Have you ever recoiled from intimidation? Instead, practice taking up space to learn how to own it, and develop your real estate!

Stand taller than you are, and carry that stature in your mind. Convince yourself of your power and summon your deep inner roar and believe that presence of yourself. Don’t wait for the absence of fear or the lack of overwhelm.  Be a courageous, brave Badass! Stand upright in alignment with how you were born to be, and take the posture of being open to the world and look up! Take up space not only when you’re busy doing, but also when you’re simply being, because you are enough, just as you are, right now. 

Have you ever felt Not Enough because you didn't do something perfectly? Dismantle the idea that imperfect means unworthy, and heal the wounds of perfectionism.  

Renew your mind and embrace your worth from your journey, rather than on the outcome you earned or what you did.  Lessons come from the errors and imperfections, and it's the "flaw" that can become the beautiful trademark that makes one "perfectly" unique. Be a Recovering Perfectionist,. and eschew the idea that anything short of perfect is wrong.  Approach and enjoy life more as an open-ended rhetorical question instead of a fixed and finite multiple choice test!

Have you ever stopped yourself because you were worried about what would They think or what might They say?  Distill the They’s and the Them’s out of the experience! Don’t let the They’s override your own hopes and wishes or deny yourself opportunities you might actually enjoy. 

Coach yourself.  Give yourself the megaphone or the microphone and let your inner, innate voice talk to yourself and be louder than the nebulous They-voices. Tuning out the complicated and imagined They’s lets you listen to the Real You, simply enough, just as you are.

Have you ever stopped yourself because you were worried about what would They think or what might They say?  Distill the They’s and the Them’s out of the experience! Don’t let the They’s override your own hopes and wishes or deny yourself opportunities you might actually enjoy. 

Coach yourself.  Give yourself the megaphone or the microphone and let your inner, innate voice talk to yourself and be louder than the nebulous They-voices. Tuning out the complicated and imagined They’s lets you listen to the Real You, simply enough, just as you are. 

Have you ever needed to explain why you felt pulled towards something that mattered to you, but couldn’t?  But our question is - do you need to explain and always have an answer? Sometimes the need to justify actually can hinder someone from taking action and follow one’s passion and calling.  For ourselves and for others, isn’t it better to come from a place of love rather than condemnation, and encouragement rather than obstacles?  Err on the side of extending grace and humanity to others, and don’t feel like you’re on the stand, subject to judge and jury, when you’re figuring out your Why. 

We don’t always need to know the answer to a Why.  And that’s ok.

Does the thought of a new year’s resolution just add more to your plate? Are you starting the year already feeling tired or overwhelmed? Not everything has to be activity.  Allow yourself the relief of knowing a job well done can begin first with a pause and breath before taking action. Don’t subscribe to frenetic energy, pushing through in soldier mode.  There is value and prescription in being still and breathing.  It’s ok to choose to rest and digest, instead of fight or flight.  Resolve to renew, refresh, restore and rejuvenate. There’s peace in a deep breath and strength in “still”ness. 

Do you set resolutions for the new year, but soon abandon them? Consider being objective-driven rather than goal-oriented, to set yourself in the right direction.  An objective is about limitless opportunity and possibility, whereas a goal is finite and concrete, as if a zero-sum game. An objective is a beacon beyond you that is calling you, and goals are the microscopic steps aiming forward. Missteps in the direction of an objective doesn’t mean halting or abandoning the journey. Celebrate the successes along the way and encourage the developing identity in the direction of transformation, resolving not just what you do, but more so who you want to be, and how you want to show up in the world. 

What do you believe? What is a miracle and magic to you? To explain it is unnecessary. If we can suspend our disbelief and put away the need to be cynical or right, magic and miracles can happen. We can be witness to them,and also be agents of them. t’s not always the grandiose and the magnificent - They are everyday happenings, around us and in us. Miracles can be in the ability to find the Divine in humanity and the Divine within ourselves. Don’t miss the message of the miracle. Sit with awe and wonder; right where you are. You are enough, because you are a miracle, just as you are.  Period. 

Have you ever felt like you were on a different wavelength from everybody else? That’s okay! Get in tune with what resonates with you.  Connect with what moves your spirit and stirs your passion! Recognize it’s not about performance or judgment, and allow that others may be attuned to different things. Let your soul reverberate and resound at the highest frequency and ring true with your best, most authentic self!

Have you ever felt pressure to give the Perfect Gift? Or thought a gift you received was lacking? But there are Gifts in everything, all around us.  The value of a gift is not about “the thing” It’s about the thought and intent from the giver.  The price paid for a gift isn’t always monetary, but instead could  be time, talent or sincere thought.   From baguettes to body wash, it’s not the physical gift but the intangible sentiment that is of priceless value.  Rather than being caught up in the checklist of gift giving, look away from the object and instead see the connection between the giver and receiver as the gift that keeps on giving.