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When the image in our head of how our life is supposed to look now differs from how it actually looks, it can cause a lot of pain.
But worse than that, it can keep us stuck in pain and not give our body the best opportunity for conception.
When you struggle to conceive it feels like it strips us of the right to choose a life that we desperately want to experience.
So today I wanted to show you why accepting where you are at now, can actually be a huge benefit to trying to conceive, to feeling a whole lot better and to being able to make clear decisions.
Want more support?
PS. Here is where you can sign up to the FREE online meditation retreat that will be starting 22 November 2021. Get on the list so you are in the know!
1. Remember if you want daily tips and advice from me (and occasionally some humour) come and hangout with me on Instagram @studiofertility
2. Or you can find out about my Mind Body programs here and how you can work with me.
3. Or download my FREE GUIDE: Fertility Mojo Makeover: 3 Ways to Regain Your Mojo and Surrender to the Journey (Without Giving Up!)
If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.
PS. Interested In Learning More?
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How to Let Go of Control (Without Giving Up Hope)
Gentle mindset shifts and nervous system tools that actually help you feel better today.
👉 studiofertility.com/letgo
Connect with Bella:
If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.
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You may have started off trying to conceive perfectly normally. Feeling hopeful and excited and planning the cute way that you were going to tell your husband or partner when you finally got that positive pregnancy test.
Yet month after month when nothing happened, and those pregnancy sticks kept coming up negative, you started to panic and started trying to do all the things to get pregnant.
You might have found yourself taking those pregnancy tests earlier and earlier in your cycle, or testing out your HCG in your IVF cycle.
You might have found yourself at first trying to figure out when you are ovulating with luteinizing hormone sticks but now, the thought of NOT peeing on them makes you panic a little inside.
At first you just did things to be informed. Is there anything else obviously wrong with me on a medical front? Now you are googling everything under the sun, every single day or hours on end.
And that's to say nothing of how your mental health is just eating you up! You CANNOT STOP THINKING ABOUT GETTING PREGNANT.
Well, today I'm going to give you my 3 biggest tips to learning how to stop the obsession, so you can have a hope of feeling a little calmer, a little more in control and a whole lot better!
Enjoy xx
Bella
PS. Here is where you can sign up to the FREE online meditation retreat that will be starting 22 November 2021. Get on the list so you are in the know!
Want more support?
1. Remember if you want daily tips and advice from me (and occasionally some humour) come and hangout with me on Instagram @studiofertility
2. Or you can find out about my Mind Body programs here and how you can work with me.
3. Or download my FREE GUIDE: Fertility Mojo Makeover: 3 Ways to Regain Your Mojo and Surrender to the Journey (Without Giving Up!)
If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.
PS. Interested In Learning More?
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Free Resources:
Download my free mini-guide:
How to Let Go of Control (Without Giving Up Hope)
Gentle mindset shifts and nervous system tools that actually help you feel better today.
👉 studiofertility.com/letgo
Connect with Bella:
If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.
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Creating change in our lives can be hard, especially when it seems it is forced on us and not something we are truly welcoming.
And change can mean anything from not drinking coffee or alcohol anymore or trying to feel more calm and less chaotic whilst trying to conceive your baby.
So where does true change and shift in our lives come from? How does it happen?
And what can you do so that it happens more easily and effortlessly and you can get back to feeling good again and feeling like life has some meaning?
Well today's podcast explores that, so that you can get back to feeling like yourself again as well as improving your fertility outcomes.
Want more support?
1. Remember if you want daily tips and advice from me (and occasionally some humour) come and hangout with me on Instagram @studiofertility
2. Or you can find out about my Mind Body programs here and how you can work with me.
3. Or download my FREE GUIDE: Fertility Mojo Makeover: 3 Ways to Regain Your Mojo and Surrender to the Journey (Without Giving Up!)
If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.
PS. Interested In Learning More?
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Free Resources:
Download my free mini-guide:
How to Let Go of Control (Without Giving Up Hope)
Gentle mindset shifts and nervous system tools that actually help you feel better today.
👉 studiofertility.com/letgo
Connect with Bella:
If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.
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I sat in the IVF clinic waiting for my name to be called for my ultrasound and blood test. My husband sat beside me as I scanned the room.
Barely a partner could be seen in that room and I could FEEL the sadness and desperation and sheer longing from the devastated women around me.
You could cut the energy with a knife it was so palpable.
That moment right there was when I decided that I would somehow be a part of women's lives who were struggling with infertility someday.
See, I didn't feel like that. I still had emotions of anticipation and nervousness but that is to be expected throughout IVF, but I was not experiencing the pain that these other women were.
I wanted to know who was helping these women and it was clear that no-one was.
But my fertility journey was not always like that. I had spent 10 years in similar heartbreak to the woman around me, that's why I knew what needed to be done.
And today I give you the 5 biggest tips to prepare yourself for your next IVF cycle.
Bella x
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PS. During the podcast I ask if anyone is interested in me putting on my free meditation retreat. If you are, you can email me here: Email Bella Hilton or DM me through Instagram: DM Bella here
Want more support?
1. Remember if you want daily tips and advice from me (and occasionally some humour) come and hangout with me on Instagram @studiofertility
2. Or you can find out about my Mind Body programs here and how you can work with me.
3. Or download my FREE GUIDE: Fertility Mojo Makeover: 3 Ways to Regain Your Mojo and Surrender to the Journey (Without Giving Up!)
If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.
PS. Interested In Learning More?
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Free Resources:
Download my free mini-guide:
How to Let Go of Control (Without Giving Up Hope)
Gentle mindset shifts and nervous system tools that actually help you feel better today.
👉 studiofertility.com/letgo
Connect with Bella:
If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.
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Not every relationship we have with other people is created equal.
Some people are super close to us like our partner or best friends, some people are good friends but not as close, and we also have acquaintances, co-workers, family and the list goes on.
And yet sometimes we treat these relationships like they are equal, by either sharing everything with everyone or telling no-one anything.
So today on the podcast, I'm talking about how to decide who are the appropriate people to share your infertility stories and journey with - that will love and nurture you and who maybe just doesn't need to know and WHY!
Because community on a fertility journey and true support are incredibly important and have been shown to have positive outcomes on fertility.
And real support can make that journey just a little bit more bearable.
I'm excited to get your take on it.
Bella x
Want more support?
1. Remember if you want daily tips and advice from me (and occasionally some humour) come and hangout with me on Instagram @studiofertility
2. Or you can find out about my Mind Body programs here and how you can work with me.
3. Or download my FREE GUIDE: Fertility Mojo Makeover: 3 Ways to Regain Your Mojo and Surrender to the Journey (Without Giving Up!)
If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.
PS. Interested In Learning More?
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Free Resources:
Download my free mini-guide:
How to Let Go of Control (Without Giving Up Hope)
Gentle mindset shifts and nervous system tools that actually help you feel better today.
👉 studiofertility.com/letgo
Connect with Bella:
If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.
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The options for creating families these days has gone far beyond natural conception, adoption or IVF.
Which brings so many more opportunities for us to create our families when we otherwise wouldn't be able to.
There is donor eggs, embryos, sperm and even surrogacy. But these options also bring with it a tonne more questions and crap load more emotional considerations.
So many women and couples in this position have questions like:
- Will I be able to connect with a baby who doesn't share my DNA?
- Will my child look like me so I don't have to answer a million questions of people all the time?
- Will the child fit into my family?
- Can you have a closed or open adoption of the donor eggs and sperm?
- Will I feel like I'm not the child's mother?
- Who will I have to tell?
- How would I even broach this topic with the child?
- Is it expensive?
Phew! There is a lot.
So maybe you are considering donation or really just want to know more.
Well, I am joined by the wonderful Meta Getman who will help us answer all these questions today and more.
Join us and we talk about all things donor and what you might need to consider, and hopefully, how it can be such a joyful choice for you if this is your path.
Bella xx
Want more support?
1. Remember if you want daily tips and advice from me (and occasionally some humour) come and hangout with me on Instagram @studiofertility
2. Or you can find out about my Mind Body programs here and how you can work with me.
3. Or download my FREE GUIDE: Fertility Mojo Makeover: 3 Ways to Regain Your Mojo and Surrender to the Journey (Without Giving Up!)
If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.
Want to connect with Meta?
Meta Getman, is a donor conception coach and mom to two beautiful donor conceived children. She helps others who are using donor eggs, donor sperm, or donor embryos on their journey to becoming parents.
And you can find her here:
Follow her: Instagram
Check her out: Website
Learn something: 5 Myths About Donor Conception - FREE
PS. Interested In Learning More?
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Free Resources:
Download my free mini-guide:
How to Let Go of Control (Without Giving Up Hope)
Gentle mindset shifts and nervous system tools that actually help you feel better today.
👉 studiofertility.com/letgo
Connect with Bella:
If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.
Send us a text
We have all felt jealous at some point in our lives, and we have all felt how awful this emotion is to feel.
Because honestly, it often feels like one of the worst ones!
And when your friends seem to be getting pregnant easily and you have been struggling for years, it can feel like an awful kick in the heart and gut.
So up rears her ugly head, JEALOUSY! It's this emotion that makes us feel out of control of ourselves. Angry and bitter at someone else's good fortune.
And that's not who you thought you would ever be - jealous of your friends good fortune?!! The idea seems ludicrous to your conscious mind.
But UGH - you still feel it!
So today, I'm going to walk you through how to start letting go of the feeling, so you can be nothing but happy for your friends.
Bella xx
Want more support?
1. Remember if you want daily tips and advice from me (and occasionally some humour) come and hangout with me on Instagram @studiofertility
2. Or you can find out about my Mind Body programs here and how you can work with me.
3. Or download my FREE GUIDE: Fertility Mojo Makeover: 3 Ways to Regain Your Mojo and Surrender to the Journey (Without Giving Up!)
If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.
PS. Interested In Learning More?
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Free Resources:
Download my free mini-guide:
How to Let Go of Control (Without Giving Up Hope)
Gentle mindset shifts and nervous system tools that actually help you feel better today.
👉 studiofertility.com/letgo
Connect with Bella:
If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.
Send us a text
Do you feel lost without your To-Do list? Do people call you a perfectionist? Do you want to ALWAYS be in control of situations? Are you regularly impatient with the speed of achievement in your life? Do you live by the philosophy of just work harder to get what you want?
Well these can all be traits of someone who identifies as being Type A.
Unfortunately on the fertility pathway to-do lists, perfectionism, control, impatience and working harder to get what you want are some of the very things that will work against you in being able to maintain sanity and improve fertility outcomes.
Let's face it though, a fertility journey that isn't going well, even if you aren't Type A, is riddled with anxiety and stress inducing situations, decisions and outcomes.
So today on the podcast, I'm joined by my gorgeous industry colleague, Robyn Birkin, to talk about Type A personalities and why it is not ALL bad.
And some things you can implement to help you feel a little more in control.
Bella xx
Want more support?
1. Remember if you want daily tips and advice from me (and occasionally some humour) come and hangout with me on Instagram @studiofertility
2. Or you can find out about my Mind Body programs here and how you can work with me.
3. Or download my FREE GUIDE: Fertility Mojo Makeover: 3 Ways to Regain Your Mojo and Surrender to the Journey (Without Giving Up!)
If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.
Connect With Robyn
Robyn Birkin is a holistic life coach and mind body practitioner. And she also hosts her own Award Winning Podcast, The Fertility Warriors.
She is on a mission, to ensure that women don’t suffer through infertility.
She now spends her time helping Type A women, just like herself, let go of control, ditch anxiety and forge ahem on the fertility journey with confidence, joy and primed for success.
And you can find her here:
Instagram - @robynbirkin
Website - robynbirkin.com
PS. Interested In Learning More?
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Free Resources:
Download my free mini-guide:
How to Let Go of Control (Without Giving Up Hope)
Gentle mindset shifts and nervous system tools that actually help you feel better today.
👉 studiofertility.com/letgo
Connect with Bella:
If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.
Send us a text
"I just don't feel so obsessed about my fertility. I just think about it way less and I feel calmer and clearer," one of my clients said to me this week.
"I just felt really calm this week, my thinking is clearer and I don't feel chaotic," said another.
In fact, these women are chalk and cheese different from when they first started talking to me.
Because I've by far and away found that one of the biggest things that women want as they continue their journey to parenthood is a more positive mindset, to feel calm again and to find more peace in their brains for greater clarity.
They want to find some peace in their heart again too, so they can get back to living as they move towards their ultimate goal of having a family.
They just want the inner chaos that they feel every single day to STOP!
So this weeks podcast is about giving you some of the tools to help you find some calm and peace again on your journey to conceiving your baby. That ultimately has also been shown to have a powerful effect on fertility outcomes.
Bella xx
Want more support?
1. Remember if you want daily tips and advice from me (and occasionally some humour) come and hangout with me on Instagram here.
2. Or you can find out about my Mind Body programs here and how you can work with me.
3. Or download my FREE GUIDE: Fertility Mojo Makeover: 3 Ways to Regain Your Mojo and Surrender to the Journey (Without Giving Up!)
If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.
PS. Interested In Learning More?
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Free Resources:
Download my free mini-guide:
How to Let Go of Control (Without Giving Up Hope)
Gentle mindset shifts and nervous system tools that actually help you feel better today.
👉 studiofertility.com/letgo
Connect with Bella:
If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.
Send us a text
Did you know that people would much rather lose a limb than be fat?
This is insane! But what is even more insane is that people of all sizes - both big and small that happen to fall on the wrong side of the BMI index are being denied access to treatment and fertility treatments just because of their size.
So today on the podcast, I could think of none other I would rather have on to discuss this topic than the wonderful Nicola Salmon, Fat Positivity Fertility Coach.
I was so sick of my clients being either told to either lose weight or gain weight as some catch-all cry to remedy their situation that I decided it was time to have serious talk about it.
Having been someone of all sizes from what is considered normal to anorexic to now (BMI wise) overweight, I know what it is like to beat up my myself for being 'FAT' and for hating my body and thinking "this is the reason I can't get pregnant".
So today, with Nicola, we talk about all things infertility and fat and what it actually means for your chances of conception.
This is a must listen episode xx
Bella
Want more support?
1. Remember if you want daily tips and advice from me (and occasionally some humour) come and hangout with me on Instagram here.
2. Or you can find out about my Mind Body programs here and how you can work with me.
3. Or download my FREE GUIDE: Fertility Mojo Makeover: 3 Ways to Regain Your Mojo and Surrender to the Journey (Without Giving Up!)
If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.
Want to Connect with Nicola?
Nicola is a fat-positive fertility coach and author of “Fat and Fertile”. She helps fat folks navigate getting pregnant in a weight-obsessed world and advocates for change in how fat people are treated whilst accessing help with their fertility.
You can find her here:
Instagram: @fatpositivefertility
Website: http://nicolasalmon.co.uk/
PS. Interested In Learning More?
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Free Resources:
Download my free mini-guide:
How to Let Go of Control (Without Giving Up Hope)
Gentle mindset shifts and nervous system tools that actually help you feel better today.
👉 studiofertility.com/letgo
Connect with Bella:
If you liked this episode, please take a few moments to pop into Apple iTunes and leave a podcast review. It would mean the absolute world to me and it means that more people will be able to find and enjoy the podcast.
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If you have been struggling to get pregnant for any length of time, then this podcast is for you! Bella Hilton, Founder of the transformational Fertility Shift program, certified Advanced Life…