Sitting in a Car

'How can I talk to my kids about porn, in a non-alarming way?'

Let’s  dig deep into three simple ways to make this easier.

The answer to this question comes from the Courage pillar of the Evolved Family method.

As you might know, if you watch Sitting in a Car quite a lot,

the Courage pillar has to do

with how we as adults can take responsibility for speaking up,

and the tools we can use to do it.

We learn how to start conversations, and what sentences and words to use.

The Courage pillar is especially helpful here,

because a lot of grown-ups feel afraid of this topic!

We might try to shield our kids from ever seeing porn in the first place (not possible),

or we might worry that if we talk about it… they might go look for it.

So how can we chat with our kids about porn,

in a way that is non-alarming?

For lots of specific tips, watch this week’s episode here.

And if you’d like to get Sitting in a Car straight to your inbox, Dm me and I’ll get that sorted for you.

x Sarah

This episode is a gentle reminder about this past question on Sitting in a Car and how my answer can support even more connection between you and your growing kid. Because sometimes it’s helpful to be reminded of the things you wanted to talk about in your family but you’ve forgotten about in the swirl of family life x

‘Can I talk to my 7-year-old about her clitoris?’

This is such an important episode this week.

Because lots of us don’t feel comfortable talking about the clitoris.

The clitoris is all about pleasure.

And pleasure is something we might find difficult to talk about with kids.

And you know what? That’s perfectly normal.

A lot of us have had no modeling for how to have conversations about sensitive stuff with our kid(s.

So it makes sense that we might feel a bit uncomfortable,

and not at all confident about how to do it.

This week I’ve got three tips to help you have the clitoris talk this week. They are all from the Growth Pillar inside the Evolved Family Method.

To hear all about it, come join me in Sitting in a Car.

And if you’d like to learn more about the Evolved Family Method, send me a PM and I’ll help you with that x

Ps. This episode is a gentle reminder about this past question on Sitting in a Car and how my answer can support even more connection between you and your growing kid. Because sometimes it’s helpful to be reminded of the things you wanted to talk about in your family but you’ve forgotten about in the swirl of family life x

‘How can I talk to my 7-year-old about body image?’

This parent’s young girl has started saying not very nice things about her own body,

and has started expressing an interest in extremely skinny body types.

(You can hear the whole question & story in this week’s podcast.)

This courageous but tongue-tied parent is confused,

like many of us would be in her situation,

because she’s done everything right.

She’s taught her kid about healthy eating, exercise and all the things.

She’s never criticised her own body, or mentioned weight around her child.

So how has this happened?

As you can see, this is deep stuff.

If you’re feeling like you could use more support in this part of your parenting, and to hear much more about how to chat about body image with your kids, have a listen to this week’s episode of Sitting in a Car here -

And I’ll see you there.

x Sarah

Ps.This episode is a gentle reminder about this past question on Sitting in a Car and how my answer can support even more connection between you and your growing kid. Because sometimes it’s helpful to be reminded of the things you wanted to talk about in your family but you’ve forgotten about in the swirl of family life x

This episode is a gentle reminder about this past question on Sitting in a Car and how my answer can support even more connection between you and your growing kid. Because sometimes it’s helpful to be reminded of the things you wanted to talk about in your family but you’ve forgotten about in the swirl of family life x

When it came to awkward conversations, our parents did their best with what they knew. Whether you were dismissed, made to feel uncomfortable or awkward about sensitive subjects, you want to do things differently, and build an Evolved Communicating Family.

However, you may experience a level of panic or dread when it comes to having these same conversations with your kid, especially if they are young.

If you feel you could use some support and actionable pointers for this part of your parenting, join me on this week’s episode of Sitting in a Car.

I’ll see you there.

x Sarah

👀 Ok that was a bit dramatic.

The person asking the question for today’s episode isn’t considering cancelling her friendship, however she does want help in protecting her kids from the toxic views her friend holds on body image.

I suggested the following:

Have a listen so you can learn the exact wording (and adapt where needed) to help you use your courage to have an uncomfortable conversation with a loved one.

What is a silent connection breaker (3:53)

What to say to your kid(s) about your friend’s views (5:44)

How to empathise with your friend (7:54)

Formula to have that difficult convo and ask for help (9:38)

If you need support with handling your emotions, your kids or any adult’s in your life The Evolved Family Method is for you. You’re invited to join our community, so note your interest here.

Free body image resource

In this episode you’re going to learn how to educate yourself so you can have sensitive convos with your stepson who has come out to you as trans.

Firstly, what a privilege it is that your stepson has trusted you with this information about himself. And it’s beautiful that you’ve accepted this and want to learn how best to support him going forwards.

In this episode I share 3 things to help you prepare for this change so you can be there for your step kid or any sort of kid, and learn how to talk to a trans kid about sensitive things.

Want to skip ahead?

Learn to celebrate your different experiences (7:02)

An honour and prompt to re-educate self (8:46)

Book Resources (10:50)

Sex is a funny word by Cory Silverberg & Fiona Smith

The ABCs of LGBT+ by Ashley Mardel 

Trans+ by Kathryn Gonzales & Karen Rayne

Gender Explorers by Juno Roche

www.genderspectrum.org

And it makes sense that if you’ve never had acceptance and unconditional support modelled to you this situation can be extremely challenging because it is very complex and can bring up various emotions within us. In particular fear and maybe even your own painful experiences of rejection.

This is why I have The Evolve School.

It not only helps you learn how to talk to your kid(s) about ANYthing sensitive but it also helps you learn how to be kind to yourself as you learn new skills to help you build an evolved communicating family.

So if you feel that you could do with further support leave your details here and I’ll be in touch when we next open.

Today's question is ‘Should I shower naked in front of my kids? What about my husband?’

This parent is asking for help in deciding what is best for her kids. However, as much as I offer my tools and experience, only you can have the final say in what is best for you and your kids.

So I’m sharing 3 things to consider when asking what the right thing to do is in a situation like this:

The Evolved Family Method is a complete method that supports families to have conversations about every sort of sensitive topic in a way that builds deeper connection with growing kids.

Nakedness is about how we feel, how we actually feel, not what our kids need.

But if we’re operating from past experiences, how we feel may not reflect how we want to show up as parents.

So using the Kindness pillar of the Method I share tools and techniques with you so you can learn principles on how to nourish your nervous system and how to reprogram how it feels around things to do with sensitive stuff, nakedness, and all that stuff.

Because at the end of the day, we're here to do better perhaps than what our natural inclination might be or what we experienced growing up.

As at the date of this podcast being released The Evolved School is open. So if you’re interested in joining me and other parents like you, get in touch today.

Here’s to raising your caring and confident young person to respect themselves and those around them.

Until next week,

x Sarah

You’ve been trusted with some new information about your tween and you’ve been over to Google to get help and come up short. What now?

In this week’s episode we’re diving into the courage and growth pillars to learn how we can continue building our evolved communicating family. Connection is such an important piece of the foundation and will support the rest. Have a listen as this episode, although answering a question about how to handle your tween’s sexual orientation provides information that can be used time and time again, no matter the topic.

Tongue-tied parenting effect (2:37)

Is giving the information more important than the connection with your kid? (3:59)

How can we apologise? Is it necessary? (6:14)

Book resources (10:43)

Let’s Talk About It by Erika Moen & Matthew Nolan

Wait, what? by Heather Corrina

Sex Educated by Grace Alice O’Shea & Sexual Health West

The Evolve School Doors are open!

You can learn how to build deeper connections whilst talking about sensitive stuff, really complex stuff, related to sex, bodies and relationships through The Evolved Family Method. With practical support & skills you’ll get the tools to help you raise your confident, caring and respectful young person. Learn more here about what is involved and join us if it calls to you.

This week we’re finding out how to talk to your primary school aged kid(s) about an uncle who’s transitioning into an aunt.

It’s totally understandable if strong emotions are present as this is a sensitive topic that can impact more than just your family. Your parenting community may be affected too, and how might they feel if your kid starts telling their kid this new info?

The bottom line is you want to do your best for your kid(s), but you’re not sure what that looks like or how to even do it?

So in this episode we use the growth pillar to cover layering, gender expression, acceptance, and pronouns.

How to layer information [5:06]

What is Gender Expression [6:33]

Practising Pronouns [11:03]

Who Are You: The Kid’s Guide to Gender Identity - Brook Pessin-Whedbee

I hope this helps you but if you find you need more support please do get yourself on the list for The Evolve School.

x Sarah

Ps. If you’d like to discover how to give your kid the openness about sensitive topics that you didn’t have growing up, click the link in my bio 👉 @iamsarahsproule

Visit www.sarahSproule.com/Masterclass to save your spot on the Build More Connection Masterclass ♥️ it’s free x

Do you know what you would say to your 7 & 10 yr old if they found intimate photos of you, that you had taken for your partner, on your phone?

That’s the question I’m answering today. What to do and say as Mum’s feeling embarrassed.

This is a beautiful opportunity to teach.

It’s also a great opportunity for you to learn and practice skills that help you notice when your unhelpful unconscious beliefs are impacting your ability to connect with your kid(s).

Kindness for yourself is so important when this happens.

Have a listen to the episode to find out my 3 tips on what to say and how to handle this situation.

x Sarah