Finding Humor and Healing Through Hard TimesIn this How to Split a Toaster episode, hosts Seth Nelson and Pete Wright interview comedian, podcaster, & filmmaker Keila Dolle about using humor to heal during divorce and trauma.Keila Dolle hosts the mental health podcast Crying Behind Sunglasses, where she has raw, honest conversations about mental health issues while finding the humor in them.
Key Discussion Points

• Origins of Keila's podcast and passion for destigmatizing mental health issues.
• The "sexy therapist" phenomenon - men using women as emotional dumping grounds. Keila explains how the patriarchy harms men by discouraging vulnerability, putting pressure on female partners.
• People who have endured the darkest situations often have the most positive mindsets and want to spread light. Keila shares an example of a woman who lost two sons to suicide but started a nonprofit focused on suicide prevention.
• Biochemical benefits of laughter. Finding humor triggers feel-good chemical release.

Key Takeaways

• Finding ways to laugh during painful events provides immense emotional and physical relief.
• Humor bonds and connects us to others with similar struggles.
• Focus on your day-to-day relationship with kids, not their last name.

Plus, we tackle another listener question! A woman asks whether she should change her children's last names after a contentious divorce to disassociate from her ex's surname. Seth and Pete advise her to focus more on building a quality relationship with her kids rather than their name.Whether you're going through divorce or other hardships, this episode will equip you with tools to find positivity through humor. Check it out on How to Split a Toaster!
Links & Notes

• Check out Keila’s podcast Crying Behind Sunglasses
• Crying Behind Sunglasses’ website
• Follow Keila on Instagram or check out her webpage
• Check out Keila’s documentary Dancing Man and her short film We’ll Never Make It
• Schedule a consult with Seth
• Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!

• (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
• (01:19) - Meet Keila Dolle
• (02:14) - Keila's Podcast
• (07:36) - Her Divorce Story
• (13:30) - Sexy Therapist
• (20:26) - Laughing at Hard Things
• (23:25) - Self-Deprecating Humor
• (24:51) - Humor to Reset
• (25:40) - Chemical Impact and Gallows Humor
• (27:55) - Marker 10
• (30:47) - Support Line
• (32:15) - Changing How She Looks at Relationships
• (37:16) - Plugs
• (38:05) - Listener Question
• (44:18) - Wrap Up

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