Around the time I turned 35, I started wondering, "Why am I still single?" I had no idea what would have possibly prevented me from meeting my Mister Right. What I didn't know was that I had some unhealthy dating patterns that were holding me back from engaging in healthy relationships. It was only after I married and started coaching single women that I realized how my dating choices kept me from healthy love. 

If you've ever wondered why you haven't met a special guy, you might be able to relate to some points in this episode.

But before you listen, please hear me: this episode is not to blame you or make you beat yourself up. Every single thing that I talk about that keeps women single in this episode is something you can change. You are not irretrievably broken. There is nothing "wrong" with you so that you can't have a relationship. But just like it is with everything else in life, we can learn new skills. 

And, just like I met a great guy who loves and adores me, I am confident that you can meet a great man too! 

The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible! 

Your coach, 

Shana 

Hi there, Single Lady! 

This is a "must listen" episode because the majority of the women I have worked with or coached say that they have encountered Red Flag Men. In this episode, I help you recognize red flags. 

Have you ever ended a relationship, and then looked back over your shoulder and thought, "How did I miss those red flags?" If so, then this episode is for you, and if that hasn't happened to you and you want to avoid this unpleasant situation, then this episode is also for you. 

The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible! 

Hey there, Single Lady! This is a fun episode and I know you're going to love it. 

In this episode, my husband and I talk about: 

• The difference between chasing and inviting a man to pursue you
• Why it's okay to go up to a man and start a conversation with him
• Different levels of physical affection
• Why men need to pursue women and women need to be pursued and 
• How to get a man to ask you out on a date

Ooooh. . .this one's good!

The dream that you have to love--and be loved--is possible!

Your coach,

Shana

P.S. To find out if one-on-one coaching is a good fit for you, you can set up a 15-minute Discovery Session with me here. I'd love to talk about how I can help you find a trustworthy, marriage-minded man. 

Have you ever felt as if you were in love with a man but then it turned out not to be love at all, or maybe even a toxic relationship, a complete mismatch? But it felt so right at the beginning.

This brings up the question: Was it love or was it limerance?

What is limerance? That's what we're going to talk about on this episode.
What it is, how to recognize it, how to keep from making poor relationship choices because of it, and how to tell the difference between limerance and love.

If you'd like to find out if you are a good candidate for one-on-one customized coaching, please visit singleover30.net, click the "coaching" link in the menu at the top of the page, then choose a time from my calendar for a free, 30-minute breakthrough session. I look forward to talking with you soon! 

I've been married for almost 9 years now. How time has flown! My husband and I have a good marriage and we're still going strong, for which I am thankful. 

Recently, though, there was a discussion in a singles group online about marriage and it got me thinking about the myths single women often believe about marriage—and how those myths can hold even the best woman back from getting a great relationship.

So today, I’m going to share 8 of the most common myths about marriage--including sexual compatibility in marriage, soul mates, and how things in a good marriage should be easy and that marriage is really difficult. 

I know you'll be encouraged! 

Your Coach, 
Shana 

Hey there Single Lady!

The women I coach want to date MEN, guys who have their lives together and have grown up, men who know what it means to care for, cherish, and protect a woman. If you can relate . . . if you want to find mature men to date but you feel like all you are attracting is men who haven't yet grown up, then this episode is for you. 

I hope you are encouraged! 

If you want to find out of if the Single Over 30 Relationship School is a good fit for you, just set up a 15-minute Discovery Call with me. I'd be delighted to talk with you and share more. 

In this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, I interview special guest, Frank Martin, co-author of The Right One: How to Successfully Date and Marry the Right Person. 

During this special interview, Frank gives some awesome info on how to tell if a man is really interested, how to invite a man to clarify how he feels about you and the relationship, if it's okay for a woman to ask the man how he feels about her, and how to continue the conversation during the dating process so you can intentionally move toward the wedding altar. 

He also shares a really fun--and juicy--story about how he "stole" his wife from a man she was engaged to. 

You're going to love this episode! Thanks for tuning in! 

The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible! 

Rejection. It's something no one wants to experience but everybody does. Because we ALL experience it, we all need to know how to successfully handle it. 

Handling rejection successfully can mean the difference between moving forward to experience a loving, fulfilling relationship or not experiencing one due to developing unhealthy dating patterns after rejection. (I've been there!)

This Single Over 30 episode is PACKED with great info that you will definitely be able to put into use in your life--either for yourself--or it can be used to encourage a friend.

Take a listen. You'll be glad you did. 

The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!

💗 💗 💗
Your coach,

Shana Schutte
SingleOver30.net

There's all kinds of advice out there about how long you should wait to become exclusive or "make it official."

Some people say you should date through the seasons. Some people say you should date for at least six months. Other people say that you shouldn't wait, that if it feels right, then you should just date exclusively right away. Because, if it feels right, then why not just go for it?

In today's episode, I answer the question, how long you should actually wait until you "make it official" and only date one another.

I know you're going to love it! To find out if one of my one-on-one coaching programs is a good fit for you, head on over to singleover30.net and click on the coaching link at the top of the page. https://www.singleover30.net/

I'm rooting for you! 

The dream that you have--to love and be loved--is possible! 

He's nice and maybe he even treats you like a queen, but he doesn't check off everything that's on your list. What should you do? You don't want to lose a great guy but you don't want to settle either. 

In this episode, I'm sharing insights from an article that I authored that's all about "the list" and what to do about it. 

I hope you are encouraged! 

The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!