Still Figuring It Out

In this episode I talk about my boozy week as well as some updates on my move and life in general. I go into the topic of being your own first choice and never settling for less than that and telling my own personal stories with it. I bring in the discussion of whether exes can be friends and having friends with benefits, having gone through it recently myself. I'm always going to be honest with you guys, my life is not perfect and I don't want it to be. Sometimes I may disclose too much. But if you get something out of this episode I hope it's this: you are worth more than what you are giving to someone who can barely even meet you halfway and if you're putting in all the time and effort, they're not it. Enjoy.

In this episode I talk about digging up old things which lead me to find my old journals I used to write in back in high school to college all the way to now. I read my old and new poems about the guys I dated throughout the years and safe to say we spilt some tea and had a sad girl hour because even though you’re in a better place the memories still remain.

In this episode I give a brief recap on my little hiatus and then go into the confusing and frustrating topic of ghosting. Why we do it to others as well as ourselves. I give my own stories of being the one ghosted as well as ghosting people myself. I end with giving some signs that someone is ghosting you and some tips on how to get through it. I feel like with everything going on this has been more relevant to happen so I hope this episode can help you throw away that much needed garbage overtaking your life. Enjoy.

In this episode I talk about my moms upcoming wedding and the stress and changes due to COVID as well as everything fun going on. I also talk about how she found her ‘happily ever after’ by having to go through some tough times to get there. I then give my maid of honor speech at the end. I wasn’t anticipating doing an episode on this but I wanted to have this as a memory to look back on. Congratulations, mom, I love you to the moon and back.

In this episode I talk about how by going through a lot of change helped me grow and be my own independent self. I also give tips on how you can be assertive whether it be professionally or dating wise as well as learning to do things on your own. I briefly discuss social anxiety and how it can play a role on feeling like you need to rely on others for help and being scared to put yourself out there at times. You are not alone and you are valid and this doesn't happen overnight, it's a process that only you can make the choice of continuing forward in doing.

In this episode I talk about mental health and my experiences with it as well as going to therapy and taking medications and how it worked for me. I also give some tips on how to cope when you're feeling down especially during difficult and confusing times like now. You are not alone.

In this episode I talk about body image issues, the glamorization of social media, slut shaming, overt sexualization of females, and insecurities as well as talk about my own experiences with these topics. I want these topics to be normalized more so we can feel better about openly talking about them.

In this episode I give an update on my health and where I've been lately after taking a week off. I then go into the topic of are our firsts really the best, worst, or just meh? I take examples from rom coms and even go into some of my firsts which as you can guess are anything but magical and all the more awkward. Enjoy.

In this episode I give a somewhat brief explanation on my past week on what I've been dealing with health wise. Then I try to tackle the question on why we go back to certain people- whether it be a relationship or friendship- who only end up hurting us when we give them more than one chance and let them back in yet again. Enjoy. For the full article I wrote it on you can check it out here: https://thoughtcatalog.com/kirstie-devine/2020/06/why-do-we-go-back-to-people-who-only-hurt-us/?utm_campaign=cw-email&utm_source=article-published&utm_medium=kirstdevine

I debated making this episode because I didn't feel like my voice an opinions mattered. But saying nothing and ignoring it says something and I want to be able to look back on this year and say that I did something and used my voice and platform for the better. These are my opinions and I'm committed to educating myself every single day on these important matters. I'm sorry this took so long for me to come and realize, but enough is enough. If you would like to know ways in which you can help, please visit https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/