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- Episode 34 – Booty CallsPatricia shares a story inspiring today’s discussion.Did you know there are 8 types of booty calls?We have gone far from the definition being from 2-4 AM, postbar close, go home alone, hit someone up for a good time…We find the dictionary definitions..Merriam-Webster and urbanCan a booty call happen over phones and texts with no reallife contact?Can you have a booty call in a marriage or LTR??LOTS of nuances and moving parts!When is it unhealthy?What about the emotional, spiritual, mental and physicalaspects?How is it working for the people involved?VIDEO MENTIONEDElle King – It girlhttps://youtu.be/9B8hxvdQ0uMLearn more about Patricia and her workhttps://www.patriciaengelking.com/Check out Judy’s other podcasthttps://wellnessrenpodcast.com/Thank YOU for listening! Check out other episodes, topics and ask a question or propose a topichttps://sexmatterspodcast.com/Consider supporting the Sex Matters. podcast.https://www.patreon.com/SexMatters1 hr 2 min
- Episode 33 – Taste – Penises – Semen, Smells, Diets and Down ThereWhat did we talk about?Blow job… you don’t blow… and, well, it really shouldn’t feel like work… so… HMMM!Cock worshipingThe power in the act of a blow job. The power you have in your mouth.How one man’s semen tastes like a cinnamon roll.Fruits, veg and spices that enhance the taste of semen, (And..avoid that aftertaste!)Some foods that may have a less ideal effect on taste.A reason to help you avoid fast food???Medication and semen.Shaving… some suggestions for creams for sensitive skinReferencesCDC… dental dam and how to make a dental dam from a condomhttps://www.cdc.gov/condomeffectiveness/Dental-dam-use.htmlWhy you need to use mouth condomshttps://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/3f27337b-6939-4e97-9b1e-4ea97090577fLearn more about Patricia and her workhttps://www.patriciaengelking.com/Check out Judy’s other podcasthttps://wellnessrenpodcast.com/Thank YOU for listening! Check out other episodes, topics and ask a question or propose a topichttps://sexmatterspodcast.com/Consider supporting the Sex Matters. podcast.https://www.patreon.com/SexMatters39 min
- Episode 32 – Taste – Vaginas – Luscious Labia LiquidsMy favorite quote of the episode…“I don’t suggest people lining up and having a taste off… like they do a chili cook offs and stuff!” Said Patricia Engelking in relation to Vaginas!WHAT DID WE TALKABOUT?Vaginal juices… Tastes SmellsYour diet and the taste of your vaginaPH balanceDouching, perfumesHygiene and cleaning (What does its own self cleaning and what needs a little help!)Eating before going down on someone.Thoughts for those partners who love the vagina-havers and their vaginas!Your oral hygieneWhen you have concerns When they are having their period… or maybe you… or they… don’t know!FIND OUT MORE OR CONNECT WITH…Patriciahttps://www.patriciaengelking.com/JudyThe Wellness Renaissance Podcasthttps://wellnessrenpodcast.com/Sex Matters. PodcastListen, send us your questions, feedback, ideas. We like to hear from you. Yes! YOU!https://sexmatterspodcast.com/40 min
- Episode 31 – Gender Reveal Parties Inspired by – When Gender Reveals KillGender reveal parties… what do we… and YOU… think of them?Benign or dangerous? Considering there have been a few deaths related to gender reveal parties… Kinda wild and NOT GREAT! (Thank you social media for helping us need to up the ante of making OUR party cooler than the last one we saw on social media.) Do we REALLY need to blow stuff, and people, up? Cake – it started out with simple, innocent CAKE!!!Gender reveal party or genital reveal party??Patricia and Judy dive into various facets about the partyconcept, the shift in our culture and sexual and gender identification. Raising kids gender neutral?The article that started inspired this conversationhttps://sexmatterspodcast.com/huffpostarticle1MENTIONEDA boy named Sue by Johnny Cash43 min
- Episode 30 – Talking Dirty – Happy Valentines Day!Talking dirty… not everyone’s skill set or comfort zone forvery many reasons. Are we making it harder than it is?We talk about ways talking dirty can look and ideas thatmight make it easier to experiment with. Or ways that it might be more organicto you… and may not even feel like talking dirty. The words we use, our eyes, body language… somany options…We share a bunch of phrases and have a laugh.Steal them or make them your own… from the article…91 Dirty Things To Say To Turn Him On & Have Crazy Wild Sexhttps://badgirlsbible.com/dirty-things-to-say-to-a-guySupport the Sex Matters podcast.https://www.patreon.com/SexMattersMore about Patriciahttps://www.patriciaengelking.com/Check out Judy’s other podcasthttps://wellnessrenpodcast.com/Thank YOU for listening!Check out other episodes and topics athttps://sexmatterspodcast.com/Consider supporting the Sex Matters. podcast.https://www.patreon.com/SexMattersLearn more about Patricia and her workhttps://www.patriciaengelking.com/Check out Judy’s Podcasthttps://wellnessrenpodcast.com/59 min
- Episode 29 – Body Consciousness and Performing – Letting Go and BeingJudy shares her “field trip” experience where she “dancedher yoga”! The rules or goal at “Dance your yoga”… have fun, not perform, dowhat feels good in our body, be, express ourselves in the way we feel.We need more spaces to do that.Judy shares many of the things that came up for her aroundthis in thinking how all these expectations and shame we are trained into… howmuch it hurts our bodies, our communication, our sexual expression and communication.Stuff we touched onNudist coloniesFKK clubs in GermanyNaturist approach Vs nudistsWe are told… Go for perfection and be perfect!And also taught that no one is perfect and we can never beperfect. GAH… Total opposites! – How do we take this in who and know how to bethe best us and be comfortable with who we are.NO wonder we are a struggling internally with self comfort.Perfect as we are… (Patricia gives Judy a mini life coachingsession!)Get pregnant by listening to music… find out how! Sorry,no science to back it up but.. Hey… itis worth a try eh!… you will feel fantastic no matter what the result. Someone needs to study this stuff!(Think energy flow and getting the body energy and fluids moving.Feeling good in our body and creating the best environment for pregnancy. )Can we just be OK being naked?Patricia is in an art show!In MPLS on Feb 14 and 15https://www.facebook.com/events/325934851636679/[email protected] for tickets and infoMENTIONEDAmerica The beautiful DVDhttps://amzn.to/2UyfNdb44 min
- Episode 28 – What Do We Do Next – Part 4You have walked through the series and the steps thus far…1. Knowing where you are at In the relationship (Episodes 17 & 18)2. Knowing when it is time to call it quits – Leaning into intuition and trusting yourself (Episode 19)3. Knowing how to do that in an adult manor communicate what you need to express (Episode 27)YOU ARE HERE!4. What to do next (Episode 28)Patricia and Judy talk about…Hard conversations…. Be they an hour or a few days long.Patricia shares about her personality and flow – in and after tough conversations as the receiver and the giver.What do and can those hard conversations look like?How can we maximize communication and good outcomes foreveryone.What do we need after hard conversations?Decision making from those conversation. (Change something or remain the same?)Needing help or support?Insights to – How coaches and therapists work and focus differently.People are craving connection…We are more connected than ever and less connected at the same time.Ways we find and feed connection can look very different for each of usKnow your valuesKnow yourselfKnow who you are with a partnerMen and women… some differencesMen tend to need validation and positive reinforcementWomen need to feel appreciated and lovedBOOKS MENTIONEDThe 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapmanhttps://amzn.to/36GpwARThe Five Languages of Apology: How to Experience Healing in All Your Relationships by Gary Chapmanhttps://amzn.to/37NEYfU1 hr 1 min
- Episode 27 – Doing What You Need to Do, like an Adult – Communication Part 3Communication makes business work…. How about our personalor SO relationships??You are feeling good about knowing what you need to do. You are trusting yourself in your next steps. Now, how do you move forward? How do you go about communicating what ever it is you need to share… like an adult.Patricia walks us through the 5 big questions to successfulcommunication.Who?What?When?Where?Why ?And how?We walk through each of them asking the deeper questions toanswer the 5 basic questions resulting in more efficient and effectivecommunication.We touch on…W. A. I. T.Three different types of loveConsidering timing and method of communicationsFinding a “place” and expectation for communication to setyour relationship on a great path of partnership.Searching for the underlying emotions in a situation.(There are some GREAT lists on the web organized in ways that might resonate with you. Search “list of emotions”.)And lots of other great reminders for good communication inconversations, arguments; when delivering wants, needs, desires,expectations, regrets, etc.1 hr 3 min
- Episode 26 – Newlyweds, Bunk Beds, Bedroom Doors and LocksJudy talks about a memory from a family trip that wassparked by another Dr. Ruth video. OHHHDR. RUTH!What would we do without you!Judy shares some Dr. Ruth wisdom to help parents out there talkto their kids about sex and to make your sex life more relaxed! Let us know if this works for you or if youhave even better ideas!VIDEODr. Ruth: “Sexually Speaking” | Talks at Google9 min
- Episode 25 – Centurion Olympics – What Do You Want to be Able to Do When You are 100 – In BedInspired by Peter Attia’s Centurion Olympics concept.He applies this to life, Judy explains the concept and thenJudy and Patricia take it to the SexMatters. Level. What do we want to be able to do sexuallywhen we are 100?Need a way to motivate yourself to be “up in the gym just working on my fitness”.How do we want to be sexual when we are 100. Sex in old age…Sex when your in a nursing home.Places this conversation wentAging and sex… sex and agingSex in a nursing homeThe hero’s journeySex and disability (amputee… fetish or non sexual, etc.)Sex positive nursing home reform??? AffectionPodcast episode with the Dr. to learn about the conceptWhat To Do Today To Be Healthy At 100https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-to-do-today-to-be-healthy-at-100/id1382804627?i=1000456890985Wellness Renaissance Podcast episode:Centurion Olympics – Find Focus and Motivation – Dr. Peter Attia’s IdeaEpisode 114 – Centurion Olympics – Find Focus and Motivation – Dr. Peter Attia’s IdeaThe Hero’s Journey: A short video explnationA more faceted explanation to help us understand how it applies, or can apply, to our own lives.45 min
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Patricia, once a New Jersey Girl, and Judy, an almost lifelong Minnesotan come together to talk about sex! Why? To normalize and discover our own awareness in this crazy U.S. culture we live in. (Yes, we really CAN talk about sex in Minnesota!)
We are looking to, by our conversations, encourage and facilitate positive, healthy, authentic shifts in our relationship with sex. Topics inspired by what is on our mind, in the news or YOU! We love listener questions and topic suggestions.
So many of us could use a little help figuring out how to think, how to talk about and uncover our own true thoughts, feelings, fears. finding our sexual, authentic self… well, it is a process. And, it’s always fun to talk about sex!
Join us!