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If you've ever been told to 'just relax and it will happen' or 'just don't worry about it so much' or 'try to be positive' - you know how infuriating those comments are when you are on an extended fertility journey.

Because if it was just so easy to do those things, we would do them, not because we think they will help us conceive but because we want to FEEL BETTER!

Going through infertility is completely depleting and exhausting mentally, emotionally and spiritually and it can produce a lot of stress and anxiety.

But similarly, when people tell you that you need to get your anxiety or stress under control - well it's about as easy as being positive and there is good reason for that.

We have never actually been taught about our emotions, how they come about, why they come about and how we can actually have more control over them than we think.

Well today on the podcast, I'm seeking to remedy that and teach you some practical tools and tricks to help you deal with your anxiety.

And I also detail exactly what I did recently when I found myself getting really anxious and how I turned it all around in about 30 seconds.

This is a must listen episode!

Bella xx

Want more support?

1. Remember if you want daily tips and advice from me (and occasionally some humour) come and hangout with me on Instagram here.

2. Or you can find out about my Mind Body programs here and how you can work with me.

3. Or download my FREE GUIDE: Fertility Mojo Makeover: 3 Ways to Regain Your Mojo and Surrender to the Journey (Without Giving Up!)

If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.

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Gentle mindset shifts and nervous system tools that actually help you feel better today.

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Connect with Bella:

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Everyday, you do your best to cope and get through the day, despite the agonising heartache you feel, the sadness that just seems to have become your new unwelcome friend and the distrust you have of your body.

You've been trying to get pregnant for soooooo long and everything just seems to remind you that this isn't happening for you.

And just when you think you might be having a good day - BAM - some woman with a HUGE belly walks past you.  You sigh and try and distract yourself on Facebook only to be greeted with your friends pregnancy announcement and maybe a few billion ads about fertility enhancing products!

And you literally sit there and think WHY IS THIS HAPPENING TO ME!!  While you do your best to hold back the giant sobs that are rising up your throat.

Well today, I wanted to explain to you exactly why this is happening and why you do see pregnant bellies and everything else pregnancy everywhere.

And also what you can do about it, so that you can find just a bit more emotional resilience on the journey to conceiving your baby.

Bella xx

Want more support?

1. Remember if you want daily tips and advice from me (and occasionally some humour) come and hangout with me on Instagram here.

2. Or you can find out about my Mind Body programs here and how you can work with me.

3. Or download my FREE GUIDE: Fertility Mojo Makeover: 3 Ways to Regain Your Mojo and Surrender to the Journey (Without Giving Up!)

If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.

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How to Let Go of Control (Without Giving Up Hope)
Gentle mindset shifts and nervous system tools that actually help you feel better today.

👉 studiofertility.com/letgo

Connect with Bella:

• Instagram: @studiofertility
• Youtube: @studiofertility
• Website: studiofertility.com

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It's something that we don't talk about very often and something that is also extremely common on a fertility journey and that is miscarriages. 

But what is also really common with miscarriages unfortunately is the lasting devastation and trauma, which isn't talked about and often isn't dealt with.

As women, we are largely left alone in our devastation and anxiety of the experience and around it happening again if we get pregnant because we don't talk about miscarriage in the first place, so we feel very alone.

Today I really wanted to honour those of you who have gone through a miscarriage to talk about my four miscarriages , what I did to support myself through those miscarriages, and what I did to really get to the other side and let go of those experiences.

Plus what I would do differently and some tips to really help you to get through your experience.

I hope this episode really gives you some real and practical ways to help you to start to support yourself through a miscarriage and start  to heal.

And also makes you realise that you are not alone.

Bella xx

Want more?

1. Remember if you want daily tips and advice from me (and occasionally some humour) come and hangout with me on Instagram here.

2. Or you can find out about my Mind Body programs here and how you can work with me.

3. Or download my FREE GUIDE: Fertility Mojo Makeover: 3 Ways to Regain Your Mojo and Surrender to the Journey (Without Giving Up!)

If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.

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How to Let Go of Control (Without Giving Up Hope)
Gentle mindset shifts and nervous system tools that actually help you feel better today.

👉 studiofertility.com/letgo

Connect with Bella:

• Instagram: @studiofertility
• Youtube: @studiofertility
• Website: studiofertility.com

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It's natural to be really impatient about wanting to conceive your baby - especially when you have been trying for so long.  And I'm not here to tell you that you need to be patient.

But today I wanted to showcase something that I experience with my clients time and time again. And that is about how impatience keeps you stuck in and on the infertility rollercoaster.  
And I mean this in a couple of ways.

• Emotionally stuck
• Stuck from actually calming down our nervous systems to support our health
• Stuck in what we think is possible for our lives
• Stuck from making quality decisions on our fertility journey and reacting out of fear and panic
• Stuck sometimes from getting pregnant too.

So on today's podcast I detail for you how this works.  And that the opposite of impatience in this instance is actually not learning patience.

I illustrate why and how it keeps us stuck and how you can learn to find that place where you feel more in control again where patience is a natural byproduct of a beautiful shift.

Enjoy xx

Bella

Want more?

1. Remember if you want daily tips and advice from me (and occasionally some humour) come and hangout with me on Instagram here.

2. Or you can find out about my Mind Body programs here and how you can work with me.

3. Or download my FREE GUIDE: Fertility Mojo Makeover: 3 Ways to Regain Your Mojo and Surrender to the Journey (Without Giving Up!)

If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.

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Free Resources:

Download my free mini-guide:
How to Let Go of Control (Without Giving Up Hope)
Gentle mindset shifts and nervous system tools that actually help you feel better today.

👉 studiofertility.com/letgo

Connect with Bella:

• Instagram: @studiofertility
• Youtube: @studiofertility
• Website: studiofertility.com

If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.

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Did you always imagine how you were going to announce your pregnancy to your friends?  You started TTC in earnest and collected all these cute ideas and you daydreamed about how you would tell your partner, your friends and your family.  You saw in your mind how happy people would be for you. 

But then infertility struck and all those dreams got ripped away!

And then, friend after friend, after family member started announcing their pregnancies and they started to feel like a knife through the heart.  You became afraid to even open your social media stream!

Sound familiar?

Unfortunately living in isolation from the rest of the world is not an option on the fertility journey.

So today, I am joined by Author and Fertility Coach (and friend) Jennifer Robertson, as we talk about the dreaded pregnancy announcement and how you can start to deal with them. 

(Seriously, check out Jen's amazing book "The Injustice of Infertility" a very raw and honest book that shows a warts and all account of infertility).

With  a 7 year long journey herself that included surrogacy and then a natural pregnancy, Jennifer admits to not handling pregnancy announcements so well and why that it is just a normal reaction.

We also discuss:

• Why pregnancy announcements hurt so much
• Why some pregnancy announcements hurt more than others
• How  you can prepare yourself for them.
• Standard responses you can set yourself up with to cushion the blow.

Want more?

1. Remember if you want daily tips and advice from me (and occasionally some humour) come and hangout with me on Instagram here.

2. Or you can find out about my Mind Body programs here and how you can work with me.

3. Or download my FREE GUIDE: Fertility Mojo Makeover: 3 Ways to Regain Your Mojo and Surrender to the Journey (Without Giving Up!)

If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.

Want to Connect with Jennifer?

Jennifer Robertson is a fertility coach and has helped women all over the world transform their mindset and take back control of their life in the midst of infertility.

She is also author of The Injustice of Infertility, a deeply inspiring and raw account of her own seven-year fertility journey.

You can find her here:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/msjenniferrobertson/ or

PS. Interested In Learning More?
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Free Resources:

Download my free mini-guide:
How to Let Go of Control (Without Giving Up Hope)
Gentle mindset shifts and nervous system tools that actually help you feel better today.

👉 studiofertility.com/letgo

Connect with Bella:

• Instagram: @studiofertility
• Youtube: @studiofertility
• Website: studiofertility.com

If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.

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Have you ever met a person who was completely stressed out who could 'just relax' on cue after being told too?

It's ludicrous, yet so many people still think nothing of saying - just relax and it will happen - to women who are experiencing one of the most difficult experiences they could go through - infertility.

And in fact, it would be like telling a cancer patient to 'just relax'.  It is insensitive and downright inappropriate.

Yet, we've all heard the stories about someone who adopted and then got pregnant, the couple who got pregnant right as they were about to start IVF and weren't trying anymore, the couple who went on a holiday...

That sometimes we start to think there is merit in it.

Today, I talk about the causal link between infertility and stress, get into the science and help you to understand how you can help yourself on your journey.

And, I also go into why this annoying saying came about, why it doesn't work and what is a REAL strategy for success.

Enjoy xx

Bella

Want more?

1. Remember if you want daily tips and advice from me (and occasionally some humour) come and hangout with me on Instagram here.

2. Or you can find out about my Mind Body programs here and how you can work with me.

3. Or download my FREE GUIDE: Fertility Mojo Makeover: 3 Ways to Regain Your Mojo and Surrender to the Journey (Without Giving Up!)

If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.

PS. Interested In Learning More?
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Free Resources:

Download my free mini-guide:
How to Let Go of Control (Without Giving Up Hope)
Gentle mindset shifts and nervous system tools that actually help you feel better today.

👉 studiofertility.com/letgo

Connect with Bella:

• Instagram: @studiofertility
• Youtube: @studiofertility
• Website: studiofertility.com

If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.

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Let's talk about sex!  Sex is a subject that can be so hard to talk about and on this podcast I want to try and normalise it.

Because let's face it, sex on an infertility journey can sometimes become a massive chore when you are tired, overworked,  emotional and just not in the mood - and that goes for both people in the relationship!

Plus when it becomes all about making a baby, it can start to feel forced, and lack intimacy.

Today on the podcast I talk to one of the world's leading experts on sex, love and intimacy, Jacqueline Hellyer.

Some things we cover today are:

• What is a psychosexual therapist or sex therapist 
• Why sex is still such a taboo subject in society
• Why our love life is so much broader than sex
• Why masculine and feminine is out and yin and yang is in 
• When infertility and sex becomes a chore - and what do to about it
• How to restore intimacy in your relationship
• Why planning sex can be a GREAT thing
• The way to approach sex as bonding not for conception
• How to make sex special - 4 nights in a row
• How to keep that intimacy during IVF
• Is prioritising sex for last thing at night the best approach?

Enjoy xx

Bella

Want more?

1. Remember if you want daily tips and advice from me (and occasionally some humour) come and hangout with me on Instagram here.

2. Or you can find out about my Mind Body programs here and how you can work with me.

3. Or download my FREE GUIDE: Fertility Mojo Makeover: 3 Ways to Regain Your Mojo and Surrender to the Journey (Without Giving Up!)

If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.

Want to Connect with Jacqueline?

Jacqueline Hellyer, is one of the world’s leading experts on sex, love and intimacy and is an accredited Psychosexual therapist.

Jacqueline believes in sexuality - beyond shame, beyond sleaze, towards meaningful sex - and is influencing minds and bedrooms across the globe.

You can find her here:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jacqueline.hellyer/

Website: https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/

PS. Interested In Learning More?
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Free Resources:

Download my free mini-guide:
How to Let Go of Control (Without Giving Up Hope)
Gentle mindset shifts and nervous system tools that actually help you feel better today.

👉 studiofertility.com/letgo

Connect with Bella:

• Instagram: @studiofertility
• Youtube: @studiofertility
• Website: studiofertility.com

If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.

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Navigating Infertility is one of the hardest things a couple can do.  And the more the years pass, the harder it can be.

It negatively impacts our mindset, can test our relationships and quite often starts to slowly erode our lives, friendships, enjoyment of life and our self-worth and self-esteem.

We start to feel like there is something wrong with us, that maybe we are not worthy and we start to live constantly in a state of functioning misery.

But imagine instead you could turn it ALL around! That you could start to rebuild your mindset to support you and benefit you on your journey?

Today on the podcast I talk about what a fertile mindset is PLUS:

• How to understand the word fertile more deeply
• A step by step guide on how I work with my clients to get a fertile mindset
• How your emotions keep you stuck in an infertile mindset
• Why what you are thinking and believing about yourself is so important
• How fears and resistances can hold us back
• Why a fertile mindset will improve your life and bring you peace on your journey.

I know today will give you a deeper understanding of why mindset is so important on your fertility journey, I hope you enjoy!

Bella xx

Want more?

1. Remember if you want daily tips and advice from me (and occasionally some humour) come and hangout with me on Instagram here.

2. Or you can find out about my Mind Body programs here and how you can work with me.

3. Or download my FREE GUIDE: Fertility Mojo Makeover: 3 Ways to Regain Your Mojo and Surrender to the Journey (Without Giving Up!)

If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.

PS. Interested In Learning More?
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Free Resources:

Download my free mini-guide:
How to Let Go of Control (Without Giving Up Hope)
Gentle mindset shifts and nervous system tools that actually help you feel better today.

👉 studiofertility.com/letgo

Connect with Bella:

• Instagram: @studiofertility
• Youtube: @studiofertility
• Website: studiofertility.com

If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.

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When infertility rears its ugly head and all the traditional western methods are not working we are often left scratching our heads.

There are so many different alternative treatments you can pursue in the name of increasing your fertility that aren't always supported by the Western Medicine approach.  And one of the most popular ones is naturopathy.

So today on the podcast I have invited on Dr Mary Sawdon who is not only a GP originally but now also a Naturopath specialising in Womens' Health Issues.

On the podcast today we talk about:

• How Mary moved from being Doctor to a Naturopath
• Why Naturopathy isn't always supported in Western medicine despite the anecdotal evidence
• Mary's own personal fertility story with PCOS and Endometriosis
• The emotional toll of infertility journeys
• The key to the naturopathic approach
• Why she has to be a detective with her patients
• The length of time you should give to naturopathic medicine before considering alternatives
• Success clues to keep an eye out for
• The 5 top things that she thinks are the most important for your fertility. and
• Why it is so important to have emotional support.

It's jam-packed full of information so I hope you get great value.

Bella xx

Want more?

• 1. Remember if you want daily tips and advice from me (and occasionally some humour) come and hangout with me on Instagram here.

• 2. Or you can find out about my Mind Body programs here and how you can work with me.

• 3. Or download my FREE GUIDE: Fertility Mojo Makeover: 3 Ways to Regain Your Mojo and Surrender to the Journey (Without Giving Up!)

If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.

Want to Connect with Mary?

 Mary Sawdon is a naturopathic doctor. She is passionate about helping women thrive on their fertility journey; leading them from isolation and overwhelm towards a life of renewed purpose and support.

And you can find her here:

Website: https://fertilityfundamentals.com/

Email: [email protected]

Instagram: @fertilityfundamentals

PS. Interested In Learning More?
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Free Resources:

Download my free mini-guide:
How to Let Go of Control (Without Giving Up Hope)
Gentle mindset shifts and nervous system tools that actually help you feel better today.

👉 studiofertility.com/letgo

Connect with Bella:

• Instagram: @studiofertility
• Youtube: @studiofertility
• Website: studiofertility.com

If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.

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Are you worried about your age and having a baby? Is it making you feel like you are on borrowed time?

Would you do anything to turn back the hands of time OR would you do anything to get your body into peak fertility?  

Because in today's episode I want to talk about why you don't need to turn back the hands of time to do this.

As I celebrate my birthday in a few days and turn 45, I wanted to do a podcast about age and why I think we need to worry  less than we do.

In this episode I talk about:

- the percentage of my clients who fall pregnant (aged 37 - 48)
- why I just can't buy into the stats that most women are given through fertility clinics
- why the studies support a mind-body approach to fertility
- how to empower yourself on this journey, no matter how old you are
- how to find strength in your age, rather than have it work against you

Enjoy!

Bella xx

Want more?

• Remember if you want daily tips and advice from me (and occasionally some humour) come and hangout with me on Instagram here.
• Or you can find out about my Mind Body programs here and how you can work with me.
• Or download my FREE GUIDE: Fertility Mojo Makeover: 3 Ways to Regain Your Mojo and Surrender to the Journey (Without Giving Up!)

If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.

PS. Interested In Learning More?
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Free Resources:

Download my free mini-guide:
How to Let Go of Control (Without Giving Up Hope)
Gentle mindset shifts and nervous system tools that actually help you feel better today.

👉 studiofertility.com/letgo

Connect with Bella:

• Instagram: @studiofertility
• Youtube: @studiofertility
• Website: studiofertility.com

If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.