After reconnecting with her high school sweetheart years later, this anonymous guest believed she had found the love that was always meant to be. But what followed was a three-year relationship filled with emotional neglect, anxious attachment, resentment, and a version of herself she barely recognized.In this unfiltered conversation, she shares how unresolved grief, abandonment wounds, and mixed signals kept her stuck and why the hardest part of the breakup wasn’t forgiving him, but forgiving herself.

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Life happens, and when it does, how you respond can change everything. In this episode, Dr. Rachel returns to talk about her new book When Life Happens, and why small, intentional shifts, not major life overhauls, are often what create the biggest change. We talk about dating burnout, confidence, body image, reacting vs. responding to stress, and why connections don’t always spark instantly. Dr. Rachel also shares the unexpected story of how she met her husband, and why a “boring” first date can still turn into something meaningful.

Learn more about When Life Happens and get the book here: whenlifehappensbook.com Follow Dr. Rachel on Instagram: @DrRachelNYC

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On this week's Cohosts for Life episode, we're answering your dating questions and talking through some of the situations that come up when you’re getting to know someone. We get into everything from communication to overthinking to figuring out what actually matters early on. We also share your dating wins, from putting yourself out there to big relationship milestones.

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After years of dating, heartbreak, and learning what she truly needed in a partner, Jess shares how she finally met the man she hopes to marry at 42. From relationships that lacked communication, to staying too long in something that wasn’t right, to navigating health challenges and dating later in life — every chapter led her to a slow-burn connection through matchmaking.

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In this episode, I’m joined by Therapist and Secure Attachment Coach Trevor Hanson to breaks down what anxious attachment really looks like in dating—and why feeling “not enough” can quietly shape your relationships. We talk about self-sabotage, chasing emotionally unavailable partners, and how to shift from fear to security. If you’ve ever felt unlovable or stuck in patterns you can’t explain, this one will hit home.

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This week we’re talking about Ilana’s half marathon experience and what the race actually felt like compared to training. We get into why running can be such a mental challenge and how expectations going in can shape the experience. Jake shares about his weekend at Mohegan Sun and we talk about gambling, risk, and why it can be so appealing. Ilana also shares her new focus on trying new things, from adult gymnastics to pottery and potentially learning how to sew. We wrap things up with a blind ranking of double date ideas and our thoughts on what actually makes them fun.

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TW: this episode includes discussion of body image and suicidal thoughts. Please take care of yourself and only listen if you feel safe doing so.

In this deeply honest episode, a returning anonymous guest opens up about living and dating with long-term body image struggles as a man. From childhood bullying to the realities of dating apps, he shares how external judgment has shaped his confidence, mental health, and romantic experiences. We talk about height bias, masculinity, gym culture, rejection, and the emotional toll of feeling “seen but not chosen.” 

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In today’s solo Q&A, I’m answering your real, messy, specific dating questions. We’re talking about red flags vs. anxiety, high standards, situationships, giving too many chances, and that weird feeling when your friends don’t like him. I also get into spark vs. stability and how to stop spiraling about your timeline. If you’ve ever wondered am I self-sabotaging or am I settling, you’ll want to listen.

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This week we’re sharing some of our relationship hot takes and debating a few modern dating questions couples don’t always agree on. We talk about things like whether it’s ever okay to look through your partner’s phone, sharing phone passwords, sharing locations, and whether having crushes on other people is normal. Then we play a blind ranking game where we rank different third date ideas without knowing what’s coming next

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Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod 

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A 36-year-old single woman shares the reality of modern dating: a year-long casual situationship, dating app fatigue, and the pressure of watching younger siblings get married while you’re still searching for your person. We talk about what it’s like designing engagement rings while being single, the aftermath of a toxic long-term relationship, and the unexpected lessons from group therapy. From manifestation lists for a future partner to the brutal honesty of speed dating, this conversation dives into what dating in your 30s actually feels like. 

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Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod 

Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople 

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