Sex in Space

Toshi was joined by the wonderful Susan Bratton for today’s episode. Susan is an intimacy expert to millions, who is known as an ‘orgasmanaut’ and is an advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long. She's created a whole bunch of techniques that transform “having sex” into making love, and is the bestselling author and publisher of an incredible 44 books. 

In this episode, Toshi and Susan spoke about why sex is a lifelong skill, the different kinds of orgasms the human body can experience, why bedroom communication skills are so important and how to get better at them, Susan’s top tips for having a great sex life, how to figure out your relationship values, and how to use erotic playdates to add variety to your sex life. 

Find more of Susan here: https://susanbratton.com/ 

Find her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton 

Timestamps:  

00:00 – Intro  

01:20 – Susan the ‘orgasmanaut’ 

02:08 – What is an extended orgasm?  

04:15 – What is an expanded orgasm?  

06:07 – Susan’s experience with orgasms  

07:43 – Susan's sex advice for younger people  

11:00 – Matriarchal perspectives on sex   

12:00 – Understanding pleasure and the female body 

12:53 – The three ‘prongs’ to great sex  

14:30 – The important thing to do to have a great sex life 

16:21 – The sexual soulmate pact  

21:03 – Working out what you want in bed  

22:55 – How to communicate what you want with a partner 

26:45 – Sharing favourite frames after you make love  

28:51 – Figuring out your relationship values  

32:55 – Using erotic playdates to add variety to your sex life  

36:01 – Summary and conclusion 

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In this episode, Tim had the opportunity to talk with William Moore, founder of the AdvancedYOU clinic, and developer of PhalloFILL Male Girth Enhancement. They spoke about all things penis girth enhancement, from the reasons people seek this help and treatment, to the processes of the procedure, the effects and benefits, the impacts of pornography on male body image, and the future of biohacking your health.  

Learn more about PhalloFILL: https://phallofill.com/ 

Find more about William here: https://advanced-you.com/ 

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On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi had the opportunity to talk with Verity Johnson, also known as Miss Vee. Verity is a newspaper columnist, MC at Men of Steel, New Zealand’s only male strip club, and the owner of Club Burlesque – New Zealand’s first burlesque club.  

Together they spoke about:  

• What burlesque is and what it celebrates 
• Why Verity started Club Burlesque 
• What you can expect if you go to a show 
• The kind of audiences you’ll find at Club Burlesque 
• How burlesque encourages audiences to reconsider societal attitudes towards sex  
• What it teaches us about desire 
• The relationship between burlesque, freedom and sexuality  
• And what you might get out of an experience at a burlesque show. 

Club Burlesque’s 2024 season runs from July 26 – September 13 in Auckland, New Zealand. 

Check out Club Burlesque (and find tickets) here: https://theclubburlesque.com/ 

Find Club Burlesque on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clubburlesquenz/?hl=en 

Timestamps:  

00:00 – Intro  

00:33 – What is burlesque?  

02:54 – Understanding eros 

03:25 – Why Verity started Club Burlesque 

04:44 – What you can expect from a night at Club Burlesque  

06:31 – Misconceptions about burlesque  

07:44 – Redefining how we think about society’s attitudes towards sex  

09:05 – What burlesque teaches you about desire 

11:38 – On not being afraid of your sexuality 

14:10 – Club Burlesque vs Men of Steel  

15:04 – Seeing Auckland reclaim its sexy side  

17:00 – How can we start to deconstruct shame in society?  

18:42 – Where you can find more information about Club Burlesque 

18:55 – Give yourself permission to enjoy sex and desire  

19:52 – Conclusion  

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On this episode of the podcast, Tim and Toshi had the opportunity to talk with Daniel Principe, a passionate youth advocate and educator. He champions boys across Australia to challenge culture and aspire to live courageous, respectful and empathetic lives.  

In the podcast Daniel, Tim and Toshi spoke about:  

• What ideas are being communicated to young boys about masculinity 
• How to navigate peer pressure 
• Why it’s important to choose your friends well  
• What Daniel’s work looks like in practice 
• What young people really think about Andrew Tate 
• Why the sigma meme is so popular with young boys 
• The realities of young people’s porn use 
• How parents and caregivers can support their kids 
• And why soft skills are so important 

Daniel is a board member of the DART Institute, an ambassador for the Women’s Resilience Centre and an ambassador for the national campaign Consent Can’t Wait. Having presented to tens of thousands of young people in every Australian state and territory, Daniel is no stranger to the complex challenges that our distracted digital world presents in adolescence. 

By partnering with schools and communities, Daniel encourages young people to recognise and resist distorted attitudes towards bodies, relationships and sex. He invites his audiences to instead aspire to healthy relationships built on mutual respect and empathy. Daniel is a regular guest on TV, radio and podcasts to discuss healthy masculinity, consent, respectful relationships and the cultural challenges young people are facing. None of these evolving challenges sway Daniel’s confidence that all young people can flourish if we create spaces for them to be their best selves. 

You can check out Daniel here: https://www.danielprincipe.com.au/ 

Find him on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/lastoftheromans/ 

Timestamps:  

00:00 – Intro  

01:01 – Who Daniel is and what he does  

05:13 – Championing boys, challenging culture 

06:05 – What ideas are being communicated to boys about masculinity? 

11:50 – Unpacking where our desires come from  

14:32 – Advice for navigating social pressure and why it’s important to choose your friends well 

17:15 – Social expectations in sex and relationships  

18:22 – Responses of young people to Daniel’s workshops  

20:04 – What Daniel’s work looks like in practice 

24:33 – Why we need to have empathy for young people navigating online spaces 

30:41 – Young people’s thoughts on Andrew Tate 

35:52 – Understanding the appeal of the sigma meme  

40:05 – The realities of young people’s porn use 

48:23 – Why soft skills are so important  

51:03 – How parents and caregivers can help  

56:44 – Daniel's message for young people  

58:32 – Conclusion  

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Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. 

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On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi was thrilled to be able to talk with Dr. Alex Layendecker of the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute (ASRI) about all things sex in space. Together, they spoke about:  

• Why there was a need for a private research organisation to investigate sex in space 
• When we might expect to see regular people going to space 
• The short and long-term risks of sex in space 
• Has anyone had sex in space?  
• The first married couple in space 
• Why ASRI’s research focuses on more than just the act of sex 
• And how humans might evolve in off-Earth environments 

ASRI is a 501c3 non-profit research organisation that is dedicated to the study of human sexuality and reproductive factors as they apply to outer space environments. Dr. Layendecker is the founder and current director of ASRI. He is a 2008 graduate of the United States Air Force Academy and served seven years as a USAF space operations officer for spacecraft launch and recovery, before transferring to the USAF Reserve as an HH-60G helicopter pilot for Combat Search and Rescue. He completed a Master of Public Health (2013) and PhD in Human Sexuality (2016) for the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, where his doctoral research focused on human sexuality and reproduction in off-Earth environments, the history of research in this area, and the research gaps that must be filled in the future in order to make long-term settlement of other worlds a viable possibility.  

Timestamps:  

00:00 – Intro  

01:19 – What is the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute all about?  

02:36 – Dr. Layendecker’s background and research 

06:23 – Old space vs new space 

08:30 – When might regular people have access to space? 

11:29 – The race to fill all the research gaps 

13:57 – The first symposium for the study of human reproduction and sexual health in space 

15:09 – Short and long-term risks about sex in space 

17:40 – Why this research is so important  

21:45 – Has anyone had sex in space?  

31:20 – The animals that have mated in space 

32:11 – Why the research focus is not just on the act of sex  

34:36 – How will humans evolve in off-Earth environments?  

38:01 – Funding research into sex in space  

41:30 – The future of space travel  

43:28 – Would Dr. Layendecker travel to space?  

46:15 – Conclusion  

Find more about Dr. Layendecker and the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute here: 

ASRI: https://www.asri.space/ 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/astrosexresearch 

Twitter: https://x.com/ASRI4Space 

Links mentioned in the podcast:  

The International Scientific Symposium for the Study of Human Reproduction & Sexual Health in Space: https://www.space-reproduction.org/ 

SpaceBorn United: https://www.spacebornunited.com/ 

The Overview Effect by Frank White: https://www.amazon.com.au/Overview-Effect-Exploration-Evolution-Library/dp/162410262X 

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On today’s episode of the podcast, Tim had the opportunity to speak with Dr Evan Goldstein, leading anal health expert in the U.S. Dr Goldstein is the founder and CEO of Bespoke Surgical, a first of its kind health practice specialising in gay men’s sexual health and wellness, and has just published a new book, Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything In-Between.  

Together, Tim and Dr. Goldstein spoke about anal health and pleasure, hygiene practices – including why you should avoid using wet wipes and bidets- debunked common assumptions and misconceptions, and more.  

Check out Butt Seriously here:  https://a.co/d/cRLA0vF 

Find Dr. Goldstein here: https://drevangoldstein.com/ 

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Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. 

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On this episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by Dr. Ian Kerner, licensed psychotherapist, lecturer, and New York Times bestselling author of books including She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman, and most recently, So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex: Laying Bare and Learning to Repair Our Love Lives. 

Together, Ian and Tim spoke about the importance of prioritizing pleasure in sexual relationships, the need for accurate sex ed and the impact that pornography has on sexual attitudes and behaviours. They also discussed the rise of sexual anxiety, the challenges that couples face in maintaining desire and the need for open communication. 

Find Dr. Ian here: https://www.iankerner.com/ 

Find his TED Talk, 'A sex therapist's secret to rediscovering your spark' here: https://www.ted.com/talks/ian_kerner_a_sex_therapist_s_secret_to_rediscovering_your_spark?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare

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Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. 

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https://www.sexinspace.com/ 

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On today’s episode of the podcast, we were privileged to be joined by Madam Bella Cummins, the owner and operator of Bella’s Hacienda Ranch, in Wells, Nevada. Bella’s Hacienda Ranch is the only legal brothel run entirely by sex workers, and it attracts customers from all over the US and beyond.  

At 74 years old, Cummins is the longest serving living female legal brothel owner in the US. In 1987, she acquired the struggling Hacienda Ranch Brothel and transformed it into the famed "Bella's Hacienda." Leveraging her understanding of business and financial expertise, Cummins successfully turned the establishment into one of the most prosperous adult entertainment destinations in the state. 

During the COVID pandemic, when the legal brothels were shuttered by Nevada’s governor, Cummins creatively obtained an escort license for her business, allowing sex workers to sustain their income by providing non-sexual companionship services. 

In an era when sex workers were often disparaged and marginalized, Cummins pioneered a revolutionary approach within the industry. As the only legal brothel entirely run by sex workers, Bella’s Hacienda eliminated exploitative elements, creating a female-led workplace culture centred around trust and teamwork. This environment allowed sex workers to find camaraderie, support, and personal growth, challenging stereotypes and fostering a more positive image of women in the adult entertainment sector. 

Check out Bella's Hacienda Ranch here: https://bellas.us/

Timestamps: 

00:00 – Intro  

02:06 – Bella's background 

03:49 – Bella's experience of sex ed  

05:23 – How Bella was introduced to brothels  

09:00 – Bella's vision and mission   

11:10 – Where Bella’s attitude came from   

13:40 – Thoughts on Madams in other houses 

14:26 – Lessons learned in life 

16:14 – The difference between sensuality and sex  

17:20 – Why Bella’s offers adult male virgins a discount 

24:29 – Advice to young women wanting to get into the industry 

27:06 – Bella’s relationship advice 

30:26 – Bella's plans for the future   

32:48 – Why there is a need for brothels  

34:30 – Bella's message to listeners  

36:04 – Conclusion 

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Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. 

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On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi was able to sit down with Shaun Hill, the ReWired Project Lead, from the New Zealand Drug Foundation. ReWired is a non-judgemental support group for people who want to bring their party’n’play into focus.  

Together, Shaun and Toshi had a conversation about chemsex, the ReWired project, sex, drug use and consent, communication and pleasure.  

Check out ReWired here: https://www.rewired.org.nz/ 

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TIMESTAMPS:  

00:00 – Intro 

01:38 – How Shaun's perceptions around drug use changed over time  

05:58 – What does chemsex and party’n’play mean? 

07:53 – What is the ReWired project all about? 

09:50 – How ReWired has changed over time 

11:31 – The value of hearing people’s journeys 

13:28 – Reflecting on the Four F's: friends, family, fucks and finances  

16:16 – Sex should be about fun and pleasure  

17:42 – Challenges working at ReWired  

20:09 – How to navigate consent when drug use is involved  

23:49 – How to navigate consent in spaces where it’s given non-verbally  

28:43 – One thing Shaun wishes more people knew about consent 

31:50 – Where to find more info about ReWired  

32:36 – Conclusion  

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Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.  

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https://www.sexinspace.com/ 

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For this episode of the podcast, Tim had the opportunity to talk with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, a sex therapist, founder of the Northwest Institute on Intimacy, a former professor of Marriage and Family therapy at Seattle Pacific University, an AASECT-certified supervisor, mother, wife and author. Her mission is to provide education and tools that empower people to rise above sexual shame and embrace their value. Together Tim and Dr. Tina discuss sexual shame, its origins, the role of religion, effective parenting strategies and more.  

Find Dr. Tina here: https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/ 

Check out her book, Shameless Parenting: Everything You Need to Raise Shame-free, Confident Kids and Heal Your Shame Too: https://a.co/d/efnEOkV 

Explore Dr Tina’s other book, Sex, God and the Conservative Church: https://a.co/d/eaU5zMK 

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Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. 

Follow us here: 

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https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom 

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https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace

For more info, check out our website at: 

https://www.sexinspace.com/ 

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