Sex Matters.

Judy reflects on the The Dr. Ruth quote…

“When it comes to sex, the most important six inches are the ones between the ears”

What does that mean to you? Attraction to the 6 inches

between the ears, our mindset and how do we process sex in the 6 inches between

our ears… and what do we do with that to enhance our relationship.

I touch on Dating app culture, good advice about a power nap

before sex… courtesy of the French and some other random goodies.

Happy New Year to you all and thank you for listening!

Patricia’s back for a week… a break from the break!  Patricia is doing a Facebook Live and we wanted you to all know about it!

IN THIS EPISODE

What is squirting?Where is it from?How our bodies reflect our culture!  Isn’t THAT interesting!Shame.90% of females in Rwanda squirt… 90%  The story of how the culture became so squirt positive from a story teller and the book Kunyaza… the secret to female pleasure.  Kunyaza: The Secret to Female Pleasure by Habeeb Akandehttps://amzn.to/2SvyM7a

“The knowledge of sexuality and sexual techniques is so much

more cultural than instinctive. Cultures less sexually repressive than our own

western cultures celebrate the existence of female orgasm and teach their

members methods of achieving pleasure. In such cultures female orgasm is

expected.”

Patricia goes to the gynecologist!

-The Dr. and talking to them about

sex

We touch on drugs and hydration and being able to squirt.

“Squirting”  Do we need

another name? Judy thinks we might. 

Submit your idea to the website as a comment to the episode or on the Facebook

post!

Below is from Patricia’s Facebook invite post.

The group can be found here…https://www.facebook.com/groups/2360862547355327/

I get a lot of women that want to learn how to squirt.

Western Society ( our own culture peeps) tells us the ability to squirt is ..

like a mythical unicorn – men’s holy grail

only happens in porn movies or with slutty women

is dirty or just pee (it’s not just pee and by the way there is some pee in men’s ejaculate too.)

only men’s ejaculation should be celebrated

that women shouldn’t have so much sexual enjoyment that they let go in the throws of pleasure. That’s just for men.

that the “whites” referring to White Anglo Saxon Protestants are prudes and too uptight to give their men the satisfaction of driving us wild.

that the female anatomy is still a mystery. Only in 2009 was the actual structure or the ENTIRE clitoris published in medical books. There is still debate if the G-spot exists.

that marketing and porn want women in a constant place of comparison to keep us from unleashing our sexual privilege and Goddess power as a united front, banishing jealousy and fear amongst women.

NOW WHAT IF….

Sex became a celebration of connection?

You could release sexual energy freely and

enjoyably?

Your mind was flooded with the positive chemicals for health, sleep, and happiness without penetration?

You connect with your partner in a deep place of

satisfaction and joy at the pleasure you bring each other?

You learn a completely new way to achieve orgasm that increases libido and chance for orgasm that is holistic and requires NO medicinal treatment?

You make your partner feel like the best lover on earth

as he/she makes you gush with pleasure?

Join me for a live FREE event to learn about the elusive

fountain of youth, SQUIRTING and the practices of a country where 90% of women

squirt and it is widely a part of their culture and norms.

Monday, December 30th at 7pm CST

ONLY IN MY SECRET GROUP FOR WOMEN!!! https://www.facebook.com/groups/2360862547355327/

*Private Message Patricia or comment on her Facebook page

post for an invite.

MENTIONED

Sacred Water Trailer

Boys Don’t Cry Trailer

Seriously! You haven’t gotten your SO something fun and

flirty yet?? WELL! 

Here are some ideas you can still make happen!   (Not all, but most!)

Judy shares some gift ideas… and ideas ABOUT those ideas.

Below are a few actual products I talked about… I have no experience with them… they just look like fun

And other ideas that are more personal and less product specific!

Have fun shopping and thinking and planning! 

Intimacy Advent Calendarhttps://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/shop/intimacy-advent-calendar/NOTE – I forgot to say that this is something you print out… SO… a perfect last minute gift

Long Distance Lamphttps://www.uncommongoods.com/product/long-distance-friendship-lamp;jsessionid=8DC6F5CB5FCC86EC92868C1F1AD32639.ugwebworker6.1

Fun for Valentine’s day too!

I pulled some fun facts about sex to share with you! 

Like what?  Well…

listen and all will be revealed.

A few fun fetishesBat sexBaby boomer sex! (I think we can do better than this people!)DeathPopesThe speed of ejaculate!Mathew McConaughey  (probably not the fact you REALLY want to hear about but… )

All pulled from…  https://allthatsinteresting.com/weird-sex-facts

Enjoy!

Through the holidays, we are going to be taking off some time and I, Judy, will be sharing some small bits of fun in some shorter shows.

This week, Judy takes a short jaunt into exploring a quote

by Jack Nicholson…

“If you suck on a tit the movie gets an R rating. If you

hack the tit off with an axe it will be PG.”

And… if you ever wanted a slap in the face… but not really in a GOOD way… by our contemplative culture… reminding us women that we are NOT okay!  That SOMETHING about us is… scary? Threatening? Should be hidden??   Listen to this snippet from a TEDxYouth talk by Dane Woodland, a trans man, after his top surgery.   I never thought about it quite this way before.

How Male Privilege Made me a Feminist | Dane Woodland | TEDxYouth@StJohnshttps://youtu.be/X3yvGaMQ2Jg

Part 2 (Complete)This is a four part series that we are breaking out over many weeks. Join us for part two of this four part series.

Check out episode 17 to start at the beginning… OR, we

welcome you to hit play RIGHT HERE if you wish! 

What did we talk

about? 

Our often heterosexual language disclaimer Are you the dog or the chicken??Why are decisions and choices SO HARD!!! The 4 Fs   Fear of…FailureThe unknownRejectionLossThe why as well as suggestions as to how to create space in your being… mind, body, spirit, for you to know yourself better, hear your self and make choices from your that are true to you, your higher self, the universe… What ever works for you… these suggestions can help you get there. How to get rid of the feeling of being stuck!  Leaning into the possibility of what that next step and opportunity might look like – be it to repair, walk away from the relationship or redefine it.   All are options!Staying connected to you and your intuition in a situation where your button is pushed or a trigger is set off for you. Being presentDetaching from outcomes. Making every moment count by being present and striving for connection. Our intuition… what gets in our way of listening to ourselves?Courage and bravery… are they a value or a trait?  Or…

We will head into knowing how to communicate the things you have come to know in your relationship, with yourself and others, in the third part of this series up next.

Part One (Second Half):Ways to Know Love is Still at Play.

This is a four part series that we are breaking out (most likely) over eight weeks. Join us for part two of a four part series divided into 8 parts.

(I promise… it is way easier to understand than it looks!)

What did we talk about?

We started out by continuing with the 11 ways we can know

love is still at play in our relationships… starting at 4.

Great info here…

So many of these are learned behaviors and things we don’t see modeled in culture… we are getting better at teaching them as a culture, however.

As we change in our long term relationships…  a natural progression.

Monogamy

And some other bits and pieces as well.

And, we had into the intro for next week… The second topic…

Leaning into your intuition and trusting yourself in your decisions.

We invite you to share your perspectives and feedback on the

show notes, facebook, etc.

Part One:Knowing where you are at in your relationship.

This is a four part series that we are breaking out (most likely) over eight weeks.

When is it time to call a relationship over…  OR, NOT!

Things we touch on…

Patricia talks about the first few levels of the 7 levels of

energy intertwined with the stages of grief.

VERY SIMPLISTIC explanation for levels of energy

Level one – place of victimhood, lack, etc. Level two – Fight, angry etc. Level Three – Coping and settling

Grief and loss and

how they correspond to the energy levels above

Denial  (Level 3 energy)Anger (Level 2 energy)Bargaining (Level 3 energy)Depression (Level 1 energy)Acceptance (Back to your average resonating level)

(Patricia can take you through and help you understand you

and where you are and where you typically reside in your levels if you want a

more personal tool!)

How do you know it is too late?

When trust is broken

The first 3 of 11 ways we can know love is still at play in

our relationships

WHAT DID WE TALK ABOUT?

Lots of stuff about vibrators and using them on your own or with play partners. Dead vagina syndrome… Does this REALLY happen??Clitoris going numb??Numbness to prickly pussy Can you be addicted to your vibrator?Vibrator or sex as a dependency. Toys and keeping them clean. What might cause numbness that may be worth checking out medically. POWER TOOLS!!! A nod to Halloween! – A vaginal campfire story! 

Article

Is It Possible To Use Your Vibrator Too Much? by Kelsey Borresenhttps://www.huffpost.com/entry/use-vibrator-too-much_l_5daa27a3e4b08cfcc31b5282?fbclid=IwAR1YGcKzliwzKDIMFcPTxUGLjtqrz4P2oH5eHu-kHqNkkSt5K8bHm0PP8_g

Eleven Things To Do With Old Dildos

  Patricia helps us find ways to keep that gift on giving! https://www.thepowerexchange.co/blog/old_dildo-ideas

Wellness Ren Podcast Episode

Episode 105 – Comedy that Furthers the Cultural Conversation with Comedian Danielle Thralow – Part 1https://wellnessrenpodcast.com/podcast/episode-105-comedy-that-furthers-the-cultural-conversation-with-comedian-danielle-thralow-part-1/

EXTRA FUN

Vaginal Dentatahttps://outtake.tribecashortlist.com/beyond-teeth-the-cultural-history-of-vagina-dentata-60e9f020d557

TEETH The MovieTrailer: https://youtu.be/yH8yuld4DUE

Laid – TV Show – Can be found as of 11/08/2019 on Amazon Prime Video

What would YOU do if you woke up while your husband was in

the middle of having sex with you? Would you consider this act of non consent

rape?

We have a listener with just this question.

Hear what we know of her story

We share findings of

our very informal research polls.

Does he get full access to her because she is his wife?

We share our thoughts, questions and perspectives.

What do YOU think??

We invite YOUR thoughts on Facebook or on the show episode

notes.

AND…

PSA…  The what and why

of Stormy Daniels previous unsafe, safe word.

Loraina Bobbitt:Since we brought her up…https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_and_Lorena_Bobbitt