Stay-at-FULL Motherhood | SAHM, Prioritize, End Distraction, Get it Done, Rushing, Flailing, Mom Guilt

Mom-guilt is always going to be there - you can choose to make it a problem and let it stop you from making the changes you want to make, or you can invite it along for the ride as you continue on in creating exactly what you want for yourself.

We are perpetually exhausted because we’re constantly judging ourselves for failing - as moms, as partners, as sisters, daughters, friends…the list goes on. What this reveals to us is how little we value ourselves. When that changes, everything changes.

When you’re feeling lost as a stay-at-home mom, the first thing to commit to doing is to stop telling yourself you’re lost. Being lost is not your identity, not is it a fact about you. You can remember exactly who you are any time you want to.

Today I’m quoting Glennon Doyle as we explore rushing and living like snow globes all in a flurry - or, as my one client calls it, doing our usual flailathons!

Resentment towards our partners consumes time and energy we could instead invest in fulfilling the longing we have for what they have - a willingness to prioritize what WE want too.

We often get stuck in the “how” when we’re creating what we want for ourselves, but when you identify your blueprint for success, you always, always know exactly what to do. Here I share my blueprint and help you create yours.

We often see our emotions as STOP signs - if we experience a negative feeling then we believe we shouldn’t go ahead and actually do the thing. But what if your emotions - like fear, embarrassment and doubt - are just part of the process of trying anything new, and always will be? We CAN learn to process our emotions and allow them to be felt, and then we CAN go ahead and do what we’re feeling pulled to do - without making any of it a problem at all.

We get to decide that we love being ourselves and to focus with intention on all the things that being us joy. Orienting ourselves to pleasure and what feels good in our bodies is a far more valuable place to invest our time and energy than in looking for what it is that needs fixing - because there IS nothing wrong with us, so the “thing” will always elude us!

Your relationship with time and your relationship with YOU are linked - they are often both filled with not-enoughness, fear and lack. But it’s possible for you to consciously choose your thoughts to create the abundance, love and trust that you desire in both relationships so that you can create the time to create what you want for YOU.

We can stay stuck in survival mode for years - long after we first bring our newborn babies home - with our inner critic happily telling us over and over again all the reasons why we’ll never be able to make time for what WE want to do. But we can learn to rewire our nervous systems to see that there is safety in prioritizing ourselves too.