Sex and the Solo Girl

Emotional vampires! We can all relate, right? I am chatting with someone who has been through it and helped people all over the country to navigate relationships (and ending them!) with people who drain our energy, suck us dry, take too much, and even ruin our lives. 

(Forgive me for being dramatic but it’s true!) 

Coach Daniel Ratner and I discuss: 

-Our experiences with emotional vampires

-Five different types 

-Taking a friend audit

-Tips for protecting ourselves from emotional vampires

Protect yourself! Buy Coach Daniel Ratner’s book, Emotional Vampires here. 

And learn more about his powerful work here.

Are you going through a breakup and feel out of whack? Learn the science behind what you’re going through and how to navigate it with my free eBook: “Breakup Brain" HERE.

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Sex and the Solo Girl with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to improve their relationships with themselves and others. I believe that singlehood is a portal for opportunities in life and love. I also believe that regardless of its shape, love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships, and that all are valid. 

As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe and inclusive space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a listener and a part of the show’s community. 

And for even more breakup resources, download my podcast, Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On wherever you listen to podcasts here: https://janiceformichella.com/breakups-broken-hearts-and-moving-on/ 

It’s time to get your flirt on! I am joined by two friends from the Denver non-monogamous community to chat about all things flirting - the good, the bad, the ugly, and 100 other things. 

We had so much fun! Whether you want to see if you are as good a flirt as you think or simply not sure where to start - we’ve got you! We are going to cover:

-What makes us each good flirts. 

-Top tips for getting started as a flirt.

-Improving your flirting skills. 

-What not to do.

-Having fun no matter what.

🍷Do you want to flirt with me by buying me a glass of wine? Head over to my Patreon and do it now: https://www.patreon.com/c/janiceformichella

Flirting! Chapters:

1:30-Our personal flirting super powers.

5:00-What is flirting? 

7:00-The dark side of being a good flirt.

9:45-Being authentically kind vs. flirting.

12:30-Our favorite ways to flirt. 

15:00-Being a “safe space.”

17:00-The power of NOT telling stories. 

18:00-Learing to read “queues.”

20:00-Being an intentional flirt. 

22:00-The role of self-confidence in flirting.

22:50-Yup - eye contact is kind of important. 

24:00-Showing vulnerability. 

25:00-Being playful as adults. 

26:00-How to use QUESTIONS to flirt. 

29:00-Vetting/highlighting people.

30:00-What if it’s “a no?”

32:00-Toxic flirting behaviors. 

33:00-Avoiding writing dating fantasies. 

34:00-Flirting is not a means to an end…

35:00-Flirting to lift people up. 

37:00-Is it bad to be “thirsty?”

39:00-How to “call up” someone.

40:00-It’s okay to pursue someone…if…

40:35-Andrew’s favorite dating story.

41:00-Yoni power! Penis power! 

43:00-My eye/pussy connection.

44:00-Draining flirting energy. 

45:00-What if they don’t flirt back? 

48:00-Building reciprocal relationships.

49:00-You are happening to the world…not the other way around. 

50:00-Taking vs. receiving.

50:50-Communicating expectations.

57:00-Back to not writing stories…

58:00-Our top flirting tips. 

59:00-The power of small talk.

1:00-Body confidence. 

1:05-Seeking to understand. 

1:06-Where to meet people.

Come hang out with me on FETLIFE! https://fetlife.com/DenverFlowerGirl 

Come learn about my work! Head over to JaniceFormichella.com: https://janiceformichella.com/ 

Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ 

and my IG: ⁠@janiceformichella⁠

Do you love Sex and the Solo Girl? Let me know by leaving me a review on Apple podcasts. 

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Sex and the Solo Girl with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to improve their relationships with themselves and others. I believe that singlehood is a portal for opportunities in life and love. I also believe that regardless of its shape, love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships, and that all are valid. 

As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe and inclusive space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a listener and a part of the show’s community. 

👉👉 Trigger warning: drug use

When used intentionally and safely, various substances can be portals for expansion, intimacy, and well…great sex. That is what today’s panel is chatting all about. 

Disclaimer! We are talking about our own personal experiences and nothing we say today qualifies as medical advice. 

In this episode we cover: 

-Our various experiences using substances 

-Our various experiences engaging in sexual activity on said substances

-Drugs that are known to facilitate sexual intimacy 

-Tips for getting started with various drugs 

Be safe and have fun! 

Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ 

and my IG: ⁠@janiceformichella⁠

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Do you love Sex and the Solo Girl? Let me know by leaving me a review on Apple podcasts. 

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Sex and the Solo Girl with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to improve their relationships with themselves and others. I believe that singlehood is a portal for opportunities in life and love. I also believe that regardless of its shape, love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships, and that all are valid. 

As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe and inclusive space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a listener and a part of the show’s community. 

Let’s play! Here’s what’s coming at ya in 2026! 

THANK YOU for being here! 

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Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ 

and my IG: ⁠@janiceformichella⁠

⁠Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup ⁠

Do you love Sex and the Solo Girl? Let me know by leaving me a review on Apple podcasts. 

💙🤍🖤

Sex and the Solo Girl with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to improve their relationships with themselves and others. I believe that singlehood is a portal for opportunities in life and love. I also believe that regardless of its shape, love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships, and that all are valid. 

As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe and inclusive space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a listener and a part of the show’s community. 

Hold onto your seats! The first edition of The Oral Sex Chronicles is here! And this panel is hitting the ground running! 

In this sassy, saucy, naughty Sex and the Solo Girl episode my oral-enthusiastic panel are letting loose and talking about: 

-What we each love about giving oral

-What our partners have to say about our oral abilities 

-Tips for giving to vulva owners

-Tips for giving to penis owners

-Guidance getting started if it’s not usually your thing

-Our favorite and least favorite experiences/stories

-Swallowing

-And of course, ice cream blow jobs

Do you and your partner want to experiment with new things? Connect with your very own Arya concierge about a customized sexy date night here.

Remember! I am an indy podcaster and LOVE what I do! Want to support my work spreading the good word supporting people through the relationship cycle? Buy me a glass on wine on Patreon here.

I am back with sexy content through the week. Make sure you are subscribed! 

Learn more about me and get other episodes of Se❌ and the Solo Girl on my website here. https://janiceformichella.com/

Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ 

and my IG: ⁠@janiceformichella⁠

⁠Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup ⁠

Do you love Sex and the Solo Girl? Let me know by leaving me a review on Apple podcasts. 

💙🤍🖤

Sex and the Solo Girl with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to improve their relationships with themselves and others. I believe that singlehood is a portal for opportunities in life and love. I also believe that regardless of its shape, love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships, and that all are valid. 

As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe and inclusive space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a listener and a part of the show’s community. 

Touch, taste, sound, smell, hearing…each of our five senses can be used for sexy purposes. That is what I am chatting about this week with Arya concierge specialist and fellow kinkster Athena Gayle. 

Explore new things with your partner! Get your own Arya box here.

In this ultra-juicy, ultra sensational episode Athena Gayle and I cover: 

-What is sensation play?

-What is sensory deprivation (and why Athena loves it!)?

-Different toys to use to stimulate each of the five senses

-Ice cream blow jobs

-And MORE! 

What else do you want Athena and I to explore in future episodes? Let us know below. 

Follow Athena on IG at: https://www.instagram.com/athena_gayle/ 

And hit me up on IG at: https://www.instagram.com/janiceformichella/ 

Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ 

Do you love Sex and the Solo Girl? Let me know by leaving me a review on Apple podcasts. 

💙🤍🖤

Sex and the Solo Girl with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to improve their relationships with themselves and others. I believe that singlehood is a portal for opportunities in life and love. I also believe that regardless of its shape, love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships, and that all are valid. 

As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe and inclusive space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a listener and a part of the show’s community. 

The cycle that some anxious people find themselves in is REAL.

Dead-end relationships with people who can’t meet their needs. 

People who aren’t there for them emotionally. 

People who run away instead of meeting them where they are. 

People who suck them dry. 

BUT WHY?

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That’s what attachment coach Ashley Kaylor and I are back to talk about this week. We are continuing our series on using knowledge about our attachment styles to *transform* us. 

Go show Ashley some podcast love! 

Learn about her work at Ashleykaylor.com

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Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ 

and my IG: ⁠@janiceformichella⁠

⁠Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup ⁠

Do you love Sex and the Solo Girl? Let me know by leaving me a review on Apple podcasts. 

💙🤍🖤

Sex and the Solo Girl with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to improve their relationships with themselves and others. I believe that singlehood is a portal for opportunities in life and love. I also believe that regardless of its shape, love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships, and that all are valid. 

As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe and inclusive space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a listener and a part of the show’s community.

Be a better lover - to yourself and others. Welcome to the Erotic Blueprints™.

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Learning about your Erotic Blueprint and the Erotic Blueprints™ of your partners (and even friends) is one way to expand your opportunities for pleasure and connect more fully with others. 

⭐⭐⭐ What is your Erotic Blueprint type? Take the quiz here.

In this edition of our Erotic Blueprints™ exploration Erotic Priestess initiate Patty Alfonso and me, Sex and the Solo Girl podcast host Janice Formichella discuss the “Sensual” Blueprint, which just happens to be my own Erotic Blueprint. 

Get access to *videos* of each of the episodes in the series on my YouTube channel! Subscribe at Janice Formichella.

⭐⭐⭐ *Please please go show Patty Alfonso some podcast love! 

Check out her work on her website here: https://www.pattyalfonso.com/ 

And follow her on IG here: https://www.instagram.com/thepattyalfonso/ 

Be a better lover - to yourself and others. Welcome to Sex and the Solo Girl’s five-part series on the Erotic Blueprints™.

What is your Erotic Blueprint? Take the quiz here.

Learning about your Erotic Blueprint and the Erotic Blueprints™ of your partners (and even friends) is one way to expand your opportunities for pleasure and connect more fully with others. 

🎥👉 Get access to the entire series on my YouTube channel here.

In this sensual series, Erotic Priestess initiate Patty Alfonso and I explore each of the Erotic Blueprint types one by one. In this edition we explore the “Energetic” Blueprint. Have you ever head of energetic orgasms? Patty is going to tell us all about them. 

Patty also walks us through a grounding practice to help us get in touch with our own Energetic side. 

Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ 

and my IG: ⁠@janiceformichella⁠

⁠Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup ⁠

Do you love Sex and the Solo Girl? Let me know by leaving me a review on Apple podcasts. 

💙🤍🖤

Sex and the Solo Girl with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to improve their relationships with themselves and others. I believe that singlehood is a portal for opportunities in life and love. I also believe that regardless of its shape, love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships, and that all are valid. 

As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe and inclusive space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a listener and a part of the show’s community.

I hope you will enjoy this replay of one of my favorite episodes from 2024. 

It’s time to have some sexy fun! 

Have you ever been curious about trying something hot in or out of the bedroom that is not considered “vanilla?” Do you already do something that is? Let’s talk about it! 

In this episode my soul sister Jessie Maree and I are getting kinky. We cover: 

-The top searched for kink in 2024 

-Our favorite kinks

-The difference between a kink and a fetish

-Auralism, bondage, choking, cuckolding, electrostimulation, golden showers, and MORE

-Getting started with kink

More sassy episodes with Jessie: 

The anal sex chronicles #1

The anal sex chronicles #2

Want to learn more about macrophilia? Check out this Cosmo article.

Resource discussed in this episode: 

Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play, and the Erotic Edge 

Want to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ 

and my IG: ⁠@janiceformichella⁠

⁠Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup ⁠

Do you love Sex and the Solo Girl? Let me know by leaving me a review on Apple podcasts. 

💙🤍🖤

Sex and the Solo Girl with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to improve their relationships with themselves and others. I believe that singlehood is a portal for opportunities in life and love. I also believe that regardless of its shape, love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships, and that all are valid. 

As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe and inclusive space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a listener and a part of the show’s community.