SHAMELESS

In this episode, I sit down with soul initiator and shadow work coach Dr. Mike Simmons (aka Shadow Mike) for a raw and unfiltered dive into the intersection of shadow work and non-monogamy — and what it reveals about the parts of us we’ve been avoiding.

We talk about:

* What shadow work actually is — beyond the buzzwords

* How non-monogamy can surface deep, hidden insecurities around worth and identity

* My personal journey navigating hierarchical polyamory and the hidden beliefs it’s forced me to confront

* Why the goal isn’t to “fix” the shadow, but to integrate it

* How monogamy, religion, and heteronormativity shape what we think we deserve — and how to break free

This conversation isn’t just about relationship structures. It’s about truth-telling, personal liberation, and facing the places we’ve been told to fear.

If you’ve ever wondered whether your relationship style is helping you evolve or holding you hostage, this one’s for you.

Check out more of Dr. Mike’s work at shadowmike.com and follow him on Substack, YouTube, and Patheos.

Join the SHAMELESS Discord group to connect with a community for gay men committed to releasing shame, embracing authenticity, and reclaiming their sexual power.

In today’s guided meditation, we journey forward in time to meet the version of ourselves who has already lived our dreams and embodied our deepest truths.

Together, we slow down, breathe, and step into that future self’s presence — holding them, cherishing them, and listening to their hard-earned wisdom.

You’ll discover what they want you to know, the guidance they have for you right now, and how to bring their energy into your life today.

This is more than a meditation — it’s an invitation to align with the person you are becoming.

Register for next week’s live guided meditation session here!

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A couple weeks ago, I had a session with my badass coach, Tamara Driskell. I knew it would be powerful — so I asked to hit record.

I wanted to talk about death.

The night before, I did a visualization exercise where I saw my own death. I saw the moment of my last breath. I saw where I was. And in that moment… I realized everything was okay.

And to borrow Tamara’s language: Facing death gave me permission to finally live.

This episode is raw, intimate, and one of the most transformative conversations I’ve had.

Listen in — and when you’re done, go devour Tamara’s Substack and her work. Her coaching is soul-shifting.

Powerful as hell.

Join the SHAMELESS Discord group to connect with a community for gay men committed to releasing shame, embracing authenticity, and reclaiming their sexual power.

In this episode, I invite you into a raw, judgment-free space to explore your sexual story.

Whether you’ve felt shame, confusion, desire, pride, or all of the above, this is your moment to lay it all out with radical honesty and no filters, no pretending, and no right or wrong.

I’ll guide you with a simple but potent prompt: What’s your story when it comes to sex?

This isn’t about fixing yourself, but it is about seeing yourself clearly, compassionately, and without shame because liberation begins with truth.

Take 10, 20, or even 30+ minutes after this episode to reflect. You deserve to know the truth of your desires and your experiences — and to love the hell out of them.

Want to go deeper? Join my full SHAMELESS course to rewrite your story for good.

Or start smaller with the Releasing Sexual Shame: Intro Course — a bite-sized but powerful first step.

You deserve a life of sexual freedom. Let’s fucking go.

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I help gay men break free from shame and reclaim their power — in their bodies, their pleasure, and their lives. That’s the heart of my work.

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on everything I teach — from the cognitive process I’ve developed to help men move through shame, to why I use NSFW content as a tool for healing and integration. This is the exact framework I use in my coaching, my content, and my own life.

If you’ve ever wondered what sexual empowerment actually looks like — or how I help men go from self-loathing to self-love — this episode lays it all out.

To learn more about me and my work, visit my website coachkevmartin.com.

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In this session, Kevin leads the Woo-Woo Crew through a guided meditation focusing on the power of appreciation.

Research shows that emotions naturally move through the body in 90 seconds (if we don’t feed them). What’s really cool about this is that we can turn this around… where we can feed emotions that we want to continue feeling.

We play around with this concept during this meditation session.

Here, Kevin guides the crew through an exercise of focusing on the feeling of appreciation. We take time to observe what in life we are appreciative of and how soaking in this feeling can lead to deeper joy in the moment.

Enjoy this guided meditation, and join us next time!

In this guided meditation session, Kevin leads the Woo-Woo Crew through a visualization-based breathing exercise to connect body, mind, and spirit all together.

In this guided meditation, Kevin leads the Woo-Woo Crew through a mindful exercise on noticing hurts against the self, creating an opportunity for you to let go of self-shame, self-pain, and personal wounds you are holding onto that you no longer need.

If you need to forgive yourself for anything, this meditation is for you.

To join the next guided meditation session, register here!

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We might think of pleasure as an “extra.”

For many of us who are working on healing sexual shame, our shame-based backgrounds (i.e. religious households, conservative upbringings, judgmental communities, etc.) likely taught us that pleasure wasn’t necessary.

Thus, when we start to give ourselves permission to experience pleasure, we can feel guilt, often like we are doing something wrong, doing something that’s going against our inner beliefs and our childhood hard-wiring.

To start letting go of your sexual shame, get connected with me and my work. I can't wait to support you.

We might think of pleasure as an “extra.”

For many of us who are working on healing sexual shame, our shame-based backgrounds (i.e. religious households, conservative upbringings, judgmental communities, etc.) likely taught us that pleasure wasn’t necessary.

Thus, when we start to give ourselves permission to experience pleasure, we can feel guilt, often like we are doing something wrong, doing something that’s going against our inner beliefs and our childhood hard-wiring.

This Substack is reader-supported. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.

Check out this quick video for a reframe on why pleasure is not only powerful but why it is a necessary part of healing — and connection to ourselves and others.

Comment below how you are going to be practicing and prioritizing pleasure today — I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Sending you much love,Coach Kevin

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