In this conversation, Daniel Guinness, co-founder and managing director of Beyond Equality, discusses the importance of engaging young boys and men in conversations about gender equality and mental health. He talks about his personal journey into this work, the organisation’s initiatives, and the impact of their programs on the boys and men who participate. Daniel emphasises the need for safe spaces for discussion, the importance of reframing how we see rejection, and advice for men who are trying to make new friends after a move.  

TW: mention of self-harm. 

Check out Beyond Equality here: https://www.beyondequality.org/ 

Find them on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beyond_equality 

Timestamps:  

00:00 - Intro 

00:56 – Who is Dan Guinness and how did he get started in this space?  

08:28 – What does Beyond Equality do and who do they work with?  

12:56 – How do boys and men of different ages respond to these conversations? 

15:22 – Working with a men's pie-making group 

16:47 – Why you can’t do Beyond Equality’s work via powerpoint or podcast 

19:06 – How do boys and men feel about Beyond Equality’s workshops? 

24:33 – How societal structures prevent us from connecting with others 

25:41 – Talking with boys and men who are resistant to these topics 

31:26 – Why it’s a good thing to change your mind 

32:37 – What has Dan learned from this work? 

39:17 – Advice for young men trying to create friends after a move 

46:38 – Reframing rejection for men  

50:57 – Dan's message to young men – you're not the only one 

52:55 – How you can support Beyond Equality 

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In today’s episode, we were lucky enough to talk with Christopher Stephens and Louise Radnofsky, authors of ‘The Light of Day: The first man to come out at the dawn of gay liberation.’ This book is the story of the first man to come out voluntarily, using his own name, to the entire British public.  

Toshi had a conversation with Christopher and Louise about Roger’s story and why he decided to come out publicly to all of Britain, as well as Christopher’s relationship to Roger. They also discussed why so many stories from gay men during this period have been lost, the similarities between the way that society treated gay and blind people at this time, the importance of intergenerational friendships amongst queer people, and Christopher and Louise’s take on what makes a life important.  

Find a copy of the book here: geni.us/TheLightOfDay 

Follow Christopher here: https://www.instagram.com/cwbstephens/ 

Check out Louise here: https://www.instagram.com/louiseradnofsky/ 

Timestamps: 

00:00 – Trailer 

00:45 – Intro to Christopher and Louise 

02:36 – What is the book ‘The Light of Day’ about?  

05:35 – Deciding on how these stories would be woven together 

08:16 – How have people responded to the book so far?  

10:40 – Do you know Raymond Gregson or Robert G. Moorcroft?  

12:58 – Why have so many stories from gay men during this time been lost?  

15:25 – What was it like for Christopher to read letters from Roger after his death? 

18:44 – The similarities between society’s treatment of gay and blind people 

21:51 – Intergenerational friendships amongst queer people 

27:29 – The special nature of this audiobook 

30:52 – Why did Roger Butler decide to come out publicly to all of Britain?  

36:13 – Why you should read ‘The Light of Day’ 

39:49 – Reflecting on changes in law and society when it comes to homosexuality 

43:17 – Where can you find a copy of ‘The Light of Day’?  

45:26 – What makes a life important?  

48:54 – Conclusion 

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Today we’re really excited to bring you a conversation with Marco Berger, an Argentinian film-maker, for a conversation about one of his latest works, which is the queer romcom ‘The Astronaut Lovers’.  

Together, Tim and Marco discuss why Marco never reads reviews, what it means to follow your dreams, and why he believes cinema is an illusion. They also talk about his next project, his creative process and advice for upcoming filmmakers. Whether you’re a filmmaker yourself, a dreamer, or just curious about queer cinema that challenges norms, this episode is for you. 

Find more of Marco Berger here: https://www.instagram.com/marcobergercine/?hl=en 

Explore his films on Mubi: https://mubi.com/en/cast/marco-berger 

Read about Marco and ‘The Astronaut Lovers’ in The Guardian: https://www.theguardian.com/film/2025/mar/26/director-marco-berger-interview-queer-romcom-the-astronaut-lovers 

Timestamps:  

00:00 – Trailer and intro 

01:41 – What inspired ‘The Astronaut Lovers’? 

07:44 – Why Marco doesn't read reviews about his films 

14:02 – Why you should always follow your dreams 

16:52 – Why the cinema is a lie 

21:56 – Can you separate the artist from the art?  

23:37 – Marco's next project 

27:07 – All about Marco’s creative process  

32:24 – Where can you watch ‘The Astronaut Lovers’?  

39:51 – Advice for upcoming filmmakers 

45:26 – Final thoughts and where you can find Marco 

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In this episode, Jane and Dr Bonnie Comfort explore what makes love last - from managing desire, resentment, and mismatched expectations to unpacking how porn, childhood, and power dynamics shape our relationships. They discuss why falling in love is easy but staying in love takes daily effort, how to navigate conflict with humor, and what a real apology looks like. Plus, we look at the surprising lessons from ‘Babygirl,’ why people watch porn for more than just pleasure, and whether marriages are truly meant to last. 

Dr. Bonnie Comfort has been a practicing psychologist for 30 years. She has an MSW from the University of Manitoba and a PhD in psychology from the Chicago School of Professional Psychology Los Angeles. Her novel, “Denial,” a psychological thriller from Simon & Schuster, was published in eight countries and translated into five languages. As an expert on marital therapy, she has been a guest multiple times on podcasts about marriage and has taken extensive workshops with marital and sex experts like Terrence Real, David Schnarch, John Gottman, and Marty Klein. She currently lives in Portland, Oregon, with her long-time partner, Douglas Covey, MD.

Find out more about Dr. Bonnie at http://bonniecomfort.com. 

Check out her book, ‘Staying Married is the Hardest Part’: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/staying-married-is-the-hardest-part-bonnie-comfort/1146385315 

Timestamps 

00:00 – Trailer 

00:38 – Why falling in love is easy, but staying in love is a daily practice 

05:41 – Can you change your partner? 

08:07 - Managing different desires  

11:51 - How our expectations of sex and bodies are shaped by porn  

16:35 - Why do people watch porn?  

18:53 - What ‘Babygirl’ can teach us about sex and relationships 

21:24 - How to work through resentment in a relationship 

24:15 - How do childhood experiences impact our relationships?  

28:46 – Understanding power imbalances in a relationship 

32:25 - How do you know if a relationship needs work, or is fundamentally broken? 

35:14 - This is the formula for a great apology 

37:19 - Recovering from affairs in a relationship 

39:46 - Are marriages meant to last?  

43:18 – Here's something a therapist wants you to know 

44:25 - What Dr Bonnie wishes was included in sex ed 

46:42 – Dr Bonnie’s sexiest song  

47:20 – Conclusion  

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In this episode, we had a conversation with Professor Clare McGlynn, a law professor and expert on violence against women and girls, about image-based sexual abuse. 

In this episode, we discuss: 

• What image-based sexual abuse is and why you should use this term rather than ‘revenge porn’ 
• Who is impacted by image-based sexual abuse 
• The role of Google and tech platforms in the rise of deepfake sexual abuse 
• Where to seek help if you’re a victim, and what you can do if you’re worried someone might share your nudes 
• Why deepfake detection tools work better on images of men 
• And what you can do as a listener to support this work 

Clare McGlynn is a Professor of Law at Durham University in the UK, with expertise in the legal regulation of sexual violence, pornography and online abuse, particularly cyberflashing and image-based sexual abuse (taking, creating and sharing intimate images without consent). She works closely with policy-makers, victim-survivors and the voluntary sector to shape law and policy reforms, as well as with social media and other companies to improve their policies. In 2020, Clare was appointed an Honorary KC (King’s Counsel) in recognition of her work championing women’s equality in the legal profession and shaping new criminal laws on extreme pornography and image-based sexual abuse. 

Find more of Professor Clare McGlynn here: https://www.claremcglynn.com/ 

Find her on social: https://bsky.app/profile/claremcglynn.bsky.social

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https://www.linkedin.com/in/clare-mcglynn-32b898238/

Check out the ‘Stop Image Based Abuse’ campaign here: https://www.endviolenceagainstwomen.org.uk/new-campaign-experts-call-for-image-based-abuse-law/ 

Sign the petition to stop image-based abuse: https://chng.it/dgY7sbkqTP 

Timestamps: 

00:00 – Trailer  

00:27 – How Clare McGlynn got into this work 

01:50 – Revenge porn vs image-based sexual abuse 

03:10 – Who is most at risk? 

04:11 – The invisible threat of image-based sexual abuse 

06:01 – What laws are in place to protect against this?  

08:33 – How tech platforms have contributed to the rise of deepfake sexual abuse 

12:10 – The conversations we need to be having with young people 

13:55 – About the ‘Stop Image Based Abuse’ campaign 

16:33 – What to do if you’re a victim of image-based sexual abuse 

18:40 – Why have we been so slow to address this issue? 

21:12 – What Clare wants you to understand about image-based sexual abuse 

23:27 – Why we should stop calling it ‘deepfake porn’ - and what to say instead 

27:00 – Why deepfake detection tech works better on images of men 

30:18 – What you can do as a listener to help support this work 

31:31 – Positive accomplishments in this work 

33:09 – Do this if you’re worried someone might share your nudes 

34:59 – Conclusion 

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Kate Muir is a women’s health expert and campaigner, documentary maker, and author of ‘How to Have a Magnificent Midlife Crisis’, as well as groundbreaking books on the menopause and the pill. 

We had a conversation about:

• Why HRT has such a bad reputation - and why it's actually a wonder drug for women
• Tips for advocating for your health needs with a doctor
• Vaginal estrogen, and why it's like Chanel for your vulva
• Advice for regaining sexual confidence
• Women and wine (and Kate's personal story)
• How age bias impacts women
• And more.

The smart guide that every midlife woman needs to read … 

‘A midlife crisis is a magnificent moment, and nobody should miss out on it. We need to reframe this time of questioning for a new generation of women who want to revive and thrive for longer. We must reclaim the midlife crisis from madmen with red sports cars - and make the space our own.’ 

Kate’s investigations into women’s health ‘Everything You Need to Know About the Menopause’ and ‘Everything You Need to Know About the Pill’ are out in paperback. She pitched and produced two award-winning menopause documentaries, ‘Davina McCall: Sex, Myths and the Menopause’ and ‘Sex, Mind and the Menopause’ for Channel 4 current affairs, which ignited a massive menopause conversation in the UK. Her most recent documentary was ‘Pill Revolution’ investigating contraceptive chaos. 

Kate was chief film critic of The Times for seven years, and is the author of three novels. She is an expert public speaker on women’s health, the menopause and contraception, and an activist for The Menopause Charity. 

Find more of Kate here: https://katemuir.co.uk/ 

Grab a copy of ‘How to Have a Magnificent Midlife Crisis’ which is out TODAY: https://www.simonandschuster.co.uk/books/How-to-Have-a-Magnificent-Midlife-Crisis/Kate-Muir/9781398525504 

Timestamps:  

00:00 – Trailer 

00:43 – Who is Kate Muir? 

01:32 – Kate’s latest book: ‘How to Have a Magnificent Midlife Crisis’ 

05:27 – Why does HRT have such a bad reputation? 

08:35 – What you really need to know about HRT and its long-term health impacts 

13:30 – Tips for advocating for your needs with a doctor 

16:34 – Vaginal estrogen: Chanel for your vulva 

21:33 – How to regain sexual confidence 

23:04 – Why testosterone is so important for women 

26:30 – Digital detox 

29:50 – Women and wine 

34:47 – How is divorce connected to perimenopause and menopause?  

38:09 – How age bias impacts women 

43:07 – Kate’s psychedelic adventure 

49:56 – Final message 

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In this episode, Toshi had the opportunity to talk with some of the team behind the TikTok account, Sex Ed for Guys. Sex Ed for Guys is a sex ed project by Colby College students researching privilege at elite all-boys schools. Toshi spoke with two Colby students – Christopher and Conor – and Professor Adam Howard, who are all involved in the project.  

Together, they had a conversation about: 

• How the project started and who it reaches 
• What their creative process is like, and the research that informs each video 
• What kind of response people have to their content 
• The real-world conversations sparked by the project 
• How Sex Ed for Guys is offering an alternative to the manosphere 

Adam Howard, Ed.D, is the Charles A. Dana Professor of Education and Chair of the Education Department at Colby College. For over two decades, Howard has researched elite schools around the world, peeling back the layers of how privilege works through their daily practices, relations, structures, and policies. Employing a collaborative approach in most of his major studies, he teams up with privileged young people to make insider’s knowledge of how privilege works within elite schools more evident. 

Find Sex Ed for Guys on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexedforguys 

Check out more about the research here: https://privilegedbrotherhoods.org/ 

Timestamps:  

00:00 – Trailer 

00:59 – Introducing the team behind Sex Ed for Guys 

02:41 – What is Sex Ed for Guys?  

05:45 – Who is watching Sex Ed for Guys?  

07:50 – What kind of response is the team getting to this work?  

09:40 – What is the process to creating these videos?  

13:13 – The video about female pleasure that got the channel shadowbanned 

17:13 – Some favourite videos from the channel 

21:52 – How these videos create real life conversations 

26:20 – How Sex Ed for Guys is offering an alternative to the manosphere 

29:22 – Why Sex Ed for Guys is so accessible for young people 

34:06 – Biggest learnings from this project 

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Remy Tucker is the founder of On the House, an organisation that is working to ensure that every woman has access to period products. They achieve this by providing free, sustainable sanitary pads, funded through their unique advertising model.  

Remy leads On the House with a deep commitment to women's health and marketing innovation. As a former midwife, she has firsthand experience with the challenges women face in accessing essential menstrual products. This understanding sparked her desire to find a sustainable solution that would make these products available at no cost. 

On the House combines Remy's healthcare background with her marketing expertise to create a unique business model. By integrating advertising directly onto the product packaging, On the House provides free menstrual products while generating revenue. This innovative approach does more than solve a problem—it transforms the way solutions are delivered. 

Driven by a genuine passion to make a difference, Remy is dedicated to empowering women through accessible healthcare solutions. On the House is not just a business; it’s a reflection of her commitment to positive change, providing essential products one box at a time. 

Check out On the House here: https://onthehousegroup.com/ 

Together, we spoke about: 

• What On the House is and how free pads are funded through ads 
• Why Remy started On the House 
• Why taking free period products helps everyone 
• How the system actually works – and where you’ll be able to find these period products 
• How you can support Remy’s mission and help end period poverty 

Timestamps: 

00:00 – Trailer 

00:25 – What is On the House? 

01:08 – What motivated Remy to create On the House? 

05:29 – Remy’s advice for anyone wanting to start a business 

07:17 – How On the House donates to charity – while giving away free period products 

09:29 – What kind of products are On the House offering? 

10:45 – How does the system actually work?  

12:51 – Why you should take free period products, even if you can afford them 

14:15 – What kinds of brands are supporting On the House? 

16:58 – Remy’s biggest challenges so far 

19:52 – When and where is On the House launching? 

21:24 – What are some of Remy’s biggest wins so far? 

23:27 – What you can do to support On the House 

25:06 – Who does period poverty impact? 

28:28 – Remy’s final message to listeners 

29:23 – What other businesses have used this model before? 

31:56 - Conclusion 

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TRIGGER WARNING: This episode is about child sexual abuse and covers subjects which might be seriously distressing for some listeners. Please use your discretion. 

In this episode, Tim spoke with Jayneen Sanders about body safety education. Jayneen Sanders (aka Jay Dale) is an experienced author, publisher, elementary school teacher, mother of three and an active advocate for Body Safety, Gender Equality and Respectful Relationship Education being taught both in homes and in schools. She is also lead author of Engage Literacy published by Capstone Classroom, and has had published over 130 stories for children. Jayneen feels passionately that we can do so much more to keep our children safe by teaching them age-appropriate and empowering prevention education. 

Jayneen is a strong public advocate for children’s safety, education and empowerment.  You can follow her on social media channels to access important news, development and resources. 

In this episode, we cover:  

• Why teaching kids about body autonomy and consent from an early age is essential 
• Why you shouldn’t tell your children to keep secrets – and what to say instead 
• How to identify signs of grooming 
• Protective strategies to keep your kids safe from groomers 
• The role parents and caregivers play in preventing abuse through open, ongoing conversations 
• Practical tips for starting body safety conversations  

Check out Jayneen’s books here: https://e2epublishing.info/en-uk 

Download her free body safety posters here: https://e2epublishing.info/en-uk/collections/posters/Body-Safety+Consent 

Find Jayneen on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jayneensandersauthor?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== 

Timestamps:  

00:00 – Trigger warning 

00:19 – Trailer 

00:47 – Who is Jayneen Sanders and how did she get involved in this work? 

08:08 – The role of parents in teaching kids body safety education  

10:29 – How have attitudes towards this topic changed over time? 

14:27 – What is a groomer, and how can you spot one?  

19:30 – How body safety education prevents abuse 

24:22 – Why parents need to stop using the word “secret” - and what to use instead 

27:38 – How does pornography and tech impact children? 

30:15 – Which children are most at risk of sexual abuse?  

34:21 – How conversations can help prevent abuse 

36:43 – Top tips for having the body safety talks with kids 

40:39 – What kind of topics do Jayneen’s other books cover? 

45:25 – Where can you find Jayneen’s books and free resources?  

46:54 – Jayneen’s final message to parents 

48:15 – Outro 

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TRIGGER WARNING:  

This episode is about child sexual abuse and covers subjects which might be seriously distressing for some listeners, including mention of suicide, sexual assault, child sexual abuse material and torture. Please use your discretion. If you are in any need of help or support, please contact one of your country’s sexual abuse support organisations – they are there for you.  

We are dedicating our 100th episode to the work of the phenomenal Michael Sheath. We had a really important conversation with Michael that – amongst other things – covered the need to call out the relationship of online pornography with sexual offending. 

Since 1987, Michael has been dedicated to working with child sexual abuse offenders, beginning his journey as a probation officer and later becoming the Principal Practitioner at The Lucy Faithfull Foundation – a charity devoted to preventing child sexual abuse. His critically acclaimed work with male survivors of sexual abuse at HMP Blakenhurst earned him the prestigious Butler Trust Award in 1997. 

Michael’s passion for understanding people's stories has resulted in a powerful and significant book, a collection of five theatrical monologues that delves into the human impacts of child sexual abuse, trauma, and the often-overlooked effects on secondary victims like the families of offenders. All these narratives are told from the perspective of those directly affected. Michael's own story is pretty compelling. In this episode, you'll hear from him about his very impactful work in a profound conversation that shines a light on this ever-critical issue. 

In this episode, we cover:  

• Michael Sheath’s journey into working with child sexual abuse offenders 
• The difference between contact offenders and online/download offenders 
• How pornography shapes harmful sexual behaviours 
• The link between online pornography and child sexual abuse 
• How sex offenders feel about their behaviour 
• The psychological impact of this work on professionals – and how they deal with it 
• Michael’s book, ‘Crossing the Line’ 

Buy Michael's book from Amazon UK, or get it direct from the publisher here.

All proceeds will go towards Children Heard and Seen, a charity which supports children with a parent in prison. 

Timestamps:  

00:00 – Trigger warning and intro 

01:37 – How Michael Sheath got involved in this work 

07:55 – What's the difference between a ‘contact offender’ and a ‘downloader/online offender’? 

16:54 – The influence of pornography on young people’s sexual behaviours 

20:01 – How legal porn sites suggest problematic content, and why that’s an issue 

25:39 – The role of porn in child sexual abuse 

31:16 – Why people use porn and how these sites keep you hooked  

34:12 – How do some sex offenders feel about their behaviour? 

37:32 – Navigating the consequences of being a child sexual offender 

39:17 – How do sex offenders feel towards the victims?  

45:24 – How Michael manages his mental health working in this industry 

50:00 – About Michael’s book, ‘Crossing the Line’ 

54:20 – We need sex education that’s not pornography 

55:20 – What’s next for Michael Sheath?  

57:07 – Conclusion 

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