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Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen sit down with the hosts of the Pillow Talks Podcast, Vanessa & Xander Marin, to talk all about sex. Vanessa is a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field and Xander’s a regular dude who’s been married to a sex therapist for over a decade. They start by normalizing the idea of scheduling sex and explain why it can be really wonderful for our sex lives. They then go on to answer your sex life questions like: how to approach a conversation with your partner about having more sex, how to work to heal from a past sexual trauma with your partner, the difference between couples therapy and sex therapy, how to increase libido, and working through self consciousness during sex. We learn why Vanessa does not like the word “rejection” when it comes to sex, a story about Xander’s 90 year old Nana listening to their podcast, and why sex doesn't have to be spontaneous to be good. You do not want to miss this one!

You can find Vanessa, Xander, and all of their amazing content @vanessamarintherapy on Instagram and on their website: vmtherapy.com !

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On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen sit down with one of Jen’s best friends, Jason Abel. Jason starts by telling embarrassing stories about Jen from growing up, which you don't want to miss. Then, Jason shares his story of coming out as a gay man at age 24 to Jen - the first person that he told. He explains his thought process in telling Jen, how he told his parents, their reactions, and the expectations he - and many others - had/have before doing so. We hear about Jason's dating and relationship experiences, discuss the differences in talking about sex and sexual compatibility as a gay man vs. a straight woman, society's expectations, and the things we can work to unlearn. At the end of the episode, Jason shares the advice he would give to his younger self, followed by a rapid fire interview of Em & Jen with some thought provoking questions for them!

0:25 - Intro

0:33 - How Jen & Jason know each other 

6:20 - The story of Jen being the first person Jason came out to

17:40 - Telling his family

31:20 - Starting to date men & his first relationships

39:17 - Calling BS

43:04 - Advice Jason would give to his younger self

46:14 - Rapid fire questions Jason has for Em & Jen

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Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen dive into the topic of forgiveness by explaining the definition of forgiveness and the stages that come along with it. They discuss why forgiveness is for us and not for the other person, the parts of forgiveness that they struggle with, the difference between anger and resentment, and how that resentment can build up (and sometimes explode) if not addressed. Dear Em & Jen is back with a question about how to handle a friend who always has it worse. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action.

0:00 - Intro

0:40 - Jen's favorite quote 

1:29 - The definition of forgiveness 

3:28 - Permission vs. forgiveness 

6:30 - Forgiveness and abuse disclaimer

8:50 - Ruptures that happen in relationships that can lead to resentment

13:55 - The four stages of forgiveness 

26:15 - The difference between anger and resentment 

31:59 - Dear Em & Jen 

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On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are joined by one of their amazing clinicians from The Therapy Group, Dr. Lindsay Haston. Lindsay is a licensed psychologist dedicated to helping others feel more comfortable being themselves. She strives to assist clients in leading a more full and meaningful life while also managing the pain that inevitably comes with it. Aside from being a wonderful therapist, she is also quite skilled at saying no, hence the title NOvember! Lindsay takes us through her journey to realizing the importance of the word "no" and shares tangible tips on how to do so in our own lives. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen explain what enmeshment is. You might have heard similar terms used like codependency or fusion, as they can look incredibly similar. They go into what enmeshed relationships look like in families, in romantic partnerships, and even at work. Enmeshment and boundaries go hand in hand, and Emmalee and Jen walk us through how to start setting specific boundaries within enmeshed relationships and how to create consciousness around it.

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Q & A part two! This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen continue to answer your questions, this time about setting boundaries in relationships and at work. Em and Jen give their insight about guilt trips and the functions behind them, highly critical parents, how to continue to set boundaries when receiving pushback, what to do when a loved one is in a bad relationship, anxiety regarding leaving a job, tying worth to our career path, and so much more!

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The Q & A episodes are back! This week on ShrinkChicks, Em and Jen bring back their question and answer format episode. The theme today is life transitions and how to navigate them. Emmalee and Jen answer your questions about marriage and wedding advice, what to do when you have a lot on your plate (think: new job, new city, new relationship status), the identity crisis that many women experience when having their first child, society's expectations surrounding grief, being single in your mid-20's and so much more! 

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This week on ShrinkChicks we give you some much needed comic relief from our guest: comedian Jared Freid! Jared is co-host of the U Up? Podcast, co-host of The Betchelor Podcast, host of the JTrain Podcast, and has a hysterical and relatable Instagram presence (@jaredfreid). Emmalee and Jen talk with Jared all about dating and relationships from a male's perspective. They ask Jared your questions re: ghosting, first dates, expectations in relationships, dating app fatigue, and sex. Tune in to have a laugh and hear what he thinks about the phrase "if he wanted to, he would."

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On today’s episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen introduce you all to Nikki, their ShrinkChicks producer and Head of Operations of The Therapy Group! She talks about how she got her job (hint: she was a listener who DM’ed Em and Jen), the steps she took to make a major career shift, the biggest surprise about working for Emmalee and Jen, imposter syndrome, her fear of public speaking, what she’s calling BS on, and so much more! Tune in to hear her story!

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Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen have the pleasure of sitting down with Terry Real, an internationally recognized Couples & Family Therapist, speaker, and best selling author. Terry has worked with thousands of women and men, parents and non-parents, to help them create the connection they desire in their relationships. Emmalee and Jen talk with Terry about honesty and how important it is to speak up in our romantic relationships, vulnerability and how to encourage our husbands, boyfriends, partners to share their emotions, why women are the ones who initiate divorce 75% of the time, and that it’s okay (and often smart) to take a break during a disagreement.

To access Terry's online course, Staying in Love, go to terryreal.com & you can also text your email address to 415-813-1025 to opt in for more from Terry!

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