Seeing Other People

A gentle heads-up: This episode touches on pregnancy loss and fertility struggles. We know these topics can be deeply personal and difficult, so please listen with care.

A cancer diagnosis can change every part of your life, including your relationships. What happens when you're diagnosed with oral tongue cancer just three weeks after your wedding, and the trauma of treatment changes who you are and how you show up for the person you love? In this episode, Anonymous shares his experience navigating cancer, the lasting impact on his mental health, and the breakdown of his marriage. We talk about advocating for your health, the challenges of recovering from trauma, and what happens when two people are struggling in different ways.

Plus, Anonymous opens up about rebuilding his life after divorce, dating again, and how his experience has changed his perspective on love and marriage. We discuss how to support someone going through a major illness, why showing up in specific ways matters, and the importance of giving both patients and caregivers grace. Through it all, Anonymous shares why he still believes in love and what it means to have someone who will help you stay afloat when life gets hard.

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This week, we're letting a random question generator take the wheel, and let's just say things get a little personal. We're talking about whether alone time is essential in a healthy relationship, who would survive longer if we switched lives for a week, and the little things we do that drive each other absolutely crazy. We also get into some of the bigger conversations we've been having as we get closer to becoming parents, including what we're nervous might change in our marriage, how we'll navigate parenting responsibilities, and why communicating expectations matters so much.

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What if the way we experience dating and relationships has less to do with the other person and more to do with the state we’re in when we experience them? Dr. Sue Morter joins Seeing Other People to talk about how our internal state, nervous system, and relationship with ourselves can shape the way we communicate, make decisions, respond to triggers, and connect with other people. We talk about what happens when we’re operating from fear, anxiety, or the need to be chosen, and how becoming more grounded in ourselves can change the way we show up in relationships.

Dr. Sue walks us through practical grounding techniques, including deep belly breathing, posture, and Mula Bandha, and explains how practicing these tools can help us get out of our heads and become more present in our bodies. We also talk about breaking patterns, changing the way we respond to difficult relationship dynamics, knowing when to stay or leave, and why the question might not be “How do I find the right person?” but “How do I become the right person for me?”

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This week on Cohosts for Life, we're getting into a conversation we've been having more and more as we get closer to becoming parents: will we be sharing our baby on social media? We're talking about where we stand, the boundaries we're considering, and why it's such a complicated decision. Plus, we're catching up on pregnancy life, nesting, and the little things that make marriage entertaining. Then we're answering your listener questions, including an update from the girl who went on a date with her ex's friend, and a tough situation about what to do when you and your partner want the same future but can't seem to get on the same timeline.

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Have you ever been so focused on whether someone likes you that you forgot to ask yourself if you even like them? In this solo episode, I’m breaking down how easy it is to confuse validation, attention, and the excitement of being chosen with actually liking someone. We’ll talk about why dating can start to feel like an audition, how to shift your focus from “Do they like me?” to “Do I like them?”, and the questions to ask yourself after a date to figure out how you really feel.

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Cohosts for Life is officially moving to Tuesdays! This week, we're catching up on life lately, pregnancy struggles, nursery prep, and Ilana's trip to North Carolina before diving into your listener questions. We're talking about how to keep the excitement alive in a relationship once you've settled into a routine, sharing our favorite ways to plan dates and date card days, and giving advice to a listener who's had a series of missed connections with a woman who just popped up on Hinge. Plus, a wedding etiquette update from a listener and a very real look at what happens when we try to decide what to eat for dinner.

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Are you constantly thinking you should be married by now, should be over your ex, should know how you feel after a few dates, or should be further along in your life Dr. Lucette Beall joins me to break down what all of this “shoulding” actually does to our brains and how it can impact the choices we make in dating and relationships. We talk about societal timelines, learning to separate what you actually want from what you think you’re supposed to want, trusting yourself when dating, and how to stop measuring your life against everyone else’s.

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Who keeps track of everything that needs to get done in your relationship? Ilana sits down with InvisiBILL – Anxiety Receipts founder Lisa Virginia Anderson to talk about mental load, invisible labor, and what happens when one person becomes the project manager of the relationship. They discuss why “just tell me what you need” isn't always as helpful as it sounds, how resentment builds when one person feels responsible for everything, and the signs to look for while dating that someone will actually be an equal partner.

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Ilana and Jake are coming to you from a rainy weekend in the Hamptons with lots to catch up on: Ilana officially understands football, someone finally offered her a subway seat at six and a half months pregnant, she took her glucose test, and they toured their first daycare. Then, they get into your listener questions about how to stop internalizing rejection as proof that you weren’t “enough,” whether you can really stay close friends with someone who rejected you, wedding etiquette when your ideal date is close to a family member’s wedding, and what to do when you’ve spent three years in a situationship, know he’s not your person, but still can’t bring yourself to let him go.

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Rejection can make you question everything about yourself. Was I too much? Not enough? Did I do something wrong? And why did they choose someone else instead of me? In this solo episode, I’m talking about why someone not choosing you doesn’t mean you weren’t good enough, how to stop looking to everyone else for answers, and what rejection actually does and doesn’t say about you. Plus, I’m answering your questions about compatibility, self-trust, comparison, and learning when to take feedback to heart versus when to let it go.

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