If you've always defined who you are by what you do, you may have found it difficult to nurture other parts of your identity. 

But journalist and author of The Good Enough Job, Simone Stolzoff, argues there are ways to downsize the role of work in your life.

And aunties Nelly Thomas and Annie Louey weigh in on when it's helpful to step into your 12-year-old's social life and when it's not.