I am reading from page 40 of Can You Please Talk To My Girlfriend Book. It is about determining your value first on the inside. Don't let the outer world determine your value. You decide who you are and what you want to be first! Then let the outer world reflect that!

Start to build that bridge between what is happening in your body and what is happening in your life. Sometimes when energy starts to move it can feel scary. Reframe it to energy in my body is moving and it is excited to come out and get the love and support it needs to be heard. 1. Notice what your breath is doing instead of trying to force a deep breath. Where are you holding tension, and what sensations are doing in your body. For example anxiety may feel tight and bubbly in your stomach. 2. Observe your breath, the tension and sensations that are coming up. Don't try and change them. Watch them and see what happens next. Something may shift, some tension may dissolve or emotion come up. 3. Tell those parts I am listening, I love you, I am here. Soften and ground into what is. In this state we can start to draw in the resources and support we need to feel safe and release the stress to move on and be free.

Take a few minutes everyday to connect to your beautiful Self. I'll guide you through a brief mediation, that you can pause and spend more time on, or just do a few minutes to start and end your day. Open up to the possibility of feeling the bliss within your Soul, within you.

Lonely vs. alone. What's the difference? I found out the difference when I was at a movie theater by myself, it hit me, the joy of being alone rather than the pain of being lonely. Lonely is an old trauma pattern that can be banished once and for all. We can step into and embrace the independence and love of being alone with our beautiful selves. Book available on Amazon and Audible. https://karleeholden.com/books-2

It's normal to feel like we need to defend or explain ourselves. The good news is we don't need to. Most people don't care what are explanations are anyways. It is a waste of energy to explain or defend yourself. Of course there are times and certain circumstances this may be necessary. I am talking about why you missed someones call or you didn't want to go out. Honor yourself and know it's ok to say no, no thank you. You can return a call or text when you are ready and be present. Bring awareness to yourself and others when you notice unnecessary defending happening.

There is a way to heal stress and trauma, symptoms of anxiety, suicidal thoughts, overwhelm, depression, ocd, ptsd, and get to a place where you are feeling free, peaceful, and happy. I share how I did this. My online course, books, and videos will give you information to understand and release your pain, and get to a place where you can sit in stillness and feel connection and love for yourself, the Divine (God) and others.

How can we find balance in our life and relationship with social media and tv. Here's a challenge I like to do. However much time I spend on social media or tv, I spend mediating and self reflecting. Give it a try and tell me what you think.

The truth does set us free. It's helpful to know why our lives and emotions are the way they are. Understanding our patterns from where we grew up and what triggers us, helps us on our way to becoming free. What can we do right away to change. Become aware and real about what is.

The book Don't Be Nice, Be Real by Kelly Bryson explains what happens to us when we are nice and not real. How our emotions get stuffed down and this lead to all sorts of problems. You're not doing yourself or anyone else any favors by being nice. Being real is healthy and what is best for us.

This is a brief outline for my Online Course (available soon),  in Emotional Strength and Overcoming Stress and Trauma Symptoms.  Feeling overwhelmed, stressed, and traumatized can be confusing. I want to make stress and trauma symptoms more simple to tackle. To help people get to a place of understanding and clarity, and to get to a balanced mental, emotional, and physically strong state.  

These 5 tips are what really helped me clear away confusion and become grounded in understanding and strength about who I am and what I want.  

1.What goes in must come out 

 2. Boundaries 

3. Completion of fight flight, coming our of freeze 

4. From Denial to Truth 

5. Support  

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