Sitting in a Car

Do you have the skills and abilities to sit with really complex emotions?

Complex emotions like fear, worry, embarrassment, tension, or anger.

Whether they show up in you or others?

This is what you can learn if you join my community to learn The Evolved Family Method.

Your friend, who you love, is constantly making negative and toxic comments about her body and the body of others, around your kids.

You want her to stop but need some help in what to say.

In today’s episode I’m sharing how you can discuss this with your kids and also how you can best approach your friend.

Connection is at the heart of Sitting In a Car and for the relationship you want to build with your kids and the adults in your life.

Remember to grab a pen and paper so you can get the suggested wording to use and adapt for your own convos going forward.

You can also grab the free resource I mentioned via the link in my bio. (KELI CAN YOU MAKE SURE THIS LINK IS IN THE INSTAGRAM BIO PLEASE - You can edit the bio in searchie - thanks)

If you would love more support with your emotions, talking about sensitive things and plucking up the courage to do so, then The Evolved Family Method may be for you.

Drop me a DM to have a chat or head to the link in my bio to join The Evolve School waitlist.

x Sarah

‘How do you discuss sexual desire with adolescents?

And without shame?’ This is such a great question –

and it's not just a question for parents of adolescents.

It's a question that relates to kids of all ages.

Because when our young people know what desire is and can talk about it,

it’s a sign of self-awareness.

They are learning to speak up for the things they need and want.

And pushing push back against the shame that might keep them quiet or small

and not able to speak about what they want.

We've lots to say on this wonderful and important topic.

And lots of tips for you, for when you have convos about this –

including how to chat to your teenagers,

and want more privacy, and mightn't want to chat to YOU about any of this at all!

This episode is a gentle reminder about this past question on Sitting in a Car and how my answer can support even more connection between you and your growing kid. Because sometimes it’s helpful to be reminded of the things you wanted to talk about in your family but you’ve forgotten about in the swirl of family life x

‘What do you say when your 9-year-old daughter says she doesn’t want to have a period?’

This is such a good question -

and not just for parents of 9-year-olds who are thinking about periods,

but for all of us.

Cos this question is really about connection.

This week on Sitting in a Car, I remember when I got my first period.

Because my family didn’t talk about periods, I decided I wanted to keep my period a secret.

(You can hear how that worked out here.)

This episode is a gentle reminder about this past question on Sitting in a Car and how my answer can support even more connection between you and your growing kid. Because sometimes it’s helpful to be reminded of the things you wanted to talk about in your family but you’ve forgotten about in the swirl of family life x

A mum asks,

‘How do you deal with awkward daddies?

Ours panics at the word vagina when our girls say it.’

This is such a super question,

because it allows us to chat about gender,

and the expectations around what certain genders get to say and do.

In this week’s episode, I talk about how to make space for male parents to grow into talking to their kids about puberty, bodies, and sex.

This episode is a gentle reminder about this past question on Sitting in a Car and how my answer can support even more connection between you and your growing kid. Because sometimes it’s helpful to be reminded of the things you wanted to talk about in your family but you’ve forgotten about in the swirl of family life x

‘If your 8-year-old child is not asking questions,

should you initiate the conversation?

How do you know what they’re ready to learn?’

This is such a great question,

because it gets to the heart of what we think about s=e=x=.

And the answer to this question applies to children of every age.

In our video and podcast this week, there are loads of great ways to get this convo started, even if you’re both new at it.

Ps. This is a gentle reminder of how to support even more connection between you and your growing kid. Because sometimes it’s helpful to be reminded of the things you wanted to talk about in your family but you’ve forgotten about it in the swirl of family life x

‘How can I chat with my squeamish 8-year-old about periods?

I started a conversation with her once about periods, and she was totally squicked out.

I’d love some help.’

What a great question. I’m sure this parent isn’t alone in this.

So what do we do when we have info we need to give our kid

so that they stay safe and healthy growing up,

but which they’re too squicked out to hear?

My answer this week comes from the Courage pillar of the Evolved Family method.

The Courage pillar helps us look at how we can support our child exactly as they are,

without pretending, or wishing, they were easier to talk to about sensitive stuff!

It teaches us how to start conversations, and which actual words to use.

To hear more about how to use the Courage pillar and chat with your squicky kid about periods,

watch this week's episode of SItting in a Car here.

And here’s to doing our best to stay connected to our growing kids.

x Sarah

This episode is a gentle reminder about this past question on Sitting in a Car and how my answer can support even more connection between you and your growing kid. Because sometimes it’s helpful to be reminded of the things you wanted to talk about in your family but you’ve forgotten about in the swirl of family life x

Let’s talk about how to teach your kid about consent –

even if you’re not sure they’re old enough.

For a lot of us,

consent can feel like a super tricky area.

‘Cause consent is about sex, right?

So in order to chat with your kid about consent –

to help them know their own boundaries and needs,

while respecting the boundaries and needs of others –

they need to know about sex.

Right?

Actually, not at all!

We can start helping our kids understand about consent

from when they’re very small.

To hear more about how to teach our kids about consent

in everyday ways, no matter their age, watch this week’s episode of Sitting in a Car

x Sarah

If you’re finding that teaching consent is becoming increasingly important to you,

DM me so I can let you know how The Evolve School could help you do this important part of parenting x

This episode is a gentle reminder about this past question on Sitting in a Car and how my answer can support even more connection between you and your growing kid. Because sometimes it’s helpful to be reminded of the things you wanted to talk about in your family but you’ve forgotten about in the swirl of family life x

Let’s talk about how to chat with your kid about puberty,

in a way that makes them feel supported

and able to come to you with any questions or worries they have as they grow up.

Here’s what A LOT of courageous but tongue-tied parents do,

when it comes to chatting about puberty.

They wait to chat with their kids about puberty,

until they begin to see the signs that their kid might be starting to go through it.

And THEN,

they have, or try to have, a conversation with their kid about it.

That makes sense, right?

But here’s the problem.

if you don’t talk about any of this stuff with your kid when they are younger and feeling relaxed in their body,

AND THEN suddenly out of the blue start talking about it with your kid while their body is already changing,

there’s going to be a *lot* of awkwardness.

But! Good news.

There are ways to prevent this.

For lots more about how to dive into the complexities of starting ongoing conversations with your kid

about puberty and so much more,

watch this week’s episode of Sitting in a Car here on Facebook.

x Sarah

Ps. This is a gentle reminder of how to support even more connection between you and your growing kid. Because sometimes it’s helpful to be reminded of the things you wanted to talk about in your family but you’ve forgotten about it in the swirl of family life x

“Is it ok to tell a 4-year-old they came out of the vagina?”

What an awesome question this week.

It’s important for all adults to think about this, even if your kids are older or younger.

I think the answer starts with how we can get comfortable doing the parts of parenting that feel extra difficult.

(In this weeks episode, I tell a personal story about how my anxiety stopped me being able to show up for  my kids in an everyday situation.)

So what can parents and other adults who care for children say to young kids about how babies are born?

To hear more about how to chat about birth,

have a look at this week’s episode.

Ps. This is a gentle reminder of how to support even more connection between you and your growing kid. Because sometimes it’s helpful to be reminded of the things you wanted to talk about in your family, but you’ve forgotten about it in the swirl of family life x

‘How can I have conversations about consent with young children?’

I love this question.

Because yes, it’s about consent, my favourite subject –

but consent isn’t always about sex so that makes it an easy topic to talk about with smaller kids.

You see, consent is actually about respecting yourself and others.

And we all want to raise kids who respect themselves and the people around them :)

So, YES!

We certainly can talk about consent with very young kids.

And the great thing about it, is,

childhood is FULL of ways to chat about consent.

I have a story for you this week

about something I overheard, during one of my kids’ playdates,

where a really gross, funny game was happening,

and how I intervened, to let everyone know

that nobody has to eat anything they don’t want to eat (don’t ask!).

Watch this week's episode below. It’s a good one 

x Sarah

Ps. and if you’ve got pets at home I’ve got some ideas in this weeks episode that might work really well for your family.

Ps. This email is a gentle reminder about this past episode of Sitting in a Car and how it can support even more connection between you and your growing kid. Because sometimes it’s helpful to be reminded of the things you wanted to talk about in your family but you’ve forgotten about in the swirl of family life x