In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Chris Moore, psychology professor and author of The Power of Guilt, to unpack why guilt shows up so intensely in dating, friendships, and relationships, and why it’s not always a bad thing. We talk about the difference between guilt and shame, why women tend to feel guilt more deeply, how guilt can keep us stuck in dating situations longer than we should, and when it’s actually a signal for healthy relationship repair versus something to let go of.

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 Jake and I talk through our 20-week challenges, from ambitious reading goals to posting trial reels and what consistency actually looks like in real life. I open up about my ongoing social media identity questions, the pressure to “pick a lane.” Plus, we answer listener questions, including mixed signals after a first date, getting ghosted, deciding if you’re ready for a dog while single, and navigating a potential relationship with someone mid-career pivot.

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Blair West joins me to talk about timing, chemistry, and what actually makes a relationship last. We get into slow burns, dating someone who isn’t “ready,” and how to protect your heart without closing it off. Blair shares her real-life love story—from college crush to marriage—and what partnership looks like beyond the honeymoon phase. This one’s about choosing someone who shows up when life gets hard, not just when it’s fun. Follow Blair on IG @_blair_west and TT @blairwest113

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In this episode, I’m joined by Liz Woods to talk about love, long-term relationships, and what it’s really like to grow up with your partner instead of dating around. We get into meeting your person young, navigating years of long distance, and how friendships shift when you’re the only one not in the dating trenches. Liz shares what she’s learned watching her single friends date, why being “chosen” matters more than chemistry, and what actually makes a relationship last. Whether you’re single, partnered, or somewhere in between, this conversation will make you rethink how we define relationship success.

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On this week's Cohosts For Life ep, we’re sharing a recent conversation about mental load, showing up differently in a relationship, and what it actually means to “step up.” Jake takes the lead on the mic as we talk about unlearning old patterns, sharing the doing, and why small, intentional actions matter more than big promises. We also introduce our new 20-week challenge: one hard thing each week, on purpose. From deleting social apps and waking up early to cooking all meals at home, journaling daily, and pushing ourselves out of autopilot. DM us or drop a Spotify comment of more challenge ideas you have.

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It’s the first episode of 2026 and we’re starting with a real conversation about dating, happiness, and letting go of the timeline we thought we were on. Stella Stephanopoulos joins me to talk about being single without spiraling, why wanting a relationship isn’t the same as needing one, and what dating actually looks like when you stop chasing validation. We get into red flags, confidence, approaching people IRL, and why building a full life comes first. If you’re entering the new year single and questioning everything, this one’s for you.

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In our annual end-of-year episode, Camila Vola turns the mic on me for an honest reflection on a year defined by slowing down. We talk about career pressure, burnout, marathon setbacks, marriage, and the tension between real impact and chasing numbers. I share what I learned about boundaries, growth, and choosing meaning over metrics, plus the dating advice I’d give my single self going into 2026.

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On this iconic Cohosts episode, we’re sharing your parents’ unreal meet-cute stories — from subway run-ins and blind dates to bars, churches, dorms, and everything in between. We also prep you for the biggest dating app day of 2026 with practical, low-pressure tips to help you show up intentionally without burning yourself out. Finally, we recap the first few days of our Florida visit with our parents and settling into vacation mode.

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Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod 

Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople 

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Jen Lauren is back for an honest conversation about what really happens after the wedding hype fades. Jen opens up about the emotional side of wedding planning, navigating family dynamics, money, and boundaries, and why the process can feel more traumatic than anyone prepares you for. We also talk running, wellness trends that are overrated, and what actually matters when you’re searching for your person.

ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more) 

Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod 

Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople 

Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today! 

If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

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I’m joined by Lena Sisco, former military interrogator and author of The 13 Power Moves of Dark Psychology, to break down how to spot lies, manipulation, and red flags early—especially in dating. We talk about why confidence can be misleading, how manipulators control conversations, and the subtle signs someone is lying or withholding information. Lena shares practical tools for dating apps, first dates, and relationships, including when to trust your gut, what questions to ask, and when walking away is the safest choice.

ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more) 

Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod 

Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople 

Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

Head to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today! 

If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.