Seeing Other People

Why do we get so attached to people who aren't choosing us? Sabrina Bendorf, relationship expert and bestselling author of Detached and The Feminine Code, joins us for her third appearance on Seeing Other People to talk about limerence: the intense obsession that can make us confuse the need for validation with genuine connection.

We get into why breadcrumbs and emotionally unavailable people can be so addictive, how childhood experiences and self-worth shape our dating patterns, and how social media fuels the obsession. Sabrina also shares how to recognize limerence, stop chasing someone's potential, and start building healthier relationships rooted in mutual attraction, consistency, and self-worth.

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• You Will Be Okay Podcast

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This week on Cohosts for Life, we're catching up on everything from getting the nursery ready for baby boy to celebrating an engagement and cheering on runners at the NYC Marathon. We also discuss the “make them” theory from Nobody Wants This and whether we really need another relationship theory to follow. Then, we answer two listener questions: how to set boundaries with a friend who constantly wants to make plans when you don't have the time or social battery, and how long is too long to wait for your partner to say “I love you” when you've already said it yourself.

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What does it mean to stop being the “cool girl” and start putting yourself first? In this episode, Keltie Knight, three-time Emmy Award-winning TV personality, co-creator and host of The LadyGang, and New York Times bestselling author, joins us to talk about her new book, The Fuck Them Theory: Self-Help for People Who Are Done Being the Bigger Person. We talk about the pressure women face to be easygoing, agreeable, and low-maintenance, why we often downplay our own needs to keep other people comfortable, and how to stop people-pleasing and start advocating for yourself. Keltie shares how the “cool girl” mentality shows up in dating and relationships, why you don’t have to pretend you’re okay with everything, and what it looks like to set boundaries without feeling guilty.

We also get into career setbacks, rejection, heartbreak, and the moments that force you to rethink who you are and what you want. Keltie opens up about hitting rock bottom, rebuilding her confidence, and learning to see failure as data rather than a verdict on her worth. We discuss how to turn difficult experiences into motivation, why growth rarely happens in a straight line, and the importance of choosing relationships that bring peace rather than chaos. Whether you’re navigating dating, your career, or the pressure to always be the bigger person, this conversation is a reminder that you don’t have to make yourself smaller to be liked or loved.

Get the book and find tour dates: fthembook.com. The Fuck Them Theory is out November 24. Follow @keltie for updates!

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This week on Cohosts for Life, we're putting each other on the spot with questions about dating advice, relationship rules, and the things we don't always see eye to eye on. We debate whether “if he wanted to, he would” is actually true, whether it's better to date someone who's needy or independent, and if timing matters more than being in love. Plus, we get into the personality traits we hope our son doesn't inherit from us, who will be the stricter parent, and a listener dilemma about whether to tell someone's fiancée that he's been reaching out to his ex.

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What if the things you admire in other people are actually clues about the person you want to become? In this solo episode, I’m sharing a conversation that made me think about the people who leave an impact on us, what we can learn from them, and how easy it is to overlook how far we’ve already come. Plus, what would the version of you from ten years ago think about your life today? Maybe you don’t have everything you thought you would by now, but there might be a lot the younger you would be really proud of.

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We've had a LOT going on lately! This week, we're recapping our perfect babymoon, maternity photo shoot, baby shopping adventures, and the nursery furniture disaster that ended in tears. Then, we're diving into your dating and relationship questions about getting too comfortable with your partner, when playful teasing crosses the line, and whether you should shoot your shot a second time with someone you matched with on a dating app.

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A gentle heads-up: This episode touches on pregnancy loss and fertility struggles. We know these topics can be deeply personal and difficult, so please listen with care.

A cancer diagnosis can change every part of your life, including your relationships. What happens when you're diagnosed with oral tongue cancer just three weeks after your wedding, and the trauma of treatment changes who you are and how you show up for the person you love? In this episode, Anonymous shares his experience navigating cancer, the lasting impact on his mental health, and the breakdown of his marriage. We talk about advocating for your health, the challenges of recovering from trauma, and what happens when two people are struggling in different ways.

Plus, Anonymous opens up about rebuilding his life after divorce, dating again, and how his experience has changed his perspective on love and marriage. We discuss how to support someone going through a major illness, why showing up in specific ways matters, and the importance of giving both patients and caregivers grace. Through it all, Anonymous shares why he still believes in love and what it means to have someone who will help you stay afloat when life gets hard.

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This week, we're letting a random question generator take the wheel, and let's just say things get a little personal. We're talking about whether alone time is essential in a healthy relationship, who would survive longer if we switched lives for a week, and the little things we do that drive each other absolutely crazy. We also get into some of the bigger conversations we've been having as we get closer to becoming parents, including what we're nervous might change in our marriage, how we'll navigate parenting responsibilities, and why communicating expectations matters so much.

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What if the way we experience dating and relationships has less to do with the other person and more to do with the state we’re in when we experience them? Dr. Sue Morter joins Seeing Other People to talk about how our internal state, nervous system, and relationship with ourselves can shape the way we communicate, make decisions, respond to triggers, and connect with other people. We talk about what happens when we’re operating from fear, anxiety, or the need to be chosen, and how becoming more grounded in ourselves can change the way we show up in relationships.

Dr. Sue walks us through practical grounding techniques, including deep belly breathing, posture, and Mula Bandha, and explains how practicing these tools can help us get out of our heads and become more present in our bodies. We also talk about breaking patterns, changing the way we respond to difficult relationship dynamics, knowing when to stay or leave, and why the question might not be “How do I find the right person?” but “How do I become the right person for me?”

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This week on Cohosts for Life, we're getting into a conversation we've been having more and more as we get closer to becoming parents: will we be sharing our baby on social media? We're talking about where we stand, the boundaries we're considering, and why it's such a complicated decision. Plus, we're catching up on pregnancy life, nesting, and the little things that make marriage entertaining. Then we're answering your listener questions, including an update from the girl who went on a date with her ex's friend, and a tough situation about what to do when you and your partner want the same future but can't seem to get on the same timeline.

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