She Said We Shed

In this episode Aja talks with Dylesia Hampton Barner, a Licensed Clincial Social Worker who help women recover from mother daughter trauma and raise mentally, emotionally, & spiritually healthy daughters. They discuss...

• What Dylesia's experienced with her mom and what lead her to say no more
• How going no contact equals me saving myself
• The key things to know when the relationship is not healthy

Listen in on this conversation to learn and understand what Dylesia has experienced throughout her life and how her experience can help you recognize if your relationships with your mother is unhealthy.

Ever wonder what makes a person totally cut off family members? In this episode Aja talks with Tia Jones, a Self-trust coach focused on helping mothers go no contact with their mother and define what motherhood looks like for them afterwards. We discuss...

• What Tia's relationship with her mother was like growing up
• The deciding factor that made her go no contact
• Flying monkeys: what they are and how to address them and so much more!

Listen in on this conversation to learn if no contact is something you think you may need to do in your future. At the very least, this conversation can give an understanding to those around you who have had to make the hard choice of no contact.

In this episode, Aja sits down with Jennifer Arnise, a healing facilitator who focuses on helping black women heal their mother wound. They explore what the black mother wound is, and how it impacts one’s entire life. Both women share personal stories about their own mother wounds and steps they’ve taken to begin the healing process. You’ll hear how daughters are more impacted than sons, you’ll learn how the simple act of validation shifts into healing, how trauma is held in the body and so much more.

The show has been on an unexpected pause. In this episode Aja shares why the pause, what's been happening for her during this time and where the show is going. We learn how old childhood trauma flared up to create. current reality that has been hard to live with and how she healed through the journey.

Mother's Day has come around again and whew, sis, it ain't all it's cracked up to be. We don't have to keep betraying ourselves for mom to feel good about herself. 

In this bonus episode, Aja dives into her Mother's Day journey with her mother, as a mother and in going no contact. In her sharing, she drops tools for how you can manage through the day so you feel good and remain in alignment with yourself.

And if you are a mother, Happy Mother's Day to you!

Head to the show notes page for more details about the show and ways to connect with Tiffany at www.SheSaidWeShed.com/podcast/9

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If you enjoy this podcast, share it with a friend! Be sure to rate and review us so others can find us and learn about it.

Share your thoughts or practice sessions through voice memo on the website: www.SheSaidWeShed.com

Black women with mama trauma, join our Facebook group, Healing Mama Trauma for the Culture: https://www.facebook.com/groups/shesaidweshed

Allies and friends who can relate and are touched by this work, join us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/SheSaidWeShedPodcast

Where has our compassion gone and how do we get it back? Aja explores compassion, the lack of it and how we can begin to address the lack of it; first with ourselves and then to those around us, especially our children.

Through personal stories of a forced, unwanted abortion, an epiphany while watching a trauma conference and a recent interaction with her son, Aja shows us the damage of the lack of compassion in mothering. She works to decipher where black moms began to "lose" their compassion and then explores ways to begin to be compassionate to ourselves again.

Aja digs into performative mothering to explore what falls under its umbrella, how it impacts you and what you can begin doing to heal from it. Aja identifies 2 aspects of performative mothering:

1. Mom acting one way outside of the home and a different way inside of the home (with the child)
2. Mom teaching requiring you to perform in order to be loved, accepted, respected

With each aspect, Aja discusses how detrimental these are on a child's life and how they can be carried into adulthood.

In today’s practice session, Aja reveals steps you can begin taking immediately to reconnect with yourself and learn to trust and honor yourself as you step away from performing your authentic self.

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Monique and Aja chat about Monique’s experiences being raised by her mother, who moved to the US to work while leaving Monique and a sibling with her paternal grandmother until the age of 7. Monique shares candidly about how this did and didn’t impact her relationship with her mother. She digs into how she has grown through her journey of acceptance and how she’s found a way to relax into flow and obtain peace of mind, even while her relationship  with her mother still isn’t everything she’s ever wanted but it’s everything she accepts. Join us.