Staying Out of Bounds

Staying Out of Bounds Host Celina Quayle comes at you with being burned out and how we often dismiss it due to society's way of deeming rest as "unnecessary." 

Ep. 16 "Burned Out" dives into "thugging it out vs burning out" being a common discussion, whether it's related to productivity, assessing emotional and mental health or physical health-- but you can only push something so far until it breaks.

Knowing self-care is more than bubble baths and wine-down Wednesdays, how are you caring for yourself before your mind and body force you to do so? How are you recognizing when you need to slow down or rest?

Sending you love. 

Staying Out of Bounds Host Celina Quayle discusses the fear we have in the unknown and how contradicting it can be to be afraid of what we're unsure of. From discussing the need for control and people-pleasing, what is your take on growing in your "I don't know" seasons?

Ep. 15 "Faith In The Uncertainty" dives into how life's ways of getting us to change our minds on what we want, who we want to be and how to get where we want to go. Even if we don't know everything, can we still move forward with the confidence and resiliency?

How comfortable are you with being uncomfortable?

Staying Out of Bounds Host Celina Quayle finishes off the Relationship Series, "It's You, It's Me" with a discussion on our season of singleness and relationships. Have you ever been asked asked, "How are you still single?" and that finds you just as confused as the person asking? In a relationship, did "Would I be better off single?" ever cross your mind, regardless of the nature of your relationship?

Society shoves "hook up culture" down our throats and constantly reminds us of the endless dating opportunity out there with apps, social media and public outings. Why aren't seasons of singleness and their purpose talked about more? The projected shame in choosing to be single and acknowledging one's worth goes to show that many people prefer company over solitude, even if it's truly what they don't want. Different seasons for different reasons and they all serve a purpose.

But let me ask you:
 What does being single to you mean for your growth and how does that change who you are while being in a relationship?

Staying Out of Bounds Host Celina Quayle continues the Relationship Series, "It's You, It's Me" with creating space for gratitude when in the midst of our relationship struggles. Being a people-pleaser, we find it easier to point fingers and hold blame on others for what we allow ourselves to tolerate simply because "I would never do that to them." 

Instead of being resentful for others not being like you, can you be grateful for YOU being someone like you? Our attitudes about our experience hold an incredible power over how we navigate through our journey, so why not control what we can control--starting with our attitude.

Being grateful when it's easier to be resentful is a challenge but one worth taking.  God works in mysterious ways and sometimes that has us questioning if He even cares for us. But let me say this: God's plan for a us is a plan to prosper, never to harm. What He uses for our good is something we can only see when we choose to be grateful, even when it's painful. Continue to choose you.

I'm proud of you.

Staying Out of Bounds Host Celina Quayle continues the Relationship Series, "It's You, It's Me" with asking where your trust lays when in a relationship. While discussing  infidelity and trust issues, it's important to be weary of how our self-trust can turn into self-betrayal if we are not aware and intentional.  

When faced with suffering and seasons of doubt, where or what are we placing our trust in? Do you trust yourself? Do you trust in what is coming from this situation?

Luke 8:25 says "Where is your faith?" Jesus asking His disciples where they faith is during a very obvious and threatening storm, challenging them to realize who is in control and how much weight that takes off THEIR shoulders. 

Where is your trust with your relationships, right now?

Staying Out of Bounds Host Celina Quayle presses on with the Relationship Series, "It's You, It's Me" by discussing communication and comprehension, and why it's so important. 

"You hear me but did you listen?"

How often do you find yourself listening to respond to someone rather than listening to understand them?

Communication in a relationship means having to be vulnerable with our needs and expectations, which we know can be terrifying but how important is being understood to you? How important is it to  understand your partner?

Are we as great communicators and listeners as we claim to be?

Staying Out of Bounds Host Celina Quayle continues the Relationship Series, "It's You, It's Me" with calling out the hunters and the prey, if you will, for a relationship. 

Are you one to pursue someone you desire or are you the one who prefers to be sought after? Each of us have had facades we hold onto in order to protect us but also to get what we want, both good and bad. 

The question is "are we pretending to be something we're not for the sake of attracting the one we want?"

Be confident in what you want and stand by it. Know what is worth seeking and giving your energy to-- for what is meant to be will always be. Patience is a virtue, self-worth is an advantage.

Staying Out of Bounds Host Celina Quayle continues the Relationship Series, "It's You, It's Me" with allowing you to recall where you are at with relationships and validating those feelings. Heartbreak and healing looks different for so many of us. Moving forward can be difficult but it can also be easy.

Relationships are about choices-- so what do your choices say about you?

We become so focused with what we want from another flawed human but what about what us?

 Would WE choose ourselves, in the very moment we are pursuing a relationship? How honest can we be with loving someone who is just not on our level of loving one another?

Warning: Potential can be beautiful but don't let it become what you romanticize. 

Staying Out of Bounds Host Celina Quayle starts the Relationship Series, "It's You, It's Me" with checking your availability for a companion. In a society where we are told to never settle but not to be too picky, to not bring any baggage but don't expect perfection.  How could one ever know if they're ready for a relationship? Taking a look at how you're dating yourself, first and foremost. 

Relationships are complicated because humans are complicated. But love shouldn't be.  We expect others to give the love we want, but we are returned the love we give ourselves instead.

Like Perks of Being A Wallflower said, "We accept the love we think we deserve." 

So let me ask,
"what does that say about the love you've experienced and how different does that look to the love you truly want? Are you ready or not?"

Staying Out of Bounds Host Celina Quayle starts off 2021 with lucky episode number 7 and the start of the SOB's first series--"It's You, It's Me." Focusing on relationships and whatever the hell they look like nowadays. 
Starting something new to engage with the audience, I'd love for input on this series and what's expected. 
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Head on over to Instagram and if you aren't already, follow me @stayingoutofboundspodcast and interact with the most recent post for Epsiode 7. What is it that you're looking for? What are you hoping to hear in this relationship series? Be raw, be vulnerable. This is a safe space.

To continue the tradition of asking a question, let me ask this:

Are you ready to be in a relationship with yourself? Even if you’re already in a committed relationship with another person, how are you dating yourself?

Consider this a forewarning for what’s to come. If you’re not ready for the self-reflection and the self-accountability, maybe return to this episode when you are tired of your own shit. But if you’re staying, welcome. And get ready.  This is "It’s You. It’s Me." The Relationship Series.