Yes, I mean it! Getting ghosted is a blessing in disguise. In Part 1 I explain how ghosting is a key indicator that someone is unwilling or unable to develop trust and emotional intimacy with you. I explain that it is only the beginning of what will be a string passive aggressive behaviour from the perpetrator, and that we must learn to heed ghosting as an early end of an inevitably doomed relationship. In Part 2 I answer a listener question about what to do when a bestie befriends an abusive ex-friend. I use an anecdote about how a strong friendship cultivated in recovery had a difficult but necessary ending. In Part 3 Taylor joins me for an analysis of the ending of Netflix' Keep Sweet, Prey and Obey.

To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to [email protected]

LINKS

Taylor Wallis - https://www.instagram.com/taylorwallis/

The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto

Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions

4 Reasons to Fall in Love with Getting Ghosted - https://thriveglobal.com/stories/4-reasons-to-fall-in-love-with-getting-ghosted/

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My books:

The Irreverent Grief Guide: How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3

https://amzn.to/3sZYalY

The Irreverent Trust Guide: How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up

https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA

Warning! Today bubbles will be burst. In Part 1 I challenge the idea of self-sabotage. I invite you to consider how self-sabotage is actually a trauma response, and explain that defining our body's act of inertia as "sabotage", is discrediting its effort to keep us safe. I then use my journey with chronic dieting and eating disorders to illustrate this. In Part 2 I answer a listener's question about how to handle a friend who repeatedly crosses their boundaries and who doesn't make an effort. I use Gottman's relational theory of "bid's for connection", my theory of "ladder of trust", and Rosenberg's theory of nonviolent communication to contextualize their experience and provide possible solutions. In Part 3 Taylor joins me to discuss Episode 2 of Netflix' Keep Sweet, Pray and Obey. Trigger warning: sexual violence

To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to [email protected]

LINKS

Taylor Wallis - https://www.instagram.com/taylorwallis/

The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto

Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions

Atomic Habits – https://amzn.to/2KCFs1E

Gottman's "Bids for Connection" - https://www.gottman.com/blog/want-to-improve-your-relationship-start-paying-more-attention-to-bids/

Breaking Free: How I Escaped Polygamy, the FLDS Cult, and My Father, Warren Jeffs - https://amzn.to/3Qyx28e

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My books:

The Irreverent Grief Guide: How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3

https://amzn.to/3sZYalY

The Irreverent Trust Guide: How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up

https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA

Produced by Wowow

In Part 1 I talk about the difference between telling people your boundaries versus living them. I discuss how boundaries are about protecting and honouring ourselves and our standards rather than controlling the behaviour of others. I hone in on the concept of consequences and acknowledge how difficult they are to act out because it places the consequence of a crossed boundary on us and not on the other person. In Part 2 I answer a listener question about how to mourn the death of a relationship they have fantasized about and exaggerated in their mind. I contextualize fantasy as a coping mechanism and not shameful and assure them that fantasy is just as painful as reality. I discuss shame and abandonment issues. In Part 3 I invite a dear friend Taylor Wallis on the show to discuss our obsession with cults, through the lens of the show Keep Sweet, Pray and Obey.

To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to [email protected]

LINKS

Taylor Wallis - https://www.instagram.com/taylorwallis/

The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto

Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions

Keep up with me:

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https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ

My books:

The Irreverent Grief Guide: How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3

https://amzn.to/3sZYalY

The Irreverent Trust Guide: How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up

https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA

Produced by Wowow

In Part 1, I talk about ego and how surrendering my ego has transformed my recovery from food addiction. On the flipside, I discuss how ego has sabotaged my efforts, and describe ego as a defensive mechanism in response to stress. In Part 2, I answer a listener question about whether it's possible for imposter syndrome to show up in romantic relationships. I discuss how imposter syndrome is often just trauma dressed up, and how interrogating negative self-talk and learning about attachment theory could ease their overwhelm. And in Part 3, Trent and I take a deep dive into all things Obi Wan.

To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to [email protected]

LINKS

The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto

Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions

Keep up with me:

https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/

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https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ

My books:

The Irreverent Grief Guide: How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3

https://amzn.to/3sZYalY

The Irreverent Trust Guide: How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up

https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA

Produced by Wowow Podcasts

I discuss the experience of going to therapy as a counsellor myself, and a traumatic run-in with an overzealous one. I then answer a listener's question about developing a crush on her therapist and explain transference and dreamwork to help contextualize and normalize her feelings. I discuss ethics that protect patients and therapists from romantic entanglements and leave her with actionable tools to process said feelings within the session itself. Trent joins me for the last segment where we mull over satirical gift ideas for dads, sad frozen pizzas and our quirky sense of humour.

To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to [email protected]

LINKS

The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto

Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions

Dad Gift Guide article - https://www.theonion.com/onion-gift-guide-father-s-day-gifts-for-every-type-of-1849065889

Keep up with me:

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https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ

My books:

The Irreverent Grief Guide: How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3

https://amzn.to/3sZYalY

The Irreverent Trust Guide: How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up

https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA

I talk about being gentle in times of grief and making peace with the process through the lens of a personal loss. I answer an Advanced Bitch's question about why I prioritize healing trauma before addressing addiction. I then give you a tool to combat perfectionism, which is a trait hardly taken seriously, but can kill – literally. Finally, we finish on a silly note with Trent joining me for a hilarious dissection of a local education scandal. To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to [email protected]

LINKS

The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto

Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions

Teacher article - https://www.newsweek.com/houston-teacher-resigns-video-trading-grades-book-reviews-1710055

Keep up with me:

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https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ

My books:

The Irreverent Grief Guide: How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3

https://amzn.to/3sZYalY

The Irreverent Trust Guide: How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up

https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA

Produced by Wowow

I answer an Advanced Bitche's question about how to handle her flight response that results in uprooting her family when faced with triggers. In discussing her dilemma I detail the four trauma responses: I explain how to address when they don't serve you, and how to have compassion for yourself through them. I also discuss how to embrace parts of your personality created from your trauma response and how to identify and leverage the benefits that may be hidden within it. To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to [email protected]

Keep up with me:

https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/

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https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ

My books:

The Irreverent Grief Guide: How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3

https://amzn.to/3sZYalY

The Irreverent Trust Guide: How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up

https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA

Hello, I'm Elizabeth. And I was formerly fucked up. Very fucked up. It took years and years to unlearn self-sabotage, rewrite negative self-talk, forgive myself and others and develop the tools to understand and manage my trauma. Through therapy, and becoming a therapist and life coach myself, I leveled up my mind, body and soul - and have realized my true nature as a confident, self-assured, free woman. Or for short, an Advanced Bitch. And I want this for you, too! Every week I'll deliver no-nonsense episodes that break down and simplify the dirty work that is transforming your life, one mindset shift at a time. And to let you know, even though I'm a licensed therapist, this podcast is not therapy. If you want to further your healing, please seek out relevant practitioners and join my membership for in-depth, personalized classes.