Simply Shan

When you are in the middle of a breakup and in the thick of healing, it can be really hard to work through all of your emotions and find clarity. It can be difficult to understand how to best take care of yourself, learn from this experience, and let the relationship go peacefully in general. We go through 7 questions you can ask yourself after a break up to begin the process of working through the turmoil of a relationship ending. I want to be clear, some of these questions do not apply to to victims of emotional or physical abuse within a relationship. But, in a relationship that does not consist in that nature, these question can be really informative for not only moving forward from a break up, but developing the relationship you have with yourself.

We often grow up in structured societies where cultural, familial, and social aspects influence what we often believe. We create constructs within ourselves based on what we are encourage to think is right. This episode discusses religion and spirituality in particular, how we can challenge our beliefs, and why we should do. We also discuss when supporting someone who has doubts about what they believe, how you can best support them.

We have all been there, whether it is a partner, a family member, or a friend we find ourselves giving loyalty to someone who is constantly crossing our boundaries. We talk about what toxic loyalty is, how to recognize it, and what to do regarding the relationship when we recognize we are being loyal to a fault. 

Do you ever look around at everything you own or want and see it owning you versus you owning it?We live in an incredibly consumeristic lifestyle, but more and more we are starting to see individuals start to pursue a minimalistic lifestyle. The idea that less is more reigns true for this specific way of life. I talk about my experience of becoming a minimalist, why there is value in it, and the changes you find happening when you pursue this ideal. 

We have all been there, we are in an argument with someone we care about and it is not going well. We aren't seeing eye to eye,  voices are being raised, and it feels as if this is a relationship ending fight. Whether it is with a partner, a friend, a sibling, or a parent it is so important to be able to communicate effectively when you have an issue with someone. More arguments then not can be settled peacefully if managed properly. Learning how to approach an issue or a crossed boundary in our interpersonal relationships is key on keeping them. Today, we discuss how you can approach tension or disagreements within our personal relationships and how we can actually grow from the disagreements that arise in our lives.

Pride is not the opposite of shame, but its source. True Humility is the only antidote to shame. I find it fitting that this episode is being released on my birthday because it has truly been a year of change. This episode was very difficult me, as I am very open and honest about my shortcomings and where I have fallen short within my journey and how I am working to change that. Accepting yourself for who you are is really hard, to look at your flaws and understand they are apart of you. I talk about my journey into accepting who I am, the false narrative I created about my life throughout college, and how I am working to mend those mistakes since. I truly hope, if you listen, you understand that there is light and darkness within us. And that is okay, we will never attain perfection. Do not let what is dark within you consume, accept it as a part of you, and work to change your heart towards it. 

This little one changed my heart in a lot of ways, and I only spent three days with her. We can learn so much from children, and their energy is magnetic. There is many lessons that I have come to learn spending time with children, and many of the things they do magnify joy and happiness within life. I came up with a list of 9 things I have learned from kids and been able to apply a lot of it to my adult life which has ultimately brought me a lot of joy, creativity, and happiness into my daily life. Hope you enjoy !

Spiritual, emotional, and physical health has to be a priority in our daily life. It is so important to reconnect to ourselves and the world around us everyday and a lot of the times we go about our day mindlessly and without any intent outside of going to work. Throughout the last year I would say, I have slowly begun to add intentional activities into my everyday routine where I focus on putting time into my health in some shape or form. This life is not meant to be focussed on tirelessly working, it is a journey we take on with ourselves to grow and find balance each and everyday. Here are the 9 habits you can incorporate in your everyday routine to start that journey.

This is probably the most important podcast I will ever get to share, my mentor and friend Amy Pointer comes on and talks about leaving everything she knew in her life and everything that is comfortable and chose to walk the path God called her to do. Three years ago Amy walked away from financial comfort, a job she had for twenty plus years, and everything that was normal in her life so that she could listen to the call she was being given.  She also talks about the physical signs she was being given, the struggle of putting down our comfort and just going, and where she is at now in her walk in faith and what has happened in the last few years since she started this journey. 

In our lives, we are constantly asking the question "How can I be happier?" While happiness is a temporary feeling and cannot always be accessed, there is a way to find more internal satisfaction in every day life and that is through entering a constant state of flow. In this episode, we talk about what state of flow is, how we can enter it, and how we can maintain state of flow throughout our everyday lives.