Seeing Other People

Jackie Shames, friend and co-host of Fill Your Cup is back to chat all things confidence, learning from past relationships, and staying true to who you are. Jackie shares her experiences dating between Miami and New York, how the seasons have been impacting her dating life, and the challenges of balancing personal and professional life. We discuss the the New York influencer scene, friendship dynamics, and podcasting, and we live-text someone Jackie went on a date with.

00:00 - 09:30 Navigating Confidence and Dating

09:30 - 26:24 Unexpected Encounters

26:24 - 28:54 Reflecting on Closure and Moving On

28:54 - 29:49 The Importance of Detachment

29:49 - 31:25 Running Into an Ex-Fling

31:25 - 33:24 Finding Security in a New Relationship

33:24 - 36:26 Navigating Dating Patterns and Self-Sabotage

36:26 - 43:38 Balancing Personalities in Relationships

43:38 - 55:53 Influencer Culture and Personal Growth

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Bethany and Walter share their heartwarming real-life journey of meeting on an app and building a relationship over the past 1.5 years. They delve into their initial dating struggles, including catfishing and ghosting, and their eventual connection that sparked over a phone call and FaceTime. The couple discusses the importance of open communication, handling financial changes, how they support each other in tough times. Walter and Bethany explore their compatibility, different upbringings, and expectations in their relationship, and provide advice to singles ready to give up on dating."

Love hearing how people found love? Check out this playlist filled with stories of how real daters met their person!

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Felix Levine, entrepreneur and host of Unlike Me, joins the show to discuss his journey in podcasting, the dynamics of his relationship with Serena Kerrigan, and his personal growth. Felix and Ilana delve into why he started his podcast during a challenging time in college and the lessons learned from interviewing successful individuals. Felix shares insights on the importance of genuine connections, handling past relationship traumas, and the intricacies of dating someone significantly older. The episode also addresses listener questions on unique dating challenges and offers advice on maintaining relationships amidst personal anxieties.

01:35 - 03:40 Navigating College and Depression

03:40 - 04:32 Podcasting as a Career

04:32 - 06:10 The Realities of Podcasting

06:10 - 08:18 Maturity and Personal Growth

08:18 - 11:06 Friendships and Ambition

11:06 - 14:03 A Special Relationship

14:03 - 15:02 The Meet Cute and Beyond

15:02 - 25:15 Dating Advice and Personal Stories

25:15 - 27:58Confident Beginnings

27:58 - 30:59 Overcoming Past Trauma

30:59 - 34:46 Healing and Moving Forward

34:46 - 41:29 Navigating Age Gaps in Relationships

41:29 - 48:32 Listener Questions: Weird and Serious

48:32 - 51:10Best Dating Advice

51:10 - 53:29 Outro

Need more of the guys’ perspective? This playlist has all SOP episodes with male guests!

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Harry returns to the show after two years to discuss his life journey, highlighting the lessons learned from navigating singlehood, personal growth, and embracing new passions like photography. Throughout the conversation, they explore Harry's experiences with dating, the societal pressures of relationships, and his journey to understand and accept his neurodiversity. The episode emphasizes making one's own rules in life, finding personal fulfillment through community, and the transformative power of genuine human connections.

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In this episode, Rebekah Lipsky, a therapist specializing in major life transitions, joins us to share her personal experience of calling off her engagement and wedding after a five-and-a-half-year relationship. She delves into the emotional challenges of such decisions, the importance of aligning one's values, and her journey of self-discovery post-breakup. The discussion includes insights on handling grief, the role of supportive friends, and her upcoming support group for women who have called off engagements. Rebecca also offers valuable advice for anyone facing similar life transitions.

Follow Rebekah on Instagram at @reflectwithrebekah and inquire to work with her at www.rebekahlipskycounseling.com/

04:41 - 06:34 Life Transitions and Personal Struggles

06:34 - 09:45 Calling Off her Engagement

09:45 - 15:21 The Emotional Rollercoaster

15:21 - 27:48 Making the Tough Decision

27:48 - 28:24 Facing the Guilt of Canceling a Wedding

28:24 - 29:56 Support from Friends and Family

29:56 - 33:01 Layers of Grief in Breakups

33:01 - 38:14 Supporting Friends Through Breakups

38:14 - 45:10 Rediscovering Yourself After a Breakup

45:10 - 48:39 Navigating Relationship Decisions

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Adrian, a self-identified 27-year-old male nerd from Canberra, Australia, shares his experiences and insights on dating, offering a male perspective. He discusses his dating history, including early high school relationships and the impact of a serious breakup at age 18. Adrian explains his cautious approach to dating apps and reflects on the challenges of dating as an introvert. He emphasizes the importance of taking risks in dating, inspired by a quote from the movie 'We Bought a Zoo.' Adrian also addresses the common dating adage 'if he wanted to, he would' and shares his thoughts on modern dating pressures and misconceptions.

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The incredible Suzy Welch joins us today to discuss how uncovering your values can help you find and build lasting relationships. Suzy is a public speaker, author, and professor of NYU's infamous "Becoming You" course. Suzy shares her journey of self-discovery through her 'Becoming You' methodology along with her life-changing decision making method 10-10-10 (yes, you can apply it to making decisions in dating!)

We discuss the potential impacts of value misalignment in relationships, and how understanding of one's values can inform personal and professional life decisions, leading to greater fulfillment.

Follow Suzy on Instagram @suzywelch and check out the Becoming You podcast on Spotify.

03:34 - 03:34 The Concept of Values and Their Importance

03:54 - 07:12 Developing the 'Becoming You' Methodology

07:12 - 08:28 Values in Relationships and Personal Growth

08:28 - 14:15 The Values Bridge Tool and Its Applications

24:19 - 26:03 High Scope vs. Low Scope Values in Relationships

26:03 - 30:06 Work Centrism: Balancing Career and Family

30:06 - 37:28 The 10-10-10 Decision-Making Method

37:28 - 41:47 The Velvet Coffin: Avoiding Complacency

41:47 - 46:19 Whose Life Do You Want Anyway?

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Brandon shares his story of how his marriage to the love of his life ended in divorce. He opens up about his growth and healing journey post-divorce, and what it was like to reenter the dating world as a man in his early 30s who hadn’t dated someone new since 2010. Brandon shares how he has since moved halfway across the country and started a new job while navigating the complexities of modern dating. Tune in for a conversation where we explore relationship dynamics and discuss the importance of self-awareness and patience.

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You're probably wondering why there's a new episode on your Seeing Other People feed! I wanted to take a second to introduce you to one of my favorite new podcasts, Live, Laugh, Lies. I'm sharing my favorite episode where host Susie Evans reunites with her ex, Clayton Echard, the 26th Bachelor, for a raw and unfiltered conversation about Clayton's paternity scandal. If you like what you hear, go to Spotify, Apple or wherever you get your podcasts to listen to other juicy stories with Mayci Neeley from The Secret Lives of Mormon Lives, Reesa Teesa, the woman behind the 50 part "Who The F*** Did I Marry," TikTok scandal and so much more. Follow Live, Laugh, Lies on Instagram or TikTok!

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In this episode Ilana chats with Gab Saper, a personal stylist who focuses on building confidence and body acceptance through fashion. They discuss the challenges millennials face due to past diet cultures and explore dressing for body types without aiming to look skinnier or taller. Gab shares her unique love story, beginning with a childhood camp romance that rekindled years later in New York, despite challenges like ghosting. She explains how eventually forgiving her now husband led to a deep relationship. Gab also talks about her journey into fashion styling, giving tips on dressing authentically, and how clothes are tied to self-expression and dating. They conclude with a discussion on the importance of wearing comfortable, authentic clothing and recognizing the significance of quality undergarments.

Follow Gab on Instagram @wardrobeeditor

Snag Gab's free guide to feel hot again here.

01:07 Dressing for Your Body

03:30 Parallels Between Fashion and Dating

04:06 A Love Story: Meeting Her Husband

11:03 The Ghosting Incident

22:06 The Proposal

25:01 Wardrobe Styling Career

25:08 Early Fashion Memories

26:09 Turning Passion into a Business

27:53 Fashion and Dating

28:49 Breaking Fashion Myths

30:46 Finding Your Style

32:04 Dressing for Confidence

35:48 Comfort Over Trends

38:38 The Importance of Proper Fit

47:03 Advice for Men

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