On this episode of the podcast, Tim and Toshi had the opportunity to talk with Daniel Principe, a passionate youth advocate and educator. He champions boys across Australia to challenge culture and aspire to live courageous, respectful and empathetic lives.  

In the podcast Daniel, Tim and Toshi spoke about:  

• What ideas are being communicated to young boys about masculinity 
• How to navigate peer pressure 
• Why it’s important to choose your friends well  
• What Daniel’s work looks like in practice 
• What young people really think about Andrew Tate 
• Why the sigma meme is so popular with young boys 
• The realities of young people’s porn use 
• How parents and caregivers can support their kids 
• And why soft skills are so important 

Daniel is a board member of the DART Institute, an ambassador for the Women’s Resilience Centre and an ambassador for the national campaign Consent Can’t Wait. Having presented to tens of thousands of young people in every Australian state and territory, Daniel is no stranger to the complex challenges that our distracted digital world presents in adolescence. 

By partnering with schools and communities, Daniel encourages young people to recognise and resist distorted attitudes towards bodies, relationships and sex. He invites his audiences to instead aspire to healthy relationships built on mutual respect and empathy. Daniel is a regular guest on TV, radio and podcasts to discuss healthy masculinity, consent, respectful relationships and the cultural challenges young people are facing. None of these evolving challenges sway Daniel’s confidence that all young people can flourish if we create spaces for them to be their best selves. 

You can check out Daniel here: https://www.danielprincipe.com.au/ 

Find him on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/lastoftheromans/ 

Timestamps:  

00:00 – Intro  

01:01 – Who Daniel is and what he does  

05:13 – Championing boys, challenging culture 

06:05 – What ideas are being communicated to boys about masculinity? 

11:50 – Unpacking where our desires come from  

14:32 – Advice for navigating social pressure and why it’s important to choose your friends well 

17:15 – Social expectations in sex and relationships  

18:22 – Responses of young people to Daniel’s workshops  

20:04 – What Daniel’s work looks like in practice 

24:33 – Why we need to have empathy for young people navigating online spaces 

30:41 – Young people’s thoughts on Andrew Tate 

35:52 – Understanding the appeal of the sigma meme  

40:05 – The realities of young people’s porn use 

48:23 – Why soft skills are so important  

51:03 – How parents and caregivers can help  

56:44 – Daniel's message for young people  

58:32 – Conclusion  

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On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi was thrilled to be able to talk with Dr. Alex Layendecker of the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute (ASRI) about all things sex in space. Together, they spoke about:  

• Why there was a need for a private research organisation to investigate sex in space 
• When we might expect to see regular people going to space 
• The short and long-term risks of sex in space 
• Has anyone had sex in space?  
• The first married couple in space 
• Why ASRI’s research focuses on more than just the act of sex 
• And how humans might evolve in off-Earth environments 

ASRI is a 501c3 non-profit research organisation that is dedicated to the study of human sexuality and reproductive factors as they apply to outer space environments. Dr. Layendecker is the founder and current director of ASRI. He is a 2008 graduate of the United States Air Force Academy and served seven years as a USAF space operations officer for spacecraft launch and recovery, before transferring to the USAF Reserve as an HH-60G helicopter pilot for Combat Search and Rescue. He completed a Master of Public Health (2013) and PhD in Human Sexuality (2016) for the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, where his doctoral research focused on human sexuality and reproduction in off-Earth environments, the history of research in this area, and the research gaps that must be filled in the future in order to make long-term settlement of other worlds a viable possibility.  

Timestamps:  

00:00 – Intro  

01:19 – What is the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute all about?  

02:36 – Dr. Layendecker’s background and research 

06:23 – Old space vs new space 

08:30 – When might regular people have access to space? 

11:29 – The race to fill all the research gaps 

13:57 – The first symposium for the study of human reproduction and sexual health in space 

15:09 – Short and long-term risks about sex in space 

17:40 – Why this research is so important  

21:45 – Has anyone had sex in space?  

31:20 – The animals that have mated in space 

32:11 – Why the research focus is not just on the act of sex  

34:36 – How will humans evolve in off-Earth environments?  

38:01 – Funding research into sex in space  

41:30 – The future of space travel  

43:28 – Would Dr. Layendecker travel to space?  

46:15 – Conclusion  

Find more about Dr. Layendecker and the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute here: 

ASRI: https://www.asri.space/ 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/astrosexresearch 

Twitter: https://x.com/ASRI4Space 

Links mentioned in the podcast:  

The International Scientific Symposium for the Study of Human Reproduction & Sexual Health in Space: https://www.space-reproduction.org/ 

SpaceBorn United: https://www.spacebornunited.com/ 

The Overview Effect by Frank White: https://www.amazon.com.au/Overview-Effect-Exploration-Evolution-Library/dp/162410262X 

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On today’s episode of the podcast, Tim had the opportunity to speak with Dr Evan Goldstein, leading anal health expert in the U.S. Dr Goldstein is the founder and CEO of Bespoke Surgical, a first of its kind health practice specialising in gay men’s sexual health and wellness, and has just published a new book, Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything In-Between.  

Together, Tim and Dr. Goldstein spoke about anal health and pleasure, hygiene practices – including why you should avoid using wet wipes and bidets- debunked common assumptions and misconceptions, and more.  

Check out Butt Seriously here:  https://a.co/d/cRLA0vF 

Find Dr. Goldstein here: https://drevangoldstein.com/ 

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On this episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by Dr. Ian Kerner, licensed psychotherapist, lecturer, and New York Times bestselling author of books including She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman, and most recently, So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex: Laying Bare and Learning to Repair Our Love Lives. 

Together, Ian and Tim spoke about the importance of prioritizing pleasure in sexual relationships, the need for accurate sex ed and the impact that pornography has on sexual attitudes and behaviours. They also discussed the rise of sexual anxiety, the challenges that couples face in maintaining desire and the need for open communication. 

Find Dr. Ian here: https://www.iankerner.com/ 

Find his TED Talk, 'A sex therapist's secret to rediscovering your spark' here: https://www.ted.com/talks/ian_kerner_a_sex_therapist_s_secret_to_rediscovering_your_spark?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare

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On today’s episode of the podcast, we were privileged to be joined by Madam Bella Cummins, the owner and operator of Bella’s Hacienda Ranch, in Wells, Nevada. Bella’s Hacienda Ranch is the only legal brothel run entirely by sex workers, and it attracts customers from all over the US and beyond.  

At 74 years old, Cummins is the longest serving living female legal brothel owner in the US. In 1987, she acquired the struggling Hacienda Ranch Brothel and transformed it into the famed "Bella's Hacienda." Leveraging her understanding of business and financial expertise, Cummins successfully turned the establishment into one of the most prosperous adult entertainment destinations in the state. 

During the COVID pandemic, when the legal brothels were shuttered by Nevada’s governor, Cummins creatively obtained an escort license for her business, allowing sex workers to sustain their income by providing non-sexual companionship services. 

In an era when sex workers were often disparaged and marginalized, Cummins pioneered a revolutionary approach within the industry. As the only legal brothel entirely run by sex workers, Bella’s Hacienda eliminated exploitative elements, creating a female-led workplace culture centred around trust and teamwork. This environment allowed sex workers to find camaraderie, support, and personal growth, challenging stereotypes and fostering a more positive image of women in the adult entertainment sector. 

Check out Bella's Hacienda Ranch here: https://bellas.us/

Timestamps: 

00:00 – Intro  

02:06 – Bella's background 

03:49 – Bella's experience of sex ed  

05:23 – How Bella was introduced to brothels  

09:00 – Bella's vision and mission   

11:10 – Where Bella’s attitude came from   

13:40 – Thoughts on Madams in other houses 

14:26 – Lessons learned in life 

16:14 – The difference between sensuality and sex  

17:20 – Why Bella’s offers adult male virgins a discount 

24:29 – Advice to young women wanting to get into the industry 

27:06 – Bella’s relationship advice 

30:26 – Bella's plans for the future   

32:48 – Why there is a need for brothels  

34:30 – Bella's message to listeners  

36:04 – Conclusion 

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On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi was able to sit down with Shaun Hill, the ReWired Project Lead, from the New Zealand Drug Foundation. ReWired is a non-judgemental support group for people who want to bring their party’n’play into focus.  

Together, Shaun and Toshi had a conversation about chemsex, the ReWired project, sex, drug use and consent, communication and pleasure.  

Check out ReWired here: https://www.rewired.org.nz/ 

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TIMESTAMPS:  

00:00 – Intro 

01:38 – How Shaun's perceptions around drug use changed over time  

05:58 – What does chemsex and party’n’play mean? 

07:53 – What is the ReWired project all about? 

09:50 – How ReWired has changed over time 

11:31 – The value of hearing people’s journeys 

13:28 – Reflecting on the Four F's: friends, family, fucks and finances  

16:16 – Sex should be about fun and pleasure  

17:42 – Challenges working at ReWired  

20:09 – How to navigate consent when drug use is involved  

23:49 – How to navigate consent in spaces where it’s given non-verbally  

28:43 – One thing Shaun wishes more people knew about consent 

31:50 – Where to find more info about ReWired  

32:36 – Conclusion  

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For this episode of the podcast, Tim had the opportunity to talk with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, a sex therapist, founder of the Northwest Institute on Intimacy, a former professor of Marriage and Family therapy at Seattle Pacific University, an AASECT-certified supervisor, mother, wife and author. Her mission is to provide education and tools that empower people to rise above sexual shame and embrace their value. Together Tim and Dr. Tina discuss sexual shame, its origins, the role of religion, effective parenting strategies and more.  

Find Dr. Tina here: https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/ 

Check out her book, Shameless Parenting: Everything You Need to Raise Shame-free, Confident Kids and Heal Your Shame Too: https://a.co/d/efnEOkV 

Explore Dr Tina’s other book, Sex, God and the Conservative Church: https://a.co/d/eaU5zMK 

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For this episode we were lucky enough to be joined by Dr. Fiona Vera-Gray, one of the UK’s leading feminist academics working on sexual violence, and the Deputy director at the Child and Women Abuse Studies Unit at London Metropolitan University. 

Earlier this year, Fiona published her book, Women on Porn, where she interviewed 100 women on their experiences with pornography – how they first encountered it, how they consume it, how it has affected their sex lives and relationships, what they like and what they don’t. Toshi and Fiona spoke about what inspired the book, how people have responded to it, how porn impacts our sex lives and the conflicting feelings that many women have towards their porn use.  

Check out Fiona here: https://www.fionaveragray.com/ 

Find Women on Porn here: https://www.fionaveragray.com/book-women-on-porn.html 

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Timestamps:  

00:00 – Intro  

01:14 – What kicked off the book?  

02:58 – What are sexual scripts?  

04:29 – How does porn impact our sex lives?  

06:26 – The problem with the Fast and Furious analogy  

08:03 – Balancing regulation and privacy  

09:49 – Removing the judgement from the conversation 

13:33 – It’s not as simple as pro-porn or anti-porn 

15:34 - What women say about their first sexual experiences  

17:30 – Advice if you feel conflicted about your porn use  

22:05 – How people have responded to Women on Porn  

24:00 – What positive impacts can porn have? 

27:32 – Fiona’s challenges working in this space  

29:24 – Men’s responses to her work  

30:51 – Supporting young people  

32:50 – Women’s responses to Fiona’s work 

34:32 – Feeling validated by other women's experiences 

36:00 – What about feminist/ethical porn?  

38:09 - How our sexual desires are shaped by culture  

40:26 – Conclusion  

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On this episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by Lucy Sante, a Belgian-born American writer, teacher, and critic, who has contributed to the New York Review of Books for four decades about film, art, and photography. She transitioned at the age of 67 after downloading an app on her phone that had a gender-swapping feature, allowing Lucy to see herself as a woman.  

Earlier this year, she published a book called I Heard Her Call My Name, a Memoir of Transition, which brings together two threads of personal narrative – the first, the arc of her life, and the second, her recent transition that allowed her to reach a place of inner and outer alignment.  

Timestamps:  

00:00 – Intro  

01:23 – Feelings after promoting her book  

02:10 – Lucy's experience being trans 

04:40 – Containment vs desire  

07:28 – Lucy's upbringing  

08:52 – What triggered Lucy’s transition  

11:45 – The impact of age on transitioning 

13:56 – Lucy's social experiences as a kid  

17:25 – First encounters with trans people  

18:41 – Finding courage from others  

21:33 – Why Lucy might have transitioned 25 years earlier  

22:31 – Gender in society  

25:33 – The debate with feminism  

27:11 – The joy of transitioning  

31:42 – Being transgender is not a choice  

33:51 – Conclusion  

Check out Lucy's book here: https://lucysante.com/book/i-heard-her-call-my-name/

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For this episode of the podcast, Toshi was lucky enough to speak with Annah Pickering, the regional co-ordinator for the NZPC – the Aotearoa New Zealand Sex Worker’s Collective. The Sex Worker’s Collective is a national organisation here in New Zealand that empowers and advocates for the rights of sex workers, as well as doing work internationally around the decriminalisation of sex work.

Check out the NZPC here: https://nzpc.org.nz/.

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