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Meagan Francis: writer and author, podcaster at The Mom Hour, and mother of reinvention.is chatting with us about divorce and coparenting in the time of COVID. BJ is helping clarify the difference between a boundary vs. an ultimatum when dealing with difficult people.

In this episode we also talked about:

The Happiest Mom: 10 Secrets To Enjoying Motherhood,

Target Hair Clip

OLOVES Natural Whole Pitted Olives

Dr Dennis Gross Alpha Beta Peel

Matrix Green Shampoo

The Total Eye Lift from Clarins is a plant-based formula is fueled by ingredients of 94% natural origin. A combo of Organic Harungana extract and Cassie Flower wax give a visible lifting and wrinkle-smoothing effect. It works on crow’s feet, dark circles, and puffiness, and it’s also an anti-aging cream. 80% of women who tried it reported a visible eye lift in :60 seconds flat* 86% noticed a visible difference in 4 weeks and visibly firmer skin. Discover more about Clarins products at clarinsusa.com, and get 10% off your purchase of Total Eye Lift with the code SELFIE10.

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Lauren Ellman, author of BRB: A Memoir About Coming of Age In the Digital Age, is talking with us about the intersection of social media and anxiety, and how she learned that connection was causing distress. Kristen shares about getting the vaccine, she and Roo remember the FlyLady cleaning craze, and BJ helps us determine the difference between adult ADHD and pandemic brain fog.

In this episode we also talked about:

Jordan’s Skinny Classic Coffee Syrup Trio

Flour & Branch Cookies

Eekontos Ceramics

Mask Case

The Total Eye Lift from Clarins is a plant-based formula is fueled by ingredients of 94% natural origin. A combo of Organic Harungana extract and Cassie Flower wax give a visible lifting and wrinkle-smoothing effect. It works on crow’s feet, dark circles, and puffiness, and it’s also an anti-aging cream. 80% of women who tried it reported a visible eye lift in :60 seconds flat* 86% noticed a visible difference in 4 weeks and visibly firmer skin. Discover more about Clarins products at clarinsusa.com, and get 10% off your purchase of Total Eye Lift with the code SELFIE10.

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We are talking with Dr. Cynthia Hayes about toxic positivity and how to avoid projecting it onto our friends with serious illness. 

In this episode we also talk about:

* The Big Ordeal: Understanding and Managing the Psychological Turmoil of Cancer

* Sourse Chocolate Supplement Bites

* The Durrells in Corfu on MASTERPIECE on PBS

* Baron Fig Journals (Use Roo’s link for $10 off!)

* Paddywax Candles

The Total Eye Lift from Clarins is a plant-based formula is fueled by ingredients of 94% natural origin. A combo of Organic Harungana extract and Cassie Flower wax give a visible lifting and wrinkle-smoothing effect. It works on crow’s feet, dark circles, and puffiness, and it’s also an anti-aging cream. 80% of women who tried it reported a visible eye lift in :60 seconds flat* 86% noticed a visible difference in 4 weeks and visibly firmer skin. Discover more about Clarins products at clarinsusa.com, and get 10% off your purchase of Total Eye Lift with the code SELFIE10.

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We are talking with Emily Paulson, co-founder of the Sober Mom Squad, about drinking in mom culture, and how the pandemic has affected drinking habits. BJ talks about the loss of her aunt to COVID, and how the pandemic compounds the grief of losing a loved one.

In this episode we also talked about:

Bowls of Plenty: Recipes for Healthy and Delicious Whole-Grain Meals

3,001 This or That Questions

Women Who Dared: 52 Stories of Fearless Daredevils, Adventurers, and Rebels

Pacifica Stress Rehab & Caffeine Facial Mask

Why Sobriety is a superpower for women | Emily Paulson | TEDxBeaconStreet

Ana Luisa is jewelry company with amazing design, as well as a sustainable mission. In addition to making beautiful earrings, necklaces and bracelets, their company offsets 100% of their carbon emissions, starting with the sourcing of their raw materials. They are also committed to quality, with long-pasting pieces created from high-quality metals, and a 365-day warranty to back it up, with fair prices starting at $39. These pieces are a fantastic gift for yourself and the ones you love. Ana Luisa is offering 10% off all products with the code SELFIE at analuisa.com.

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Stephanie Estima, author of The Betty Body and a clinician in functional neurology, is sharing how more orgasms can actually improve our health on a number of levels. We also talk about hitting that pandemic wall and what we are doing about it, and how much privacy vs. supervision we should be allowing our kids on their phones.

In this episode we also talked about

* Johnny Was Face Masks

* VOVO STYLEMENT VB-3000SE Electronic Bidet Seat,

* SKIMS bralettes and underwear

* TruSkin Vitamin C Serum

EveryPlate is up to 58% cheaper than other major meal kits on the market, and an inexpensive alternative to takeout or delivery. Recipes come together in about 30 minutes and EveryPlate offers contactless delivery to your doorstep for easy home cooking on a budget. EveryPlate’s easy-to-follow recipes and pre-portioned ingredients take the stress out of dinnertime. Try EveryPlate for just $1.99 per meal plus an additional 20% off your next 2 boxes by going to EveryPlate.com and entering code selfie199.

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Kristen is chatting with Candace Burch about the results of a recent hormone test, her results (which were problematic but also common) and what she can do to do get things back on track. BJ helps us with breaking free of the cellphone pull.

In this episode we also talked about:

Old Survivor episodes on Prime

Cards Against Humanity: Family Edition

Imagine Out Loud

Weighted Bar

Your Hormone Balance

Ana Luisa is a jewelry company with amazing design, as well as a sustainable mission. In addition to making beautiful earrings, necklaces and bracelets, their company offsets 100% of their carbon emissions, starting with the sourcing of their raw materials. They are also committed to quality, with long-pasting pieces created from high-quality metals, and a 365-day warranty to back it up, with fair prices starting at $39. These pieces are a fantastic gift for yourself and the ones you love. Ana Luisa is offering 10% off all products with the code SELFIE! Check out analuisa.com/SELFIE. Last day to guarantee US standard shipping before V-Day is FEBRUARY 10. 

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We’re talking mom-shame, life on the internet, writing, and more with our friend Laura Tremaine, author of the new book Share Your Stuff: I’ll Go First. Kristen and BJ also chat about what a deeper shift in soul-care looks like (hint: it’s not bath bombs.)

In this episode we also talk about:

Imperfect Foods Produce Delivery

Thistle Meal Delivery

Amazon Subscribe + Save Pantry Goods

Charitea Berry Fields Forever

Yoassi 2 Pack 18/8 Stainless Steel Tea Infuser Mesh Strainer

SYLVECO Body Care for Sensitive Skin

OUAI hair oil

Etsy chore cards

Ana Luisa is a jewelry company with amazing design, as well as a sustainable mission. In addition to making beautiful earrings, necklaces and bracelets, their company offsets 100% of their carbon emissions, starting with the sourcing of their raw materials. They are also committed to quality, with long-pasting pieces created from high-quality metals, and a 365-day warranty to back it up, with fair prices starting at $39. These pieces are a fantastic gift for yourself and the ones you love. Ana Luisa is offering 15% off all products leading up to Valentine’s Day! Check out analuisa.com. Last day to guarantee US standard shipping before V-Day is FEBRUARY 10.  

BJ’s GROUNDING EXERCISE

It's preferable to do this with bare feet in grass or dirt, but not necessary. If possible, take off your shoes, even if it's inside.

* Stand with feet shoulder width apart, arms relaxed at your sides.

* Be sure feet are comfortably positioned on the ground.

* Posture should be aligned but relaxed.

* Shake out your arms and roll your head slowly for a few moments to feel your body relax and release any excess energy.

* Begin to "roll" your feet on the ground until every part of the surface of your feet has touched the ground, including the arch and the base of your toes (spreading the toes and pressing them down helps with this).

* Once you've completed that, find the most comfortable position on the ground for your feet.

* Begin to sway side to side then front to back slowly for about 30-60 seconds, or as long as you'd like.

* Raise your arms up over your head, inhaling as you go and stretching your body to its fullest length.

* As you exhale, lower your arms out to the side then continue down, bending to touch your toes.

* Repeat this motion as many times as you'd like until the body feels fully relaxed.

* Now extending the forearms from your sides forward, elbows snug but relaxed against your sides, with palms turned upward, relax into your feet.

* You may stand still or sway side to side, whatever feels most comfortable to you.

* At this point, your body should begin to feel heavy, and you should feel a sensation of being "pulled" through your feet into the earth.

* Stay in this position for as long as you like. 

EXPRESSIVE WRITING PROTOCOL

To start, in a few words, write down what you are feeling. 

* Then with a scale of 1-10, rate how positive you feel with 1 being not at all positive and 10 very positive. 

* Now do the same with any negativity you feel. 1 is not negative at all, 10 is very negative. 

* Then rate how meaningful life feels to you right now with 1 being not at all meaningful and 10 very meaningful. 

* Now write for 10 minutes about anything that is bothering you.

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We are talking decision fatigue . . . that paralysis and exhaustion that happens when we have too much to decide. We talk about how we’ve been trying to simplify and automate to avoid decision fatigue where we can.

In this episode we also talk about:

Everlane cashmere scrunchie

Zen Heel Socks

The Lazy Genius

Bite Toothpaste Bits

NanoBio Protect Nasal Antiseptic

Today’s episode of Selfie is sponsored by shapeandfoster.com. Shape & Foster is a lifestyle development app that provides monthly actionable insight from six experts in mental health, financial planning, nutrition, fitness, yoga, and a life coach. It is a one stop shop for self-improvement. The app provides a proactive and informed approach to improving your mental well-being, by enabling practices and habits to be built. Visit www.shapeandfoster.com for your free 14-day trial.

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Between the pandemic and political strife, the world feels upside-down right now. We are talking through how to process the political upheaval we are collectively experiencing, and how to balance self-care with staying aware of what’s going on in the world. 

In this episode we talk about:

* Thistle

* Perfect Image Glycolic 30% Gel Peel

* Cell Phone Sanitizer

* Pill Box

Today’s episode of Selfie is sponsored by shapeandfoster.com. Shape & Foster is a lifestyle development app that provides monthly actionable insight from six experts in mental health, financial planning, nutrition, fitness, yoga, and a life coach. It is a one stop shop for self-improvement. The app provides a proactive and informed approach to improving your mental well-being, by enabling practices and habits to be built. Visit www.shapeandfoster.com for your free 14-day trial.

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BJ and Kristen have a discussion about what to do when you aren't comfortable getting together with family due to the pandemic and it's causing hurt. We also speak to those feelings of disappointment when others pull out of longstanding traditions.

In this episode we also talked about:

* Minted Pre-Addressed Holiday Cards

* Shortcake Customized Photo Albums

* Matthew Paul Turner's All the Colors of Christmas

* The Best Self Journal

* Mike’s Hot Honey

* Kristen's Target Dress Uniform

More than 160 million projected voters cast their ballot this year -- shattering records. We want to know what motivated you to participate in an election that will help us deliver a democracy where we all can thrive. We've heard from first-time voters, those who stood in line for hours, and those who were moved to tears knowing how important their vote was. If you, or someone you know, had trouble voting, or if there's any other experience you'd like to share... Let your story be heard now. Visit https://andstillivote.org/your-story-matters to join the fight for voting rights today. Paid for by The Leadership Conference Education Fund. 

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