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"My partner is triggering me" - what is a red flag, what is a trigger in safety and what can you do.

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This reel is resonating more than I thought it would - here is what I didn't share about this phase in my life and my top tips to changing this!

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Today’s episode is an absolute treat — I’m sitting down with Kirra Shale: surfer, hair queen, founder of Calleja Surf Hair, and the woman making sure we can chase waves and keep our hair thriving.

Kirra is that rare mix of grounded and wild — a “yes girl” in the best, most life-affirming way — and this conversation goes everywhere we all secretly want to go.

We dive into:

• FOMO vs slowing down — and how to actually choose the pace that nourishes you
• Feeling safe in love again and navigating the messyness of moving from best friends to lovers
• Surf culture around the world — the gender dynamics, the feedback women share, and how the lineup is slowly shifting

🌺 And the mindset that makes Kirra say YES to life — even when it’s big, scary, or stretching her.

If you want an episode that feels like a beach walk with your coolest mate — honest, inspiring, a little cheeky, and full of “oh my god same” moments — this one’s for you. 

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So you can spend the rest of 2025 calm and connected instead of running around like a headless chicken.

So you can do the things with love and excitement rather than pressure and freak out your system ( which will take well into 2026 to regulate - if you are the owner of a uterus you know what i mean).

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CLAIM ONE OF TWO FREE CLARITY CALLS! Use Code FREECLARITYYou’ve read the books. You’ve done the journaling. You know your patterns — yet somehow, you still catch yourself doing the same thing again. Saying yes when you mean no. Overthinking before acting. Shrinking yourself to keep the peace.In this episode, we’re diving into why awareness alone isn’t enough and what it actually takes to loosen — and eventually break — those sticky patterns that keep you stuck.We’ll talk about:✨ Why your brain loves your patterns (and how they’ve secretly been keeping you safe)✨ The foundations you need before any real change can happen✨ Why so many women get trapped in people-pleasing loops✨ What to do instead of just meditating or journaling about it✨ The crucial question to ask yourself to finally shift things: “Is this a story I’m telling myself, or is this my value?"

If you’re ready to stop “knowing better” and start doing differently, this one’s for you.

This episode is for you, if you

• Would never go out of the house with a messy hair day, because you have higher standards.
• Rework the reel for the 3rd time in a week and refuse to post it, because you have higher standards.
• Turn down a date with this really nice human, because although they are really lovely and kind, you have higher standards.

In this episode I explain to you why this is maybe not a case of ‘high standards’ but a case of perfectionism due to an old fear you carry. You will learn where it comes from, and why you struggle to receive or gain momentum and I tell you how to change that. 
If you want more, jump over to my world and grab yourself a free vibe check.

We’ll talk about what is your case of high standards and plan a road map to follow so you will finally shift that for good. You will make the moves, have the love you desire and gain momentum on your project you put on the back burner for far too long.

Today we’re diving into perfectionism — that sneaky little thing that tells you you’re never doing enough, even when you’re flat-out exhausted. I’ll share what colouring books have to do with perfectionism (yes, really), how it holds you back more than you realise, and why simply telling yourself 'you’re doing a good job' isn’t the magic fix everyone makes it out to be.

I’ll tell you my own story in this episode, and if it resonates, I’d love to hear yours. You can book a free vibe check with me to see if we’re a match. And if you want smaller doses of these thoughts to sprinkle into your day, come hang out with me on TikTok — little sparks of reflection and inspiration, no perfection required.

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Ever tried slowing down—taking a yoga class, starting work later, giving yourself a proper break—only to find yourself freaking out?

You’re not alone.In this episode, I unpack why calmness can feel so wrong when you’ve been running on busyness and stress for years.

We’ll dive into:

• Why your system (mind + body) gets addicted to chaos
• What actually happens when you start to slow down
• How your “wellness to-do list” might be making things worse
• And the first steps to making calm feel truly calm (instead of twitchy and restless)

If you’ve ever wondered why yoga, journaling, or self-care doesn’t “work” for you—or why it feels like just another box to tick—this one’s for you.

🎧 Tune in now, and if this resonates, let’s connect: book a free vibe check and start shifting your system for good YAY!

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Giiirl, why do boundaries feel scary, selfish, or egoistic? "I am scared of being selfish" this is the numero uno sentence I hear, when clients want to say "no" but end up saying "yes" whoops.

So in this episode, I am not only unpacking why we struggle to set them— but also how boundaries can actually be the ultimate tool for deeper connection.

We’ll cover:

• The difference between inside boundaries (your inner limits) vs outside boundaries (what you allow others to do)

• Why holding boundaries doesn’t make you selfish—it actually invites more love in

• The pressure of being a “perfect, happy couple” and how boundaries can actually make you happier

If you’ve ever avoided setting limits or feared it would ruin your relationships, this episode will give you the tools and pep talk to step into boundaries confidently—while still staying deeply connected.

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Alright babes, today we’ve got someone seriously special on the mic. Ren Chagoury — the bold force behind Thrifter.

She’s opening her 6th store right now + branching out into the realm of thrifter home and furniture and is on a mission to cut textile waste, give preloved clothes another life, and make sure we all look ridiculously cute while saving the planet.

I actually met Ren a few months back at an event from her second business, Females Doing Cool Shit.

She runs these incredible networking days with her right hand, Tiana, and also yaps her heart out on her podcast.

And honestly, the reason I wanted Ren on here is simple: she oozes realness. This is a woman with her heart on her sleeve, who’s so eager to give and to support — and you’ll hear that in this episode too.

And Ren isn’t just about clothes. She’s about opening doors. Saying yes to opportunities that might not look ‘smart’ on paper but somehow she makes them hers — and very successfully. She’s also recently opened her doors to love, and to those terrifyingly honest conversations most of us try to avoid because, let’s be real, they feel hard.

Because behind those racks of preloved fashion, there’s a woman who’s had to untangle some pretty heavy threads herself.

We’re talking trust issues. Hyper-independence. Childhood stories that taught her not to lean on anyone — and the brave, messy work of rewriting all of that.

How do you actually let someone in when you’re convinced they could let you down?

How do you set boundaries, have the hard conversations, and still show up with love?

Ren is the kind of person who gives endlessly, who builds community that kids look up to and women feel inspired by. And she’s here to remind us that your so-called failures? They’re not proof you’ve messed it all up — they’re the very lessons your future badass self will thrive on.

So, are you ready to be swept up in her energy and her vibe? Let’s dive in.

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