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On this week's episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by Dr Paula Hall, a sexual and relationship psychotherapist who specialises in helping people affected by sex addiction and porn addiction. Dr Hall has been working as a therapist for 30 years and currently runs the biggest clinic in the UK, and the biggest therapy training programme for compulsive sexual behaviours.
Together, Dr Hall and Toshi spoke about identifying problematic porn use, advice for anyone who thinks that their porn consumption might be an issue, the impact that compulsive porn use has on partners and how they can access support of their own, why being anti-porn is not the solution and why compulsive porn use is the symptom of a bigger issue.
Dr Hall is the author of several books including Understanding & Treating Sex and Pornography Addiction, Sex Addiction: The Partner’s Perspective, Confronting Porn, and Sex Addiction: A Guide for Couples. Dr Hall has also peer reviewed a number of papers.
Watch her TED Talk on sex addiction here: https://youtu.be/-Qf2e3XZ8Tw?si=8VpOEgOynjCgDxjU
Learn more about the Laurel Centre: https://thelaurelcentre.co.uk/
Find more info about Pivotal Recovery here: https://www.pivotalrecovery.org/
Check out our book, 'How to talk with your kids about porn: https://www.sexinspace.com/book-2
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
00:40 – Dr Hall’s background + work
03:41 – Porn addiction vs compulsive porn use
06:02 – When is someone’s porn use problematic?
08:31 – Advice if you think your porn use might be an issue
10:33 – How shame gets in the way of people seeking help
12:45 – Why you need to work out what healthy sexuality means for you
14:36 – The impact of compulsive porn use on partners
16:55 – Support for partners of someone with compulsive porn use
18:43 – Dr Hall’s message for parents
24:06 – Why being anti-porn is not a solution
27:44 – The issue with trying to block pornography
29:28 – How moral debates can get in the way of helping people
33:18 – Compulsive porn use is the symptom of a bigger issue
35:52 – How the brain changes when a behaviour shifts from being recreational to compulsive
38:22 – One thing Dr. Hall wants you to take away from this podcast
39:31 – About Pivotal Recovery
40:43 - Conclusion
Software mentioned by Dr Hall -
Canopy: https://canopy.us/
Qustodio: https://www.qustodio.com/en/
Covenant Eyes: https://www.covenanteyes.com/
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Tim was joined by Catherine Carr for this episode – Catherine is producer of the acclaimed BBC Radio 4 series 'About The Boys.' This insightful five-part series takes a deep dive into the lives of teenage boys in the UK, exploring their challenges, fears, and hopes in a world that's rapidly changing. The show has been praised for its honest and raw portrayal of boys' experiences, offering a platform for their voices to be heard. Catherine, who is also a mother of boys, brings a unique and empathetic perspective to the series, making it a must-listen for anyone interested in the lives of young men today.
Listen to ‘About the Boys’ here: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m001yshm/episodes/player
Freddie Feltham, mentioned in the podcast: https://www.theguardian.com/news/2024/jan/06/im-andrew-tates-audience-and-i-know-why-he-appeals-to-young-men
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
01:26 – Catherine’s background
03:26 – What ‘About the Boys’ is all about
06:14 – The two stories that kicked off the project
11:37 – How Catherine put the series together
12:47 – Societal perceptions of young boys
16:29 – Letting the boys tell their story
18:30 – The impact of social media on boys
21:03 – Problematic male influencers
24:51 – The gaps in education for young people
29:00 – Where young people are learning from
31:45 – Tips for talking with kids about sexuality and relationships
33:17 – The spaces boys inhabit: real and online
37:41 – The importance of honest conversations
40:41 – Ending on a note of optimism
41:27 – Will there be an ‘About the Girls’?
43:10 – Conclusion
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Toshi spoke with Verity Johnson, also known as Miss Vee, who MC’s for Men of Steel, New Zealand’s only male strip club. Toshi and Verity had a conversation about what audience members can expect from a night at Men of Steel, Verity’s advice for anyone thinking of going but who might be a little nervous, as well as what she’s learned about female sexuality in New Zealand from working at Men of Steel – including the differences between different generations of women and their attitudes towards sexuality, and tips for becoming less apologetic about your sexuality and desires as a female.
Check out Men of Steel here: https://www.menofsteel.co.nz/
Find them on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clubmenofsteel/?hl=en
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
00:40 – What is Men of Steel?
02:35 – How people respond to the experience
03:48 – What does a typical night look like at Men of Steel?
06:55 – Who goes to this male strip club?
09:25 – Female sexuality in New Zealand
13:07 – What to know if you feel nervous about going to Men of Steel
15:00 – What Miss Vee wishes people knew about Men of Steel
16:58 – Views around male stripping over the past 25 years
18:54 – Different generational attitudes towards sex
22:16 – Advice on embracing your sexuality
23:54 – Listen to this if you’re thinking about coming to Men of Steel
24:28 – Ticket info
24:42 – Conclusion
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For this episode, Toshi was joined by Kate Barnhart from New Alternatives NYC, a multi-service drop-in centre for LGBT homeless youth and young adults in New York City. They provide a range of services, everything from food, court advocacy, school supplies and supportive counselling. Together, Kate and Toshi spoke about the work that New Alternatives does, and why it’s so important.
Find New Alternatives NYC here: https://www.newalternativesnyc.org/
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
00:30 – Why LGBTQ+ youth are more at risk of being homeless
01:56 – What services does New Alternatives NYC offer?
03:31 – Meeting mental health needs
05:28 – How LGBTQ+ youth respond to the services offered by New Alternatives
06:04 – Memorable moments working at New Alternatives
08:43 – Who volunteers at New Alternatives
10:12 – Why Kate founded New Alternatives
11:42 – What Kate’s learned from working here
12:42 – Why this job is like solving a puzzle
13:24 – How listeners can support New Alternatives NYC
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Sex in Space is a weekly podcast where we have open-minded conversations, delving into sex across all its infinite dimensions. Stories and voices from all genders, ages, relationships, life stages, ethnicities, walks of life, professions and ways of being in the universe.
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Check out the full podcast episodes mentioned in the trailer:
Dr Laurie Mintz / Satisfying sex lives: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/26-laurie-mintz-satisfying-sex-lives/id1554815508?i=1000622992065
Vanessa Hamilton / Sex ed for parents: top tips for tricky talks: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/38-vanessa-hamilton-sex-ed-for-parents-top-tips-for/id1554815508?i=1000633155903
Dr Jane Cherrington / How to talk with your kids about porn: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/43-dr-jane-cherrington-how-to-talk-with-your-kids-about-porn/id1554815508?i=1000641628876
Morgana O'Reilly / Let's talk bodies: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/30-morgana-oreilly-lets-talk-bodies/id1554815508?i=1000626751039
Michelle Hardenbrook / Owning the OnlyFans side-hustle: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/23-michelle-hardenbrook-owning-the-onlyfans-side-hustle/id1554815508?i=1000613465077
Shaneel Lal / Banning conversion therapy in NZ: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/37-shaneel-lal-banning-conversion-therapy-in-nz/id1554815508?i=1000632494766
Alex Layendecker / Sex in space: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/69-dr-alex-layendecker-sex-in-space/id1554815508?i=1000663034331
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Toshi was joined by the wonderful Susan Bratton for today’s episode. Susan is an intimacy expert to millions, who is known as an ‘orgasmanaut’ and is an advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long. She's created a whole bunch of techniques that transform “having sex” into making love, and is the bestselling author and publisher of an incredible 44 books.
In this episode, Toshi and Susan spoke about why sex is a lifelong skill, the different kinds of orgasms the human body can experience, why bedroom communication skills are so important and how to get better at them, Susan’s top tips for having a great sex life, how to figure out your relationship values, and how to use erotic playdates to add variety to your sex life.
Find more of Susan here: https://susanbratton.com/
Find her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
01:20 – Susan the ‘orgasmanaut’
02:08 – What is an extended orgasm?
04:15 – What is an expanded orgasm?
06:07 – Susan’s experience with orgasms
07:43 – Susan's sex advice for younger people
11:00 – Matriarchal perspectives on sex
12:00 – Understanding pleasure and the female body
12:53 – The three ‘prongs’ to great sex
14:30 – The important thing to do to have a great sex life
16:21 – The sexual soulmate pact
21:03 – Working out what you want in bed
22:55 – How to communicate what you want with a partner
26:45 – Sharing favourite frames after you make love
28:51 – Figuring out your relationship values
32:55 – Using erotic playdates to add variety to your sex life
36:01 – Summary and conclusion
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In this episode, Tim had the opportunity to talk with William Moore, founder of the AdvancedYOU clinic, and developer of PhalloFILL Male Girth Enhancement. They spoke about all things penis girth enhancement, from the reasons people seek this help and treatment, to the processes of the procedure, the effects and benefits, the impacts of pornography on male body image, and the future of biohacking your health.
Learn more about PhalloFILL: https://phallofill.com/
Find more about William here: https://advanced-you.com/
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On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi had the opportunity to talk with Verity Johnson, also known as Miss Vee. Verity is a newspaper columnist, MC at Men of Steel, New Zealand’s only male strip club, and the owner of Club Burlesque – New Zealand’s first burlesque club.
Together they spoke about:
Club Burlesque’s 2024 season runs from July 26 – September 13 in Auckland, New Zealand.
Check out Club Burlesque (and find tickets) here: https://theclubburlesque.com/
Find Club Burlesque on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clubburlesquenz/?hl=en
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
00:33 – What is burlesque?
02:54 – Understanding eros
03:25 – Why Verity started Club Burlesque
04:44 – What you can expect from a night at Club Burlesque
06:31 – Misconceptions about burlesque
07:44 – Redefining how we think about society’s attitudes towards sex
09:05 – What burlesque teaches you about desire
11:38 – On not being afraid of your sexuality
14:10 – Club Burlesque vs Men of Steel
15:04 – Seeing Auckland reclaim its sexy side
17:00 – How can we start to deconstruct shame in society?
18:42 – Where you can find more information about Club Burlesque
18:55 – Give yourself permission to enjoy sex and desire
19:52 – Conclusion
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On this episode of the podcast, Tim and Toshi had the opportunity to talk with Daniel Principe, a passionate youth advocate and educator. He champions boys across Australia to challenge culture and aspire to live courageous, respectful and empathetic lives.
In the podcast Daniel, Tim and Toshi spoke about:
Daniel is a board member of the DART Institute, an ambassador for the Women’s Resilience Centre and an ambassador for the national campaign Consent Can’t Wait. Having presented to tens of thousands of young people in every Australian state and territory, Daniel is no stranger to the complex challenges that our distracted digital world presents in adolescence.
By partnering with schools and communities, Daniel encourages young people to recognise and resist distorted attitudes towards bodies, relationships and sex. He invites his audiences to instead aspire to healthy relationships built on mutual respect and empathy. Daniel is a regular guest on TV, radio and podcasts to discuss healthy masculinity, consent, respectful relationships and the cultural challenges young people are facing. None of these evolving challenges sway Daniel’s confidence that all young people can flourish if we create spaces for them to be their best selves.
You can check out Daniel here: https://www.danielprincipe.com.au/
Find him on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/lastoftheromans/
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
01:01 – Who Daniel is and what he does
05:13 – Championing boys, challenging culture
06:05 – What ideas are being communicated to boys about masculinity?
11:50 – Unpacking where our desires come from
14:32 – Advice for navigating social pressure and why it’s important to choose your friends well
17:15 – Social expectations in sex and relationships
18:22 – Responses of young people to Daniel’s workshops
20:04 – What Daniel’s work looks like in practice
24:33 – Why we need to have empathy for young people navigating online spaces
30:41 – Young people’s thoughts on Andrew Tate
35:52 – Understanding the appeal of the sigma meme
40:05 – The realities of young people’s porn use
48:23 – Why soft skills are so important
51:03 – How parents and caregivers can help
56:44 – Daniel's message for young people
58:32 – Conclusion
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On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi was thrilled to be able to talk with Dr. Alex Layendecker of the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute (ASRI) about all things sex in space. Together, they spoke about:
ASRI is a 501c3 non-profit research organisation that is dedicated to the study of human sexuality and reproductive factors as they apply to outer space environments. Dr. Layendecker is the founder and current director of ASRI. He is a 2008 graduate of the United States Air Force Academy and served seven years as a USAF space operations officer for spacecraft launch and recovery, before transferring to the USAF Reserve as an HH-60G helicopter pilot for Combat Search and Rescue. He completed a Master of Public Health (2013) and PhD in Human Sexuality (2016) for the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, where his doctoral research focused on human sexuality and reproduction in off-Earth environments, the history of research in this area, and the research gaps that must be filled in the future in order to make long-term settlement of other worlds a viable possibility.
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
01:19 – What is the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute all about?
02:36 – Dr. Layendecker’s background and research
06:23 – Old space vs new space
08:30 – When might regular people have access to space?
11:29 – The race to fill all the research gaps
13:57 – The first symposium for the study of human reproduction and sexual health in space
15:09 – Short and long-term risks about sex in space
17:40 – Why this research is so important
21:45 – Has anyone had sex in space?
31:20 – The animals that have mated in space
32:11 – Why the research focus is not just on the act of sex
34:36 – How will humans evolve in off-Earth environments?
38:01 – Funding research into sex in space
41:30 – The future of space travel
43:28 – Would Dr. Layendecker travel to space?
46:15 – Conclusion
Find more about Dr. Layendecker and the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute here:
ASRI: https://www.asri.space/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/astrosexresearch
Twitter: https://x.com/ASRI4Space
Links mentioned in the podcast:
The International Scientific Symposium for the Study of Human Reproduction & Sexual Health in Space: https://www.space-reproduction.org/
SpaceBorn United: https://www.spacebornunited.com/
The Overview Effect by Frank White: https://www.amazon.com.au/Overview-Effect-Exploration-Evolution-Library/dp/162410262X
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