A. A PROTRACTED INTRODUCTION
Three years ago I gave some lectures that were eventually published under the title The Difficult Doctrine of the Love of God. Almost all the focus of those lectures was on the ways in which the Bible speaks of the love of God. I said relatively little about Christian love, i.e., about
the love Christians are called to display. In this book I want to redress the balance a little; indeed, by the end of the work I shall show some of the ways in which the love of Christians is a reflection of the love of God.
Before plunging into the topic, the way will be eased if I review and slightly adapt three points made in the first set of lectures.
First, popular culture saunters between a sentimental view and an erotic view of love. The erotic view is fed by television, movies, and certain
popular books and articles; the sentimental view is nurtured by many streams, some of which we shall think about as we press on, but the result is a form of reductionism whose hold on the culture is outstripped only by its absurdity.
Applied to God, the sentimental view generates a deity with all the awesome holiness of a cuddly toy, all the moral integrity of a marshmallow. In the previous lectures, I briefly documented this point with examples from films and books. Applied to Christians, the sentimental view breeds expectations of transcendental niceness. Whatever else Christians should be, they should be nice, where “niceness” means smiling a lot and never ever hinting that anyone may be wrong about anything (because that isn’t nice). In the local church, it means abandoning church discipline (it isn’t nice), and in many contexts it means restoring adulterers (for instance) to pastoral office at the mere hint of broken repentance. After all, isn’t the church about forgiveness? Aren’t we supposed to love one another? And doesn’t that mean that above all we must be, well, nice? Similarly with respect to doctrine: the letter kills, while the Spirit gives life, and everyone knows the Spirit is nice. So let us love one another and refrain from becoming upright and uptight about this divisive thing called “doctrine.”
None of this is to say that “un-niceness” has any allure for thoughtful Christians. It is merely to say that the surrounding culture’s sophomoric reduction of “love,” even Christian love, into niceness does not give us the scope to think through the diversities of ways in which the Bible speaks of Christian love, the diversities of contexts that demand something a great deal more profound than sentimental niceness.
Sorting these things out is not easy. Quite apart from the usual exegetical challenges, one quickly discovers that the issues, though never less than exegetical, are usually more: it is not easy to think clearly with exegetical even-handedness when you are being told that because you say that certain behavior is wrong, you are not nice, you are not displaying Christian love. If Christians are not nice, they are not really loving, and that means they are hypocrites. And all of us know with shame that the church has generated its share of hypocrites, don’t we? So hearing the scorn, not knowing quite how to answer, we are tempted to hunker down in our holes and resolve to be a little nicer. If the truth be told, the pressures along this line will as often come from inside the church as outside. The temptation to retreat into “nice” silence is immediately augmented.
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