She Did It Her Way

SDIHW 028 – Lyn Filbey

Setting Intentions and Making Sacrifices

Lyn is a Broker Associate at Baird & Warner selling luxury real estate in Chicago. She has a fascinating story on the journey she took and the hustle she maintained to get to a place she wanted to be in her life with positive self-talk, ambitions intention setting, and a lot of hard work. In this episode we dive deep with Lyn’s story on how she eased her way out of a lifestyle she knew, wasn’t what she wanted, how she made sacrifices to achieve her goals, and continues to set intentions and make it known to herself and others every single day.

We talk about:

·         Her time in grad school and second thoughts on becoming a physical therapist

·         Building a business then letting it go

·         Writing intentions, goal setting, and visualization boards

·         Her introduction into real estate, investing, and getting her license

·         Going out on her own – burning the candle at both ends

·         Downsizing and listening to her gut instincts

·         Updating and making affirmations more objective

·         How she budgeted and thought about what expenses to cut out of her lifestyle and what she needed to be successful

·         Her fears around making the decision to take control of her life

·         Easy steps to setting intentions

Notable Quotables:

“When I was in grad school I just knew I wasn’t where I needed to be. I could see myself being somewhere else.”

“We wrote our affirmations and very quickly saw changes happening in our lives just from writing out these goals.”

“I just knew that I was going to have my own business and I was going to be an entrepreneur, by hook or by crook.”

“All the hours I was working at the clinic was just to maintain this lifestyle. What was the point?”

“As much as those little things make you feel good, it doesn’t make you feel as good as having a good night’s rest.”

“I realized, looking back, that everything that I had done [through setting intentions] had led up to this point.”

“Taking a risk and being reckless are two very different things.”

“Every little thing that was not a necessity had to go.”

“I just knew that I had to hustle.”
 

“I knew that if every day I put in 100%, even if I had to walk away in 6 months and go back to doing physical therapy, at least I knew I’d given it a shot, and at least I knew I had tried. Because I did not want to live my life regretting it.”

“When you do the hard work and you’re productive every single day, it’s hard to get impatient.”

“Self-talk, positive affirmations, and putting in the work”

Intention Setting Lesson:

What is it that you want for your life? If you could have everything that you wanted to have, what would it look like? Write those goals down.

As things start to materialize you can be more specific.

Tell yourself, and tell others your intentions every day.

[Contact Lyn: LinkedIn, Facebook (Lyn Filbey Realty), Twitter (@FilbeyRealty), www.lynfilbey.bairdwarner.com]

Resources:

The Secret - Rhonda Byrne

The Power - Rhonda Byrne

Related Episodes:

• SDIHW 020: Design Your Future
• SDIHW 021: Get Massive Impact with Energy
• SDIHW 026: Exiting the 9-to-5 and Living the Life She Desires

Ep. 27 – Anne Ricketts Founder of Lighthouse Communications

Master Public Speaking Unapologetically

Lighthouse Communications is a company dedicated to helping their clients achieve a higher level of communication. They do communication training for the ever-growing global workforce and coach one on one or in group settings. The company also focuses on presentation skills and workshops for women. Anne's company has some impressive clients as well! Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and Netflix, to name a few.

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“Saying yes to opportunities. Believing in yourself that you’ll figure it out as you go.”

[Connect with Anne: Lighthouse Communications, Facebook, Twitter (@RickettsAnne), YouTube - Lighthouse Communications, [email protected] ([email protected])]

We Talk About:

• How she got started in building Lighthouse Communications

• The evolvement of her business from English as a Second Language workshops to public speaking workshops for everyone

• Her workshops for women and the unique challenges women have in male-dominated fields

• Women often give credit to other people for their accomplishments or feeling qualified

• Building awareness of how much we (women) apologize or use disclaimers

• How she built her courses and workshops

• Presentation preparation tips, how to hook your audience, and storytelling

• Building blocks of a presentation including the No-No’s – Get our free printable to prepare for your next presentation (below)!

• The evolution of public speaking and how we (surprisingly) used to do it better

• The Pursuit of Persuasion for women

• Keep your emails brief and concise. Start with your point, bold it, then explain. Don’t take a no-response personal. Follow up (unapologetically).

Notable Quotes:

“Fully own your credibility”

“People are going to think what they think anyway so just go for it and project the most confidence that you can.”

When you give a presentation, start off strong. Start off with a story. Don’t start off by introducing yourself or going over housekeeping items.

“You need to be yourself”

“Just because you’re the speaker doesn’t mean you need to memorize, talk endlessly and get through your script. It’s more important that you’re connecting and how you connect is just to be yourself.”

“Be a passionate conversationalist.”

“It’s more important that you’re connecting to your audience and being human than being perfectly memorized.”

“We haven’t thought through our content before we start to speak. So we’re figuring it out as we speak.”

“Assume the best and don’t take things personally. Just follow up.”

Recommended Reading:

• Lean In – Sheryl Sandberg (chapter 6)

• As We Speak – Peter Meyers and Shann Nix

• The Power of Vulnerability – Brene Brown

• TED Talks (we love these!)

[Connect with Anne: Lighthouse Communications, Facebook, Twitter (@RickettsAnne), YouTube - Lighthouse Communications, [email protected] ([email protected])]

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• SDIHW 011: The Power of Partnership
• SDIHW 021: Get Massive Impact with Energy
• SDIHW 023: Meaningful Marketing

Ep. 26 Steph Crowder

Exiting the 9-to-5 and Living the Life She Desires

Steph is a go-getter lady boss who has found some serious success, first within the corporate world, and even more-so outside of it. She knew there was something more after attaining the impressive position of Head of Sales Training and Development at Groupon, at the age of 26. While in that position, Steph created her own coaching business, Miss Corner Office, and has most recently found herself in the position of FizzleCo’s Director of Member Success.

FizzleCo is an online business training community for entrepreneurs.

Here’s what we talk about:

• Steph starts by sharing her story after college and how she knew there had to be more out there

• We talk about how she started her career coaching business Miss Corner Office

• Steph’s introduction to Fizzle.co and how she created the life that she has always wanted

• Exiting Corporate America and the 6th month window to leaving

• Letting go of the money and ego and challenging your identity

• Excuses we make to protect ourselves and limiting beliefs

“Deep down, I think I just knew that corporate was not going to work for me”

“I could not get past the idea that I would never be in control of my schedule 5 out of 7 days of the week.”

“I felt like I was on this desperate hunt for an alternative lifestyle”

“I just sat in my car and I was like ‘I can do this! If they can do that, why can’t I do it?’”

Once you start challenging your career you start challenging everything else in your life

“If you really do want something […] Once you decide and really believe that you can do that and focus on it, I think your mind opens up to different possibilities.”

“I’m going to find the right thing for me that allows me to live the kind of life that I want.”

“I was still feeling like I was showing up some place, not necessarily doing my life’s work, and trying to live my ‘best’ life in the margins.”

From an ego perspective, the tank was definitely full, but from an intuitive perspective, my heart, and passion – that part just didn’t necessarily feel right.

“I wanted to find the type of work that made me feel like I wanted to be in it for the long haul.”

“I couldn’t have known if it was going to turn out the way that it did, but it was worth taking the risk.”

“If you really want to design your life, you can find a way to make those tradeoffs and make it happen.”

Book Recommendation: Daring Greatly – Brene Brown

[Connect with Steph: at Fizzle.co, Twitter, Instagram (stephcrowder_)]

Resources from This Episode:

Thefoxandshe.com

The Lively Show (Jess Lively)

Smart Passive Income (Pat Flynn)

JessLively.com/feelinglost

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• SDIHW 020: Design Your Future
• SDIHW 023: Meaningful Marketing
• SDIHW 029: Create & Cultivate (a behind the scenes look)

SDIHW 025: Hoddy Potter

Career and Life Changes (a deep-dive on franchising)

Owner of two Bar Method studios in Kansas City, 35-year old mother of three, and a stage-four cancer survivor.

Bar Method is a low-weigh, high-intensity exercise classes creating hot bodies and supporting women.

Strong women, strong bodies, strong minds.

“I hated my job as a lawyer, and I had fallen in love with this bar method thing”

We talk about:

• Her move from San Francisco to the Midwest (Kansas)

• Franchising – The what, where, who, and how

• How Hoddy made the decision to open up a Bar Method

  • From client, to desk clerk, to teacher, to “micro-investor”, to franchiser

“You might love the sandwich that you just ate for lunch, but you should probably buy 100 sandwiches before you go open a Subway franchise.”

• How opening up a franchise works

• The decision to open a 2nd Bar Method and the changes that came from expanding

• Staying ahead of the curve

“We, as a community, have done something really great and we touch hundreds and hundreds of women every day.”

“The ability for exercise to change people’s lives is pretty amazing and pretty tremendous.”

Bar Method Class:

• VIP customer service

• Childcare and showers provided

• New class members get paired with more seasoned members for help

• Classes are 60-minutes: A 1-hour strength training interval class

• Light weights (2-3lb), a lot of upper body work and light leg work

• Normally work in 1 inch range-of-motion and isometric holds

• Muscle work and stretching

“We try to accommodate and give everybody the ability to take classes without excuses.”

Advice: Carve out time for yourself!

Just take downtime. If you’re stressed, that stress response can come out in different ways. – Hoddy chooses meditation.

Book Recommendation: Lean In – Sheryl Sandberg

[Connect with Hoddy: [email protected], Bar Method Kansas City Facebook]

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• SDIHW 007: Finding Your Strength
• SDIHW 017: Creating a Consumer Product Like a Boss
• SDIHW 022: Fulfillment and Challenges: A Non Profit's Story

SDIHW 024: Kit Graham

Self-Publishing & Establishing an Engaged Community (a blogger turned jack-of-all-trades) with Kit Graham

Blogger at The Kittchen:: Where she shares recipes, restaurant reviews, and travel stories.

“I’m always 2 weeks ahead of the game so I can drop everything to do a project if I need to”

Self-Published Author of The Gourmet Grilled Cheese Cookbook:: Self-explanatory… YUM!

Founder of the Windy City Blogger Collective:: Professional organization and community for Chicago-area bloggers. They host events, workshops, and pair bloggers with opportunities.

Freelance work:: Photography, social media, etc. etc. etc. (!!)

“I’m not one of those people that just does one thing, and I think that’s where a lot of careers are going these days”

We talk about:

• How Kit (didn’t) start her blog – Blogs for birthdays?! Okay!

• How Kit self-published her Grilled Cheese Cookbook

  • Formatting and design

  • Choosing a publisher

  • Marketing and publicity

  • Cost breakdown

  • Vook now Pronoun.com (ebook formatter)

  • Hurdles she encountered

“Somehow I got the ambitious idea that I would write a book.”

Kit’s Warning: Word.doc files can become so big they can’t actually be saved

Kit’s Publishing Advice: Make sure you really want to publish a book and you understand the time that will be involved

“I think that there were definitely people out there that doubted me, and that made me want it more.”

Windy City Blogger Collective:

• How it developed and grew

• The biggest surprise from creating this community

• Setting up events and working with sponsors

• Recruiting and retaining engaged members

• Membership and commitment

• What is next for the collective

“The internet can be a mean scary place but we’re trying to change that culture.”

“We’re trying to promote a friendly space on the internet where people can educate, inspire, and collaborate.”

“Microbloggers”, blogging trends, and a blogger tip (hint hint: pitch back - get paid!)

Kit’s “Old School” Resources: Editorial calendar notebook, pen & paper planner, to-do list

Book Recommendation: Lean In – Sheryl Sandberg

[Connect with Kit: thekittchen.com, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and Snapchat (@thekittchen), [email protected], windycitybloggers.com, and [email protected]]

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• SDIHW 010: Social Media Effectiveness
• SDIHW 014: Launching an Online Store