Skill Not Will: For Couples

Solo episode from Dan discussing the downfalls of using only logic and facts when working through relationship issues. 

To round out our series on the Gottman Method, we have an interview with Psychologist Steve Wiese who has been working with couples and singles for over 30 years and using the Gottman Method for nearly 20. 

Steve talks about the research-based tools that he uses with couples - things to build their fondness and admiration for each other, how to maximise the dreams and priorities of both people and how to assess if a couple is on a disastrous path or if things can be turned around for them. 

One tool in particular, the Caring Behaviours exercise, is a favourite and Dan has also found it very helpful with the couples he works with. 

Enjoy the episode!

Steve can be found at: https://www.stevenwiese.com/

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This is the final episode of our 4-part series on the Gottman's Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. 

We outline what stonewalling is, and why it happens. We talk about why someone who is stonewalling and appears calm is actually anything but calm. And we give you some excellent ways to remedy the situation if you are finding this an issue with your partner. 

Look out next episode for a bonus discussion about the Four Horsemen with Steve Wiese - a Psychologist who has been working with this material for many years (and who happens to be Caitlin's dad).

Dan Anear is a relationship counsellor and Personality Hacker certified Myers-Briggs coach who works with individuals and couples through periods of change and stress, supporting them to transform their pain into growth.

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This is our third episode in the series on the Gottman's "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" . Dan and Caitlin discuss contempt: what it looks like, what is behind it, and why it is the number one predictor of divorce. We also discuss what the antidote is - what you can do about it if you see it in your relationship, and how to avoid it in the first place. 

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Dan and Caitlin discuss the second of the Gottman Institute's 4 Horsemen: Defensiveness.

Do you find in your relationship that whenever one of you bring up an issue, the other person gets immediately defensive and either shuts down or goes on the attack? This is a common issue, and one that can lead to much worse dynamics in the future if it's not addressed. The good news is, though, that there is an antidote and ways to change this pattern!

Listen for some great info and examples 

Naomi Harrington (fellow INFJ) joins Dan all the way from Hawaii for a chat about being Highly Sensitive and an Empath, and how this shows up for her in her work, marriage and parenting. You'll really enjoy all that she has to say, especially if you are someone who finds lots of sensory input overwhelming, or who absorbs and processes the emotions of others. She shares about how she and her husband have navigated their differing personalities and held space for each other to thrive. Enjoy! 

Dan will also be featured on her podcast soon! That’s Deep Podcast: Personal Development for Empaths (podbean.com)

Naomi Harrington is an Internationally Board Certified Life and Success Coach and Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) Practitioner, an empath, mother, and the host of the That’s Deep Podcast. She helps empaths understand their gifts, overcome energetic overwhelm, release limiting beliefs, and create stronger boundaries in their relationships.

To connect with Naomi, follow her on Instagram: @naomicourtney.co or visit her website: https://naomicourtneycoaching.com/

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Dan and Sandra from Family Personalities talk about how to discover your child's personality type and how that understanding can bring more empathy and harmony to your family system. Sandra works with families to go deep in their understanding of each other, and she also hosts a brilliant podcast! Highly recommend. Find her everywhere social media at @familypersonalities and familypersonalites.com. 

Sandra is the owner of Family Personalities and the host of the Family Personalities podcast, a fun show that uses personality type to help change the way you see your family. Sandra is a UCLA graduate, with certifications in MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator) and MMTIC (Murphy-Meisgeier Type Indicator for Children). Sandra uses her experience and training in Myers-Briggs personality type, to work one on one with families, helping them parent more effectively and compassionately based on their children’s unique wiring and needs.

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For this 40th episode Caitlin joins Dan to discuss the biggest personality difference a couple can have in the myers-briggs personality system and understanding this difference as a gift rather than a curse.

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