If you have a great relationship with your father, I bet that the thing that’s most important to you about that bond isn’t that he provided for your family financially. It was his emotional support and intentional presence that made that relationship special. And who else would be a better guest to talk about fatherhood than my husband, Julien Lane? You might know him as “Homey” (if you know, you know), but Julien is the true embodiment of modern fatherhood. From holding space for our family’s feelings and helping us emotionally regulate, to modeling what it looks like to be a supportive husband, we talk about all things fatherhood in the year 2025.

Resources mentioned:

• Father Involvement and Children's Academic Achievement - Journal of Marriage and Family, 2016
• Book Rec: Fair Play by Eve Rodskey
• The Fair Play Deck: A Couple's Conversation Deck for Prioritizing What's Important

Some key takeaways from this episode include:

• Being a present father is about WAY more than your financial contributions. When you spend time being invested - and I mean emotionally invested and physically present - in your kids’ lives, it improves their development and leads to a healthy bond well into their adulthood.
• According to this study, children with highly involved fathers scored 15% higher on cognitive development tests. Sons showed 35% better emotional regulation. Daughters had 27% higher self-esteem. 
• Our biggest tip for being a more intentional father? Learn the mental load without being asked. Get to know your family’s daily, weekly, and monthly routines and rhythms. How can you take ownership of some of those routines?

Hosted by Chancé Hindir-Lane, Selfish Parenting is the honest, empowering podcast that challenges the myth of self-sacrifice in motherhood. Each episode explores identity, partnership, and the balance between nurturing your family and yourself.

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Welcome to the Selfish Parenting Podcast! If you are feeling burnt out on parenthood and like these kids have got to go, you just walked into the right party! In this episode, I’m kicking off this podcast with why I named the podcast Selfish Parenting (and if that name gave you pause… keep listening!), my four-part Selfish Parenting Framework, and the research-backed evidence that being a happy, fulfilled parent leads to raising happy, fulfilled, and pretty successful kids.

🤎 We’d love to hear from you! Send us your parenting questions and hot takes at [email protected]! Our favorite submissions will be featured on the show.

Resources mentioned:

• Happy Mothers, Successful Children: Effects of Maternal Satisfaction on Child Outcomes* by Dimitrios Nikolaou | The Ohio State University
• UrbanSitter Childcare and Home Care Services
• Poplin Laundry Service

Some key takeaways from this episode include:

• A study at The Ohio State University found that a 10% increase in maternal happiness predicts social skills improvement equivalent to a $62,000 annual income increase. Okay numbers!!
• It is crucial to maintain your identity outside of motherhood. That’s why it’s one of the pillars of the Selfish Parenting Framework. It is such a gift to show your kids what it looks like to be a multi-passionate adult and pursue all those passions while your kids are young.
• When it comes to outsourcing, start small. You don’t need to start with a full-time nanny and a personal chef. Hire a babysitter for a couple hours a day, a few days a week, so you can have some time for self-care.

Hosted by Chancé Hindir-Lane, Selfish Parenting is the honest, empowering podcast that challenges the myth of self-sacrifice in motherhood. Each episode explores identity, partnership, and the balance between nurturing your family and yourself.

Connect with Me:

• Instagram
• Shop My
• LTK
• YouTube - Chancè
• YouTube - Selfish Parenting
• TikTok

Hosted by Chancé Hindir-Lane, Selfish Parenting is the honest, empowering podcast that challenges the myth of self-sacrifice in motherhood. Each episode explores identity, partnership, and the balance between nurturing your family and yourself.

Connect with Me:

• Instagram
• Shop My
• LTK
• YouTube - Chancè
• YouTube - Selfish Parenting
• TikTok