My very special guest on the podcast today is Amy Rowland, host of the ‘Fashionably Late’ podcast, and founder of Varia Search, a boutique legal recruiting firm that fills legal department roles, from general counsel to paralegal. The road that Amy took to her current positions is an incredibly interesting and inspiring one that I can’t wait for you to hear. She is truly a badass whose pursuit of her passion in life didn’t exactly work out the way she hoped, and today she describes the pivoting she did to find happiness, and the remarkable success that she has achieved as a result.

Throughout our conversation, Amy details her history from her start in following her passion for playing tennis, through her pivot to coaching and teaching, her subsequent pivot to becoming a lawyer, and her most recent decision to start her own recruiting business. Along the way, she offers her sage advice for listeners, explores the potential for fear of transition or failure, and shares the biggest hurdle she faces, what motivates her, and the importance of balance in life. Amy Rowland, as you will discover today, is a living testament to the power of not settling, someone who understands that what you end up doing in life can become your passion, and I know that you will be as excited and inspired as I was when you listen to her incredible story here today.

Speaking of passion and inspiration, this episode finds us in the aftermath of the election won by Joe Biden and Kamala Harris, and I found so much to admire in the words they shared after their victory, particularly Kamala’s call to ‘dream with ambition, lead with conviction’. That’s precisely what we do here at She Doesn’t Settle, and what you will experience fully in my two new exciting initiatives. So, just to remind you, on November 18 at 4:00 p.m. PST, I’m hosting a free workshop called ‘Discover Your Unedited Desires’, where, in community with other amazing folks just like you, we’ll discover what you really want, especially as we head into a new year. Be sure to check out that link below as well, and mark your calendar for this important and ultimately rewarding event.

The Finer Details of This Episode:

•   Amy’s history
•   Her transition from tennis to law
•   Amy’s advice about switching careers
•   The pandemic and people reflecting on what makes them happy
•   The role of tennis in her life now
•   Amy’s current work
•   Fear of transition and what others might think
•   Amy’s biggest hurdle
•   Something she has changed her mind about recently
•   COVID’s role in Amy’s decision to start her own company
•   What motivates her the most
•   The importance of balance in life
•   Her vision for the launch of her own business
•   Her advice for those who are ‘stuck in that loop, trying to find their passion right now and struggling’
•   The importance of soul searching, testing the waters, and shadowing someone
•   Amy’s thoughts on internal motivation and fear of failure

Quotes:

“Coaching tennis is very different from playing.”

“It’s my passion, I’m going to make it work.”

“Take the blinders off…you have to expand your world.”

“People can really do anything.”

“Body, mind, spirit is so important.”

“I view myself more as a matchmaker because I’m really trying to make a match between the company and the candidate who is the lawyer…I love what I do.”

“We don’t have to pigeonhole ourselves into one thing and make it work.”

“There was a lot of soul searching.”

“I want everybody to make the choices you’ve made.”

“When my own, like, barometer…is telling me I’m happy…it shouldn’t matter what others think.”

“That motivates me - how would I create a world where I get to spend time with my family, run a successful business, self-care, all those things.

“You have a choice, and you can make things happen. You’ve got to work for it…but at the end of the day it is possible.”

“If you never find your passion, that’s okay.”

“You can turn what you end up doing into your passion.”

“You don’t, you know, stop going into something because you’re afraid of failing.”

“I think it is so important to recognize not only that it doesn’t have to look this perfect certain way, and that it doesn’t matter how old you are, you can make changes anytime.”

Show Links:

Discover Your Unedited Desires FREE Workshop: sign up

Varia Search

Fashionably Late

Amy Rowland Coaching

Today, I want to bring you yet another important episode, and one that is particularly relevant as we enter November, hot on the heels of our election, and as we continue to deal with everything that 2020 has brought us throughout the year. Cognitive flexibility, including the ways in which it shows up and helps us, and some ways to build it, is our highly pertinent topic today. It truly is a crucial skill to have, especially these days, so let’s dive in and learn more about it, and how to develop it.

I’ll begin by defining cognitive flexibility, share some examples of how it helps us, and describe the traits that are found in those who possess high levels of it. We’ll also explore the mental tension that is caused when trying to entertain two conflicting ideas, and the role that cognitive flexibility plays in being able to see another’s perspective. Perhaps most importantly, I’ll offer 5 ways to build up your cognitive flexibility, and ask you to select one to focus on, or double down on, over the coming weeks and share your feedback with me. As you will discover, cognitive flexibility is key to helping us navigate, pivot, and adapt, which are, of course, essential skills at all times, but particularly so in these trying and turbulent times.

And don’t forget, in an effort to back up what I’m sharing, I’m creating a new community specifically for She Doesn’t Settle listeners that is NOT on social media. Check out the link below to access my 90 days Slack trial community, and we’ll play with it together and see how it works. In other big news, on November 18 at 4:00 p.m. PST, I’m hosting a free workshop called ‘Discover Your Unedited Desires’, where, in community with other amazing folks just like you, we’ll discover what you really want, which is naturally so very important these days. Be sure to check out that link below as well, and mark your calendar for this important and ultimately rewarding event.

The Finer Details of This Episode:

•   The definition of cognitive flexibility
•   Examples of how cognitive flexibility helps us
•   The traits displayed by those with high levels of cognitive flexibility
•   The mental tension caused by holding two conflicting ideas
•   Cognitive flexibility and the ability to see another’s perspective
•   5 ways to build up your cognitive flexibility
  

Quotes:

“This ability is generally considered part of the executive function of our brain.”

“You all know I use the word ‘pivot’ a lot. It is just a part of life.”

“Being cognitively flexible helps us to adapt and pivot and grow, however, for many people this is easier said than done.”

“Unlike our emotions, we are not changeable enough in our thoughts.”

“Being miserable in a pandemic is not going to teach the pandemic a lesson or change how the virus works or make you a better person.”

“You don’t have to suffer and struggle to be successful.”

“You can be grateful and also want more.”

“Shake up the routine.”

“It’s even better if you combine mental and physical learning at the same time.”

“The idea here is talk to new people, exchange ideas and information with people you don’t normally communicate with.”

“We protect ourselves from those challenging conversations when in reality they’re really, really necessary for us to build our cognitive flexibility.”

“Finding humor in a variety of situations is an exercise in flexible thinking.”

Show Links:

She Doesn’t Settle Slack link

Discover Your Unedited Desires FREE Workshop: sign up

Resources used for this episode: Dr. Daniel Amen article

Today’s topic, self-trust and how to build it, is one that I have been anxious to discuss with all of you for a while now, and which is particularly important these days, I feel. One thing that really bothers me lately is the fact that so many forces are at work to diminish our level of self-trust, generating a tendency to rely upon outside sources, programs, systems or products instead of our own instincts, our own gut feeling, when making decisions about our own lives. We really need to pause and examine how this may be showing up for each of us, and look at some ideas that can help us regain our trust in ourselves going forward.

I begin by looking at the impact that culture, society and marketing have upon our sense of self-trust and satisfaction, walking you through some ways to build that trust back, and inviting you to see which one resonates with you and to test it out. Along the way, I recommend revisiting a previous episode about boundaries if you think that would prove beneficial, explore some studies about the hippocampus and creating neuro growth within it, and the dangers inherent in an ‘all or nothing’ attitude. Woven throughout is the message that you are your own CEO and you have the power of choice regarding how you live your life. It’s time to take back control and start listening to our intuition, our gut feelings, and begin trusting ourselves again.

Remember, in an effort to back up what I’m sharing, I’m creating a new community specifically for She Doesn’t Settle listeners that is NOT on social media. Tune in to next week’s episode to get all the details!

The Finer Details of This Episode:

•   The impact of culture, society, and marketing on our sense of self-trust and satisfaction
•   Some ways to build self-trust
•   Selecting the advice that works for you
•   Refer back to the ‘Setting Boundaries’ episode (#48: 5 Ways to Practice Saying ‘No’)
•   Studies about the hippocampus and creating neuro growth within it
•   All or nothing thinking
  

Quotes:

“The problem with seeking advice is that it often pushes away what you already know to be true. And when we look outside of ourselves for answers, it actually creates more confusion.”

“We are all unique individuals, and we all need different things to operate and feel our best, and to be successful, and we shouldn’t all want the same thing, right?”

“If you’ve been so programmed to rely on systems and processes, diets and exercise programs that other people create, then you’re never going to think for yourself…you’re going to think that you can’t be successful on your own, and I think that’s bullshit.”

“A lack of faith or belief in ourselves shows up in the way we make ourselves do things. It really is the difference between being your own BFF and being your own worst enemy or critic.”

“Not everything I share is going to resonate - pieces of it might resonate…you can take what you want and leave the rest.”

“We have to be committed to ourselves more than other people.”

“Think about who you surround yourself with, who you look to for answers. Are there individuals that you can cut out?”

“It takes away some of that fear of failure because we have memories of things we’ve overcome, times we’ve been vulnerable and we’ve been okay.”

“We can’t rationalize intuition, but that is what so many of us try to do, and it’s why we struggle to listen to it, to tune into it.”

“If we sit with a feeling for 90 seconds instead of pushing it away, it will eventually leave.”

“Trust your gut.”

“If everything is so serious and there’s no fun, it’s going to lead to rebellion, and that’s what ultimately leads you to not trust yourself.”

“Those companies, those programs, make tons of money on the fact that they know that you don’t trust yourself and you’re going to rely on them for a hot minute until it doesn’t work anymore.”

“The more we can start to trust ourselves, the more we can trust others.”

“It’s only a failure if we don’t do anything with it.”

Show Links:

Kelly’s email

For upcoming events

This week, I want to have another important conversation with you on a topic that I’ve touched on before, and which, with everything going on in the world these days, I feel is currently more relevant than ever, namely, social media and the impact it has on our lives. As you may or may not know, there is a psychology behind the creation of these apps which is meant to generate an addiction to them, and one glance around any public space will show you just how successful they have become in this. Social media can have such a detrimental effect upon us, so today let’s explore exactly how it does what it does, and what you can do about it.

Having consulted a number of studies on the topic, I’ll share some striking information and statistics from them, as well as from other resources that I have found very useful. We’ll look at how these apps are designed, the aspects of our lives that they impact, and I’ll offer some steps and challenges you can undertake to help exercise control over them. You know my mission is to look out for you, your mental health, and the achievement of your goals in life, and I know how social media can hold you back in all these areas. Today, let’s start doing the work together to recognize and break the addiction, and continue the journey forward.

Remember, in an effort to back up what I’m sharing, I’m creating a new community specifically for She Doesn’t Settle listeners that is NOT on social media. Tune in to next week’s episode to get all the details!

The Finer Details of This Episode:

•   Statistics and information from various studies regarding social media
•   Some information from the film, ‘The Social Dilemma’
•   Information from Adam Atler’s Irresistible The Rise of Addictive Technology and the Business of Keeping Us Hooked, and Catherine Price’s How to Break Up With Your Phone
•   The ways in which social media impacts us
•   Kelly’s challenge to listeners
•   Attentional Disengagement
•   What you can do to counter social media’s impact

Quotes:

“The…tech experts that work within these apps, they actually don’t let their kids near technology that they write or use themselves.”

“It is designed to be addictive.”

“You have this need to check it.”

“It’s designed to break down your willpower.”

“The problems began with the ‘like button’.”

“It has made it harder for people to tolerate boredom, to tolerate quiet and stillness.”

“The act of taking a photograph impairs people’s memory of the event.”

“It can also lead to the development of mental health issues such as anxiety and depression when used too much or without caution.”

“You’re comparing yourself to other people.”

“We’re trying to be present, we’re trying to not be distracted.”

“Reclaim your time.”

“I need to tuck those far away.”

“Let’s set some ground rules…give yourself some space.”

“There was a time we didn’t have them, remember?”

“Pay for your news.”

“Go vote. Make a plan. Go vote, go vote.”

Show Links:

Kelly’s email

Julia Soares study

Irresistible

How to Break Up With Your Phone

Jessica Yellin

Today’s conversation is one that I’ve wanted to have with all of you for a while now. Narcissism, and especially being in a relationship with a narcissist, is a hard topic and a hugely important one that I see in my work a lot, and which I have experienced personally. These days, I can see that it is a condition that is making a lot of people sick, so, in this episode, we’ll explore what it is, what it looks like, and what you can do about it.

We begin by exploring the pattern that narcissism follows, what it is exactly, the traits it possesses, as well as a common misconception about it. Drawing upon information from Dr. Ramani among other sources, we’ll examine the four types of narcissism, some tactics that narcissists use, and what you can do if you are in a relationship with a narcissist or you know someone who is. Above all else, I need to emphasize that if you feel you are in such a relationship, and it is escalating to the point where you do not feel safe, please ask for help, make a phone call, and get out. Your health has to come first, and that is precisely what today’s difficult but incredibly important episode is all about.

Remember, too, if you need help ensuring that you’re taking care of yourself, building your resilience, keeping up momentum with your goals, setting boundaries, or even if you just want to chat, please feel free to send me an email at [email protected] or DM me at https://www.instagram.com/kellythealth/ or join my free FB group The Goal-Getter’s Club at https://www.facebook.com/groups/goalgettersclubkellythealth/

The Finer Details of This Episode:

-   The pattern of narcissism

-   Kelly’s experience of dealing with narcissism

-   A common misconception about narcissism

-   Narcissism and its traits

-   Dr. Ramani’s information about narcissism

-   The four types of narcissism

-   Some tactics that narcissists use

-   What you can do about narcissism

Quotes:

“Being in this relationship for a long period of time…can result in some PTSD.”

“I felt like I was going crazy until a therapist told me that I wasn’t.”

“Research shows that a small amount of self-centeredness and confidence is actually healthy.”

“It took me a while to recognize the manipulation…once you do, then you can start to respond better.”

“Narcissists…are made not born.”

“They’re actually driven by shame.”

 “They use their empathy to tune into what pleases you and, in doing so, they find validation.”

“Look at the great things I’ve done for everybody in the world. Please give me credit.”

“Boundaries don’t work.”

“What it leads to is the victim beginning to question what she actually said a minute ago. It’s awful.”

“It is a mental rollercoaster.”

“They will do anything they can to get what they want.”

“They know how to put on a show and provoke you to feel sorry for them.”

“What you want to understand and really focus on is the fact that you are in control of your life no matter how they treat you.”

“Therapy is always, always recommended.”

Show Links:

Kelly’s email

Have you joined my free Facebook community - The Goal-Getter’s Club? Join here

I am so excited to welcome you to the 50th episode of the She Doesn’t Settle podcast, quite a milestone to reach given everything that we’ve all had to deal with in 2020 so far. To celebrate, I have a very important topic to discuss - in fact it was the main topic of my recent Ascend Mastermind retreat - and it’s one which is always relevant, but particularly so for this past year: resilience. Identifying our own resilience and understanding the ways it impacts so many aspects of your life is crucial, and that is precisely what we will undertake in this very special episode.

I’ll start by defining resilience, demonstrating the difference in people who have or don’t have it, and we’ll look at a couple of studies that have been done about it. I’ll explain growth mindset and the two ways resilience is derived, as well as present some examples of questions you need to ask yourself, and emphasize the importance of having and utilizing a support system. Much of the episode is devoted to exploring the 5 things that contribute to resilience that you may not usually consider, and I also share some personal stories from my own life to help illustrate some of the information shared. If 2020 has taught us anything, it is the need for resilience when facing challenges, and I hope that the ideas and advice presented here today will help you to flex your resilience muscles, and not simply survive difficult times, but to thrive within and beyond them.

If you need help building your resilience, keeping up momentum with your goals, setting boundaries, ensuring that you’re taking care of yourself, or even if you just want to chat, please feel free to send me an email at [email protected] or DM me at https://www.instagram.com/kellythealth/ or join my free FB group The Goal-Getter’s Club at https://www.facebook.com/groups/goalgettersclubkellythealth/

The Finer Details of This Episode:

-   Defining resilience

-   The differences in people with and without resilience

-   An Ohio State University study on resilience

-   What makes a person resilient

-   Growth mindset

-   The two ways that resilience is derived

-   Asking yourself questions about your resilience

-   A study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology

-   The importance of having and utilizing a support system

-   5 things that contribute to resilience

Quotes:

“In a sense, resilience is basically doing really well when you shouldn’t be.”

“It’s about growing even during that down time, and it can be life changing in many ways.”

“What is important to acknowledge is that it’s a process, and we have to cultivate some of those strengths and we have to tap into what we know our weaknesses are and grow those as well.”

“Part of resilience is being comfortable being uncomfortable.”

“Americans overestimated their resilience by a lot.”

“If we don’t recognize that we have these weaknesses, if we’re ignoring them, we’re going to get tripped up when we are faced with a challenge, big or small.”

“If we work on the things that we’re weaker at, and we continue to grow the things that we’re strong in, we’re going to beef up those resilient muscles.”

“We want to minimize the control that fear has over us by managing that mind, regulating our emotions.”

“Being resilient is about how quickly you can bounce back.”

“Figure out what you need to ask yourself.”

“Resilience is not a solo job.”

“This is about, in the space you’re in, looking for some of the good.”

“We have to really let go of some of the criticism and the judgment and the berating we do of ourselves in the middle of a mess.”

“We can learn to trust ourselves in just little ways.”

“Focus on what you can control, and let go of what you can’t.”

“We have to be present to move through what is right in front of us.”

“You are capable, and you are powerful, and you have everything you need inside of you to overcome what gets thrown your way.”

Show Links:

Kelly’s email

Have you joined my free Facebook community - The Goal-Getter’s Club? Join here 

I cannot begin to tell you just how excited I am to introduce you to one incredible badass, author and illustrator Daria Peoples-Riley, on today’s episode. Daria is an author and illustrator whose books, as you will hear, are adored by children and adults alike.

We begin by checking in on how Daria is navigating all that is going on in the world these days, how 2020 has influenced her work, and details on her latest book, America, My Love, America, My Heart. Daria then discusses the responsibility of parents, teachers, and librarians to ‘decolonize their shelves’, recounts her professional history including her transition to writing full-time, and shares the stories behind her books and their themes. She also discusses how she battles the inner voice when writing, her perspective of illustrating, the importance of learning through process, and offers a glimpse into her upcoming project. She concludes this moving conversation by offering gratitude to those who have helped her, especially The Highlights Foundation, and offers advice on how listeners can in turn help Black authors and artists. Daria Peoples is truly a gift, and my sincere hope is that today’s profound conversation with this amazing lady will inspire you not only to think and consider your own next chapter, but to also diversify your bookshelf, to support your children’s school in representing diversity and inclusion, and to make your contribution, as Daria states, ‘so that we can reclaim what America is’.

As always, if you need help keeping up momentum with your goals, setting boundaries, ensuring that you’re taking care of yourself, or even if you just want to chat, please feel free to send me an email at [email protected] or DM me at https://www.instagram.com/kellythealth/ or join my free FB group The Goal-Getter’s Club at https://www.facebook.com/groups/goalgettersclubkellythealth/

The Finer Details of This Episode:

-   How Daria is navigating what’s going on in the world these days

-   How 2020 has influenced her work

-   Daria’s new book, America, My Love, America, My Heart

-   The responsibility of parents, teachers and librarians to ‘decolonize those shelves’

-   Daria’s professional history

-   Her transition from teaching to writing full time

-   The story behind each of her books and the themes within them

-   How Daria battles the inner voice when she writes

-   Her perspective on illustrating

-   The importance of learning through the process

-   Daria’s upcoming project and how it was inspired

-   The Highlights Foundation

-   How to help support Black authors and artists

Quotes:

“I’ve had to insulate myself sometimes and only receive and take in what I can tolerate.”

“When I sat down with my own eight-year-old self to write this book, the problem was racism and bias and discrimination, but I couldn’t find the solution.” 

“They are timely questions and they are timeless questions, I think, that children of color have in those similar situations.”

“The unfortunate thing is that it’s always timely in the world that we live in.”

“I think that it’s important that we also understand the reality of who we are as America so that we can reclaim what America is.”

“Once I recognized it as a dream, all of my choices from that point out were dictated by the dream.”

“I also believe that the dream has to come first before anything else, so I would wake up before the real job started so that the dream got the best of me.”

“I think that my faith comes into play a lot when it comes to what I feel is a calling. So, I feel like where I am small, God steps in and makes me much bigger.”

“I think it was important to me to be true to who I was.”

“First we tell ourselves the truth, then we tell it to the children.”

“People are more interested in the product than they are the process, and I think we teach our kids that, unfortunately…but, it’s what we’re learning through the process that is really getting us from, like, mountaintop to mountaintop.”

“I feel like a lot of the suffering comes from feeling like we’re not home.”

“I don’t know that the journey ever ends…this planet, this Earth is not my home.”

“I think that that’s where everyone who is outside of the group should begin, is by listening to our stories and stories that we’re creating…believe what we say when we say it and how we tell our stories.”

Show Links:

Kelly’s email

Have you joined my free Facebook community - The Goal-Getter’s Club? Join here 

Daria’s homepage:   https://www.dariapeoples.com/

Daria’s Instagram:   https://www.instagram.com/dariaspeoples/?hl=en

Today, I’m excited to talk to you about the word ‘No’. My recent survey on Instagram revealed that a lot of folks in my audience have a hard time saying this small but mighty word. 

In today’s episode I begin by sharing my own experience with the inability to say ‘No’, what it can result in, and the role it plays in the habit of people pleasing. We’ll also look at the need to take care of yourself first, and differentiate between people pleasing and generosity. Mostly, though, together we’ll explore the 5 ways to practice and get comfortable with saying ‘No’ so that you can say ‘Yes’ to yourself, complete with examples from everyday life, and questions to ask yourself which will help immensely. If, like me, you’ve ever found yourself being afraid to say ‘No’, you really owe it to yourself to listen in today so that together we can work toward setting those boundaries that will allow you to take care of yourself and your goals and stop exhausting yourself by saying ‘Yes’ to everyone else.

Remember, too, that if you need help keeping up momentum with your goals, setting boundaries, ensuring that you’re taking care of yourself, or even if you just want to chat, please feel free to send me an email at [email protected] or DM me at https://www.instagram.com/kellythealth/ or join my free FB group The Goal-Getter’s Club at https://www.facebook.com/groups/goalgettersclubkellythealth/

The Finer Details of This Episode:

-   Kelly’s experience with her inability to say ‘No’

-   The results of being unable to say ‘No’

-   People pleasing

-   Taking care of yourself first

-   The difference between people pleasing and generosity

-   5 ways to practice and get comfortable with saying ‘No’ so that you can say ‘Yes’ to yourself

-   Questions to ask yourself

Quotes:

“I lived in this constant state of overwhelm, exhaustion, resentment, guilt, and the reason why is because I couldn’t say ‘No’.”

“At a basic level a lot of this comes from people pleasing.”

“This issue can be debilitating.”

“People pleasers basically become subservient to others out of that desire for approval.”

“There’s, like, no magic combination of words that is going to solve that problem.”

“It’s like we’re protecting the other person.”

“You’re going to be able to say ‘No’ in a calm way and with integrity when you know how you want to feel and what you want to believe.”

“I was taught to replace ‘sorry’ with ‘thank you’.”

“Every ‘No’ to someone else becomes a ‘Yes’ for your own goal or goals.”

“We’re just getting super clear and focused on where we should be saying ‘No’ and where we should be saying ‘Yes’.”

“”Practicing saying ‘No’ in small, like, unimportant situations, is super helpful.”

“You’ve got to give yourself the opportunity to assess if this is something that is in alignment with what you want.”

“Man, that brain fights dirty.”

“I know how hard this is, but I also know how powerful it is.” 

Show Links:

Have you joined my free Facebook community - The Goal-Getter’s Club? Join here 

Email Kelly

Just Not Sorry

Studies

I am so excited to introduce you to another of my Ascend members, Kate Billings, in today’s episode. Kate is the founder of Bewitching Content, a business where she offers ghostwriting, developmental editing, book coaching, and content strategy services, furthering a love of books and writing which began in her childhood. As a child, she loved writing in secret, but, surrounded by adults who told her she could never make a living at it, Kate followed their advice and instead spent her time working on other people’s dreams rather than her own. However, in the past year, Kate has shifted significantly, and today you get a front row seat to this inspiring story.

Kate begins by sharing the story of her journey to her current situation, and along the way recounts the transitions she has made over the past year, the joy of finally considering herself a ‘real writer’, and finally earning what she is actually worth. We then explore a theme from a book I sent to Kate, Elizabeth Gilbert’s Big Magic, the self-care routines that allow her to thrive, and the non-negotiables in her life which revealed themselves during the pandemic this year. Our conversation concludes with an examination of creativity in its many forms, and Kate’s advice to others finding themselves in the position she once experienced. If you have ever imagined a story where you get to make a living doing what you love, and, if like Kate, you have ever been told there’s no space for your story, then, believe me, this interview is definitely for you.

As always, and especially as we head into the Fall and all that entails, if you feel that you need additional support or just want to chat, please feel free to send me an email at [email protected] or DM me at https://www.instagram.com/kellythealth/ or join my free FB group The Goal-Getter’s Club at https://www.facebook.com/groups/goalgettersclubkellythealth/

The Finer Details of This Episode:

-   Kate’s journey to where she is now

-   The transitions that she has made

-   Becoming a ‘real’ writer

-   Kate’s evolution as a professional writer and earning what she deserves

-   Elizabeth Gilbert’s Big Magic

-   The self-care routines that allow Kate to thrive

-   The non-negotiables in her life now

-   Creativity’s many different forms

-   Kate’s advice for others

Quotes:

“I really felt exhausted from writing things that were not really creative.”

“I decided to launch my business in the worst possible moment of all recent history, but it was a good time for me.”

“The whole world stopped so it gave me an opportunity to stop and think about what I wanted to do.”

“What’s really impressed me is the quality of clients that I’m receiving now after developing my website and thinking about that strategic direction instead of just accepting, you know, what I was getting offered.”

“I am a real, real writer.”

“I was really spending a lot of time on other people’s dreams.”

“It’s really changed spending the majority of my time on things that I care about.”

“In reality you can be really freaking happy and love what you do and make a living out of it, if you step fully into it, which is what you’re doing.”

“This is what I do and it’s my living, and people will pay for it.”

“We get to be the CEO of our body, of our life.”

“Sometimes you really just have to do things to keep your energy up and to refuel you.”

“I choose to amplify marginalized voices.”

Show Links:

Have you joined my free Facebook community - The Goal-Getter’s Club? Join here 

Email Kelly

Bewitching Content:

Homepage

Facebook

Instagram

Today, I’d like to share a resource with all of you that I’ve been following for well over 6 months now, and which has been helping me immensely. Alisa Vitti’s book, In The FLO, is simply amazing as it demonstrates how we can take back control, and in fact leverage, our hormones and our cycles to actually have more energy and focus, and less anxiety, bloating, and all those other less than positive aspects. For far too long, we’ve been told to simply accept that we will feel shitty during our periods, but today, the work of hormone guru and period whisperer, Alisa Vitti, demonstrates that this isn’t the case at all, and that, in order to enjoy greater long term health, we can and need to understand and exert control over our cycles. The book’s Cycle Syncing system is all about not settling anymore for all that we have been taught in the past about our hormones, and it has become a bible for me - I feel certain that it will for you as well. If you are a woman who is beyond her reproductive years, you will still learn from this episode as I discuss how your body can thrive too.

I begin by examining the traditional reasons that women have been suffering for so long in this area, and go on to introduce infradian rhythm and the 6 key systems of the body over which it governs. I also go into some depth about the 4 phases which Alisa identifies, and share her recommendations for planning nutrition, workouts, and work during each phase. These recommendations reflect the underlying message that men and women have different biological and hormonal rhythm and, as such, we cannot continue to address each of these areas the same, regardless of what we have been taught in the past. At the end I also  introduce some of the other areas that Alisa covers in her book, and briefly describe the MyFLO Tracker app that I use as well.

As always, and especially as we head into the Fall and all that entails, if you feel that you need additional support or just want to chat, please feel free to send me an email at [email protected] or DM me at https://www.instagram.com/kellythealth/ or join my free FB group The Goal-Getter’s Club at https://www.facebook.com/groups/goalgettersclubkellythealth/

The Finer Details of This Episode:

-   Reasons why women are suffering

-   The infradian rhythm and the 6 key systems of the body it governs

-   The difference in biological and hormone rhythm between men and women

-   The four phases and recommendations for planning nutrition, workouts, and work for each of them

-   Other areas that Alisa covers in the book

-   The MyFLO Tracker app

Quotes:

“The bottom line is we’re not supposed to feel like shit around our period, and the problem is it’s become just a norm.”

“We’re using diet, fitness, time management plans that are designed for men, and…they have different biological and hormone rhythm.”

“I really love this approach because it gives you permission to take care of yourself.”

“Ambitious women, we tend to just feel like we have to go and do and be all the things 24/7, and if we feel like crap, we just push through it, because we have to.”

“The US Women’s Soccer team players follow this timing of their cycles to map out the most effective training and resting schedule.”

“If you do the same workouts at the same intensity all the time, you will gain weight and lose lean muscle.”

“The medical results don’t lie.”

“Here’s literally a book, a method, that is saying, ‘Please rest while you’re on your period’.”

“We literally have to reprogram everything we’ve been taught to believe about how we should be doing things.”

“We have to have a plan. We have to know where we are in our cycle. And we have to listen - ask ourselves how we feel.”

“We have added advantages if we use these phases the right way.”

“We want to honor those cycles in business just as much as we want to honor them when it comes to our food and our fitness.”

“The message in all of this and what she says is to stop asking the question of ‘what’…and start asking the question of ‘when’.”

“Feeling the benefits has really allowed me to continue to do it.”

Show Links:

Have you joined my free Facebook community - The Goal-Getter’s Club? Join here 

Email Kelly

In the FLO homepage

MyFLO Tracker app