It's important to find what gives you energy and makes you happy. Putting yourself first so you are fulfilled and full of ambition and joy radiates that love and joy to all others. We want peace, we must start with ourselves.   Lori Kennedy's Wellness Business Hub to do an online course. https://thewellnessbusinesshub.com

Interview with my client Gloria on how she healed her seizures by understanding her seizures were connected to her abusive childhood.  She transformed her pain to purpose by working with me and on herself. She’s brave and powerful with all she faced to change her past and her present life. She used the tools and did the work and is now living a better life and creating a brighter healthier future.

Talking to my Dad about the power of clearing out old emotional and mental programming and pain that gets locked in us. Sometimes we don't even know that it is there. What we can do to start to get clear and feel better is ask for support and get tools to release the pain.

I would have liked to know that I could stick up for myself and have healthy responses like saying, “No, that is not ok.”

I remember being a kid/teen like it was yesterday. I love being a parent and giving my kids all the tools I wish I would have known.

Would you like to give your kids more helpful tools now?

Come to my Masterclass this Monday Feb 6th and hear about the tools I learned the last twenty years in my career that transformed my life and my clients. Click link to register and save your spot.

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This is what I teach teens now so they can have a better adult life.

When I worked in the film industry in Hollywood I immediately learned about celebrities depression and suicide. These days I am hearing about teens and suicide. The media portrays suicide as the event of what happened, the overdose etc. What I always wondered is why the media doesn’t show the deeper root cause of why people take their lives? Even people who have so much going for them, love, money, fame, attention, families, do this?   On my journey to becoming a trauma practitioner I learned people don’t want to kill themselves, they want to kill the pain that is not resolved. What is unresolved pain?   I write about this in the first chapter of my book Can You Please Talk To My Trauma.  By the end of the book I explain how I woke up to what my trauma was and what I did to heal my symptoms.   The deeper root of all of our pain goes back to childhood. Unless the pain patterns we learned from growing up are addressed they get worse the older we get. They lay dormant and then get triggered. For example, Robin Williams pain goes back to being bullied and physically harassed in 6th grade. And at home in order to connect with his mother he had to make her laugh, it wan’t enough to just be Robin. Our school life is a reflection of our home life. Both need to be addressed.   I have a 7th grade daughter and watching kids be bullied and mean without knowing what to do is so hard. This is when the tools to have healthy responses to know how to stick up for oneself or ask for support are deeply needed in order to prevent a life of more bullying, depression and suicide. If a person is not getting the love and support they need at home and are bullied, they don’t have the tools to release that emotional pain. This pain gets trapped in the body creating trauma symptoms that can lead to suicide.   There are tools out there to release this pain, not just from the mind, it has to be released from the body, the nervous system. Fight flight freeze completion is vital to moving forward in life with peace and grace. This completion can happen anytime with the right support and guidance.   

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I am talking to my client and friend Connie I have known for over ten years. She learned to walk again when all doctors and others told her she wouldn't be able too. This is when I met Connie. She shares what she has learned and how she has overcome her trauma to continuing growing gin her remarkable life she has created today.

I used to get so nervous every time I went to be worked on in my Somatic Experiencing training as I was the demonstration in front of a big group of people doing the training with me. I was working on my pain with many eyes watching me. I knew they were loving supportive eyes as they were on the same page as me. I felt grateful and scared.  I even felt this way in my one on one therapy sessions. I literally felt like running. I knew it wasn't the help I was running from. I was running from my past. A past I still needed to get away from. Knowing this kept me going and asking for help, plus the relief and clarity I felt every time I worked on myself was amazing.  It is totally normal to feel scared or anxious when asking for help. Here's how I look at it. The body and emotions get excited that we are giving it attention, to honor all we have been through.  It is like a little kid jumping up and down with excitement saying, "Yay, you are finally looking at me. I need you. I have some things to say and feel. Please hear me."    Have you felt this way?

Wellness Wednesday!

How To Start Cultivating Self Love - Even A Little Bit Goes A long Way.  Are you tired of feeling broken hearted, having low self-esteem, wanting love from outside sources and not receiving it? Start giving it to yourself now.Be gentle with yourselves. You've been through a lot. This human experience isn't easy.

Marissa Castello is interviewing me about why it is so important and how to heal trauma!

It's important to remind ourselves and our bodies we are safe. We come from thousands of years of fight, flight, freeze, responses. Plus a lot of us have gone through something, stress is normal. Feeling scared and unsafe is not. Do whatever you can to make yourself feel safe and bring your awareness to this peaceful safe feeling you conjure up. When we calm ourselves we improve our health and immune systems. Remember things like denial and manipulation can make you feel very unsafe. Truth set us free and makes us safe because we know what we are dealing with.