SEX COMMUNICATION

Heyyyyy! Guess who spent hours editing an interview only to have it lost in a program crash? So much fun and not at all frustrating on the eve of my 40th birthday. Anyway!

To save the publishing schedule, I have turned to another recording with #54; this is a briefer total session because there was no little blue pill involved but still a good time was had by all! There were handcuffs, a belt, some spanking, orgasms; all the good stuff.

If you’d like to hear more from me and this guy, check out this 3-episode collection documenting an epic 2.5 hour session: Episode 9 / Episode 17 / Episode 59

***Not sure if I’ve mentioned it before, but #54’s use of a little blue pill has been to satisfy me after I told him our first time was underwhelming. Since then he has been very mindful of satisfying me and when our encounters are less spontaneous than the one in this episode, he uses the assistance of medication to provide me with the hours of sex I require. He works hard and I REALLY appreciate all his efforts.

***ALSO!!! I’m collecting listener questions and topics for next week’s episode! Do you have something on your mind you’d like covered? Send me an email to [email protected] and let me know. I will cover as much as I can.

Till Monday!

So I went to my first orgy this past week. It happened Wednesday; there was a lot of nervous anticipation, a lot of lingering thoughts afterwards, and I will definitely attend again, if not host one myself.

I’m not going to describe it here, you’ll have to listen for the juicy parts, but know that I will be writing a detailed account in a new piece titled “Baby’s First Orgy,” coming later this week.

Aside from that specific sex bonanza, I masturbated later that same night, my mind aflutter with dirty thought and memories, and then again the next day. On top of all that, my favorite mutual masturbation partner came over and I told him about the happenings while we beat off together…

The next day I went upstate to visit my mom for the weekend so no sexy activities occurred past Thursday, yes it’s very sad.

Until next week!

Welcome to the third and final installment of the epic 2.5 hour session I recorded with No. 54! You can catch up on parts 1 and 2 here: Episode 9 / Episode 17

If you’d prefer to just jump in with today’s episode, we pick up just a few minutes after the anal sex in Episode 17. My partner had taken a little pill which allowed him to maintain his impressive erection for as long as he did; in this clip he finally cums. I had been cumming the whole time but the orgasms I had in this last part were probably the best of the whole session. As with the previous portions, there’s some spanking and a lot of vocal expression. Enjoy!

***PLEASE NOTE: I only barebacked with this guy because we both got tested beforehand - he even had his papers like a good boy. I believe strongly in safe sex and only bareback under circumstances like those I’ve just described.***

Also! Community voting ends tomorrow [August 23rd]. If you’d like to support my bid to speak at SXSW 2020 on the topic of “Using Sex And Porn Online To Change The World IRL,” please visit the proposal page to vote/comment. Many thanks my dears :)

How did I get off this week? I DIDN’T. No masturbation, no partner sex, no nothin’.

I went into this week fully expecting to be driven towards finding and attracting a better partner [or partners] and instead, I was so put off by the absolutely shitty sex I had last week that just the idea of pursuing physical satisfaction left a bad taste in my mouth.

Ok, also there was the incident of not seeing the shitty sex partner in person but being propositioned by him via text, attempting to gently decline, tactfully [but vaguely?] answering the questions he asked though shouldn’t have been asking, and then dealing with his subsequent attack/tantrum. That probably turned the taste in my mouth from bad to swamp awful if I’m being honest so let’s say that exchange was the real reason.

Aside from all that, I had an invigorating chat with a listener from across the pond. We started off sharing details and peculiarities of the encounters we have found most rewarding and wound up getting into a passionate discussion about sexuality and politics.

Then today I found out Bella Thorne has directed a porno in partnership with PornHub but as today is really part of “next week,” I shouldn’t say anything more.

Other than that, big secret sexy thing planned for mid-week but it just occurred to me my period might drop in at the same time so pray with me that it won’t, please!

Also! This is the last week of community voting for my bid to speak at SXSW 2020 on the topic of “Using Sex And Porn Online To Change The World IRL” so if you haven’t yet voted, please do! If you already have, please sign up to leave a comment! Engagement with the big is surely a part of it as well, and I would appreciate any and all help… visit the proposal page to vote/comment.

I finally get to sit down with a bi man who is more than happy to openly discuss all the ins and outs of his sexual practice, history and experience, hallelujah! Consider this a contribution to the [bullshit] #analaugust as we talk a lot about butt fucking — you’re welcome ;)

There’s so much to discuss, how it started, how he meets people, who he dates, how he dates, what he fantasizes about, porn, group sex, physical ideals…

We also discuss the ridiculous stigma of bisexuality in men versus bisexuality in women; one being majorly taboo and the other almost an expectation.

My interviewee, “B,” is very open about his early sexual experiences and current preferences and how these things have influenced his identity. We discuss the validity of the old line from “Sex and the City,” ‘Is bisexuality just a layover on the way to gaytown?’ We think not and discuss all the reasons why.

I had the privilege of recording this discussion after photographing “B” for the soon-to-be-published “Growers vs. Showers” series so it was a full day! Enjoy…

Oh! And here’s that pegging piece I mentioned: “She Wanted To Peg Me”

Oh Oh! If you are male/male-identifying and bisexual, bicurious or similar and you are local to NYC, please reach out if you would be interested in participating in an in-person roundtable discussion on this topic — email me at [email protected] with something about bisexuality in the subject line and we can go from there!

Porn porn porn porn and more porn. Started with some bullshit produced stuff then lead to facesitting rabbithole. It all started with typical masturbation research, but continued into facesitting after pulling together all the blowjob audio from the last episode, “The Sound Of A Blowjob.” I was both jealous and inspired; jealous of my own lack of oral sex receiving and inspired to give a blowjob to one favorite cock in particular. These thoughts and feelings are what lead me to the actions and attempts of the following day; reaching out to #54 and after failed schedule alignment, settling for a new partner because I felt like a cat in heat.

And settle I did, because the sex I had Friday night, after my impatience and frustration, was awful… Not only did he have a small dick, he apparently has no knowledge of foreplay nor of how absurd it was for him to buy Magnum condoms! Ugh! Of course these things need to be addressed, and address them I will but at a more appropriate time to protect his feelings. I did make a tactful comment that hopefully leads to him reevaluating the type of condoms he purchases in the future but I’ll never be there to find out so who knows?

Anyway! Frustration before and after this awful in-person sex at least led to some pretty sweet orgasms, both from toys and porn, so there’s that. The week was a win?

Till next week!

Porn links (from consumption not research):
Weird “fake hostel” FFM clip
Japanese groping porn, classic! But also way too long
Good facesitting video but why isn’t the guy touching her??

It’s audio porn time!!!

This episode is all about blowjobs and all the sucky, slurpy sounds that come with ‘em. I’ve got 6 clips to share with you — a combination of submitted audio and audio sourced from “amateur” online porn, also a mix of queer and straight recordings for a broad listen to the experience.

Listen in for the differences in approach, the variations in expression. Is the giver making sounds of pleasure? Is the receiver? Are they speaking or just making noise? What are they saying? You may be surprised by the similarities, or maybe by the differences…

** As an aside, I’ve submitted a bid to speak at SXSW 2020 on the topic of “Using Sex And Porn Online To Change The World IRL” and I need your help to get me there! Community voting is 30 or 40% of the approval process and it will be open until August 23rd. Please visit this link for more information on my proposal and to vote in support of the idea, it would be so deeply appreciated…

https://panelpicker.sxsw.com/vote/100181

The biggest news this week is how the “great dildo experiment of 2019” went, and well, it failed :( The angles, positioning, logistics, whathaveyou, were all against me and in the end I got up and went back to my usual position and placement and of course some nipple play porn.

Some partner longing feelings came up, both before this experiment and during, so I get into that… Also the two other instances of orgasm this week [both toy-only sessions, pretty decent].

And hey! There’s a young lad [of age!!!] in the midst so I describe his particular brand of “cougar bait-ness” and the odds of our coupling.

Also!!! Voting opens today for the proposal I submitted to speak at SXSW 2020! Please vote and spread the word about my idea which is a verbal and visual exploration of “Using Sex And Porn Online To Change The World IRL.”

Go here to vote: https://panelpicker.sxsw.com/vote/100181/ and please share the link with everyone you know! Voting closes August 23rd.

Porn links:
The tit massage/mutual masturbation clip from one of the photo shoot models
Decent but not great quick and homemade breast play / fingering
Meh bath groping
Weird long, skin-tag-looking nipples

Till next week!

An interview with SinAstasya, a kinky BnB host, mother, dominatrix, polyamorous experimentalist

With all her kinky interests, Sin is actually in a vanilla relationship for the last 9 years (male). However, she has other partners outside that relationship, including a regular girlfriend is submissive. Basically, she’s poly and her partner is not…

So what is it like being a sexually open woman raising a daughter? Does she show about your profession? What is the sex education like at home? She leaves squirting books around, condoms; very open. What about masturbation? She puts a lot of things in her daughter’s bathroom and let’s her check them out at her own pace; porn, toys, etc…

How did she get into being a dominatrix? Burlesque was the entry point, but there was more money in being a dominatrix. She is attracted to the power of sexuality and it allows her to experience control, play with both genders and satisfy her sadistic side.

Dominating as a profession vs. dominating in a personal relationship? Clients are a more clinical experience, with relationships it’s more evolved and deeper.

Next a little detour into her dominatrix equipment and sex furniture, specifically a bench that a friend made for her. Said bench is covered with vinyl because she is a squirter so….

Now for the squirting talk! HYDRATE beforehand, and be prepared to fart in someone’s face when you squirt. Wait, what? Her recommendation is to get comfortable doing it by yourself first, and to do so she suggests stimulation from both the inside and outside and aim for the back of the clit from the inside!

Of course I have to take this opportunity to ask for her guidance because I feel so close!

How does she make her poly lifestyle work within her relationships? Her vanilla partner is monogamous and does struggle with the situation. He doesn’t like seeing the equipment or body marks and prefers not to know; he does tolerate the other partners. And she and her girlfriend are totally open and both bisexual. Also they play with other partners together. Her poly lifestyle was the natural evolution of discovering she was bisexual plus the added influence of reading and friends pointing things out.

Her own sex education began with the discovery of her mother’s toys though she was fairly conservative till she hit 30 and began exploring her sexuality and body with more intention.

Beyond the furry world, what other things is she interested in trying? More bondage — suspension and the like

Detour to talk about blood as a limit and the contradiction being a female who bleeds [via menstruation].

In discussing the timing of her interactions with her girlfriend, it comes up that they see a “BBC” together so I inquire into the importance of this gentleman being black and how and if race plays a part in her preferences or activities.

As we finish up, my guest would like to remind listeners to look her up on FetLife [here’s her profile] if they are interested in her kinky BnB or services as a dominatrix.

Extras
The connector: Lotta / “Alotta” from Episode 41: “Alotta” Experience, Love And Experience
Another referral, ”John” from Episode 51: Sex Magic And Pussy Whispering

Well this week was a first: I got so hot and bothered putting the porn links together for last Monday’s show that I beat off to them right after I finished recording! Plus one more that came up that day… see below for all of the clips from last week plus the new one.

Speaking of those clips, one commenter took issue with my included “reviews” in the text of the porn links:
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Aine: “It really makes me sad that you are so negative about breast implants and augmentations. Women and men get implants for a variety of reasons- some medical, some aesthetic.

I was intrigued by your project(s), but I feel that I cannot subscribe due to the “fake tit” negativity.”

Brianne McGuire: “Please understand that these are my personal aesthetic and sexual preferences and not judgments or condemnations. I prefer real tits to fake, big dicks to small, black women to white, brunette people to blond, average build to skinny/heavy, etc...

I'm sorry that what I shared saddened you, but we are each entitled to our own opinions and feelings about what is attractive or arousing. I'm sure your tastes differ from mine, as is true for nearly every individual.

I do appreciate you sharing your feelings with me here - would you be interested in doing an interview and we could discuss all of these things for the podcast? I would love to know more about you and what you are into...”
**

So! Let that be a call to action for Aine or any other person who disagrees with me about whatever — let’s talk about it!

Other than that, I photographed two more gentleman for GRAPHICPAINT and both masturbated but did not finish. I was a busy bee and sleep-deprived nearly every day and night this past week so while I had my toys all washed and ready, I passed out before I could use them each and every day.

I have been considering intentionally using the one dildo-dildo that I have as it’s intended, i.e., stuck/stationed on the floor or wall and moving against it or up and down or whatever floats my boat. I hardly ever use it that way only because I prefer laying down, it being before bed and all. We’ll see! I’ll probably put it on the floor so I can position myself close enough to the wall for nipple contact. Anyway!

Till next week…

Porn links:
NEW one! Can you guess of what?
Bisexual 3-way / MMF, underwhelming / not particularly believable or hot
Amateur cuckhold threesome, decent except for fake tits
Cunninglingus close up, not believable / meh
Another pussy licking close up, not my preferred technique / hard pass
Restrained lady getting manhandled, yes! but ugh fake tits
Japanese nipple stuff, yes!
Amateur nipple play, decent but awful music and too close up