Selfless Esteem

Dear Selfless Esteem, I feel so depressed sometimes that I don’t get out of bed. My family tells me to snap out of it or they try to cheer me up but it’s not helping. Signed, Singing the Blues

Hi, I’m Gina Leggio. Having been a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist for over 20 years, I’ve observed how the mental health field has emphasized self-esteem. I’ve also noticed how this can be counterproductive because it involves self-evaluation, which causes insecurity, anxiety, and more.

I define Selfless Esteem as freedom from self-consciousness by focusing on our Creator, who is “the Beginning and the End” (Revelation 1:8). The result is joy and peace.

For more information go to my website: http://www.selflessesteem.com 

Submit a question here: https://ginaleggio.com/contact-form 

If you're in crisis, call or text the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988. Another option is to use the chat feature at Lifeline Chat. There are also suicide hotlines in each state listed on suicide.org. If you’re in imminent danger, call 911. For other countries, see Wikipedia's list of suicide crisis lines.

This podcast episode is meant for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended to amount to professional or specific advice on which reliance should be placed. Submitting a question does not establish any kind of professional-client relationship. Although I strive to provide accurate general information, the information presented here is not a substitute for services of a medical, legal or mental health professional, and you should not rely solely on this information. Always consult a professional in your area prior to making any professional, legal, financial or tax related decisions. 

All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible, New King James Version®. Copyright © 1984 by Thomas Nelson Publishers, Nashville, TN. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

Dear Selfless Esteem, I feel so stressed out from the daily grind. I’m exhausted and I’m becoming irritable. What can I do to deal with stress? Signed, Tense and Tired

For the answer, tune in.

For more information go to my website: http://www.selflessesteem.com 

Submit a question here: https://ginaleggio.com/contact-form 

If you're in crisis, call or text the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988. Another option is to use the chat feature at Lifeline Chat. There are also suicide hotlines in each state listed on suicide.org. If you’re in imminent danger, call 911. For other countries, see Wikipedia's list of suicide crisis lines.

This podcast episode is meant for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended to amount to professional or specific advice on which reliance should be placed. Submitting a question does not establish any kind of professional-client relationship. Although I strive to provide accurate general information, the information presented here is not a substitute for services of a medical, legal or mental health professional, and you should not rely solely on this information. Always consult a professional in your area prior to making any professional, legal, financial or tax related decisions. 

All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible, New King James Version®. Copyright © 1984 by Thomas Nelson Publishers, Nashville, TN. Used by permission. All rights reserved. Scripture quotations marked as NLT are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996, 2004, 2015 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved. Scripture quotations marked MSG are taken from THE MESSAGE, copyright © 1993, 2002, 2018 by Eugene H. Peterson. Used by permission of NavPress. All rights reserved. Represented by Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.

Dear Selfless Esteem, How do I stop feeling so insecure about myself? I’m constantly thinking that everything I do is being watched and judged by others. It’s exhausting. Signed, Insecure Blues

To hear the answer, tune in.

For more information go to my website: http://www.selflessesteem.com 

Submit a question here: https://ginaleggio.com/contact-form 

If you're in crisis, call or text the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988. Another option is to use the chat feature at Lifeline Chat. There are also suicide hotlines in each state listed on suicide.org. If you’re in imminent danger, call 911. For other countries, see Wikipedia's list of suicide crisis lines.

This podcast episode is meant for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended to amount to professional or specific advice on which reliance should be placed. Submitting a question does not establish any kind of professional-client relationship. Although I strive to provide accurate general information, the information presented here is not a substitute for services of a medical, legal or mental health professional, and you should not rely solely on this information. Always consult a professional in your area prior to making any professional, legal, financial or tax related decisions. 

All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible, New King James Version®. Copyright © 1984 by Thomas Nelson Publishers, Nashville, TN. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

Dear Selfless Esteem, It’s so hard for me to get out of bed in the morning because I’m not a morning person. Any suggestions? Signed, Too Tired

Hi, I’m Gina Leggio. Having been a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist for over 20 years, I’ve observed how the mental health field has emphasized self-esteem. I’ve also noticed how this can be counterproductive because it involves self-evaluation, which causes insecurity, anxiety, and more.

I define Selfless Esteem as freedom from self-consciousness by focusing on our Creator, who is “the Beginning and the End” (Revelation 1:8). The result is joy and peace.

For more information go to my website: http://www.selflessesteem.com 

Submit a question here: https://ginaleggio.com/contact-form 

If you're in crisis, call or text the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988. Another option is to use the chat feature at Lifeline Chat. There are also suicide hotlines in each state listed on suicide.org. If you’re in imminent danger, call 911. For other countries, see Wikipedia's list of suicide crisis lines.

This podcast episode is meant for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended to amount to professional or specific advice on which reliance should be placed. Submitting a question does not establish any kind of professional-client relationship. Although I strive to provide accurate general information, the information presented here is not a substitute for services of a medical, legal or mental health professional, and you should not rely solely on this information. Always consult a professional in your area prior to making any professional, legal, financial or tax related decisions. 

All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible, New King James Version®. Copyright © 1984 by Thomas Nelson Publishers, Nashville, TN. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

Dear Selfless Esteem, I think I’m a victim of religious trauma because I’m such a perfectionist. I’ve been this way since I was a child, and although there’s some things I’m grateful for in my upbringing, religion isn’t one of them. Whenever something bad would happen to me, a church leader or a church member would say God’s punishing me for some unconfessed sin. I don’t go to church anymore, but I still feel pressure to be perfect and I still feel guilty over every little thing. How can I heal from religious trauma? Signed, Unholy

Hi, I’m Gina Leggio. Having been a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist for over 20 years, I’ve observed how the mental health field has emphasized self-esteem. I’ve also noticed how this can be counterproductive because it involves self-evaluation, which causes insecurity, anxiety, and more.

I define Selfless Esteem as freedom from self-consciousness by focusing on our Creator, who is “the Beginning and the End” (Revelation 1:8). The result is joy and peace.

For more information go to my website: http://www.selflessesteem.com 

Submit a question here: https://ginaleggio.com/contact-form 

If you're in crisis, call or text the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988. Another option is to use the chat feature at Lifeline Chat. There are also suicide hotlines in each state listed on suicide.org. If you’re in imminent danger, call 911. For other countries, see Wikipedia's list of suicide crisis lines.

This podcast episode is meant for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended to amount to professional or specific advice on which reliance should be placed. Submitting a question does not establish any kind of professional-client relationship. Although I strive to provide accurate general information, the information presented here is not a substitute for services of a medical, legal or mental health professional, and you should not rely solely on this information. Always consult a professional in your area prior to making any professional, legal, financial or tax related decisions. 

Quote in podcast from: Beshore, K., Wanjau, M., Kasirivu, P., Metelus, S., Ntoto, C., Ntoto, E., Núñez, D., & De Visser, A. (2020). Rooted: Connect with God, the Church, Your Purpose. Rooted Network.

All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible, New King James Version®. Copyright © 1984 by Thomas Nelson Publishers, Nashville, TN. Used by permission. All rights reserved. Scripture quotations marked MSG are taken from THE MESSAGE, copyright © 1993, 2002, 2018 by Eugene H. Peterson. Used by permission of NavPress. All rights reserved. Represented by Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.

Dear Selfless Esteem, Why do I get so mad when I see my co-workers slacking off? I feel like I work twice as hard as they do, yet I don’t make as much as they do. They never get in trouble for not doing their job. And I never get any praise for doing more than I need to do. I know it’s not my place to “straighten them out” but how do I manage these strong feelings of anger and resentment towards them? Signed, Not a Slacker

Hi, I’m Gina Leggio. Having been a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist for over 20 years, I’ve observed how the mental health field has emphasized self-esteem. I’ve also noticed how this can be counterproductive because it involves self-evaluation, which causes insecurity, anxiety, and more.

I define Selfless Esteem as freedom from self-consciousness by focusing on our Creator, who is “the Beginning and the End” (Revelation 1:8). The result is joy and peace.

For more information go to my website: http://www.selflessesteem.com 

Submit a question here: https://ginaleggio.com/contact-form 

If you're in crisis, call or text the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988. Another option is to use the chat feature at Lifeline Chat. There are also suicide hotlines in each state listed on suicide.org. If you’re in imminent danger, call 911. For other countries, see Wikipedia's list of suicide crisis lines.

This podcast episode is meant for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended to amount to professional or specific advice on which reliance should be placed. Submitting a question does not establish any kind of professional-client relationship. Although I strive to provide accurate general information, the information presented here is not a substitute for services of a medical, legal or mental health professional, and you should not rely solely on this information. Always consult a professional in your area prior to making any professional, legal, financial or tax related decisions. 

All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible, New King James Version®. Copyright © 1984 by Thomas Nelson Publishers, Nashville, TN. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

Dear Selfless Esteem, I can’t sleep. I wake up in the middle of the night and have a hard time falling back asleep. Then I’m so sleepy all day the next day. Signed, Sleepless

To hear the answer, tune in.

For more information go to my website: http://www.selflessesteem.com 

Submit a question here: https://ginaleggio.com/contact-form 

If you're in crisis, call or text the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988. Another option is to use the chat feature at Lifeline Chat. There are also suicide hotlines in each state listed on suicide.org. If you’re in imminent danger, call 911. For other countries, see Wikipedia's list of suicide crisis lines.

This podcast episode is meant for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended to amount to professional or specific advice on which reliance should be placed. Submitting a question does not establish any kind of professional-client relationship. Although I strive to provide accurate general information, the information presented here is not a substitute for services of a medical, legal or mental health professional, and you should not rely solely on this information. Always consult a professional in your area prior to making any professional, legal, financial or tax related decisions. 

All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible, New King James Version®. Copyright © 1984 by Thomas Nelson Publishers, Nashville, TN. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

Dear Selfless Esteem, If a friendship is a bit one-sided and you are always the one calling to make plans to hang out, but they usually want to, how can you get the other person to make the effort too in a new relationship? Signed, A Good Friend Stuck in One-Sided Relationships

Hi, I’m Gina Leggio. Having been a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist for over 20 years, I’ve observed how the mental health field has emphasized self-esteem. I’ve also noticed how this can be counterproductive because it involves self-evaluation, which causes insecurity, anxiety, and more.

I define Selfless Esteem as freedom from self-consciousness by focusing on our Creator, who is “the Beginning and the End” (Revelation 1:8). The result is joy and peace.

For more information go to my website: http://www.selflessesteem.com 

Submit a question here: https://ginaleggio.com/contact-form 

If you're in crisis, call or text the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988. Another option is to use the chat feature at Lifeline Chat. There are also suicide hotlines in each state listed on suicide.org. If you’re in imminent danger, call 911. For other countries, see Wikipedia's list of suicide crisis lines.

This podcast episode is meant for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended to amount to professional or specific advice on which reliance should be placed. Submitting a question does not establish any kind of professional-client relationship. Although I strive to provide accurate general information, the information presented here is not a substitute for services of a medical, legal or mental health professional, and you should not rely solely on this information. Always consult a professional in your area prior to making any professional, legal, financial or tax related decisions. 

All Scripture quotations are taken from THE MESSAGE, copyright © 1993, 2002, 2018 by Eugene H. Peterson. Used by permission of NavPress. All rights reserved. Represented by Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.

Dear Selfless Esteem, My son has always been cheerful and emotionally stable, but ever since he hit puberty, he has had frequent anger outbursts, which are usually directed at me for no good reason. What should I do? Signed, Walking on Eggshells

For the answer, tune in.

For more information go to my website: http://www.selflessesteem.com 

Submit a question here: https://ginaleggio.com/contact-form 

If you're in crisis, call or text the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988. Another option is to use the chat feature at Lifeline Chat. There are also suicide hotlines in each state listed on suicide.org. If you’re in imminent danger, call 911. For other countries, see Wikipedia's list of suicide crisis lines.

This podcast episode is meant for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended to amount to professional or specific advice on which reliance should be placed. Submitting a question does not establish any kind of professional-client relationship. Although I strive to provide accurate general information, the information presented here is not a substitute for services of a medical, legal or mental health professional, and you should not rely solely on this information. Always consult a professional in your area prior to making any professional, legal, financial or tax related decisions. 

All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible, New King James Version®. Copyright © 1984 by Thomas Nelson Publishers, Nashville, TN. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

Dear Selfless Esteem, My 2 kids are constantly bickering over everything and antagonizing each other. How can I stop this endless sibling rivalry? Signed, Mama Referee

Tune in for the answer.

For more information go to my website: http://www.selflessesteem.com 

Submit a question here: https://ginaleggio.com/contact-form 

If you're in crisis, call or text the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988. Another option is to use the chat feature at Lifeline Chat. There are also suicide hotlines in each state listed on suicide.org. If you’re in imminent danger, call 911. For other countries, see Wikipedia's list of suicide crisis lines.

This podcast episode is meant for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended to amount to professional or specific advice on which reliance should be placed. Submitting a question does not establish any kind of professional-client relationship. Although I strive to provide accurate general information, the information presented here is not a substitute for services of a medical, legal or mental health professional, and you should not rely solely on this information. Always consult a professional in your area prior to making any professional, legal, financial or tax related decisions. 

All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible, New King James Version®. Copyright © 1984 by Thomas Nelson Publishers, Nashville, TN. Used by permission. All rights reserved.