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SHOW SUMMARY:

We become who we are through relationships and because of the generations of family dynamics that have existing before we were even born.

Maybe your spouse’s family yelled and broke things during fights but yours hid away in cold silences and you didn’t realize it until your worlds collided.

Maybe your roommate’s family hoarded resources and your family shared everything in common and you didn’t realize it until after you crossed an invisible line involving a bag of potato chips.

Known and unknown family secrets, rules, and norms–stretching back generations–continue to powerfully influence our lives. Understanding how these systems work can help us enhance and repair our current relationships. What most of us may realize is that these ways of being with each other have been passed down through a number of generations to impact us. This is the focus of Dr. Janet Stauffer’s work (generational loyalty dynamics).

HIGHLIGHTS

• Janet's own story and epiphany that started with a not-so-fanatic Ford Fiesta and ignited her search for answers.

• The surprising research with babies and parents that show the early hardwiring for social connection. (watch the video mentioned in the shownotes at http://sparkmymuse.com)

• Doing the Doo and finding your “FOO-POO” (a.k.a. “family of origin toxic waste”)

• How exploring your family’s generational patterns will help you learn more about your self and your relationships now.

• The power of naming our feelings.

• Getting the courage to engage in difficult conversations about invisible, but powerful, family rules, norms, and secrets.

• How we can stop dysfunctional or insufficient generational dynamics in their tracks and pass down the best of our generational dynamics and loyalties to our children.

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In America, The Dark Night of The Soul has been commodified and routinely misunderstood. Doug and Lisa talk about many fascinating topics including the background of the originator of the term (Spaniard, John of the Cross), what we can expect during this stage of development, Mother Teresa's decades long Dark Night experience (a secret until after her death) and the spiritual harvest from that time, the worst mistakes people make when they encounter this normal stage of development, and how The Dark Night of the Soul is like Fight Club.

If you've ever felt like your prayers were bouncing off the ceiling, when they hadn't been before, or you sense you are traversing a terrible and arid spiritual desert, this show will give you solace and a penlight to persist on your way. Contribute to the conversation on the spark my muse Facebook page, or share this show with others who may be wandering in the night. This show will help convince you that not all who wander are lost, even if that's you!

Visit http://sparkmymuse.com for essential show notes, extras, previews of upcoming guests and topics and the chance to get the rocking kind of weekly newsletter.

In America, The Dark Night of The Soul has been commodified and routinely misunderstood. Doug and Lisa talk about many fascinating topics including the background of the originator of the term (Spaniard, John of the Cross), what we can expect during this stage of development, Mother Teresa's decades long Dark Night experience (a secret until after her death) and the spiritual harvest from that time, the worst mistakes people make when they encounter this normal stage of development, and how The Dark Night of the Soul is like Fight Club.

If you've ever felt like your prayers were bouncing off the ceiling, when they hadn't been before, or you sense you are traversing a terrible and arid spiritual desert, this show will give you solace and a penlight to persist on your way. Contribute to the conversation on the spark my muse Facebook page, or share this show with others who may be wandering in the night. This show will help convince you that not all who wander are lost, even if that's you!

Visit http://sparkmymuse.com for essential show notes, extras, previews of upcoming guests and topics and the chance to get the rocking kind of weekly newsletter.

In America, The Dark Night of The Soul has been commodified and routinely misunderstood. Doug and Lisa talk about many fascinating topics including the background of the originator of the term (Spaniard, John of the Cross), what we can expect during this stage of development, Mother Teresa's decades long Dark Night experience (a secret until after her death) and the spiritual harvest from that time, the worst mistakes people make when they encounter this normal stage of development, and how The Dark Night of the Soul is like Fight Club.

If you've ever felt like your prayers were bouncing off the ceiling, when they hadn't been before, or you sense you are traversing a terrible and arid spiritual desert, this show will give you solace and a penlight to persist on your way. Contribute to the conversation on the spark my muse Facebook page, or share this show with others who may be wandering in the night. This show will help convince you that not all who wander are lost, even if that's you!

Tackling 5 questions from listeners involving God not being a white, bearded man in the sky, forgiveness, guilt because of insurance fraud, wanting to ditch church, and jealousy over others success. (Also, the reason you can't really call God "Billy")

Check each Wednesday for a new episode and visit http://sparkmymuse.com for shownotes, essential links, or to ask your own burning question. Donations to keep the show going are appreciated!

Tackling 5 questions from listeners involving God not being a white, bearded man in the sky, forgiveness, guilt because of insurance fraud, wanting to ditch church, and jealousy over others success. (Also, the reason you can't really call God "Billy")

Check each Wednesday for a new episode and visit http://sparkmymuse.com for shownotes, essential links, or to ask your own burning question. Donations to keep the show going are appreciated!

Tackling 5 questions from listeners involving God not being a white, bearded man in the sky, forgiveness, guilt because of insurance fraud, wanting to ditch church, and jealousy over others success. (Also, the reason you can't really call God "Billy")

Check each Wednesday for a new episode and visit http://sparkmymuse.com for shownotes, essential links, or to ask your own burning question. Donations to keep the show going are appreciated!

Will you help support the show?

You can help me pay the bills by purchasing this useful and encouraging book!

 

Tom Reynolds, PhD

 

Shownotes: PART II

A conversation with Vulnerable Communion: A Theology of Disability and Hospitality, author Tom Reynolds

 

Bio:

Tom joined the Emmanuel College (part of the University of Toronto) faculty in 2007. He is committed to an interdisciplinary, practical, and relational vision of theology, and his teaching and research address a range of topics related to constructive theology (particularly the doctrine of God and theological anthropology), theological method, intercultural and interfaith engagements, contextual theologies and globalization, philosophical theology, disability studies, and the thought and influence of Friedrich Schleiermacher.

His recent Articles

Email: [email protected]

MIN 00:30

Tom on Theodicy - The question of why does God allow suffering and how should we think about suffering.

1:00

How would Tom, as a theologian answer the question, “Why would a sovereign God allow a person to be born disabled and encounter such suffering?”

2:20

The Why questions and the answers are messy, ongoing, and evolving. These answers are limited and open to ongoing revision.

3:00

Reframing needed. Question the question and its suppositions about seeing suffering first and foremost as the issue.

3:40

If we are pitying a disabled person and seeing them how we would interpret suffering, we might be off base.

4:10

Exclusion as suffering. Social suffering is something we can alleviate as the church or community.

4:40

Tom on the central questions of Theodicy.

5:30

What would a good world be? Interdependent and that holds up the preciousness and fragility of life and human experience as valuable. Good things can be fragile things.

6:30

Does God cause suffering and determine it? Maybe it’s (all) unfolding for us in mysterious ways.

7:40

Book of John, chapter 9: The man born blind.

Who sinned? (disciples of Jesus thinking of blindness as a curse)

So the glory of God can be revealed. (What might that mean that we haven't understood yet. [Lisa])

The story is less about curing the disabled and more about reveal Jesus’ power and legitimacy as the Messiah.

9:20

NT Wright author of Evil and the Justice of God

(on the Problem of Evil)

• God as the Incarnation steps into human suffering as a means to assuage it and also, in that, provides us a model for how to encounter it in the world ourselves, practically speaking.

The answers to suffering can become “incarnational”, not cerebral and (held) at a distance.

12:00

The why questions signal a (good) unsettledness which can be productive…

12:20

1. God is bigger than our questions and we should feel free to engage in dialogue with God and each other about God.

2. And because it calls us to live into the world and the lives of people will engage who ask, “Where are you?” and we can be there in presence and not (just) with answers.

13:00

Will you help support the show?

You can help me pay the bills by purchasing this useful and encouraging book!

 

Tom Reynolds, PhD

 

Shownotes: PART II

A conversation with Vulnerable Communion: A Theology of Disability and Hospitality, author Tom Reynolds

 

Bio:

Tom joined the Emmanuel College (part of the University of Toronto) faculty in 2007. He is committed to an interdisciplinary, practical, and relational vision of theology, and his teaching and research address a range of topics related to constructive theology (particularly the doctrine of God and theological anthropology), theological method, intercultural and interfaith engagements, contextual theologies and globalization, philosophical theology, disability studies, and the thought and influence of Friedrich Schleiermacher.

His recent Articles

Email: [email protected]

MIN 00:30

Tom on Theodicy - The question of why does God allow suffering and how should we think about suffering.

1:00

How would Tom, as a theologian answer the question, “Why would a sovereign God allow a person to be born disabled and encounter such suffering?”

2:20

The Why questions and the answers are messy, ongoing, and evolving. These answers are limited and open to ongoing revision.

3:00

Reframing needed. Question the question and its suppositions about seeing suffering first and foremost as the issue.

3:40

If we are pitying a disabled person and seeing them how we would interpret suffering, we might be off base.

4:10

Exclusion as suffering. Social suffering is something we can alleviate as the church or community.

4:40

Tom on the central questions of Theodicy.

5:30

What would a good world be? Interdependent and that holds up the preciousness and fragility of life and human experience as valuable. Good things can be fragile things.

6:30

Does God cause suffering and determine it? Maybe it’s (all) unfolding for us in mysterious ways.

7:40

Book of John, chapter 9: The man born blind.

Who sinned? (disciples of Jesus thinking of blindness as a curse)

So the glory of God can be revealed. (What might that mean that we haven't understood yet. [Lisa])

The story is less about curing the disabled and more about reveal Jesus’ power and legitimacy as the Messiah.

9:20

NT Wright author of Evil and the Justice of God

(on the Problem of Evil)

• God as the Incarnation steps into human suffering as a means to assuage it and also, in that, provides us a model for how to encounter it in the world ourselves, practically speaking.

The answers to suffering can become “incarnational”, not cerebral and (held) at a distance.

12:00

The why questions signal a (good) unsettledness which can be productive…

12:20

1. God is bigger than our questions and we should feel free to engage in dialogue with God and each other about God.

2. And because it calls us to live into the world and the lives of people will engage who ask, “Where are you?” and we can be there in presence and not (just) with answers.

13:00

In many cases God’s own presence is *us* to each other," says Tom Reynolds a professor of Theology at Emmanuel College (of Toronto University) whose work often includes the theology of disability and hospitality and interfaith conversations. Tom sheds light not just on our encounters with the disabled, but on what can give us a better sense of who we are, who we are together, and who we must become. Visit http://sparkmymuse.com for links, detailed shownotes, and resources from the show.