Speaking to Shame

"Dear Diary, today I spoke with one of my heroes, KC Davis."

That's how I'd tell my diary that LPC, TikTok creator, author and founder of Struggle Care, KC Davis, was on my podcast.

I was drowning in shame and anxiety at the start of the pandemic. Everywhere I looked were diapers, unfinished tasks, and reminders that I no longer had it in me to fake it. Even if it made me a lazy, gross person (IT DID NOT EVER), I couldn't muster up the energy or focus to have a "clean" home anymore.

Cue KC Davis, or Domesticblisters on TikTok. KC was a mom, licensed professional counselor, and human being with her own experiences with mental health impacting care tasks.

She quickly became a favorite follow of mine. I was regularly sending her videos to family and friends, going “SHE GETS IT.”

Because she DOES. She understands the underlying shame surrounding our output, the state of our homes, the state of our physical bodies, and speaks to the unfair ways in which labor is so often divided up in households.

She’s been featured in places like Momtastic, UPworthy, The Washington Post, is an Amazon Bestselling Author, and has created an informed, educational place for people who feel like they’re drowning.

StruggleCare has become a way in which countless people have worked through shame to find self-kindness and functionality. I’m beyond amazed that I got to sit down with her and speak to the shame around care tasks and surviving with less shame.


Find KC HERE
TikTok
Instagram
Buy her book

Connect with Emily and the STS community here or here
OR
email me [email protected]

Added August of 2022: WOW. Speaking to Shame has GROWN! I am floored and humbled and weepy. What a journey this has been! As the podcast grows, so too do my abilities to share incredible stories and people with you. As my time investments increase, so does my need for support. If Speaking to Shame has ever helped you feel seen, I’d be honored if you donated ANY amount to the show. Here’s to continued healing. 🧡
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LOOK AT YOU, HEALING YOUR SHIT! ✨🧡
If you've found support or connection through STS, you can show your thanks by donating and sharing the podcast with your friends!
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“At one point in your life you’re gonna either shit your pants as an adult, or not be able to wipe your butt as an adult, and I’m here for you for either of those experiences.”  -Emily Stearman

In episode 20 of STS, I share my most recent shame spiral, and some lessons I learned from the surviving of that.

Keep in mind, all these pontifications come months after the start of the spiral, and are greatly due to the introspection my therapist makes me use.

If you enjoyed any part of this episode, tune back in next Friday for an all new episode of STS!

Come hang out with me on Instagram or TikTok where I am much more awkward and fashionable.
Got a thought? Email me [email protected]

Added August of 2022: WOW. Speaking to Shame has GROWN! I am floored and humbled and weepy. What a journey this has been! As the podcast grows, so too do my abilities to share incredible stories and people with you. As my time investments increase, so does my need for support. If Speaking to Shame has ever helped you feel seen, I’d be honored if you donated ANY amount to the show. Here’s to continued healing. 🧡
DONATE HERE 

LOOK AT YOU, HEALING YOUR SHIT! ✨🧡
If you've found support or connection through STS, you can show your thanks by donating and sharing the podcast with your friends!
FIND ME: Instagram, TikTok

“We don’t talk about Bruno (money)” 

When was the last time your dinner conversation revolved around how much money you made? Or, how much money you want to make?

Brooklyn Jolley, business and money mindset coach and six figure earner, walks us through her beliefs about money and the shame revolving around it. 

We talk about:

-How our childhood lessons around money are still impacting us today.

-The shame around wanting to make more money.

-How reframing the way we speak about money holds power.

-Overcoming money blocks.

-Money as an amplifier; it just makes you more of who you are.

When we don’t talk about money, the shame and stigma around it live on. Brooklyn discusses in detail the change we can each make surrounding our thoughts on money. 

🎙“I hear people say “I don’t care if I have a lot of money, I just want to happy.” Well, why can’t we have both? Why can’t we have a lot of money and be happy?” -Brooklyn Jolley 

You’ll come away with practical ways in which you can change your thoughts about money, as well as a few “eureka!” moments as Brooklyn casually re-writes what most of us have believed about money.

Find Brooklyn on Instagram or at https://www.brooklynjolleycoaching.com/

Join in on updates for Speaking to Shame Episodes and connect with me on my Instagram or Tiktok
OR email me [email protected]

Added August of 2022: WOW. Speaking to Shame has GROWN! I am floored and humbled and weepy. What a journey this has been! As the podcast grows, so too do my abilities to share incredible stories and people with you. As my time investments increase, so does my need for support. If Speaking to Shame has ever helped you feel seen, I’d be honored if you donated ANY amount to the show. Here’s to continued healing. 🧡
DONATE HERE 

LOOK AT YOU, HEALING YOUR SHIT! ✨🧡
If you've found support or connection through STS, you can show your thanks by donating and sharing the podcast with your friends!
FIND ME: Instagram, TikTok

Join my husband and me as we follow up on one of STS’s most-listened to episodes, Dear Shame, Sincerely Divorce. 👇

To regular couples from a regular couple, shame and betrayal cause real and heartbreaking rifts in your relationship. You aren’t alone, and you have so much power and knowledge at your disposal to help you heal and reconnect!

In pt. 2, Nate discusses how shame continually impacts him in our relationship, as well as shares his ideas on how he combats shame today, nearly two years after our almost-divorce.

We answer some of your most FAQ’s, we laugh, and Nathan shares something at the very end that you do NOT want to miss 😂

Come sit with us as we share our candid and open experiences with shame and marriage. 🧡

Emily on instagram  and TikTok
Email me: [email protected]

Added August of 2022: WOW. Speaking to Shame has GROWN! I am floored and humbled and weepy. What a journey this has been! As the podcast grows, so too do my abilities to share incredible stories and people with you. As my time investments increase, so does my need for support. If Speaking to Shame has ever helped you feel seen, I’d be honored if you donated ANY amount to the show. Here’s to continued healing. 🧡
DONATE HERE 

LOOK AT YOU, HEALING YOUR SHIT! ✨🧡
If you've found support or connection through STS, you can show your thanks by donating and sharing the podcast with your friends!
FIND ME: Instagram, TikTok

BACK AGAIN, BABY!

On today’s episode of STS, I update you on why Speaking to Shame took a little break. 

AND THEN… I share my impactful interview with Dr. Taelor. 

It’s powerful, personal, and funny. 
If you’re a trauma survivor, Dr. Taelor's episode facilitate's safety to learn and be heard while providing you with tools to continue your healing journey.

Taelor holds many roles & passions such as advocate, recovering perfectionist, spiritual goofball, podcast host, entrepreneur, mashed potato enthusiast, Doctor of Occupational Therapy, & complex trauma survivor.  She currently runs her own primarily online business where she provides 1:1 coaching for adult survivors of childhood trauma, and breaks down barriers for trauma education in a holistic and accessible way to companies and survivors. Taelor is on a mission to change the way that trauma and mental health is treated and understood in society- and believes that each and every one of us are on our own Overcoming journey in life + can benefit from tools to grow. She has endured a lot of overcoming of shame in her own journey, personally and professionally, to get to where she is today.

It was a joy to connect with Taelor, and has continued to be a joy to see her grow as more survivors find her work. Connect with her here: 👇👇

Overcoming: The Podcast
Taelor on Instagram
Taelor on TikTok

As always, you are an incredible human being, who has untouchable worth.

Much love and less shame,

Em 🧡

Email Me: [email protected]
Connect with me on Instagram and TikTok

Added August of 2022: WOW. Speaking to Shame has GROWN! I am floored and humbled and weepy. What a journey this has been! As the podcast grows, so too do my abilities to share incredible stories and people with you. As my time investments increase, so does my need for support. If Speaking to Shame has ever helped you feel seen, I’d be honored if you donated ANY amount to the show. Here’s to continued healing. 🧡
DONATE HERE 

LOOK AT YOU, HEALING YOUR SHIT! ✨🧡
If you've found support or connection through STS, you can show your thanks by donating and sharing the podcast with your friends!
FIND ME: Instagram, TikTok

What do a water bottle, text books, and hundreds of feeling words have in common?

They were all in Nathan Stearman’s backpack for years!

On this STS episode, I chat with Microbiologist Nathan Stearman about his feelings. (Oh, did I mention Nathan is my husband? 😉)

Nathan shares his experience with shame as it pertains to being a man in a society that hyper focuses on men not feeling. 

He shares with us how to recognize what we’re feeling, the importance of allowing feelings to come and go, and normalizing the full range of emotions.

Hey, let's connect! Instagram, TikTok, or my email: [email protected]

Added August of 2022: WOW. Speaking to Shame has GROWN! I am floored and humbled and weepy. What a journey this has been! As the podcast grows, so too do my abilities to share incredible stories and people with you. As my time investments increase, so does my need for support. If Speaking to Shame has ever helped you feel seen, I’d be honored if you donated ANY amount to the show. Here’s to continued healing. 🧡
DONATE HERE 

LOOK AT YOU, HEALING YOUR SHIT! ✨🧡
If you've found support or connection through STS, you can show your thanks by donating and sharing the podcast with your friends!
FIND ME: Instagram, TikTok

❓Where did the shame you carry come from? 

❓Are you giving it away?

❓Is shame being passed down in your family?

These and so many other things are what Erika teaches us about on this week's Speaking to Shame episode! 

Erika Nordfelt has been a licensed professional counselor for eight years. She’s CEO of Greenstone Counseling in Rexburg, Idaho. Erika has always been a people person and feels very honored to help others with their most personal struggles. She believes all people are trying the best they can and honors being a part of the vulnerable and brave parts of people's stories.
Her website. Find her on Instagram.

Here to remind you who you were before shame said you weren’t enough.

[email protected] or Em's instagram.

Added August of 2022: WOW. Speaking to Shame has GROWN! I am floored and humbled and weepy. What a journey this has been! As the podcast grows, so too do my abilities to share incredible stories and people with you. As my time investments increase, so does my need for support. If Speaking to Shame has ever helped you feel seen, I’d be honored if you donated ANY amount to the show. Here’s to continued healing. 🧡
DONATE HERE  

LOOK AT YOU, HEALING YOUR SHIT! ✨🧡
If you've found support or connection through STS, you can show your thanks by donating and sharing the podcast with your friends!
FIND ME: Instagram, TikTok

It’s 2022 and time to start having the difficult conversations.

Earlobes, Encanto, Applebee’s Wonton Tacos, and compliments are all part of today’s episode!

Reminder: Your worth is untouchable!

Second reminder: You’re incredible!

Speaking to Shame is hosted by Emily Stearman. You can find me on Instagram, TikTok, or email me [email protected]

Added August of 2022: WOW. Speaking to Shame has GROWN! I am floored and humbled and weepy. What a journey this has been! As the podcast grows, so too do my abilities to share incredible stories and people with you. As my time investments increase, so does my need for support. If Speaking to Shame has ever helped you feel seen, I’d be honored if you donated ANY amount to the show. Here’s to continued healing. 🧡
DONATE HERE 

LOOK AT YOU, HEALING YOUR SHIT! ✨🧡
If you've found support or connection through STS, you can show your thanks by donating and sharing the podcast with your friends!
FIND ME: Instagram, TikTok

HAPPY NEW YEAR! 🎉

Or,  happy Friday?

Whichever way you lean, remember this: 

You really, truly, honestly can focus on existing in a way that is meaningful to you. 

Join me for the first STS episode of 2022! 🙌 Connect with me on Instagram  or email me: [email protected]

Added August of 2022: WOW. Speaking to Shame has GROWN! I am floored and humbled and weepy. What a journey this has been! As the podcast grows, so too do my abilities to share incredible stories and people with you. As my time investments increase, so does my need for support. If Speaking to Shame has ever helped you feel seen, I’d be honored if you donated ANY amount to the show. Here’s to continued healing. 🧡
DONATE HERE 

LOOK AT YOU, HEALING YOUR SHIT! ✨🧡
If you've found support or connection through STS, you can show your thanks by donating and sharing the podcast with your friends!
FIND ME: Instagram, TikTok

Join me as I speak to some of the shame of surviving. 🧡

⚠️TRIGGER WARNING: Childhood sexual abuse disclosures and descriptions⚠️

If you or anyone you know is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse or abuse of any other kind, know you are not alone. It feels that way so often, I know. But it isn't true. 🧡

If your thoughts and feelings are telling you it will be better if you aren’t here anymore, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is available right now at 988.

You matter so much.

To all survivors: you are not alone, you are worthy, and I believe you.

**Special thanks to the CSAS that contributed so much to this episode. You are incredible human beings.**

Added August of 2022: WOW. Speaking to Shame has GROWN! I am floored and humbled and weepy. What a journey this has been! As the podcast grows, so too do my abilities to share incredible stories and people with you. As my time investments increase, so does my need for support. If Speaking to Shame has ever helped you feel seen, I’d be honored if you donated ANY amount to the show. Here’s to continued healing. 🧡
DONATE HERE 

LOOK AT YOU, HEALING YOUR SHIT! ✨🧡
If you've found support or connection through STS, you can show your thanks by donating and sharing the podcast with your friends!
FIND ME: Instagram, TikTok