

These are AMAZING episodes, please listen to them. However, this info here will help you boil it down even more and get the absolute best out of your inner child practice.

In this episode you learn about the nervous system. I do a deeper dive on this in ep 60 - all about fight, flight, freeze and finding safety in your day to day life.

If you’ve been listening to this and you feel stuck or unclear, I want to invite you into a conversation.

This isn’t about pressure or selling you something.It’s a space to slow things down, look at what’s actually going on, and help you get clear on the problem so you can start seeing the right path forward.

If that would be helpful for you, you can book a free call with me here:👉 ⁠secrethabit.ca/call⁠

If you’re not ready for that step yet, you can start with my free Porn Withdrawal Survival Guide:👉 ⁠https://secrethabit.ca/porn-addiction-withdrawal-symptoms/⁠

And if you want to learn more about me and the work I do, you can head here:👉 ⁠shawnbonneteau.com⁠

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here:

1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠

2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠

3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠

Today I brought on my good friend and past coach Greg Oliver. Greg was pivotal in my personal journey to holistic healing and freedom from porn, masturbation and erectile dysfunction

Greg and his wife Stacey have been working with men and women through Awaken Ministries for nearly a decade! They focus on sexual addiction, trauma support and betrayal trauma healing while offering 1:1 coaching, support groups and in person retreats.

Things weren't always so sweet for Greg... He was not only addicted to porn and masturbation, but his addiction led him to adultery. His full blown addiction was exposed 15 years ago, but only 6 years later, after getting into true recovery, he was set free and called by God to begin helping others Its an incredible story of Gods redemption over sexual addiction!

In this episode, Greg and I dive into some major topics.

1. How to identify the trauma in your story

2 How to engage with God in recovery even when you feel angry/distant from him because of spiritual abuse or other trauma?

As we unpack these topics, you'll here some incredible wisdom, humility and power from Gregs words

He expands on a few major concepts:

- Big T and Little T trauma

- Behaviour follows Beliefs

- How To Compare The Correct way

- Finding Safety With The Right People

- The Gospel and How Its The Power To Save

- The 4S' of Recovery

Get connected with Awaken today:

- Virtual support: https://awakenrecovery.com/meetings

- Retreats: https://awakenrecovery.com/intensives

- Donate: https://awakenrecovery.com/donate

Work or Connect with us at DeepClean:

- Book a Free Strategy Call

- Submit Your Questions To Our Podcast

Need some help getting over the first 90 days of porn recovery?

- Grab your free copy of our 90 day survival guide: Getting over porn withdrawal symptoms

Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here:

1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠

2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠

3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠

Dopamine is a POWERFUL force. We see info about it all over the place nowadays. But the question is, do you actually understand how it works?

Dopamine is often known as the reward chemical... However, its much more about anticiaption than reward. Take porn for example. A guy may anticipate watching porn and relieving himself, but once finished, doesnt feel the slightest but of joy. The anticipation of what he would get riled him up, but the reward was over promised and under delivered, as porn does so well.

If we focus on anticipation and how we think about what things will get us/do for us, we would change so much of our behaviours... What you think leads to what you do.

Jordan Peterson says that we must learn to think to avoid doing stupid things... We learn to think by writing in his opinion. Fascinating!

Heres a recent episode on journaling (writing daily)

In this episode I am going to talk about harnessing what we know about dopamine. I want to help you create a anticipation plan and focus on creating a a lifestyle focused on joy, growth and healthy and true pleasure.

Get FREE from porn addiction today

-- book a free intro call with our team at DeepClean Coaching: ⁠secrethabit.ca/call⁠

Other resources:

- ⁠Porn Survival recovery guide⁠

- ⁠Unleash The Man Within podcast