Self-Aware Millennial

What is the "good girl" problem? It's a complicated construct that has all of us, especially women, stuck in a loop of "shoulds," "supposed tos," and arbitrary rules designed to keep us in line and quiet.

Being a "good girl" means following the rules and doing what society dictates is "right" or "appropriate." Though there are some merits to societal conditioning, like encouraging people to share and use manners; however, the idea that these rules are required for someone to be worthy of love, attention, or happiness are problematic.

When these created constructs of who we "should be" go unquestioned, it leads to internal conflict, self-blame, self-hate, anger, and outward violence. When you try to force yourself into a box that was never designed for you, you better believe it's going to cause some intense problems in your life.

Join me in my conversation with Kimberly Pendleton, PhD, all about the problem with the good girl construct and how this affects us all, not just women. You can find Kimberly at kimberlypendleton.com and on Instagram @uncoveredbykimberly.

Sex is such a prevalent conversation in society...or is it? Despite all the messaging we get about sex in school, from our parents, media, and social platforms, candidly speaking about our sexualities and sexual experiences is still taboo.

Hell, we're still trying to dictate and control what people do with their own bodies, who they do it with, and how it's done. What. The. F***? When will we agree to be authentic about how important a healthy relationship to sex is, no matter your orientation or preferences?

Let's start now, with this episode! I sit down with a new friend, Kelsey Scotka, and candidly talk about all the ways in which bringing self-awareness to our sex lives has been a game changer. The biggest secret we uncover? Sex isn't really just sex — it's a full-body, whole-spirit experience that has enormous potential to teach you who you are, what you want, and how to advocate for yourself.

The hiatus is over! Season 2 episodes are back, and there are some exciting things happening.

First, I explain why I've been so sporadic with episodes this year and what I learned from it. Then, I share some exciting updates for the show and the Get Your Joy On™ book and online course launching at the end of May.

What's in this episode for you? I discuss the consciousness level of Shame, how it's showed up for me, what to do when you experience it, and an action step you can take right now to break free from it. This goes back to our discussion in episode 1 of this season about Dr. David Hawkins' Power v Force scale (Map of Consciousness). 

We'll spend the next few weeks walking through each level and exploring possibilities for how we can use that experience to become more authentically and joyfully ourselves.

In this episode, the tables are turned; interviewer becomes interviewee! Kelsey Henry, host of the Positively Delighted podcast (I interviewed her in episode 14), puts me in the hot seat and asks me great questions about my journey to self-awareness and how I approach life in general.

At the essence of this episode, I share why self-awareness is the path I've taken and how it empowered me to go from depressed binge drinker to ecstatic lightworker.

Plus, we have a few good laughs, discuss StrengthsFinder, and Kelsey shares her experience with one of the coolest services I offer, Soul-Seeing. Honestly, there are a lot of hidden gems in this episode (because Kelsey asks such amazing questions), so sit back, relax, and enjoy!

Sex is a complicated topic that affects all of us in one way or other. Whether we're having it, not having it, doing right, enjoying it or not, the messaging about sex in our society is confusing at best.

So, how are those of us on self-awareness journeys to figure out sex and sexuality for ourselves?

To start, I took a look at the ancient Eastern practice of Tantra. Tantra is a combination of texts, techniques, rituals, monastic practices, meditation, yoga, and ideology estimated to originate in the 7th century. This deeply reverent practice was passed down from guru to disciple as a way for people to find Oneness within themselves and the Universe.

Listen to this episode to learn from the founders of Ecstatic Hearts, Melanie and ScottieO McClure, what Tantra is and how their practice has changed their lives for the better.

Trigger Warning: Though we do not discuss sexual trauma in any form, we are talking about sex which can be a deeply personal and (unfortunately) traumatic topic for some. If you are someone who is triggered by direct and open discussions about sex or sexuality, I do not recommend this episode for you, and send you lots of love in your journey.

Sometimes you get so caught up doing the work, you forget to have fun along the way! In this week's episode, I interview host of the Positively Delighted podcast, Kelsey Henry, all about fun and Laughter Yoga.

It's important to remember that everything we do is in service of how we feel. That means, you go to work, make plans, choose food, and make all of your decisions based on how you expect them to make you feel. Even seemingly logical choices like going to work to make money to pay your bills come down to a feeling; maybe it's feeling secure, safe, and in control. You choose to eat a salad at lunch so you feel light and healthy. You choose to hang out with friends on Friday night so you can feel included, like you belong, and have fun.

No matter your subconscious/internal motivations, it's important not to get so caught up in the work of it all you forget to enjoy the process! In fact, enjoying the process makes achieving your desired state that much easier and more worthwhile. As Miley Cyrus once said, it's all about the climb.

Listen to this episode to learn how Kelsey adds delight, fun, and laughter into her personal growth endeavors, and of course, what the hell Laughter Yoga is and why you want to start doing it right now.

Perfectionism is something so many of us struggle with. Often, we don't even realize we're in it, and when we do, it feels impossible to leave. It doesn't help that we live a world that constantly reinforces the idea we need to hustle for our worth, achieve an excess of accolades, and never get tired to be worthy of love and attention.

In this week's episode, I interview mindset coach and host of the Perfectionism Project, Sam Laura Brown all about the downfalls of perfectionism and how you can start breaking free from its vicious cycle.

Listen to this episode if you're a perfectionist, think you might be, or know someone who is, so you can begin recognizing destructive patterns and behaviors in your life. 

Like it or not, money is a huge part of your life. It's the source of a lot of joy while also being one of the top reasons people get divorced. If you're like me, you walked into your adult life with a lot of debt, minimal income, and no clue how to handle it.

It's time to start having wholistic conversations about our finances so we can feel encouraged and empowered to create positive change. Whether you think you have enough of it or not, money can only work for you if you're willing to work with it.

In this episode, I interview my accountant and trusted business advisor, Roderick Robeson, on how to start shifting your relationship with money. If I've learned anything, it's that if you treat your money right, it'll return the favor.

Listen to this episode for practical advice on how to manage your money better and start getting out of debt.

New Year's resolutions are a prevalent component of our lives. There's a sense of hope and promise that the new year will bring with it fresh opportunity and a new lease on life. There's an energy that says, "Things can be different this time!"

Yet, most of us don't keep our resolutions. We fall into old habits and feel like victims of another year gone bad. We look in the mirror and feel the guilt and shame of failure. Even if you're one of the few who sticks to their resolution, the sense of accomplishment can be fleeting and lackluster.

Listen to this episode to hear Liv's case for ditching resolutions and adopting intentions. We'll also get into how to build sustainable self-worth and why moving from external validation to internal permission is crucial for Millennials and future generations.

"Menstrual blood is the only source of blood that is not traumatically induced. Yet, in modern society, this is the most hidden blood, the one so rarely spoken of and almost never seen, except privately by women..." - Judy Grahn

Half the world has a menstrual cycle, yet this topic feels more like a shameful secret than a healthy body process. I speak with Holistic Health Expert, Diana Lane, about how that stigma started, why it's detrimental to everyone (not just people with cycles), and how de-stigmatizing and connecting with this cycle fosters self-awareness and self-love.

Whether you have a cycle or not, this is a topic that affects all of our lives. It's what makes procreation and human life possible. The disconnection from this part of who we are as individuals and as a whole causes deep, unconscious damage that we can heal by normalizing and honoring it.

Think about it: if we're all ashamed of where we came from, if we can't even talk about it, if we dishonor it, if we don't recognize it's one thing we all have in common, how can we truly know ourselves? How can we truly practice self-love?

Part of the journey toward authenticity is accepting and honoring where we come from. It shapes us all.

Listen to my interview with Diana Lane to learn how changing our relationship to menstruation (Sacred Sister Cycles) can inform and heal us all.