Smash The System

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This is the Smash the System podcast. I’m Nino Prodan. Yesterday I was telling you about how emotional intelligence became a game changer for me how it changed my relationships, both personally and professionally. And then without realizing it, it was swept away. And it was really interesting how it went. Because I didn’t even notice it. As aware as I was at the time, I got distracted. And it’s so easy to get distracted. These days. It’s really easily accessible. There’s all the shows that you want to watch on TV through Netflix or on the on demand video, you don’t even have to watch other people’s advertisements. If you don’t want to distract yourself on your laptop even while you’re working. look something up. One of the results is YouTube and next thing you know you’re down a rabbit hole with YouTube or you try and connect with a friend on Facebook. And then next thing you know, an hour or two has gone by or you’re sitting there on Your phone, nothing to do. Oh, I’m bored. I’m gonna keep myself busy, keep myself entertained, keep myself distracted. And then next thing you know, an hour to three I’ve gone by thumb through Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, tick tock for hours on end. And why? Why is it we do that? What system has been placed in our brain for our whole lives that leads us to numb ourselves, distract ourselves from life from who we are. I knew the way when I was a kid, I was told the way I wasn’t led the way my mom told me to enjoy myself to enjoy life. But everything else in life told me to stay busy. And now, when there’s a quiet moment, a moment that we could reflect, be present in the moment. Life has taught us has programmed us has created the system for us to keep ourselves busy, to ignore our emotions, to do anything but the board. And now life has placed us in a situation where distractions are more difficult. There’s less pressure on us to do to stay busy. And what can we not do? We have to keep ourselves busy. But why? It’s not because that’s our nature, but that’s what we’ve been taught. And by keeping ourselves busy, we actually Rob ourselves from understanding our emotions, from digging into our emotions from remaining in the moment. It’s not boredom that’s plaguing you. It’s your emotions knocking on the door, saying, Hey, listen, we just want to shove them down by keeping ourselves busy, busy by distracting ourselves with our phone or food, working out to the point of exhaustion of passing out just to avoid emotions, boredom, as people put it, but what is boredom? It’s a message most A time when you feel bored, or you feel antsy, it’s because there’s that program coming back telling you, why are you not busy? And instead of running away, start to seek answers to the question, start to understand the emotion. When you feel an urge a hunger inside of you, is it really hunger? Or is it an emotion, trying to get your attention, trying to tell you something, you can be more, you are greater than this. Let your emotions help you. Listen to them, train them, to help you become who you want to be. We all have an image in our heads of our ideal selves. And sometimes our habits and our previous programming pulls us away from who that person is. But if you listen to your emotions develop that intelligence so Stop trying to be busy. Listen, don’t be afraid of quiet. You can harness your emotions to help you become that ideal person, that ideal self. If you create the space by not being busy, so empower yourself, become who you want to be. And don’t be a busy bee. I’m Nino Prodan, and I’ll talk to you next week.

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This is the smash the system podcast. I’m Nino Prodan. Yesterday, I was telling you about how my anger came up and I suppressed it. I continued working on that anger, knowing that it had an impact on my life. And so I pushed it down and continued working, started distracting myself from it. And it felt like I put it behind me. I started growing and learning new things. Technology started blossoming. And I started getting lost in the world of computers and data, analyzing stuff, found out how to use my brain. I realized after all those years of being told I was dumb because I wasn’t busy enough that I was smart enough to analyze things. And I am starting to feel better about myself. I kept myself busy, start getting a lot of work done, working a lot of overtime, making money. And I realized that that old idea of relaxing and enjoying life And playing was all bullshit. needed to keep myself busy and needed to utilize every minute of my life. Stop wasting it. Life’s only so long. Work hard, play hard. That was my motto. No, it was work hard, play harder, work 12 hours a day, play for a sleep before, wasn’t shit getting in my way. Crush every minute of life. In any time where it wasn’t working. It was all about efficiency, getting the most out of every moment, minimizing what was taking me away from being busy. I kept myself so busy that I finally went back to college, got a degree and started a business all at the same time while I was working a nine to five job. And once I finished school, I found a way to even make money while I was out, enjoying myself and started hosting karaoke. I was capitalizing on everything I could, even my entertainment, but it was during that entertainment. someone pointed out the repercussions of what was going on what I was doing to myself, although it was meant as a compliment. When someone told me I had a cute muffin top, I realized that I can no longer, work hard and play hard. So instead, I worked hard, worked out harder, and played, just enough to continue making money. And my body did get in better shape. But no longer was staying busy enough for me. I needed to stay busy and efficient, to be productive with every moment of my effort to maximize my productivity, to maximize my learning capability. So I had to go harder, faster, stronger, and then I saw the movie limitless. And that made me think, is there a way to get more out of my brain? Is there a way for me to learn faster, to process faster to solve Problems more efficiently. It was no longer just about being busy. It was about raising my quality of production, I quantity of production while I was busy. And what I found, while I pursued this made me realize that people were playing nowhere near their potential. There’s way more that we could achieve if we follow the right steps. And I’ll tell you more about that tomorrow.

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This is the smash the system podcast. I’m Nino Prodan. Yesterday, I was telling you about how my anger came up and I suppressed it. I continued working on that anger, knowing that it had an impact on my life. And so I pushed it down and continued working, started distracting myself from it. And it felt like I put it behind me. I started growing and learning new things. Technology started blossoming. And I started getting lost in the world of computers and data, analyzing stuff, found out how to use my brain. I realized after all those years of being told I was dumb because I wasn’t busy enough that I was smart enough to analyze things. And I am I started to feel better about myself. I kept myself busy, start getting a lot of work done, working a lot of overtime, making money. And I realized that that old idea of relaxing and enjoying life And playing was all bullshit. needed to keep myself busy and needed to utilize every minute of my life. Stop wasting it. Life’s only so long. Work hard, play hard. That was my motto. No, it was work hard, play harder, work 12 hours a day, play for a sleep before, wasn’t shit getting in my way. Crush every minute of life. In any time where it wasn’t working. It was all about efficiency, getting the most out of every moment, minimizing what was taking me away from being busy. I kept myself so busy that I finally went back to college, got a degree and started a business all at the same time while I was working a nine to five job. And once I finished school, I found a way to even make money while I was out, enjoying myself and started hosting karaoke. I was capitalizing on everything I could, even my entertainment, but it was during that entertainment. someone pointed out the repercussions of what was going on what I was doing to myself, although it was meant as a compliment. When someone told me I had a cute muffin top, I realized that I can no longer, work hard and play hard. So instead, I worked hard, worked out harder, and played, just enough to continue making money. And my body did get in better shape. But no longer was staying busy enough for me. I needed to stay busy and efficient, to be productive with every moment of my effort to maximize my productivity, to maximize my learning capability. So I had to go harder, faster, stronger, and then I saw the movie limitless. And that made me think, is there a way to get more out of my brain? Is there a way for me to learn faster, to process faster to solve Problems more efficiently. It was no longer just about being busy. It was about raising my quality of production, quantity of production while I was busy. And what I found, while I pursued this made me realize that people were playing nowhere near their potential. There’s way more that we could achieve if we follow the right steps. And I’ll tell you more about that tomorrow.

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This is the smash system podcast, I’m Nino Prodan. And welcome back. Yesterday I was kind of telling you about how life through my parents and through school programmed me to start keeping myself busy. And it seemed like that was a common denominator in all of society. Everything was geared towards keeping you busy keeping you occupied, keeping you thinking, worrying. worrying that you’re not good enough for worrying that something isn’t going to get done. worrying that you’re wasting your time. You only live once you only have so much time on this planet. Make the most of it. Don’t waste a minute. You’re wasting time. These are things I always heard heard all the time. The constant ringing in my ears of wasting my resources, created a sense of worry and me as a kid. I was worried that I wasn’t enough. I was worried that I wasn’t doing enough. I was worried that I wasn’t smart enough. I wasn’t getting straight A’s, so I wasn’t good enough. I wasn’t keeping myself busy enough. So I wasn’t worth enough. And it created a conflict within me because my life before there was I was carefree. I didn’t think about being enough or knowing enough or being good enough. I just was, I was happy I was unstressed. But now that I wasn’t keeping up with the constant dizziness, I was shown quantitatively that I wasn’t good enough. My Grades weren’t good enough. I was only average. Yes, you can test and have A’s and everything. But if you don’t keep yourself busy, you will get C’s. Doesn’t matter about whether or not you know things. It matters how much you busy yourself. So keep yourself busy. Otherwise you’re not worth anything. You can be an A plus mind, but have C minus grades. Because you’re not busy, so I worried about letting my parents down. I worried about my father kicking my ass. And I got pissed. I got angry, because I had this conflict of what I was told. life should be and what life was telling me life should be what society was telling me. You know, there’s the Ant and the Grasshopper, the tortoise and the hare. Don’t stop working. keep busy, stay busy. Don’t take breaks. Don’t take care of yourself. Just keep preparing for a future that may never be like ants scurrying around, moving faster and faster. stay busy be. Don’t let me down. And this is the place I stayed but I became angrier and angrier. I didn’t understand where my anger came from. I thought it was me. I thought that anger is who I was. So I started suppressing the anger. And as I became an adult, that pressure weighed on me and gave me a burden to put a cost on my health, but I didn’t think about it. I didn’t think twice. I stayed busy. Because that’s where I needed to be, according to society. keep yourself busy. Keep moving. Don’t pay attention. Don’t look here. Keep your head down, and just push on through. That’s your life. Don’t look up. I’ll talk to you tomorrow.

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This is the smashes system podcast, I’m Nino Prodan. This week, I’d like to share with you why I think one of our beliefs that we hold most closely is one of the biggest lies we tell us and actually holds us back from becoming more aware and more conscious of what’s going on around us and who we truly are. So as a kid growing up, I was born in the 70s, late 70s. So as I was growing up in the 80s, my mom kind of went against the grain always. She always told me to, to have fun, enjoy myself, not to take on too much work, to enjoy being a kid and have fun. So I took it to heart. I went out and played on the playground played sports, backyard football, soccer, basketball, ran around during summers that seemed to last for years and played laser tag and had water balloon fights. And I was truly carefree kid. There’s barely a damn worry on my mind. But there’s one thing during all that time my mom was preaching to me one thing have to have fun and not worry. But as she said it, I watched her run around like a mad woman. She was always busy always doing something. Constantly grinding oil work, working overtime, working on weekends, I watched my dad do the same thing. Seemed like keeping yourself busy was what life was all about. And it wasn’t just what they were telling me by their actions but school started also training me to keep busy inundating me with homework, or not that I not only did I spend all my time learning at school, but once I got home, I had to do hours of homework. So every time thing that my mom told me to remain a kid. And to not worry, not take on too much and to have fun. It all went out the window. Her action showed me that I dad’s actions. School kept telling me that it was the wrong thing to do too. So slowly, but surely, I became programmed to stay busy. But as that busyness took over my life, there was something I started to lose. And I’ll tell you more of that tomorrow.

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This is the smashes system podcast, I’m Nino Prodan. This week, we’ve been going through how to pivot, how to change directions, in this changing environment that we find ourselves in these days. And we’ve gone through sorting out what you can do, and who you can help, and even how to talk to them. But once you put all that together, sometimes it can be overwhelming. I know the first couple years when I started my coaching business, it seemed like I was always chasing after something else to learn, spinning my wheels a lot not getting any traction. And if I didn’t have such a commitment, such a big vision for what I was doing, I would have given up and today I want to go over one way that you can avoid this. So what I’d like you to do, is of course write it down because I love to get you to write things down but it’s good to clear your mind and get everything out of your head, clear your emotions. So writing everything down does that for you. And now that we’ve already gone through the stuff that you can do and kind of looked at the people that you can serve, what I’d like to look at today is the things that you don’t know how to do or the things that you don’t like to do. And start to write those things down, start to write down what you don’t like to do. What doesn’t motivate you, energize you, and some things you may not know yet because you haven’t really started the business. But if you if you do have a business going right now, and you’re looking at shifting gears, write down what you don’t like to do, write down what you’re not good at. And these are the things that you want to avoid doing. So you’re going to find somebody else to do them for you. If there’s something that’s necessary that it’s necessary for you to do, and you need to grow your skill at it, then do it. Find a way to learn it that way you could enjoy it and one way I see Just is not overwhelming yourself with it, find a way to have fun with it. Make sure that there’s no expectations when you’re doing it when you’re practicing it. And if there’s no expectations, yeah, there’s a goal that you want to achieve. There’s something that you’re aiming for, but you don’t expect it. You don’t say, Alright, I need to get this done. It has to be this good or it has to be this way. Give yourself some space to practice the skill. But I digress. Write down the things that you don’t like to do aren’t good at and start to look at services that can help you with guidance or actually just take it off your hands totally start looking at personal assistance. You know, in previous podcasts, I’ve talked about how I hired a personal assistant to take away the work that I did at my job that I didn’t like to do this stuff. That was a waste of my time, because I found other things more valuable to do, like start my coaching business. You know, the one thing People think about when contemplating a business, they think, Oh, I have to kill myself to get this business up and running, I have to kill myself to make it successful. And you don’t you have to think correctly. Don’t have to do all the work yourself. You have to find a way to get the work done. But you don’t have to be the one doing it. And if you start with that in mind, you’re going to grow more quickly. And you’re also going to have more energy and more focus to help it along and enjoy yourself in the process. So write down your do not do list and look at who can help you. That’s it for this week, and I will talk to you next week.

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Welcome back to The smasher system podcast. I’m your host, Nino Prodan. This week, we’re talking about how to pivot, how to switch up what you’re doing during these changing times. Because when things change, you have to adjust. When I was switching over, from working a nine to five, and to coaching, I was really excited. I thought about how I was going to help people get better focus and get more energy in their lives, how I was going to help them gain better insight into what their body was doing and how they were gonna make their lives better. Because they were more present in the moment. And this was really great and all but if you think about my description just now, what was I going to get people? If you think back to what I just said, there’s really no clear goal. There was no clear result that I was offering people to get Once I found the people, or found what I could help people with, I needed to understand how I could help them with what they wanted. I needed to gain greater clarity into what I could offer people that they wanted, because I saw value and clarity because I had gone through all the exercises and everything else. But I didn’t look at what got me there. What was my initial desire? And it was a struggle for me at the beginning because nobody told me that I had to go back to where I started, who I was, when I first began my journey toward becoming a coach was I initially looking for that led me down this path, and that’s where I had to connect with people. But it took years for me to figure that out. Because sometimes, when you’re that far down the road it’s really hard to remember where you started. Where did you turn down this road? That would lead you to where you are today. What interested you in the first place? What was that first tiny step, that first tiny goal that you wanted, that led to the direction you’ve taken today, to the place that you are now? Where did you diverge from the regular path. That’s where you want to talk to people. Figure out which goal you were seeking then, and help people achieve that goal. If you want to help people with high level higher level stuff, then think about the person you’re talking to, and what goal they’re trying to achieve. You don’t have to be too far ahead. You don’t have to look too far back. But you have to place yourself in the shoes that you were in, before you achieved, what you’re going to teach and talk to that person. Because if you aren’t clear on what you’re offering, it’ll make the journey harder and you’ll start building in the wrong direction. So figure out what you’re doing first, and then build around it. Once you know exactly who you’re talking to, you’ll be able to understand how you’re going to talk to somebody, because we don’t talk to everybody the same way. Think about it. When you’re with family, you talk to them differently. When you’re with your co workers, you talk to people differently. And even in the office, when you’re talking to people that you’re close with. You talk to them one way, but when you’re talking to your boss or somebody higher up, you talk to them differently or somebody in a different department at work, you talk to them differently because you’re not as close you don’t have the same relationship. You don’t have the same goals. You don’t have the same perspective. So don’t think about being in genuine or something like that. Think about talking to somebody from a place of empathizing with their perspective on life. You Want to talk to people, as a friend you’re trying to help out. Or maybe you as a mentor, guiding someone on their path. You know, when you’re communicating, you don’t have to be salesy. You just have to understand a person’s perspective and a personR

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Welcome back to The smashes system podcast, I’m Nino Prodan. This week, I’m talking about changing gears from what you’ve been used to, and adapting to how things are changing. The world is going to be going through a lot of changes over the coming months. And right now, you can see it as an opportunity, an opportunity to be at the forefront of that change. Right now you even have the opportunity to lead that change. But to do that, you have to start looking forward. You have to start looking at what can be and break yourself from the past and the way that things were. Yes, you can reference it. Yes, you can use the knowledge from the past. But don’t expect to go there. Again, don’t expect to have quote unquote, the good old days. If you try to bring back what used to be, you’re going to be left behind in the past as everybody else. continues forward, start to change your mind about things being scary and uncertain to being exciting, and new and fresh. Think about the future is something that you can sculpt something that you can create, stop holding on to what’s comfortable and hold on to a dream that’s new. What are the things that you really want to do in life? And how can the future take you there? You have the opportunity now, to do this. So start working towards it, start seeing it, create a vision of your ideal life, what would ideal life look like for you and start working towards it? extreme change is an extreme opportunity. How can you help the future develop? What will the future needs of people be? start to look at that and start to move towards it, start to solve one of those problems, create a new future for yourself and create A new future for everyone else. If you find a way to help everybody in the future, start moving towards it now, you’ll be a step ahead of everybody else, because they’re still waiting to see what will be. But you will be creating what will be, start thinking bigger. Don’t think small. You know right now I can tell you the future is going to allow for people to work remotely. It’s something that I’ve been pushing for a long, long time. And employers have thought tooth and nail to hold on to people and keep them at the office so they can watch over him like Hawks. Well, those days are going to be gone. So what will the new skills that people need to have be in the future? Most of manufacturing is going to move to full automation? You can see it. There’s something I’ve been talking about for decades and that’s 3d printing. Are people going to be printing products for themselves at home? buying them online, there’s a lot Our future is going to change into. Like it or not five G’s probably coming out everywhere. So the internet’s going to be faster, even remote locations. I mean, just last year, I was on top of Machu Picchu, and I had a full 4g signal. So people are gonna be more mobile and going to be more accessible. What will their desires be? start to think about what that will look like in your life. What if you were untethered, didn’t have to leave the house if you didn’t want to? Or you cannot even have a house and be completely untethered. What will be the desires, the wants of people in that type of world? What will be their fears? What can create hardships for people, help them overcome those fears and hardships, solve their problems for them before they have them? That’s how you become a front runner. Every time there’s a big change like this. Lots of people become rich. Lots of billionaires are made because they solve the new problems before anybody else. So think about the future problems and which of them you can solve. look to the past for knowledge and inspiration. But keep moving forward, Nino Prodan and I’ll talk to you tomorrow.

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You’re listening to the smashes to some podcast. I’m Nino Prodan. Yesterday, we were talking about using gratitude to help you adjust to all the changes that are going on right now adjust to the new circumstances, the new ways that things are being done, or possibly even looking at new ways of creating money in your life. And sometimes, circumstances like this, bring up the necessity to pivot to change direction on what you’re doing. Like right now, if your business is about getting commissioned from the gains in people’s 401 Ks, well, you’re probably not in a good place right now. So you may want to look at pivoting and pivoting isn’t about going out and doing something totally different, but it’s about looking at your industry and approaching it differently. But it could also be about finding a new way to make money all together. If you’ve been laid off from work because you work in Central retail or other places that have been shut down during this, and now is a good time to start developing your skills in another area. So you can stop this from happening in the future. And I believe a lot of people have way more skills than they think they have. I think most people undersell what they have to provide other people, the help that they can provide other people the knowledge that they could provide to other people. Most people don’t realize what they can teach other people or how they can help other people. And if you’re in the situation where you need to pivot, maybe it’s time to really take account of all the skills, all the knowledge that you have. That way you can see, or you can serve other people at your best. And so what I suggest doing is making a list. Just sit down and start writing out every way that you can think of You can help people every skill that you have. And usually this starts off kind of difficult. You start to write things down, you get to like, six or 10 things, and you kind of sputter out and think, Oh my goodness, I don’t know anything. I can’t help people with anything. And don’t worry, do you just haven’t seen it yet? So one way to get going on this is to start asking other people like, Hey, what do you see as something I’m really good at? And then start thinking to yourself, what did people ask you? to help them with? Start looking at what you’d like to do? What hobbies you have? What do you like doing as a kid would you do well, in school, reflect back to your whole life, you may have been really good at something at one point and become a little rusty. But don’t write that off. If you enjoyed it. It might help you in creating something or combining with other things. So list everything. And then once you list everything, start Look at the why behind some of the things start to look at the who you can help with those things. And if you start seeing clusters, you start seeing things group up, then you may have just come upon something you can pivot toward, start looking at where those skills could apply. If it’s a job that you would like, then look at jobs in that area. If it’s somewhere you’d like to start a business, which I recommend, because that creates way more freedom, way more ability to pivot and actually be more tax advantages. So look at where you can pivot and start to take action. I’m making it happen, I’m Nino Prodan, and I will talk to you tomorrow.

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Welcome back to The smashes system podcasts. I’m Nino Prodan. This week, I want to talk a little about how to change gears from what you’ve been used to, to what’s currently happening. And this applies to life in general, not just during the coronavirus. And there’s one thing I like to tell my coaching clients and that’s that there’s definitely one constant in life. And that’s change as much as people fight it, no matter what. things always change. It’s the nature of the universe. And it creates a dilemma in us because our brains innately hate change. Our brains love habits. Our brains love doing the same thing over and over again. Yeah, maybe a little variety, but for the most part, they like to stick inside the confines of what is expected. And the reason is, our brains use a lot of energy. They use 20% of the calories we burn daily. So as we evolved, there wasn’t always a surplus of calories, we couldn’t go to the grocery store and pick up a whole bunch of food or venture down the street to fast food chain. Calories were hard to come by, we had to catch our food, or we had to pick it off the trees off of plants. We didn’t even have farms. So our brains are programmed to conserve energy where they can. And adapting the change makes our brains use more energy than normal. Because we have to create new habits and solve new problems. And unless it’s forced on your brain, you don’t want to do it. You want to do everything you can to avoid doing that. And your brain will trick you into doing that by telling you stories, stories of how it’s impossible or how it’s so difficult. So then you don’t do it. And your brain can relax and continue to conserve energy. So one way to adapt to this constant change that happens in our lives is not to Expect the environment to be the same, and not even expect you to be the same. But to create an outlook on life on the world, that’s the same, to create mental fortitude and resilience within yourself, to learn to trust, your ability to adapt, to change, to know that when the shit hits the fan, that you’ll be able to figure it out. You have that ability, and to do it, you have to start by telling yourself that you can trust yourself. You got to start telling yourself that all the stories that you’re hearing about things going bad, or how bad it can be, stop exposing yourself to the stories that tell you about everything that can go wrong, and start telling yourself stories about what can go right. Start to ground yourself in gratitude, and set reminders for yourself. Create habits for yourself, to practice that gratitude because gratitude was Found to rewire the brain so that you can control where your attention goes. You can control what you do when the shit does hit the fan. You can control the freakout, and you can stop stress and overwhelm from overcoming you. And one easy quick way to do that is just starting off once a day writing down three things you’re grateful for. And if you write it down somewhere where you can reference it, you could even set reminders that you can look at it throughout the day, and just remind yourself that day of what you’re grateful for, for me, I used to set an hourly term and time, that way I can practice that throughout the day. And I watched as I was able to have better control of my emotions, and more focus on the things that were important for making the changes in my life and adapting to the changes that came. Make gratitude, a daily practice for you. I’m Nino Prodan, and I’ll talk to you tomorrow.