Y’all, Lauren and I ran to the podcast chairs as soon as Bridgerton Season 3 came out. No S3 spoilers here, but if you haven’t seen S1 & S2 then you should probably watch those first. ;) This conversation was all about the erotic themes of the Bridgerton love stories we’ve seen so far: Daphne + Simon, Anthony + Kate, and the long awaited Pen + Colin. Lauren and I talk through our own favorite scenes from the show and which erotic themes are most common. We touch on the topic of sexualization and how sex is used to manipulate in control in the show. Lauren brings up Julia Quinn’s background and how her dynamic with romance books deeply influences the Bridgerton story. Last but not least, we talk through implementing core erotic themes into real life in healthy ways! Love always, H!

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Our very elaborate & nuanced answer to the question: should you date long term, monogamously, or should you casually date in your 20s?

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This episode starts off with our quick anecdote to one of our listeners who said they don’t like our new intro: WE SEE YOU, truly! & say, pls feel free to skip it! This sets up the most amazing conversation about consent. I (Holland) found a Reddit post the other day written by a father about his daughter disclosing her discomfort around an adult in her life. This conversation is nuanced in so many ways and opens up the floor for Lauren and I to talk about the fact that abuse does not have just one face. We talk about signs of abuse and quite a few preventative measures you can take to help keep your kids safe! We may be beating a dead horse with a stick on this one, but AGAIN, conversations and communication can save lives. Lauren gives a few examples of how she’s created a safe container for her kid to come to her with vulnerable topics, conversations you can have about consent, and a game you can play with kids to model consent. We open up the conversations to other consent related topics like the Me Too movement and Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent. Hope you all enjoy! Love, H

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This episode is about the importance of learning the art of choice. We sat down for this episode with no particular topic in mind and out came this conversation about how the lack of autonomy and choice making skills in adolescence deeply affect your ability to choose later in life. We empower listeners (and ourselves) to make cognizant decisions about who we surround ourselves with and to critically examine how those people impact our perspectives on life. The entire conversation highly relates to Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent and her book The Art of Receiving and Giving.

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In this episode, we draw parallels between the iconic One Tree Hill marriage and the intricacies of harmful sexual behaviors, shedding light on hidden misogyny within anti-porn rhetoric. We confront the phenomenon of women pitted against women and the all-too-common expectation of male "failure" when it comes to porn, while honoring the harm that trust and deceit play in this conversation. We discuss the importance of compassionately loving ourselves to heal past traumas by exploring the cornerstones of eroticism which help to integrate adrenaline, fantasy, and pleasure into our healing journey. I lament about the societal destruction of creativity and play-pretend in adulthood, advocating for relearning fantasy and embracing creativity. Lauren and I also tackle the taboo topic of communicating with partners about pornography, and emphasize the importance of recognizing the intricate production behind pornographic content. Join us as we navigate these complex issues with empathy, insight, and a commitment to understanding and growth.

Love always, H.

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TW: Sexual Assault

To start this episode I gave a much-anticipated recap of my weekend to Lauren, so y’all could see her very hilarious reactions to my antics and analyses of a chaotic party that I attended. Then, you get to hear the story of how my upbringing in Reformed Presbyterianism is quite different from Lauren’s. I talk about how it affected my values and my approach to early life and why I no longer subscribe to the religion.

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Lauren's story with religion, her personal journey with Christianity, and Sex Ed For You's stance on faith.

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This episode is truly all over the place. We start off with a bang, talking about my most recent experience with my queerness and exploring what it means to me, and why labels feel relatively daunting. Then, we talk about Jennifer Aniston’s scene from “He’s Just Not That Into You,” where the person she’s been partnered with for years refuses to marry her, and we dive into all the facets of life that are quite literally just made up by humans– the government, money, and time. We talk about the nuances of these institutions and how they affect our lives. As both Lauren and I just finished watching our favorite reality TV love shows, Couple to Throuple and Love is Blind, respectively, we touch on the power of knowledge and permission (also, did you know Lauren was on a reality TV show??). Then, at the end of the episode, I tacked on a short 15 minute clip that we filmed last week after a chaotic day of filming. 

Love always!!! H

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This episode is all about transitioning seasons and periodically checking in with self. What does it mean to gently move from one season to the next and how does one do that without losing all sense of self? What does it look like to end friendships as we outgrow them? We discuss how good intentions don’t negate harm done and how we each have learned to take accountability in hard situations. Listen along as Lauren and I discuss all the implications of seasonal growth.

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This episode was inspired by an Instagram Reel that very beautifully and cinematically showed the breakup process. Lauren and I tackled this topic full speed ahead– what does it mean to communicate your desires within a relationship for more expansive partnership? What does it look like to be the villain in someone else’s story? How do we become okay with being the main character in our own story? 

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