Transcript:
Welcome back to the Smash assistant podcast. I’m Nino Prodan. Yesterday, we left off talking about how I started working from home. And like I said, At first, it was great, I didn’t have to commute anymore. I didn’t have to get dressed up all fancy to go into the office. But my job started bleeding in to my whole day, taking over my life. And finally, at one point, I said, Enough is enough. I need to fix this. Or I need to find another job. And most of the time people think, Oh, you know what, I’ll just go find another job. But the grass is greener over there. And at the beginning it is. But then you just start seeing the same thing happen again. And I realized that getting another job wasn’t going to fix the problems that I was having. Especially finding something that could allow me to work remotely because I was kind of addicted to it. Tell you the truth. I hadn’t liked not having the commute. It was wonderful. So I thought to myself, alright, if there’s expecting me to kind of be at their beck and call? How can I stop that from happening? And I thought, well, I train my dog to come to me when I called him. I trained him to sit down. And it was all with just consistency and repeated behavior. So I thought, maybe I could train them to expect something different from me. And so when they sent me emails, or called me, a must, I was talking to them at that moment. I wouldn’t answer I want to answer right away. I would wait maybe 10 minutes, maybe 20 minutes. You know, I kind of built it up over time, over a period of a few weeks, and then I just would only answer at certain times of the day that way they knew when they sent me a message, or called me that I wouldn’t get back to them until a certain time. And it took weeks to do this. It wasn’t something that happened overnight. But as I put in the repeated behavior, repeated feedback to them. They started to just understand what they were going to get. No, I started to own my own time. I also had to prove my dependability. But as I proved my dependability, when they give me status checks asked me, oh, how long? How far along? Are you? Can I see what you’re doing? Or can I see what you’re working on? I would ask them, instead of saying, No, you can’t, or here it is right away. I would say, do you need this earlier? Is the deadline moved up? Or do you still need it on Friday? And a lot of the time they would backpedal and say, Oh, no, no, no, I just, I just want to see where we’re at. And I would say, yeah, it’ll be done on Friday. And once you need it earlier, let me know. And at first, they were apprehensive about it. But as I delivered it every Friday or delivered everything on time, they started to understand that they didn’t need to Badger me to get Things Done. Things happened on time. And they had nothing to worry about. But to get your I also had to get past my own stories, I had to tell myself that I was also trained. Initially, I was trained to think that I had to deliver everything right away or respond to everything right away. It was a story that I was telling myself. And as I told myself that I told them, that’s what they should expect from me. So if you think this is impossible, what story are you telling yourself about this? Why are you telling yourself that this is impossible? Is it because you think you’ll lose your job? Or do you think you won’t deliver on things that need to get done? And if that’s the case, how can you make sure that you get things done? Because I’ll tell you, it was worth it. No, I started running on my schedule. I didn’t have to come to the beck and call of others all the time. They knew when they could get ahold of me I held them to it. So my day opened up, I could live my day, my life. It was great. I started taking care of myself, my health improved, I lost weight, I got fit. I started