She Wears the Pants

Burnout isn’t a badge of honour. It’s a signal — and it’s asking you to lead differently.

In this episode of She Wears the Pants, Ashley Deland is joined by Paula Stachyra, PR powerhouse, media personality, bestselling author, and high-performance coach. Together, they unpack what it really takes for a high-growth woman to build success without self-abandonment and to protect her peace while still leading at the highest level.

If you’re a woman who is carrying a lot, building something meaningful, and quietly feeling the cost of constant output, this conversation will help you recalibrate before your body forces the pause.

In this episode, you’ll learn how to:

1. Recognize burnout early — before it takes you out emotionally, mentally, or physically
2. Rebuild your energy without diluting your ambition or lowering your standards
3. Address imposter syndrome at the level it truly lives — identity, visibility, and leadership
4. Create success rooted in service, community, and sustainability instead of pressure and overperformance
5. Use faith as an anchor for resilience and direction when leadership feels heavy

By the end, you’ll walk away with a clearer understanding of how to lead from alignment, protect your internal world, and build success that doesn’t require you to sacrifice yourself to sustain it.

Meet Paula

Paula Stachyra is a PR powerhouse, media personality, bestselling author, and high-performance coach. Through her work, she helps high-capacity women lead with clarity, build resilience, and create sustainable success without burnout - so their ambition is supported by alignment, not chaos.

1. Website: www.paulastachyra.com
2. Instagram: @queenofthegrill

Continue the Work with Ashley

Step into your next level: Explore Private Advisory, high-touch strategic partnership, and fractional leadership support for women scaling with precision and power.

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Stay in proximity: For daily strategy, identity expansion, and behind-the-scenes insight, connect with Ashley on Instagram.

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She Wears the Pants is where high-growth women come to build companies that match their calling. If this episode resonated, follow, rate, and review so more women can find these conversations.

Becoming the Woman Who Can Hold It

The Identity Work Required for Your 2026 Vision

Before you set another goal, you have to become the woman who can hold it.

In this solo episode of She Wears the Pants, Ashley Deland goes deep into the identity work required to lead at your next level.

Not strategy.

Not hype.

Not performative motivation.

But the internal calibration that determines how much responsibility, visibility, money, and calling you’re actually able to sustain.

Before the breakthrough, there is a becoming.

And before the results, there is identity.

If you’re a high-growth woman entering a season that feels bigger, heavier, or more demanding than anything you’ve held before, this conversation will help you anchor into the version of yourself capable of carrying it without collapsing, shrinking, or outsourcing your power.

In this episode, Ashley shares how to:

1. Understand why your business can never outgrow the identity of the woman leading it
2. Recognize when you’re performing a version of yourself designed for a chapter you’ve already outgrown
3. Identify the difference between readiness as mindset and refinement as identity-level work
4. Release survival-based identities built from scarcity, self-protection, and over-explaining
5. Apply internal standards that align your decisions, boundaries, and leadership with your future self
6. Anchor into the woman who protects her assignment instead of proving her worth

Ashley also shares a deeply personal behind-the-scenes season — a year that looked like momentum on the outside, but felt like dismantling, loneliness, and identity shedding on the inside and why what felt like unraveling was actually preparation.

By the end of this episode, you’ll walk away with a grounded understanding of who you’re becoming, what you must release to rise, and the internal congruence required to hold what you’re calling in next.

Continue the Work with Ashley

Step into your next level: Explore Private Advisory, high-touch strategic partnership, and fractional leadership support for women scaling with precision and power.

→ https://ashleydeland.com/inquire

Experience a full-business transformation in one weekend: Apply for Ashley’s Executive VIP Experience — an immersive, in-person strategic overhaul designed to collapse timelines and accelerate growth.

→ https://ashleydeland.com/inquire

Stay in proximity: For daily strategy, identity expansion, and behind-the-scenes insight, connect with Ashley on Instagram.

→ https://www.instagram.com/ashleydeland/

She Wears the Pants is where high-growth women come to build companies that match their calling. If this episode resonated, follow, rate, and review so more women can find these conversations.

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What if success wasn’t about fitting into someone else’s box? What if it’s about building a life that’s entirely your own?

On this episode of She Wears the Pants, Ashley sits down with Katie Sampayo, a transformational coach, elite strategist, bestselling author, and retreat leader, who has been fully nomadic since 2018, running her business everywhere from the beaches of Costa Rica to the backcountry of Utah.

Katie helps entrepreneurs and high-achievers redesign their lives so they don’t just look good on paper, but actually feel aligned, fulfilling, and free. She’s living proof that freedom and success aren’t separate paths. They are one and the same.

In this powerful conversation, Ashley and Katie dive into:

• Katie’s journey from corporate marketing to global entrepreneur and retreat leader
• Why waiting for the “perfect moment” will keep you stuck, and how to build your own table instead
• The importance of identity shifts when scaling a business and life you actually want
• How limiting beliefs around love and money are deeply connected, and what to do about it
• The surprising role that simplicity and boundaries play in sustaining success
• Katie’s “flex week” practice that allows her to scale while staying grounded, creative, and energized

Katie’s story is a masterclass in courage, alignment, and intentional design. If you’ve ever felt like you were waiting for permission to start living the life you want, this episode is your reminder to stop waiting and start creating.

Learn more about our guest:

With over nine years of global experience and through dozens of retreats and coaching sessions, Katie Sampayo has empowered hundreds of high-achieving women to achieve deep fulfillment and lasting success.

Website: https://katiesampayo.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katiesampayo/

Remember, stay confident, stay focused, and keep wearing those pants with pride.

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What if scaling your business didn’t mean working harder, but working smarter?

In this episode of She Wears the Pants, Ashley is joined by Elena Daccus who is one of the world’s leading neuromarketing and high-ticket positioning strategists, who has bought and sold more than 50 companies worth over $10 billion.

Elena is the quiet force behind hundreds of multi-six and seven-figure brands, teaching women how to simplify their business, sharpen their message, and build systems that create predictable sales without burnout.

Tune in to hear Ashley and Elena break down:

• The three biggest blocks women face at six, seven, and eight figures
• Why consistent, predictable cash flow matters more than anything else
• How to step out of being the bottleneck in your own business
• The power of neuromarketing and how it creates instant buying desire
• Why asking unapologetically is one of the most powerful tools women can claim

Elena’s blend of neuroscience, psychology, and strategy is a masterclass in building a scalable, sustainable business model that fuels both income and impact.

Learn more about our guest:

Elena Daccus is a sought-after strategist, speaker, and mentor who helps women founders scale with precision by combining neuromarketing, infrastructure, and high-converting messaging. 

Connect with Elena:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bossyhillsclub

Remember, stay confident, stay focused, and keep wearing those pants with pride.

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What happens when your identity is built on achievement, productivity, and performance, and one day, it’s not enough?

In this solo episode of She Wears the Pants, Ashley pulls back the curtain on the lie so many women have been sold: that their value lives in how much they can do, achieve, or prove. With raw honesty, she shares her own journey of tying self-worth to success and the breakthrough that changed everything.

Tune in to hear Ashley unpack:

• The hidden conditioning that teaches women to equate productivity with value
• Why success doesn’t heal self-worth (it only distracts you from noticing the gap)
• The signs you’ve tied your identity to your output
• Simple practices to reclaim your worth outside of work
• Soul-level reminders for the high achiever who’s tired of running on empty

This isn’t about rejecting ambition. It’s about remembering that you are the value, even when you do nothing at all. If you’ve ever struggled to rest without guilt or measured yourself by metrics and milestones, this episode is your permission slip to reclaim your worth and anchor back into who you are.

Remember, stay confident, stay focused, and keep wearing those pants with pride.

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Money isn’t just numbers on a spreadsheet, it’s the story of your business, your beliefs, and your future. 

In this episode of She Wears the Pants, Ashley sits down with Christine Labate, business finance coach, money strategist, and CEO of Good Measure Finance, to unpack what it really means for women to step into financial leadership.

With over a decade of experience leading finance and operations for multi-seven-figure companies, Christine is now on a mission to help entrepreneurs cut through financial chaos, master cash flow, and build businesses that truly support the lives they’re dreaming of.

Tune in to hear Ashley and Christine break down:

• The biggest financial pitfalls at the 5-, 6-, and 7-figure levels (and how to avoid them)
• Why cash flow is the ultimate measure of success
• How money mindset and imprinted beliefs silently shape your bottom line
• Simple, actionable steps to take control of your numbers today
• What wealth really means beyond the bank account

Christine’s work proves that financial literacy isn’t just about survival, it’s about freedom, confidence, and power. If you’ve ever felt like your money was running you instead of the other way around, this episode will change how you see your business forever.

Learn more about our guest:

Christine Labate is the CEO of Good Measure Finance, where she helps entrepreneurs build profitable, scalable, and sustainable businesses through money coaching, financial strategy, and systems that make sense. She’s the creator of The Vault, a self-study program designed to help founders master cash flow and step into financial clarity.

Connect with Christine:

Website: https://www.goodmeasurefinance.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/goodmeasurefinance

Remember, stay confident, stay focused, and keep wearing those pants with pride.

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Your next level isn’t built in isolation, it’s built in the right room.

In this episode of She Wears the Pants, Ashley shares why proximity isn’t just a concept, but the very catalyst for transformation. From mentorship to sisterhood to spiritual grounding, she reveals the three kinds of proximity every woman needs when building her business and herself.

Tune in to hear Ashley break down:

• Why strategy alone isn’t enough to scale sustainably
• The difference between being in rooms that shrink you vs. expand you
• The role of mentorship, sisterhood, and spiritual grounding in success
• How proximity reshapes belief systems and identity
• Why the “right room” doesn’t just change your business, it changes you

If you’ve been chasing more strategy but craving deeper alignment, this episode is your reminder: stop looking for the next answer, and start looking for the room that calls you higher.

Remember, stay confident, stay focused, and keep wearing those pants with pride.

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Motherhood isn’t a setback, it’s a superpower.

In this episode of She Wears the Pants, Ashley is joined by Cait Scudder, multi-millionaire CEO, TEDx speaker, and founder of The Millionaire Mother. From scaling her empire with three babies under four to pioneering a new paradigm of feminine leadership, Cait is proof that ambition and motherhood are not mutually exclusive.

Together, Ashley and Cait dive into:

• How Cait went from burnt-out teacher to seven-figure CEO
• Why she shut down a multi-six-figure mastermind to follow her true vision
• The rise of The Millionaire Mother and the matriarch archetype
• What it means to lead with intuition, audacity, and legacy
• Why you never have to choose between motherhood and ambition

Cait’s story is a masterclass in reinvention, surrender, and unapologetic ambition. If you’ve ever questioned whether you can do both, this episode is your proof that you were born for both.

Learn more about our guest:

Cait Scudder is a multi-millionaire entrepreneur, TEDx speaker, and host of The Millionaire Mother Podcast. Through her signature programs and community, she helps ambitious mothers scale their businesses without sacrificing their families or themselves.

Website: https://themillionairemother.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themillionairemother/

Remember, stay confident, stay focused, and keep wearing those pants with pride.

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Before the world celebrates you, you have to be willing to see yourself.

In today’s solo episode, Ashley gets raw about the inner identity work that happens long before the spotlight, the seven-figure milestone, or the stage.

With a reality TV debut on the horizon and her voice about to reach audiences around the world, Ashley shares the very real fears of being seen, judged, or misunderstood, and the practices that keep her grounded in who she is before the world tries to define her.

Inside this episode, Ashley shares:

• Why identity must be anchored before results arrive
• The difference between shrinking to fit others’ projections and standing firm in self-definition
• Ashley’s daily rituals for setting identity before emails, meetings, or the world gets access
• How to recognize the nervous-system panic that comes before expansion, and why it’s often the sign you’re on the right path
• The role of embodiment, rhythm, and boundaries in holding success at scale
• A powerful identity anchor exercise you can use today to step into the woman you’re becoming

This is not just about business strategy. It’s about who you must become to hold the success you’re building.

If you are standing on the edge of something big and your hands are shaking, let this be your reminder: the stretch is the birthplace of your next level.

Remember, stay confident, stay focused, and keep wearing those pants with pride.

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What happens when the version of you that built the business can’t sustain the life you truly want?

In this deep, soulful episode, Ashley Deland sits down with Ashleigh C. Henry, speaker, writer, life coach, and creator of Sacred Reorientation, to explore what it means to integrate your ambition with your aliveness.

After years of guiding high-achieving women in business, Ashleigh experienced a sacred unraveling that reshaped everything she knew about leadership, grief, and success. 

Today, she helps women build harmony between achievement and embodiment so they can live a life they can actually inhabit.

Inside this episode:

• The “death of self” and how it signals your next evolution
• How to recognize the symptoms of misalignment before burnout hits
• The truth about performance vs. presence (and why simulation can reveal what’s real)
• Reclaiming pleasure and how your body reveals where both joy and pain live
• Why women entrepreneurs must create from regulation, not adrenaline
• The courage it takes to walk away from external success to create internal freedom

Ashleigh’s story is a masterclass in sacred reorientation, an invitation to stop performing wholeness and start living it.

If this episode resonates, connect with Ashleigh. Enrollment is now open for her next Sacred Reorientation winter cohort beginning February 2026, with $300 off through the end of the year.

Learn more about our Guest:

Ashleigh C. Henry is a speaker, writer, life coach, and guide for women who are done performing wholeness and are ready to actually live it. She has  spent the last six years helping high-achieving women lead businesses, build legacies, and navigate seasons of identity, leadership, business and life expansion.

Website: https://ashleighchenry.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashleighchenry/

Remember, stay confident, stay focused, and keep wearing those pants with pride.

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