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  • Did I Heal Too Much? What Happens When You Outgrow Dysfunction | EP. 91
    If you’ve ever wondered, “Did I heal too much? Is that why dating feels so hard now?”—this episode is for you. We’re getting into what it really means to outgrow chaos, stop chasing the high of anxious attachment, and hold out for the kind of love that actually feels safe. It’s not that you’re too much—it’s that you’ve raised your standards and learned how to trust yourself. This episode is your reminder: you didn’t heal too much. You just stopped settling.

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    28 min
  • Grief, Single Girl Edition |EP. 90
    What if the sadness you’re feeling isn’t just about being single... but about grieving the life you thought you’d have by now? In this episode of Single, Not Spiraling, we’re talking about disenfranchised grief—the kind that doesn’t get talked about because there’s no funeral, no breakup, no obvious loss. Just you, quietly mourning the version of adulthood you imagined: the partner, the house, the milestones. We unpack the cultural timelines that were never built for single women, the system that still ties a woman’s worth to being “chosen,” and why giving yourself permission to feel it all is the most powerful thing you can do. 

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    24 min
  • 10 Things Every Single Woman Needs (And It’s Not a Relationship) | EP. 89
    This one’s personal. It’s a love letter, a pep talk, and a little bit of a call-out. After being single for a long time (hi, 7 years), I’ve learned that confidence doesn’t come from someone choosing you—it comes from building a life that turns you on without waiting for them to show up. In this episode, I’m walking you through 10 things every single woman needs—not to get the guy, but to feel alive, grounded, and fucking proud of the life she’s creating. From vibrators to rituals, girlfriends to guilty pleasures, we’re going there. This isn’t about becoming better. It’s about becoming you. More fully, more unapologetically, more deliciously than ever before. So pour the wine in the real glass. Light the candle. And press play. Because you’re not spiraling—you’re single, and you’re thriving.

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    42 min
  • Single Girl Finances: Unpacking the Shame Around Debt (Without Hating Yourself) | EP. 88
    Money isn’t just math — it’s emotional, messy, and wrapped in way more shame than most of us want to admit. In this episode of Single, Not Spiraling, I’m getting brutally honest about what it means to navigate debt, guilt, and survival-mode spending as a single woman.

    We’re talking about why being financially “behind” doesn’t make you broken, why the system actually is rigged, and what it looks like to build intimacy with your money instead of ghosting it every time things get tight.

    If you’ve ever felt like you’re drowning financially while trying to keep up appearances — this one’s for you. No budgeting hacks. No bootstraps. Just truth, compassion, and a hell of a lot of unlearning. Because shame can’t survive honesty — and your worth has never been tied to your bank balance.

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    28 min
  • Would You Date You? Pt.3 Define Your Non Negotiables Or Keep Settling |EP. 87
    Still waiting for someone to pick you? This episode is your wake-up call. Lauren Samantha is calling out the toxic dating patterns that keep women performing, shrinking, and settling—just to be liked. In this raw, no-BS episode, we unpack how to stop dating from fear, define your real non-negotiables, and finally build love from power—not panic. You’ll learn:
    • The difference between preferences and true non-negotiables
    • How to stop shapeshifting just to be chosen
    • What dating from self-worth actually looks like (even if you're scared)
    • How to challenge the relationship timelines you never asked for
    • What it means to choose yourself first—without closing yourself off to love
    This is part three of the “Would You Date You?” series—designed to help you stop spiraling and start building the kind of relationship you'd actually want to be in.

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    29 min
  • Would You Date You? Pt. 2: Stop Starving Your Needs to Seem Desirable | EP. 86
    You're out here saying you want a partner who’s emotionally available, who prioritizes your needs, who makes you feel sexy, seen, and safe… but are you doing any of that for yourself? In this episode, Lauren Samantha rips the bow off self-love and gets real about what it actually means to be devoted to you. No bubble baths. No beige journals. Just daily rituals, deep needs, and the bold-ass act of choosing yourself—without apology, without performance, and without waiting for permission. We're talking:
    • What it really looks like to love yourself without needing to earn it
    • How to stop ghosting your needs and start showing the hell up
    • Why pleasure isn’t a treat—it’s a damn practice
    • Turning your daily life into a slow burn kind of romance
    This is Part 2 of the Would You Date You? series—because being single isn’t a bad thing. It’s the most important relationship of your life.

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    24 min
  • Would You Date You? Pt 1: Are You Becoming The Partner You Crave EP| 85
    You say you want someone emotionally available… but are you emotionally available to yourself? In this raw and reflective first episode of the Would You Date You? series, Lauren Samantha cracks open what it really means to become the kind of partner you’re out here looking for. No fluff. No Pinterest-perfect self-care tips. Just honest talk about how we ghost our own needs, abandon our boundaries, and call it “doing the work.” You’ll hear stories, questions, and gut-checks to help you get clear on:

    – Where you’re still outsourcing your worth
    – What it actually means to hold emotional space for yourself
    – Why loving yourself isn’t the same as performing “healing” perfectly If you’ve ever spiraled wondering why love hasn’t landed—or secretly questioned whether you’re actually ready for it—this episode is your mirror.

     👉 Plus: Lauren shares a free tool, Would You Date You? A Guide to Becoming the Partner You’re Looking For to take this deeper. Grab it HERE

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    19 min
  • What If Nothing’s Wrong With You? But You Still Need to Change Some Sh*t! (Welcome to Single Not Spiraling)| Ep. 84
    Ever cried in the Trader Joe’s parking lot because your ex moved on and you’re still wondering if love is even in the cards for you? Same. In this first episode of Single Not Spiraling, Lauren Samantha kicks things off with a brutally honest conversation about what it really means to be single right now—and why this podcast exists in the first place. If you've ever felt like your life is “on hold” because you’re not in a relationship, this one’s for you. We’re talking:
    • The quiet grief of a life that doesn’t look like “the plan”
    • Why being single doesn’t mean you’re broken
    • What self-worth actually looks like when no one’s watching
    • The toxic messaging in self-help, spirituality, and dating culture
    • The real reason spiraling hits so hard—and how to stop
    This isn’t a “love yourself more” pep talk. This is your space to unpack the shame, rage, hope, and longing that come with being a single woman in a world obsessed with coupledom. 💌 Plus, Lauren shares a vulnerable story about craving comfort, navigating pain alone, and why partnership doesn’t get to define your power.

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    25 min
  • The End of Pleasure Pathways (And the Beginning of Something New) EP.83
    After 82 episodes, today marks the end of an era—and the beginning of something I didn’t see coming. In this final episode of Pleasure Pathways, I’m looking back at how it all started (yes, mushrooms were involved), what this show cracked open in me, and why I know it’s time to pivot. But don’t panic—this isn’t the end of me in your ears. Something new is coming. Something more aligned with where I am now. I’ll tell you everything. Stick around 'til the end.

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    The Benefits Of Reading Erotic W/ The Spicey Minstrel | EP. 30
    Intimacy In The Strip Club W/ Cynthia EP. 37
    Exploring Open Relations with Jeniffer EP. 61
    How To Schedule Sex Without Killing The Spark EP. 49

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    31 min
  • The History of Pleasure: How We Lost It—and What It Takes to Get It Back | EP. 82
    In this episode, we trace the history of pleasure—from Ancient Greece and goddess worship, to the Puritans, patriarchy, and purity culture. You’ll hear how joy became shame, how desire got pathologized, and how women’s sensuality was stripped down to silence. We talk about how women have fought to stay connected to their bodies, their joy, and their truth. And what it really takes to heal that relationship today. If you’ve ever felt like pleasure had to be earned, hidden, or explained—this conversation is for you.

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    25 min

About Single (not spiraling)

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Welcome to Single Not Spiraling with Lauren—the podcast for women who are done waiting, done performing, and done pretending they’re not whole on their own.

This is your space for honest…