Hey there, Single Lady!

I love it when a year wraps up and a new year is around the corner. I love it because it gives me an opportunity to look back and celebrate all the blessings I have received. 

Some of the blessings I am celebrating as 2022 comes to a close are the top episodes of this year. I'm not celebrating them to toot my own horn, but I am celebrating them because the top episodes from this year show me which topics spoke to you most--and that helps me serve you better!

In this episode, and in next week's episode, I'm sharing the top episodes of the year. 

I think you're going to love this! (If you haven't ever heard it, awesome. And if you have, take a listen a second time! You never know what might speak to you this time around.)

The dream that you have to love--and be loved--is possible! 

Your coach,
Shana Schutte
SingleOver30.net

P.S. To find out if you're a good candidate for the Single Over 30 Relationship School, which includes one-on-one coaching, click here to set up a free, 15-minute Discovery Session with me to learn more. 

Oh boy! This Single Over 30 episode is all about a topic that I have personally experienced myself--and that many women I coach experience. 

You meet a man and you like him but there is that ONE THING that you just can’t see yourself compromising on. 

Still, you might be thinking, “If he would just change that ONE THING, then things would be great. We could have a great future together.” Or, he has that one thing and you’re wondering if you should accept it or hope that he will change--or try to get him to change. 

Today in this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, my husband, Clark, and I address those things that you shouldn’t hold out for a man to change because in the long run you are just going to end up unhappy, and perhaps even in a toxic relationship. 

And we also talk about how to tell if he can--or will--change change something that just isn’t working for you–and it won’t work for the relationship. 

To find out if you're a good candidate for coaching, send me an email at [email protected]. 

Many women I coach wonder why some men aren't interested in committing to marriage.  There can be a lot of reasons–and it’s important to understand these reasons so you can identify that trustworthy marriage minded man. 

Some of the reasons a man won't commit are legitimate, and when you understand what these reasons are, it can help you identify if a man is ready to tie the knot and if he would be a good mate. 

So in this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, I share a bunch-o reasons why some men won't commit to marriage. I know you'll find it helpful. 

To find out if you're a good candidate for one-on-one coaching, visit singleover30.net and click on the coaching link at the top of the page. You can schedule a free Breakthrough Session with me to learn more. 

Hey there, Single Lady! 

Welcome, welcome to another episode of the Single Over 30 podcast! 

When I was single, I had a pattern I repeated several times: I allowed men into my life who weren't emotionally safe.

Why would I do such a thing? Well, there are lots of reasons, such as I didn't want to be judgmental, I didn't trust myself to make a good choice (because of a broken past relationship), and because I didn't know how to recognize a safe date. 

If I did know how, I would have been more equipped to date well and avoid unproductive dating that wasn’t getting me anywhere close to the wedding altar. Plus that would have saved me tons of heartbreak.

Maybe you can relate. Be encouraged! 

You don't have to shut down your heart out of self-protection or decide you'll never love again because you fear choosing the wrong mate. Instead, you can become equipped to choose well, and when you become equipped, you'll feel more empowered to make a good decision.

And that’s what we’re going to talk about on today’s episode when I give you 5 truths to help you recognize a safe date (and avoid Mr. Wrong). That’s the guy who will just break your heart and won’t be good to you or for you.

To learn if you are a good candidate for one-on-one coaching, just click here to set up a free, 15-minute Discovery Session. I look forward to connecting soon! 

You've just met a guy, and you're on your first or second date and you think maybe he could be someone special. He seems like he has a lot of the qualities that you are looking for, but during your date he does something that turns you off—and maybe even makes you a little afraid . . . he mentions his ex. 

And maybe he doesn't just mention her, but he says some unpleasant things about her. Is this a red flag? I’m going to answer that question in this episode and give you some tips on what to do during your “he’s talking about her” date.

This episode is an extension of Episode 105: 10 Ways to Tell if a Man is Emotionally Available.

In episode 105,  I talked about how to tell if a man is emotionally available because that’s what many women want. And in this episode, we're going to talk about how to invite a man to become more emotionally available to you.  My husband joins me to give us a little guidance. What a sport to join us again, right? 

When I ask women, “What is the top trait that you want in a man?” many of them say they want a man who is emotionally available. 

Maybe, like me, you’ve wondered, “What does that even mean?” Great question!

Emotional availability happens on a couple levels:

It happens on the readiness level, meaning he is available and ready--to give his heart away and commit to a specific woman. That’s one type of emotional availability. 

The second type of emotional availability happens on the communication level meaning that he has the ability to share his feelings and emotions with you.  Not that he would be like your best girlfriend, able to talk for hours about his feelings as MOST men are not wired this way, but that he can—when needed—connect with his feelings and when he feels safe, share his feelings with you.

Desiring a man who is emotionally available on both the readiness and communication levels is a good thing—as it’s important for the health of a long-term committed relationship.

Two people who cannot connect emotionally is just a relationship between two strangers, and that  just isn’t any fun. Being able to connect emotionally is what makes a relationship juicy and life-giving, as we were all created to be seen.

So, good news! If you’re like many of the women I coach who are looking for an emotionally available man, this episode brings a whole lot of clarity to the issue of a man being emotionally available by sharing 10 Ways to Tell if a Man is Emotionally Available. 

There are many modern dating and relationship terms floating around out there: fleabagging, catch and release, cushioning, gaslighting, and benching, just to name a few. 

Today, we’re going to focus on one that is a common dating behavior: breadcrumbing. 

If you wonder if you’re being breadcrumbed, if you’re curious if breadcrumbing has ever happened to you or if you wonder how to recognize it,  this is one of those empowering episodes that will help you learn how to attract a trustworthy, marriage-minded man and will help you weed out the men who are truly interested in you from the men who aren’t. 

Today I’m going to share 6 signs that will help you tell when a man is breadcrumbing you. 

This episode is one of those empowering ones.

In the recent months, I have worked with women to help them spot an online dating scam—or what some people call a “romance scam.” 

According to the FTC, a romance scam, is “when a person gets tricked into believing they’re in a romantic relationship with someone they met online.”

In fact, their other half is a cybercriminal using a fake identity to gain enough of their victim’s trust to ask — or blackmail — them for money.

Sounds completely yucky, right? Who wants to put themselves in a position to even be scammed?

The good news is that no one and I mean no one has to be scammed when they are informed, and they know what to look for. 

You can completely avoid these men online. The women I have coached who have met men online for serious relationships have done that very thing and no one has been duped. 

In today’s episode, I’m going to tell you what to look  for so that you can feel empowered and confident so you don’t have to be afraid of being scammed. 

You meet a man online and you connect. The next thing you know, the conversation dies and he disappears. 

Why does it always seem that you have a hard time keeping the conversation going? Why do men disappear and what can you do about it? 

I’m going to answer those questions in today's episode.

Thanks for listening! 

The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible! 

Your Coach, 
Shana