Sharing the Manual

I am stoked to have Tanya Kelloway joining me on the episode where we talk about stress and burnout. Tanya is a doctor of acupuncture at Calgary Integrative Medicine. Over the last twelve months, I have come to know her heart and I am truly blessed to call her my dear friend. We have journeyed together through a remarkable program to get bold and visible. I am impressed by her expertise and story. I love Tanya's ability to partner with her patients on the healing journey, helping them move the needle on their health. She takes you from living with day-to-day pain, stress, anxiety, and digestive upset and living in a balanced system where you can show up as your best self.

Tanya brings such richness to my life, and I know that without a doubt she will leave you, listeners, with tangible things you can do to care for yourself. Her story of living in a body whose nervous system was easily overstimulated had her compelled to learn more. Our bodies are the best teachers we must listen to them.

We talk about Stress, productivity, burnout and three ways our bodies handle it: Ventral, Sympathetic, and Dorsal Branches. She gives us tips on how we can self-regulate through gentle kindness. Hand on your heart and stomach while breathing in, and surround yourself with safe loving people, meditation, acupuncture, massage, and exercise are great ways to help combat your fight, flight, and freeze responses.  

Ventral - when we are regulated into the ventral aspect of our autonomic nervous system, we feel our best selves. Safe loved, rested, stable. 

Sympathetic - this is when we feel uncomfortable in our bodies, we may feel anxious, stressed, agitated, and aggressive. We tend to overeat, or have no appetite, we easily gain weight, struggle sleeping, have digestive problems, and have pain and tension in our bodies.

The dorsal Branch - is the oldest branch of our nervous system and is activated in times of acute or chronic stress. This is the protective mode, different than the sympathetic. This is the part of the nervous system where we can experience burnout. Our bodies go into shutdown. We are weak, everything is hard. A great example is a gazelle and how they collapse in a lion's mouth. That is what our nervous system is doing. To have the best chance at survival.

Stress in our nervous system is telling us that something is wrong, consider it like an alarm that tells you if you are offline. It needs your attention. Get curious and lean into where things are showing up in your body and dig deep to discover why. The key is to pull yourself in with compassion and love. Talk to your inner child whose nervous system is dysregulated. Speak kindness and gently to them.

Be sure to follow Dr. Tanya Kelloway and check out her website www.tanyakelloway.com

This episode is going to be fun and fast; I just know it. The title hits it home - What you water grows. Now if you're a mom you know this to be true. If you feed your kids your grocery bill grows. Especially now is anyone else feeling the pinch at the grocery store. The lady at the checkout must think that I have monkeys in my house for the number of bananas I buy. We all know that bananas are the cheapest fruit you can feed a kid. My teenage boy eats three a day, I know right I am surprised that kid isn't bummed right up. Too much info for the podcast - I think not. 

This wonderful phrase what you water grows is true for all aspects of our lives. You have likely heard it said a little differently before: You are what you eat, what you fear you create, you become what you declare, and so forth.

I like to switch things up and get you thinking so let's put thought to how what YOU water grows plays out in your money. Accountability and ownership are key ingredients to healing and true change.

Check out our website: www.youinsureinc.ca

I am so excited to have Michelle Arpin Begina on the podcast today. The way she views money as more than just numbers warms my heart. She marries the science of wealth management with the art of financial therapy. You have all heard me say that in order to reach financial freedom you need to become financially whole from within. I refer to this as a financial healing journey.

Michelle has a long list of amazing accomplishments New Jerseys Five Star Wealth Manager, twice named one of Worth Magazines' best 250 Financial Advisors. In 2020 Michelle launched a lifestyle platform that provides women with financial education, tools, events, and emotional intelligence on money. Not to mention being on TEDx recently sharing "Talking about Money is Easy When You Know How."  - Love this!

This my friend is why she is with us today, her heart for what she does runs deep. She shared with me her why a couple of months back and I knew she was the right fit for the show. She like me has a money story and speaks to the behaviour bias having an impact on our financial decisions. Michelle shares with us today her very own story followed by your nuggets of wisdom.

Michelle gives us the secret formula to success in this episode, she also has a website full of wisdom and ways to transcend your money beliefs. Check out her website: https://michelleab.com/

Women have an inner knowing, be brave enough to stay truly aligned. Be brave enough to acknowledge it! Many women are afraid of what it will mean, how to change it, what others think and so forth. Deep down, many women have an inner knowing that needs us to act on. This requires courage, stepping out of what we have always done. When we don't, we stay safe and stay stuck. It's time to get comfortable being uncomfortable. 

It is your job to disappoint as many people as long as you don't disappoint yourself. Give yourself self-love, grace, and compassion to learn and unlearn. Self-abandonment is real, we negate ourselves in hopes to please others. Carly gives us so many great tips as to how we can show up brave, with courage and model healthy behaviours.

Self-reflection role as a woman, people-pleasing, perfectionism, fitting a mould that we think is the norm or a good reflection. Take an inventory, prioritize, get support where you feel safe, seen, known and understood, do an assessment detect what is happening and understand why. Then be brave enough to shake things up. 

"The impact of a single woman cannot be understated. Empowering women is legacy work. It's my legacy" - Carly Crewe

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Are you intrigued? I loved drafting this episode and really reflecting on what I wish I would have known sooner. When I ask both men and women the questions "What do you wish you knew sooner when it comes to money?" a lot of them referred to saving earlier, making better decisions, not falling into some of the money traps, knowing the programs that are out there like RRSP, RDSP, TFSA and so on. But I want to hit on a few more things that many of our parents didn't teach us about money: the shame, embarrassment, superiority complexes, money infidelity/secrecy, money obsession, destructive behaviours, passed down generational money traumas, financial abuse, money disorders, and money enmeshment. I hope that you are listening and realizing that YES there is a lot more to money than just numbers. And when these issues arise or are within family dynamics having financial wholeness is hard. Reaching your finish lines can and being hijacked by one or more of these issues. And without recognizing it or bringing awareness to it we are unable to make the necessary changes needed to reach fulfillment. 

Give this episode a listen and do some journaling, and some self-reflection. What can you relate to? How have your emotions, or life experiences played out in your money? When you are ready to have financial wholeness and heal areas that are affecting your finances reach out. It is your time to start kicking ass financially. 

Dare we talk about money, women and starting over we have with us today, Kimberley Manning. Her story of being in Corporate Finance and starting over after divorce provides us with some great insight into the challenges that we woman face.

We talk about how easy it is to fall into solitude, autopilot, and survival mode, Yes - I've been there.

We touch on the importance of knowing and believing in self, understanding our very own resiliency. I love how we can all share what we wish we knew sooner in our lives, as this is empowerment for others going through something similar. So, pay attention my wonderful peeps as she shares the importance of having the right people on your bus and what that looks like.

This brings us to another great takeaway which is how our pride and ego get in the way, how they can show up and not serve us well. Stay tuned you don't want to miss this episode.

Here are the ways you can get in touch with Kimberely Manning who is a Financial Consultant, Life & Transformational Coach, she can be reached on Instagram @wealth_insideout and on LinkedIn

Today's show is all about investing, but we are taking a different spin on it than money. It's time we women invest in ourselves. Wow, even just repeating those words investing in self makes me squeamish. I am excited to have Erin Vogt with us today to talk about why we feel this way and tips and tricks to put ourselves first in line. Erin Vogt is a transformation coach for women who holds a bachelor's degree in social work. She helps women take back ownership of their lives as she leads from her heart of knowing what burnout and depression overwhelm feels like as she has been on her very own wellness journey. She has lived it and uses her pain to bring out her purpose.  

We will tackle the hot topic of self-care and that you don't need permission to do it.

Push past the shame and guilt - get first in line.

You are called to something greater each and every one of you.

Everyone is called to do life in a community, be a part of Erin's here are the links below to empower you to reach freedom.

https://www.erinvogt.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-vogt-coaching/

https://www.instagram.com/erincoaches/

https://www.facebook.com/releasefromstress

So very excited to bring to you today our first guest on the Sharing the Manual Podcast, Krista Malden. She is a remarkable human, not to mention a rockstar. She originated in the music industry, a founder and publisher of Community Now Magazine, which you should check out if you haven't already! Her love for storytelling comes through in all her work. She wears many hats and is a mom and a drummer.

Krista and I have had multiple conversations about mental health and wellness, trying to make this world a better place by building a community around conversations. She will be sharing with us today that it is okay NOT to be okay. But, of course, we all share from the point of living our very own journey.

This is a hard story for anyone to tell because to tell it you have to admit that at some point you were not ok. And most people don’t realize they aren’t ok - when they aren’t ok until it’s too overwhelming. If you are “living” in the not ok space … everyday… that’s hard. (On all aspects of our lives…health, wellness, work, social, family…)

Imagine having the good and evil on your shoulders yelling at you from both directions, imagine fighting your own mind.

Being ok with not being ok Is complicated and it means we have to own how we feel Right now … and be ok with how we feel right now.

I’ll be the first to admit I’m not there.

Build your community of support, try people on - I just love this!

Being ok with not being ok means acceptance of the moment. Breathe it, live it, release it…accepting it is the key.

I, too, asked her what her favourite quote is, as it sheds some insight into her heart. "Until thought is linked with purpose, there is no intelligent accomplishment." James Allen.

The topic for today's episode came about rather organically. As it turns out, my life is a guinea pig in my line of work. I help people talk about money, emotions, and emotions around money, and I help them reach their financial finish lines. 

I talk about money stories, our old money narratives and how we must dismantle subconscious patterns to reach financial wholeness. I love what I do and spend my days helping people protect what is most important, their loved ones, and to live out their money differently. Now I say this because my husband, who listens to me prepare speeches workshops and is aware of my money workbook, completely caught me off guard when he purchased a truck without discussing the matter. Oh ya, that happened; he went to the bank, got himself a line of credit and decided to trade in his current vehicle for a truck.

This being said, I had to pull some statistics on money and relationships it was alarming. And so we bring you today some tools, tips and tricks on how we can have the hard conversations with our partners. How have you lived out your money through filters?

What you were told, learned, experienced, and believed to be true. Your partner also has these filters in which they do life and their money. Stay tuned as we help families navigate yours, mine and ours when it comes to blended families. Financial compatibility does not mean you need to go looking for a partner with the same financial standing as yourself - or that you need to kick someone to the curb because they don't earn enough money. Rather, this kind of compatibility has much more to do with your respective attitudes towards and habits surrounding money.

I have been working on this one for weeks. I didn’t even know it was a thing until it was a thing, and then as I spoke aloud of my very own struggle with it – what do you know many others felt as though I was reading their mind. 

What the hell, and here I thought it was just me being all crazy and shit. Many of you have heard me talk about picking your friends carefully as you are on average a sum of the five people you spend the most time with. I have also said that your friends and your community can either make or break your finances. I believe this to be true also. What I didn’t know to be true is that we woman I can only speak for us as I have not inquired regarding the mind of men. We woman long for close friendships, belonging, and a sense of community but, guess how many of us women feel alone, and isolated – now granted I know that covid hasn’t helped all of this I get that. Oh, my word the number of women that resonated with a quick video that I had on my social opened this can of worms. 

I unpack the struggles and give some tangible takeaways for you to build your very own community of awesome humans.