Storm Proof
Pst Laju began by teaching that in marriage, storms, and trials will come and that is why it is important to prepare ahead of time. She noted that our preparation must come from a place of victory and not fear.
She emphasized the importance of choosing right because as much as marriage is meant for us, we must also be Kingdom-minded in our choosing ( Malachi 2 vs 13-15).
📝 7 ways to stormproof your marriage:
📍Foundation:
Our mindset about marriage must be based on the word of God rightly divided. It is also important to invest in knowledge and prepare adequately by reading books and listening to sound teachers (Proverbs 24:3, Mathew 7: 24-27).
📍 Discernment:
Discernment would protect you from the wrong advisors. The way to fight the enemy is to stand in peace, it is part of warfare (Mathew 5:9, 2 Corinthians 2:11).
📍Communication:
In communicating, we must ensure that we listen to understand and not to respond while also keeping in mind that the way we talk, is just as important as what we say. We must also learn to communicate by the wisdom of the spirit ( Genesis 18:6, James 1:19 ).
📍Commitment:
Love anticipates storms and looks out for ways to navigate them and not from a place of fear.
Get fear out, get knowledgeable, and learn to commit rightly (1 Corinthians 13:4).
📍Oneness: Ephesians 5 vs 29
Oneness means believing in your spouse. Some parts of oneness are instantaneous while many parts are in process (Philippians 4:8).
📍Christ:
If you go with God, you will always win. Put God at the center of your home.
Apart from the relationship with your spouse, there should be a relationship with God (Mathew 8:25-26, Ecclesiastes 4:12).
📍Purpose:
Marriage is your good and also the good of the kingdom.
The purpose of marriage is companionship and raising Godly seeds (Malachi 2:13-15, Ecclesiastes 4:9).