Sitting in a Car

I don’t want my kid to be that kid that knows about how we make new humans before the other kids do. 

But I also know they need the info.

What should I do? 

You can take a poll of what the other parents are doing. 

Find out when they plan to have the convos and wait until then... 

Or you can decide to do what’s best for you and your kid and prepare for whatever may come.

Learn some best practices on how to manage other people’s emotions.

Learn what questions to ask yourself so that, when faced with a similar scenario, you know what to do.

You might be thinking “Ok Sarah, you know I’m leaning towards the latter but what does that look like?”

Well, in this episode I share 3 ways to help you choose what’s best for you and your kid(s).

Minus the input of other people.

And remember if you ever feel alone in your journey or feel like you could use some more support join the waitlist for The Evolve School. 

x Sarah

Given the society and culture we live in today, this is enough to freak any parent out!

We remember what our teenage years were like. We all had something about our ever-changing bodies that we didn’t like or even hated!

Did we have a trusted, safe source to confide in? 

Were we able to express how we felt? 

Did we feel seen by our carers? 

Of course, they did their best but maybe we didn’t have any of the above. 

And so now we want to make sure our kid does have that. 

Not to mention the fact that the media is super unhelpful. There is generally only one type of body image shown. And a tonne of shaming and exclusion of diverse bodies.

So, if your 10 yr-old is struggling with their body image, made worse by the lack of inclusion in the media, I’ve got you. 

If you feel like you could use further support for this part of your parenting, consider joining The Evolve School. This is your chance to develop your own unique way of nurturing the connection with your kid(s). 

Join the waitlist here https://sarahsproule.support/waitlist/ 

For now, listen into this week’s podcast for 3 ways you can connect with your 10-yr-old as they navigate their body image.

x Sarah

Does this feel like a bit of a curveball?

It’s ok if it does. 

As humans we want to protect our kid(s) from anything that may cause them pain, suffering, discrimination, etc. 

We want them to feel loved, supported, and free to be who they are!

But how do we create this environment for them if we’re in a state of panic, fear, and uncertainty? 

Can we create this environment for them? 

The simple answer is yes. The solution however, is not as easy. 

Our community and our pillars were created for this exact reason; because it’s not easy. 

We must put in the work to have deeper connections with our kids. And that requires support. Community.

Because the work sometimes looks like:

• managing our emotions 
• rewiring our brains
• learning new tools & techniques
• educating ourselves 
• releasing our conditioning and creating new ways of being 

None of which are easy, but with the support of a community of parents who are on a similar journey the road is less lonely.

So in this week’s episode we dive into some of this work.

We learn how to show up for our kid as a courageous, kind, & compassionate parent. 

One who reminds our kid that they have full permission to be who they are. 

One that models to our kid what self-regulation looks like. 

One that creates a safe-space of deep connection for an evolved communicating family. 

If you’re here, the likelihood is that you’re a courageous yet tongue-tied parent. 

And if so, you’re on the right podcast. 

Have a listen to this week’s episode of Sitting in a Car to get support on how to answer your 6yo who says they’ve been a boy since they were 2 ½. 

For ongoing support visit www.sarahsproule.com/bio

Now let’s dive in.

x Sarah

When it came to awkward conversations, our parents did their best with what they knew. Whether you were dismissed, made to feel uncomfortable or awkward about sensitive subjects, you want to do things differently, and build an Evolved Communicating Family. 

However, you may experience a level of panic or dread when it comes to having these same conversations with your kid, especially if they are young.  

If you feel you could use some support and actionable pointers for this part of your parenting, join me on this week’s episode of Sitting in a Car.

I’ll see you there.

x Sarah

No, you haven’t! But let’s not wait any longer.

We can be so hard on ourselves as parents. 

Understandable, I get it.  

The pressure to be perfect is all around us. 

However I’m sure you’ll also agree, that as there is no manual this is just unnecessary pressure. 

Whatever your reason(s) for, not yet, having the talk with your kid, it’s not too late. 

Whether:

You felt unsure about what to say. 

Were waiting for them to come to you. 

Were waiting for the perfect time or the perfect words. 

Now feel like you’ve missed the boat. 

It’s not too late!

Join us this week as we dive into how to show ourselves compassion as parents;

how to use this as a learning opportunity (for you and your kid); and 

how to use our emotions about our mistakes to create connection with our kid(s).

Before you dive in, remember:

To go easy on yourself. 

You are here, showing up for yourself and your kid. 

You’re willing to, and are putting in the work to make lasting changes. 

The development of new habits takes time. 

If you feel like you could use some support with sustaining your growth as a courageous parent. 

Or need the support of a community. 

Join us in The Evolve School. We only open twice a year. 

And doors are only open for a limited time. 

So, if you feel called to, and are ready to take the next step on your journey, get in touch here. 

x Sarah

What would you do if this were your kid? 

Can you imagine how you might feel? 

Have you been this parent? Are you this parent? 

First things first, seek professional help to make sure there’s not something more to this. 

Once you have confirmation your kid is safe, then what? 

In this week’s episode I talk you through my suggestions to this question. 

This question came from a very concerned parent who wants to support their kid the best way they can.

This is a sensitive topic that requires compassion and an open mind. 

It may be that paid, professional help is required. 

It may be that your kid functions differently to the majority. So needs information presented in another way. If this is the case it’s totally ok. You can, with the right support, provide the information they need. 

 If you feel like you could use some more support for this part of your parenting, and to hear all about how to support your kid as he learns about boundaries and consequences around the touching of genitals, have a listen to this week’s episode of Sitting in a Car.

x Sarah

“What is rape?” coming from a 10-year-old is a pretty loaded question!  

Where do we even begin? 

What do we say?

How much do we say? 

Unfortunately, we cannot shelter our kids from the harsh realities of the world. 

In fact, it’s not helpful. And we come across to our kid(s) as clueless.

As adults, responsibly talking about sensitive things, allows & models for our child to do the same.

This is a great way to develop an evolved & communicating family. 

When we do the work to manage past emotions and experiences, we can be grounded in the present for our families. 

In this week’s episode I explore ways to answer this question and reasons we should answer. It would be easy to say ‘that’s not something you need to worry about now’. But if your kid(s) is asking, they need an answer. 

If you feel like you could use some more support for this part of your parenting, and to hear all about how to answer a question around a complex topic, have a listen to this week’s episode of Sitting in a Car.

x Sarah

Here’s a quick heads up … our goal isn’t ONLY to get info about sex, bodies, babies and all the things in front of our kids …

It’s to create connection with them too!

So many of us parents have heard ALL the stories 

about kids who pull away from their parents in the pre-teen and teenage years. 

So a lot of us just stop trying to say anything. Because we’re afraid of our kids pulling away.

But we know our kids need the info. 

So what can we do? 

To hear all about how to support your kid as they grow through puberty, join me on this week’s episode of Sitting in a Car.

x Sarah

Lots of us are dedicated to giving our kids 

all the info we know they need, 

but aren’t sure how to do that, or when. 

And we might have memories ourselves 

of our parents trying to have chats with us, and it feeling weird and icky and wrong. 

Or maybe we were given a book, and told If you have any questions, just ask,

And THAT felt wrong too!

So we want to do things differently for our own kids.

Let’s hop into this week’s episode of Sitting in a Car 

x Sarah