The Type 8 is also known as the Maverick - they are confident, assertive and make natural leaders. 

Today I have three Type 8 moms sharing how their Enneagram type empowers them in their motherhood and how it shows up in stress.

 

To open up I share some details on the Type 8:

What motivates them

How they move towards The Helper in times of growth

How they move towards The Observer in times of stress

The two other sides to the type 8 (the wings)

What the Gut Triad is, how the Type 8 shows up in line with their intuition/gut

Thank you to the moms who shared what their experience is as Type 8 moms - Stacie, Ellen and Melissa. 

You can find Melissa at Live with Audacity

Join the Simple on Purpose Community to ask your questions around the enneagram and livng simple, on purpose. 

If you can't click links in these show notes then head to www.simpleonpurpose.ca and click LISTEN, you can find all the show notes and episode transcripts there. 

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For those who are new welcome, I am Shawna, mom of three in small town Canada. I am a trained life coach, a certified transformational life coach, a certified bird nerd. And I wear that with a badge of honour even though my kids make fun of me. But I am proud to be the Lady Nerd that I am.

So simple on purpose is a place where I want to help you simplify your home, your heart, your life, to slow down and show up for the things that really matter the most to you the things that you want to place the highest value on in your life.

We've been covering a series on the enneagram, which is a self-discovery tool that looks at our inner motives. So lots of personality profiling will look at your outer behaviours and other qualities and other actions. But the enneagram takes us deeper, and it's looking at the things that are driving us. So we've been covering all of the types of the enneagram and hearing from mums, who are sharing a couple minutes on their experience of what it's like to be that type how their type empowers them, and how their type shows up under stress.

Today we're hearing from three type eight mums. The type eight is also called the challenger or the maverick I really like that name, the maverick, the type eight is motivated by the need to feel strong and in control. And they want to avoid the feeling of being weak or powerless.

You've heard me mentioned over these episodes about the wings, and we can take on qualities of the type right beside us. So the type A, it can take on the wing of the seven right beside at the adventure and be more spontaneous. It can also take on the wing of the peacemaker, the number nine right beside it and be more warm.

When the type eight is in a place of growth and health. They move towards the qualities of a type to the helper. So they shift their energy towards caring, they become more tender-hearted, which can really feel vulnerable and scary to a type eight. But it allows them to show up to support to connect with others from a place of generosity and respect.

When they are in a place of stress. They move towards the type five, the observer, things get overwhelming. They retreat, they strategize. They're collecting information and just trying to sort things out on how they can come back into the situation. If they stay in this place, they can probably become high strung and stop taking good care of themselves and their needs.

I've also been sharing harmonic groups, and this is categorizing each of the enneagram types into different ways that they handle things when they don't go their way. The type eight is part of the reactive group, they want to express how they are feeling and measure the response of others. The type eight will want to express their powerful energy as a way to say that they're angry, something's wrong and also as a way of keeping their guard up, keeping a distance and avoid relying or becoming dependent on other people.

The Type 7 on the Enneagram is also called the Enthusiast, or Fun Ninjas (as my friend Julia coined them)

They are spontaneous and open to new experiences.

In this episode, two Type 7 moms share how their Enneagram type empowers them in motherhood and how it shows up in times of stress. 

I also discuss:

What motivates the Type 7

What growth looks like as the move towards Type 5

What stress looks like as the move towards Type 1

How they handle it when things don't go their way through a positive reframing

How noticing other Enneagram Types and learning about them helps us have more appreciation for the inner experience of other moms in our lives

 

Ask Shawna questions about living simple, on purpose in the Simple on Purpose Facebook community 

Find Shawna on Instagram

 

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Hey friends, it's Shawna, your nerdy girlfriend.ca. Welcome to simplify this podcast. This is a place for you to come if you want to simplify your home, your heart, your life, slow down, pay attention to what matters to you, what's important to you, what's in line with your personal values, and show up well for that.

Today, we are covering the enneagram type seven, and I have some fun mom's sharing about being a type seven mum. The type seven is also called the adventure or the enthusiast, or fun ninjas, as my friend Julia has coined them, and I just love that name, hey, Julia, they are motivated by the need to be happy, have great experiences. And underneath that is a need to avoid pain or suffering. This is why they're always on the go to the next best thing. They're spontaneous.

And for me as a type nine, who is very comfort bound, I have found so much freedom in learning about the type seven and seeing that there are people in the world who are comfortable with risk and excitement, even people like my own sister, it has made me love them more. And I just look to them to kind of be my fun Ninjas in my life.

In stress, the type seven will move towards the qualities of a type one, they'll become critical, impatient, imposing limits on their own behaviors. When they are in a place of growth, they move towards the type five, the observer, they get more quiet and introspective, they can ride that anxiety that they often push away and start to make clear choices about what they want.

For their harmonic groups, how they deal with things when things don't go their way. They take a positive outlook like the type two and the type nine, they are going to reframe the situation. And the type seven specifically wants to avoid seeing the problems around them in within them and instead focus on staying positive and happy and meeting their own needs. They're overwhelmed by the idea of meeting the needs of others. So they reframe things, and can have the stance to issues like there may be a problem, but I'm fine.

So months ago, when I put out the call asking mums of different enneagram types to share their experience, you know who sent me one that night, a type seven, they are just ready to go. So let's hear from these two wonderful type sevens. Jacqueline and Sarah.

Hi, I'm Jacqueline and I am a type seven on the enneagram. I am a mom to four daughters who range in age from seven to almost 13. Knowing my type on the enneagram has been really helpful for understanding myself. And I see being a seven having lots of positives and negatives. As a parent. For the positive, I'm very good at coming up with creative solutions and being flexible. My kids trade bedrooms frequently based on what happens to be working at the time and what people need. I don't feel particularly worried about changing my mind later. So I'm quick to try different solutions and thinking creatively. And I don't feel too committed to anything being long term. So if two kids are getting along great and feel lonely at bedtime, I'm don't have any trouble setting up a mattress on the floor so they can be together longer withou...

Welcome to the Simple on Purpose Podcast! For moms on the go who want nuggets of information and encouragement that helps them live with more peace, purpose and presence in their daily lives. 

We are continuing with our series on the Enneagram and Motherhood where we hear from moms on what their motherhood experience is like through the lens of the Enneagram

This episode is about the Type 6 Mom, also called the Loyalist or the Skeptic. 

 

In this episode, I explain:

The common traits of the Type 6

Their need for support and guidance

Their need for independence 

Being a skeptic and slow to trust

Being a loyalist and putting your faith in the others who have the answers

Type 6 living in their own head, with the worst-case scenario and projected fears

How the Type 6 reacts when things don't go their way

Their stress response (fight, flight and freeze) when faced with FEAR

Growth for the Type 6, and stress for the Type 6

We hear from two wonderful moms sharing their experience, thank you to Tiffany and Kristin!

 

Links:

Listen to the Intro Episode, rundown of the 9 types of the Enneagram

Ask any Enneagram questions in the Simple on Purpose Community Group

Book a consult call to learn about life coaching with the Enneagram

See all the episodes in this Enneagram and Motherhood Series

See all the Show Notes for the podcast episodes 

 

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Hey friends it's Shawna, your nerdy girlfriend and life coach from simple and purpose.ca Welcome to this simple on purpose podcast.

For those of you who are new here, welcome. I am Shawna, I am a mom of three in small-town Canada. And I am a trained life coach who is passionate about helping moms show up for their lives show up Well. It is always my mission on every coaching call I have on every episode on everything I share, to help you look at your life in a little bit of a different way that brings you more peace, more purpose and more presence into your daily life. That is what I'm passionate about you showing up for your life and enjoying it because this is your life, you should enjoy it.

So we are continuing on with the enneagram series. And if you're not sure what the enneagram is head back a few episodes to the run through of the nine basic types. It's called What are your motives or something like that? what's motivating you I forget. So I have shared each type in their own episode. And on each episode, we have moms sharing what their motherhood experiences like through the lens of the enneagram.

So today, we are talking about the type six, the type six is known to be fearful. They're always thinking of the worst case scenario, they really live in their head with a lot of their fears and planning how to avoid them. And I think it can really be exhausting. When they're in their head like that some sixes also failed to see their real dangers of life, the real worst case scenarios, versus these mentally manufactured fears that kind of a runaway train that their brain can take them on.

They are called the loyalist or the skeptic because of their relationship to others. They question and doubt themselves and often look to external sources for answers and guidance. But with skepticism, can I trust them? Can I trust what they're saying. And when they decide they can trust them, they are loyal to that person that authority that system.

Something that is interesting is what the six does with fear, they fight flight or freeze so they might flight they might try to control their environment that's very typical of a six and planning and stressing and doing, they might fight they might go against fear head on, and this is called a counter phobic six, they're just gonna go right into it, just jump right in and address it just get it over with and then they might freeze they might just comply with the rules of the system, they can be very compliant when there is a culture or a system in place that t...

The Type 5 on the Enneagram is also called the Investigator. They are someone who is watching and observing and analyzing how everything works.  They gather knowledge on how things work and how to navigate the world with their competence. 

They do have a focus on managing their own needs well so that they aren't reliant on others. Let's hear from Liz and Melissa on how being an Enneagram Type 5 empowers their motherhood and how it shows up in stress. 

 

 

When the Type 5 is in stress they move towards the Type 7 (adventurer) and become more restless and agitated.

When they are in a place of growth they move towards the full body empowerment of a Type 8 (maverick).

I also discuss the Harmonic Groups, this is how the Enneagram Types handle problems. 

The Type 5 belongs to the Competency Group, meaning they rely on logic (rather than emotion) to handle their problems. 

 

In this episode we will hear from Liz Squires, you can find her here at Fearless Birth Project And Melissa, from Enneagram Paths. 

Thank you, ladies, for sharing your motherhood journey with us and giving a voice to the Type 5 experience. 

 

Make sure to tag me in your Instagram and show some love to the ladies who have been coming on to share their stories!

If you want to listen to the LIVE Q+A where I answer the difference between the Type 4 and Type 5 then head over to the Simple on Purpose Community group to watch it. 

 

 

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I'm really excited to continue on this series that we're doing enneagram. And for those of you who haven't heard of the enneagram, and you want to go back and listen to it, head on back a few episodes to what are your motives. The enneagram looks at our motives, more than it looks at our outward behavior. Like being an introverted extrovert, it looks at why we're doing it instead of just what we're doing.

It's a really fascinating tool that I love to use in my coaching, that has just helped me so much in my life, in my relationships in my parenting, I just have a lot of passion for it. I think it is very powerful and brings a lot of awareness to us in our showing up in our life. And you know, me, I'm all about showing up for life showing up well for your actual life.

So today, we're covering the type five, also known as the observer, or the investigator. And I have a couple of great type fives sharing with me. One is one of my online friends, Liz Squires, and the other one is an enneagram coach herself, Melissa. So thank you to both of those ladies for being the type fives who will come out of the shell, and share with us today.

So the type five, the observer, there's someone who are always watching, they're always observing and analyzing how the world works, they really want to figure it out. So that they can use this knowledge as a way of making themselves capable and competent in the world. They long to be capable and competent. And they are also someone who has a skill of reducing their own needs, so that they are not reliant on other people, they keep their needs very minimal and meet them themselves.

So when the type five is in a place of stress, they move towards the type seven, they become restless, agitated, distracted, scattered. When they are in a place of growth and strength, they move towards the type eight, and more so in that they take on the confidence in the empowered stands of a type eight, as they kind of fill up their whole body full of empowerment, because the type five lives in their head a lot. They want to be capable, they want to figure things out, they rely a lot on thinking about it, figuring it out, finding a way, and they spend a lot of time in their mind. So when they are in a place of strength, they're going to occupy their entire body and their mind as well.

As I've explained in the past episodes, we're talking about the harmonic groups. And these are categorized in the enneagram types by how they solve their problems.

The Type 4 on the Enneagram is also called the Individualist, or the Romantic. They have a reputation of being artistic, expressive and willing to feel a range of emotions. 

Which I think makes them very brave and they hold a lot of space for those in suffering and those who long to express themselves. 

 

 

The Type 4 is part of the reactive group when it comes to dealing with problems. This means they respond/express themselves and look for an emotional response from those around them. A Type 4 craves been seen and supported in these times. 

Which makes them so adept at expression and emotional attunement. 

 

When in a place of growth the Type 4 will move towards the Type 1 and become more objective and practical. When in stress they will move towards the Type 2 and become clingy and look for reassurance from others. 

 

Thank you to the two moms sharing their experience with us today. 

Thank you Shawna and Laura. You can find Laura at Fjord Creative. 

 

In the Simple on Purpose Community group, I did a LIVE Q+A on the Enneagram and one of the questions I answered was how to tell the difference between the Type 4 and the Type 5. Head here if you want to see it (and other lives)

And to join the Simple Saturdays email (it is FUN email that comes out twice a month!) sign up for that right here

 

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At simple on purpose, I am all about helping you simplify your life, whether it is your home, your heart, your general life, so that you can slow down, pay attention to the things that matter most to you, and show up well for them. I want you to enjoy your life, I want you to enjoy motherhood, enjoy your job, enjoy your home, I want you to enjoy the life you actually have.

We are continuing on this week with our series on the enneagram and motherhood. And today I have a couple of type fours sharing. The type fours are also called the individualist or the romantic, they are very expressive, they are known as artistic types, they are known as people who can just hold a lot of emotional space, they're very open to experiencing and feeling and making space for their whole emotional range, which I think makes them very brave.

When a type four is under stress, and they're not feeling very healthy, they're going to move towards the qualities of a type two, they are going to be clingy and look for reassurance look to a lot of the people around them for reassurance and validation.

When they are in a healthier place, they move towards the qualities of the type one not so much the perfectionist and critical qualities, but the qualities of the type one that allow them to step out of that fantasy world in their mind, and come in and engage in the real life world to be more objective, and to apply themselves to whatever they want to do with a more practical approach rather than an emotional repro approach.

So I've been explaining the harmonic groups through these episodes. And that is how each type deals with problems when things don't go their way. And the type fours are part of the reactive group, which means they are the enneagram types, who will react strongly and look for a response from others. So they're very expressive. When a type four is handling problems, and things aren't going their way they seek being seen, they seek someone who can understand them and support them, because they really fear that no one is going to support them and care for them. So they have different strategies depending on how healthy they're feeling with how they will do that. But Hudson and Riso again, I'm referencing The Wisdom of the Enneagram book, they have this motto that the type four adopts with how they deal with problems, and it is I feel really hurt and I need to express myself.

So expressing themselves is a way that they are seen in the world. And the type fours are known for a lot of amazing artistic achievements in our world. And like I said,

The Type 3 on the Enneagram is also known as the Achiever or the Performer. 

They are motivated by a need to be successful and they are natural checklist-makers and goal getters. 

What is it like to be a Type 3 Mom?

 

I have three Type 3 moms sharing their experience on how their type empowers them and how it shows up in times of stress. 

When a Type 3 is in stress they take on the qualities of the Type 9 and become more detached and apathetic and stubborn. 

When they are in a place of growth they move towards the qualities of the Type 6 and become more cooperative and a team player focussed on the greater good rather than the personal goal. 

 

When a Type three faces a challenge they apply logic to solve the problem. They are part of the Competency Group. They detach from their feelings by staying in an active role to work on the goal and "figure it out". 

 

I think the Type 3s offer us a lot of encouragement to 'raise the bar' and I know that myself, as a Type 9, looks to the energy and drive of the Type 3 in my life to encourage me with that. 

If you want coaching by your Enneagram type, book a consult call to learn more. 

Thank you to these three wonderful moms who shared today!

Thank you, Veronica, Shannon and Stef (You can find Stef Gass at the Mompreneur Mastermind Podcast)

 

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Hey friends, it's Shawna,your nerdy girlfriend and Life Coach from simple on purpose.ca.

This is the podcast for the busy mom on the go, I aim to keep all of the episodes under 20 minutes. And I want to just jam-packed them with ideas and stories and information on how you can simplify your life, slow down and show up for your life on purpose being very purposeful, very, very intentional with the life you want to build into and how you want to show up in it every single day.

So we're continuing on with the enneagram series and we're covering enneagram threes. Today I have three mums sharing about a bit about their motherhood experience as being in an enneagram three. The Enneagram Type 3 is also called the achiever, they get things done, they like goals, they have their checklists, and I love the threes my husband's a three. And since we learned each other's enneagram types over the years, I have so much more appreciation for the qualities that he brings into our life, our family, our marriage as a three that I don't just naturally have on my own.

So when a three is in stress, when they're feeling stressed out, they're not at their healthiest, they move towards a type nine, which is called the peacemaker. But at the nine at their more unhealthy qualities, they are very disengaged, they're stubborn, they're apathetic, they're very withdrawn. When a type three is in a place of health, they're feeling like they're showing up with healthy motives from a healthy place, they move towards the type six, the loyalist, they become more of a team player, they're more cooperative, they're more committed to the goal of the good of the group rather than their own personal self image and having to meet a goal that will satisfy that

The type three is part of the competency group. And I've been explaining that there's our harmonic groups, which is the way that we deal with things when they don't go our way. And then each of the enneagram types are grouped into one of these three groups, these harmonic groups, and the type three belongs to the competency group. I know I'm saying group a lot in my confusing, but the competency group are the enneagram types that will solve their problems using logic more than feelings. And a type three is well known to be really out of touch with their feelings, they use staying busy and achievement as a way of kind of not paying attention to it kind of repressing it.

So when a type three is faced with a problem, they're going to focus on being efficient, being capable taking action, just focus on the goals.

The Type 2 on the Enneagram is also known as The Helper. For this reason, a lot of us can identify as a possible Type 2 - especially in North America where this is a cultural expectation that women are 'helpers'. 

This can lead to people-pleasing, but not all people-pleasers are Type 2s. 

Some things that set the Enneagram Type 2 apart:

They cope with problems by focussing on the needs of others rather than themselves

Their relationships are built with a culture of 'helping'

They find their value in helping others

I explain what the Type 2 can look like in times of growth and in times of stress. 

I also outline how to differentiate a common mistype with Type 9s. 

Three moms are sharing their experience of being a Type 2 mom and outlining what feels like a struggle and what feels like a strength for them when it comes to motherhood. 

Thank you to Louise, Aimee and Jessica for sharing with us!

You can find Louise here. 

You can find Jessica right here. 

Books recommended here may include referral links to Amazon. If you click through and make a purchase I will be compensated at no additional cost to you. 

Links:

The Wisdom of the Enneagram book

Get answers to your questions about the Enneagram in the Simple on Purpose Community Facebook Group

Book a consult call to learn about life coaching with the Enneagram

Share your Enneagram + Motherhood Experience, looking to hear from types 5,6,7,8 and 9 - message me if you are up for it

 

Episode Transcript 

Hey friends, it's Shawna, your Nerdy Girlfriend and Life Coach from Simple on Purpose.

This is the podcast for the mom on the go, I aim to keep all of the episodes short to the point and filled with tips and advice and insight to help you simplify slow down and show up for your life because this is your life, you should enjoy it. Today we're continuing on with the type twos of the enneagram the type two mamas who are sharing their experience of what it is like to be a type two. And if the enneagram is new to you head back a couple of episodes I do a run through on all of the nine types of the enneagram. So the type two also known as the helper, as I mentioned before, there are directions we take when we are in growth and directions we take when we are in stress, and the type two will move towards the type for when they are in a healthy place in their growing and they will become more self nurturing, more sensitive, more recognizing of their own needs their own desires, in a way more self actualizing and self aware. When they are under stress, they move towards a type eight, the rebel the maverick and they become more aggressive and more argumentative. As you listen to these three moms. Today you're going to hear Louise mentioned that she takes on the type three traits. Since type three is right beside the type two, you can pick up qualities of the type right beside you this these are called the wings. So she takes on type three traits and the type three is the achiever. Now the type two is a type that many of us can identify with naturally, because it's called the helper and in North America, we have this culture that women are helpers. In fact, many of us even want to be viewed as a helper and we will become people pleasers. Now I coach a lot of people pleasers, but not all of them are type twos, there is a little bit of digging, we have to do underneath all of that underneath the behavior of being a people pleaser. One really common mistake because this is my own is that a type nine can mistyped themselves as a type two. And on the surface type nine in type two can look very similar. They tend to merge with what others want. They come across as very supportive of others. But what sets the type two apart is that you're helping others as a way to secure their value with them. A type nine will help others in order to avoid conflict or disconnect. I like to think of it as a type nine will offer support.

I have three moms sharing a few minutes each about their experience of motherhood as being a Type 1 on the Enneagram. As part of a series I am doing on all the nine enneagram types called Enneagram + Motherhood

Type 1s are also called the Perfectionist or Reformer. 

I am explaining a bit more details about Type 1s and taking referencing information taught in the Wisdom of the Enneagram by Riso and Hudson

Books recommended here may include referral links to Amazon. If you click through and take action I will be compensated at no additional cost to you. 

When it comes to dealing with problems or not getting their way, they rely on COMPETENCY. 

In Enneagram talk: they are part of the Competency Group when it comes to their Harmonic Style. 

I briefly explain with this means and what it looks like for the Type 1. 

 

I also explain what growth and stress look like for an Enneagram Type 1.

These are called the Line of Integration (what you do when you are emotionally healthy) and Line of Disintegration (what you do when you are unhealthy and stressed).

Then we hear from three moms who are so kind to share their own self-awareness and insights into the struggles and strengths of being a Type 1. I love that they also share how they manage the hurdles and I have helpful takeaways from what they share. 

 

Thank you, Louise, Jacquie and Liz for sharing your experience with us!

You can find Louise at Talk Nerdy to Me

and you can find Liz at Glow

 

Are you a type 5,6,7,8 or 9 who wants to share their motherhood experience? If so, then message me on Instagram and let me know!

Ask your Enneagram questions in the Facebook community

Get coached by your Enneagram Type with Shawna Scafe, Certified Coach Practitioner and Transformational Life Coach

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Hey, friends, it's Shawna, your nerdy girlfriend and life coach from simple on purpose.ca. And I'm just gonna dive right in because we are talking about the enneagram. And I have three amazing moms who have recorded and shared with me with their experience in motherhood is like as being a type one. type one also called the perfectionist, the reformer. So if you've listened to the last episode, if not, I encourage you to go do that I run through the nine types. And now moving forward, I'm going to share these voices of these moms by enneagram type on what their motherhood experience is like. So first of all, thank you mamas, thank you for sharing. Thank you for giving a voice to this, I found this whole experience so enlightening, to listen to each type and just sit with it. And, and I love that these moms are also offering how they deal with the stressors in their life by their type. So you're going to hear in from these three moms, Jackie is going to mention that she moves in growth to a type seven as a type one, when they're in growth, they move towards a type seven. So I mentioned in the last episode, that whatever type you are, when you are in a place of growth, and emotionally healthy, you will move to another type on the enneagram, you'll pick up the positive qualities of that type. And when you are in a place of stress, you're going to move to another number on the enneagram. These are called the lines, the lines of disintegration and the lines of integration. But I'll just call them stress and growth. So the type one, when it is in a place of growth, it moves towards a type seven, it becomes more impulsive, more joyful, more spontaneous. When it isn't a place of stress, it moves towards type four, it becomes irrational, a little bit more Moody, I'm also going to share with each of these episodes, something you don't hear often. And that is the harmonic groups, also called the coping groups. And this is how each of the types deal with problems deal with not getting their way. And the type one is part of the competency groups. So when they have a problem, they are going to deal with it by being correct and organ...

One tool I use in my life coaching is the Enneagram. It is a self-discovery tool that brings more awareness to your stress habits, your strengths, your behaviour patterns and it is all based on your MOTIVES - why you are doing something, what you are avoiding or moving towards. 

Books recommended here may include referral links to Amazon. If you click through and take action I will be compensated at no additional cost to you. 

I have been working on a series of episodes that feature moms sharing their motherhood experience through the lens of the Enneagram. To introduce this series I wanted to give you a brief rundown of the Enneagram types - as it pertains to their motives.  What their desires and fears for all of the nine enneagram types. 

If you want a more thorough explanation of all the 9 Enneagram Types then head to episode 17:  Enneagram 101 (what is it and what are the nine types)

In this episode, I reference Richard Rohr, an OG Enneagram Teacher whose book I am citing. You can find his book right here. 

To get support:

Ask me questions about the Enneagram or finding your type in the Simple on Purpose Facebook Community

Get life coaching from Shawna using the Enneagram as a tool for personal growth

Message me on Instagram to share your Enneagram + Motherhood Experience

Full episode transcript:

Hello friends and welcome I am Shawna your nerdy girlfriend and life coach from simple on purpose. 

And this is the place for you if the clutter feels like too much if life feels too busy if motherhood is overwhelming if your marriage feels like it's slipping, these are all signs to us that we've been living on autopilot, just letting life happen at us, rather than us being in the driver's seat, being proactive, being intentional, and I know, because I've been there. Three and a half years into motherhood. I was three kids in and I learned about minimalism and decided to declutter my home. As I did that, I realized I've been living my whole life on autopilot, just letting it pile up, just letting it happen. And I wanted to take control, I wanted to live on purpose. I wanted to take action and build a life, the home the relationships and mindsets that I craved, the one that God made me for, I wanted to set a vision for my life, I wanted to show up for my life, based on my personal values who I want it to be. So if you are on this journey, then let me come alongside you. I am a mom of three, I am a trained life coach, and your nerdy girlfriend who believes that this is our life, we should enjoy it. Let's dig in. Today, I'm going to open up a series I'm going to do on parenting through the enneagram the enneagram if you haven't heard it, and I'm sure you have because it's having a day, the enneagram is a self-discovery tool. So it's kind of like Myers brigg, or disk. But the enneagram looks a lot at our inner motives. What is driving us and what we desire. What we are motivated by that is powerful stuff. So it's not just like you're an introvert extrovert, it's like, what is driving you underneath that? Are you driven by success, or by needing to help people or by needing to keep the peace, there's different motivations we have. Although our outward actions might look very similar, we're doing one thing, but driven towards it for a different reason. So on this episode, I'm going to run through very quickly the nine types. And then the following episodes I'm going to share with you other moms sharing their experience on what it's like to be that enneagram type and how it shows up in their parenting. And I will say for types 123. And maybe four, I have about three moms each, each of those types. The other ones, I just have one mom. So if you are a type 56789 and I think even a four, and you would like to share a couple minutes of your experience as parenting through that enneagram type, please get in touch with me, you can find me on Instagram at simple on purpose.ca.

What if I need it one day? Ask this question can leave you holding onto a lot of items that you really don't 'need' in your life. 

From old magazines, to old chargers, to clothes, to kitchen gadgets. 

This is a fear-based question that gives us some anxiety and then we make our decisions from this anxious place rather than from a place of abundance and the desire to fill our home with LIFE-GIVING things. 

In this episode, I will walk you through how this question has held me back and how I have coached myself to new questions that bring me more freedom and peace in decluttering. 

Links to topics mentioned on this episode:

The Finnish Way (great book on the art of SISU - on my list of Cozy Faves)

The Simple on Purpose Facebook Community Group (see past Q+A Lives *make sure to answer the entry questions)

Identity Clutter (read the post here)

Scarcity vs Abundance (the not-enough mindset, on this episode)

The Simple Saturdays Email (sign up for the FUN bi-weekly email!)

Renae's Great Clutter Clear Out Challenge (sign up for the free 5-day challenge)

 

Full episode transcript (unedited)

Hey friends at Shawna, your nerdy girlfriend and life coach. From Simple on Purpose.ca This is our time where we stop, slow down, simplify, remove the drams and distractions on our lives so that we can show up for what matters the most to us show up with more peace, more purpose and presence for our actual lives. I'm so glad you're here. If it's your first time here, welcome. I'm Shawna I am a mom of three who decided that I would try out minimalism years ago, and it just sent me on this to jet trajectory. It's hard to declutter my home, which turned me into decluttering my life and my heart. And I am a trained life coach helping other women do the same show up for their lives with more purpose, peace and presence. So how have you been this January, where I live in British Columbia, where I live, it's icy. And you might know I walk my kids to the school bus every morning. It's a few blocks away, but we have to go down this hill. And I'm just like, submitted to it, I sit on my butt, I got my snow pants on and I slide down that hill, like I get speed, I end up like bumping into my daughter and pushing her down to. So I'm going to wear out the butt on my snow bands. It's fine. I'm still having fun. I'm showing up for that. I just love sledding, it is so much fun. Even if it's my only way of protecting my body from fall I just go with it, I'm going to fall in advance. So that's life here where I live in BC, we still have a little bit of a winter hanging on. And that's fine. I don't mind it. I really love getting out in the morning and walking the kids to school. Sometimes I even get my active minutes that way. But it's just such a nice way to start the day, I have a personal goal to get outside every single day. And a book that really inspired me to do this is a book called The Finnish way. The Finnish art of C Su and si su is that term for just real grit and persistence and not taking the easy way out. And that book just changed my whole view on how of lightweight I am. One other thing that I started doing since I read that book is I will zap myself with cold water in the shower. Just try and build up my tolerance to cold water. There's so many good endorphins that are released in your body when you are dunked in cold water. So I just want to hit it that I want to hit those good old endorphins. So that's my own personal challenge. I'm totally going off topic. Here's the topic I want to talk about today. decluttering things in your home when you think what if I need that one day? This was a question that was asked in the Facebook group recently because I said, Bring me all your questions I want to do a live. And that question is when I have too much to say on like I have a whole post on it. But I wanted to bring it back here, elaborate on it and share an episode with you here. By the way,